Would you or did you cancel plans with someone, just cause some "better" plans came up?

[melanieeeB]

Yesterday night a let's say new friend asked me if we wanna hang out today and get some ice cream and enjoy the weather. I agreed and said yes, he is even on his way right now and I'm just waiting for him lol

Anyways a hour earlier another friend invited me to go to the pool with her and her boyfriend and honestly that does sound really good, I would have loved to but I declined, I would never ditch someone! I don't do that.
But my mom was like "whyy, no call him and say you don't have time anymore!" and so she and i started arguing and she was definitely not on my side lol but I feel like, if you agree to plans with someone, it's like a promise and I don't like to break my promises, you know...

Sooo that's why this question

[NathanDavis]

never have, never would...

first of all, I always value the person more than the activity

but even if I liked the second person way better lmfao... I would not do it because I would feel like a douchebag doing that, it's just wrong to me

now... there's exceptions, my best friends... if the dudes themselves or I have plans, but then something else comes up suddenly, with our girlfriends or another girl, then we just let each other know, and the plans are cancelled and it is not a big deal at all... we don't care nor resent it, we just re-schedule for another time

[Googlemyahoo]

When I was a lot younger I met a girl & invited her out to watch a movie. We got food and yes rented a vhs movie and started watching. About part way in we started making out. Phone rings its my friends they’re going out with these other girls one of whom I liked.

Being a douche I made up some lame excuse that I forgot already making plans and drove her home 😑

[Aerissa_Jade]

I try to be honorable and would stick to what plans were made first.

IF I wanted to change them I'd have a conversation with the first person, ask them if maybe they'd want to go with me, but that they have priority and we can still do whatever was agreed upon first.

I'd be honest about it, and let them know what is going on, in order to make them not feel like they don't know what is going on and this way its all above the table, nothing sneaky.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes of course! Im sure most people have. If my family had plans that we all go to do Sunday lunch at some nice restaurant, and then my friends call to let me know that they are doing something amazing that day, then yes, I would blow-off my lunch with the fam, for an amazing day with my friends. (W/E that may be?).

[jennifer_bloom]

Yeah I rejected a friend for showing up late and ditching me during conversations when more popular people came online. She follows over 140 people online and had less than 5 followers, never respected her parents, her friends or herself.

[sw1916]

If you make plans with someone, you honor them. That’s how I feel. Or you try to combine the plans by inviting your other friend also. But you don’t ditch someone.

[MAC1983]

Yes, eating ice-cream by the pool does sound nice... You should definitely combine them when you can. It's rare to meet with friends anyway. Unless the pool friend would be a third wheel.
That would be no fun for anybody involved, just awkward.

[Anonymous]

you know if you plan something carefully, you can do both. but honestly, keep your plans. ice cream is better anyways. especially better than being a third wheel.

[ROBOH70]

No. I would never cancel on someone outside of an emergency.

[Anpu23]

No you stick to your commitments. You are correct here. The other option is to invite your first incite along with your friends.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hey, if something better comes up I will change plans

[yucel_eden]

Unlesss it’s an emergency you should never ever cancel when the other guy has committed.


Unless your notifying them a few days before

[clampfan101]

“better” plans? Not likely.

”more important” plans? Maybe.

[Zolly99999]

No. One a plan is made I try to stick with it.

[Alex8736]

You have morals and you are your own person. If I agree to something I stand by it unless an extenuating circumstance came up for example a family member was just taken to the ER but you are 100% correct sticking to your guns and keeping plans

[TonightYouu]

The only possible better plan for me is free booze

[Msputiton]

No I wouldn't do that

[Avicenna]

no, I don't think I've ever done that

[Vendela]

No, I wouldn't do that.

[boobliker]

i may have rain check one or two in my time...

[fireforeffect]

No. A promise is a promise.

[Anonymous]

I hope Id never treat a girl like that.

[In_Trance]

I have not