Help, I'm way too anxious?

[Anonymous]

I'm in uni, before last semester I made a post similar to this one about being nervous of going back to normal classes because I just feel being around so much is too much for me and although I force myself to do what I want (socialize every day, get out of my comfort zone) and get good grades, it's just always difficult for some reason, I was told maybe it was because of quarantine, but I know it's me. The semester went well, I have amazing teachers, great classmates, good friends, and the people there are nice, but I have a terrible time adapting, it's actually like I never finish adapting, I just keep pushing myself to be there till I don't have to be there and then the cycle repeats again. There are days when I don't want to talk or socialize in any way, in vacations I can simply spend most of the day in my bedroom for like a whole week (or more) without saying a word (just saying hi to my parents and maybe a small talk) and after that I'm fine again, but that's not possible during class and I finish feeling like I'm about to ugvhbijnho. I'm already nervous about going back to class and I feel like throwing up, I like to have control of myself and I'm strict with myself, but I just haven't been able to totally control this about me.

[wheist9095]

It sounds like you have two very specific traits about yourself, and don't worry you're not the only one with them. Firstly, you are an introvert. You're better at spending time alone and you're not an outwardly social person. That's just how some people are, I'm the same way, I can go out and be social, I'm better in a small group than a big one, but I need to take time and make time for myself to recharge my social battery.

Secondly, it sounds like you have a fair bit of social anxiety. That one is more of a medical thing, but again it's not all that uncommon with people in general. Just the feeling of being overwhelmed and having to push yourself to be something you're not, an extrovert, exacerbates your social anxiety. If it is too much for you, and it really affects your mental state, you could talk to a doctor or more specifically a psychiatrist about getting on anti-anxiety medication. At least in the short term, because anxiety can truly be detrimental to your health. There are a lot of ways that people cope with anxiety without medication as well, finding ways to make a situation more to their benefit, going out on smaller groups for outings, or doing things more online with friends like texting rather than hanging out. These are not flaws in your character, they are just traits of your personality. Don't be so hard on yourself, You are a perfectly normal person.

[Asker]

Thank u

[wheist9095]

Don't worry about it, we're all in this together