How to get off my back an intense sibling?

[kitty71]

I mean not to the extent of not speaking to her anymore or interact with her but for her to tone down her intensity when trying to reach us at home. My sister is a anxious lady and she believes Im sure my brother and I do not take care of our mom well. Maybe it is because she does not live with us, she needs to be more on the lookout for mom. My sister is married and she lives with her husband. My sister always has to tell my brother and I the things we need to do to take care of our mom, for her well being, but we all are adult grown up people and I beleive my brother and I will never do anything to harm our mom or neglect her but since my sister does not lvie with us, she became nosy in wanting to know eveyrhting we do like 24/7 . My brotehr has a temper and he alreayd told her several time to tone down her intensity cause instead of not to stress us out,, her behavior stress us more.

My sister gave us advice on common things she assume we does not know, so oshe repeats and repeat the same thing many times. Then she constantly text us via Whatssp to tell us or give us suggestions on something for mom and if we do not text her back in a period of time, she gets mad or bothered we dont reply her right away. My mom had a scary health episode two days ago, but with no bad consequencues thank God. So since then, now she text us like every 2 hours to check up on mom, ask us what did she eat, if she was given her cough syrup, etc I mean me and my brother live with our mom, we know all of that stuff. for sure, my sister is the one who does not live with her, but she assume we dont do things for her so she has to get all intense with texts, phone calls, like my brother and I are not doing the correct thing and she just question the way we do things on our own at home not her way of doing things.

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Today mom will go to a doctor appointment and my sister over text at 6am ( I was not even awake), told me. Remember to put a sweater on mom cause is very chilly today, remember to bring face mask to the clinic cause Covid cases are still and the pandemic is not over yet and people still are dying from Covid. I mean all of those things my sister believes I dont know or Im neglectful I know but she has to text me to remind me like 3 times the same thing. I know she cares fo oru mom and

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1 y

I know she cares fo our mom and that is normal and understandable, but her intensity of reaching for us is what is bothering and she needs to tone down a little her contanst harrasment. I mean when I dont reply her on text right away she gets upset with me and tell me. You have to have your cell phone with you always next to you. I mean if Im at home I dont have my mobile in my hand the whole time cause Im at home, and we have a phone land line in cse we are not reachable through mobile.

[Guy13]

Tell her to send her communications in email if you don’t want to hear 👂 the mouth 👄

[kitty71]

She does not check emails faster and quicker text messages over text apps like Whatassp. Now she is telling me what to give mom for dinner and what kind of food , cause now my mom need to reduce her sugar intake but now my sister who does not live in the house, texts me to guide me how to take care of mom as Im concluding she does nto rely me doing the right thing.

[Guy13]

I feel for you. It is the equivalent of guys having to listen to a woman continually vent. She's a controlling soul.
There does not seem to be anything that one can do except ignore her. It is a difficult situation. Voicemail and on not read texts... NO Blocking though.