Has or did your parent (s) ever ask when are you going to give them grandchildren?

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And what did you tell them? I of course want kids more than anything but I still have to go about it my way. My mom never asked but she’s always hinted at it. Her looney ass even told me to snatchup some random off the street. Thankfully I have more class and patience than that. But At least she’s not like the annoying extended family who assume you’re gay if you haven't pushed one out by now. And my dad has some nerve giving input by saying things like “Your younger brothers are already becoming parents before you.” See i’m the type to snapback like “Yea my younger brothers are already ACTING like a parent before you.” He so fckin annoyin. #FeelFreeToList #GivemGrandkids

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

No, because I did not get married until I was 38. My wife was previously married - twice, so I was her third husband - and she had just turned 44 when we got married in 2001. She had already been a grandmother for 16 months and had a hysterectomy before she was 30, so my becoming a father was out of the question. My 3 step-sons were adults (well, one was 17) and they lived far from us, so I really am just a step-father legally. Anyway, my parents (my father died in 2003) were aware that my wife was not going to have any more kids, so it was never an issue for me. My sister, for reasons only she knows, never had kids either, so my mom is not an actual grandmother. That said, she is living with a man for 16 years now as if they are married. He is a widower and has a daughter, 46, who is like a step-sister to me. She has one daughter, age 16, so she is like my mom's granddaughter and my mom is her only grandmother even though, legally, none of this is true.

mrmonogamous · Accepted Answer

I’ve been married for 34 years. On our first date she and I discussed kids and how many we’d like in our futures. We both said four. I was 19 and she was 21. We were engaged seven months later and married a year and a half after that. We waited another 7 years to start our family. A boy was born on my 29th birthday. Two and a half years later my wife had fraternal twins, which run in her family. The twins were. A boy and a girl. We ad planned for four but after twins, we were beat! We didn’t want to take a chance on another set of twins so I went to the urologist and got snipped.

So, no, we didn’t have any pressure to have children because there was never any question that we would.

My kids are now 27, 24 and 24.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Not my parents.
But by grandma'..
- "Have to found a girl yet?"
She even started chatting up a kindergarden teacher we were passing by as I was rolling her in the wheelchair.. trying to introduce me to her.. omg.
It's cute, alright.
I'm sure she would semi-force me to learn pair-dancing like in the old days, just like she did with dad when he was lagging behind.

Actually, I might let my parents teach me the modern foxtrot versions. I do like dancing, but I'm used to improvised solo-dance, you know like at concerts or raves. I'm just sceptical of not going my own rebellious way. But it might the best thing for me.. why not combine what I'm good at and what I am bad at?

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Yeah. However, my family is toxic so instead of the, "When will you give us grandchildren," it's, "Wow, how old are you? I'm glad I had you young because you're going to be ___ years old when your kid graduates." This is coming from my mother who had me by accident at 20 and gave me a horrific childhood partly because she was ill-prepared for a child and life in general.

I just shrug it off, because you can't change toxic people. I rather wait until I'm financially stable enough with my fiancé, because children are expensive.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Noooo. My sisters have 3 kids each. I'm not married and my parents know I don't care for children like that. The only ones who are dumbasses were my extended family members.

I was 20 years old in college and they were asking me when i was going to have kids like my sister. I was so confused. Like.. with what money?

I said ".. I'm only 20.." and i forgot what dumbass retort they said.

Some people think that having kids should be everyone's priority in life.

Ignore dumb comments and don't settle when it comes to chosing your partner!

lilyanony1 · Answer

No I have a puppy now he pretty much is my son...
Mum didn't even really want me so I can't see any reason why she'd be interested in children and now my puppy.
Everytime I've asked her to help me out for an hour with him she's pretty much had an excuse.
She needs to go into work (she works from home every other week), she's too tired because she sat up until 3am watching Netflix...

My mum prefers that my life hasn't been progressing because it meant I was needy for her attention and she was able to treat me however...

AmberESTP · Answer

Yeah... They did... Like everyday...

"I wanna see your kids hunny" " when are you ginna give us some gorgeous babies 😭" "where are my grandchildren at?"

Aarrgh come on stop it please!

I just told them that I don't want to have kids with the men nowadays...

Very ugly, balding (synonym), have no money (I make a lot more than the average man)...

With all of that those men want to have kids? Nah they just wanna f**k. And I don't want to be a sugar mama of a guy that has hair but in all the wrong places (entire body EXCEPT FOR THE HEAD 🤢)

NathanDavis · Answer

surprisingly... not yet, lmao

well, they never really asked any of us for any of that

especially with me, they know very well I am not into just rushing to things because I should... nor that they could ever pressure me in any way to do anything, lol

Apulu_Imback · Answer

My parents are like regretting giving birth to me, they won’t ask me to produce another me...

Lol no, there are convos where my mom says that I will do this and that to your kids but that's of course for the future. They never asked me, of course not. Maybe they will when I'm in mid 20's and achieved everything I wanted.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yup, but I've been childfree since 7.

Told my dad if he wanted grandkids, he could pay for them, raise them, and pay me for all the reconstructive surgeries I'll need to get through the pregnancy.

Asked him how much he thought a child was and showed him a 2010s figure (meaning less inflation) that claimed $250k.

He changed his tune. Even drove me to and from the hospital for my bilateral salpingectomy.

Emiliamazing · Answer

My husband’s mom asked him before we ever decided to have kids. It wasn’t an uncomfortable moment or anything, and he replied that we had not discussed the matter at that point in our marriage. Obviously we have children now and are very happy for that :-)

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Most parents do give hints here and there, like parents did when i was 22 years old. At the age of 25! They started asking/telling me that they want a grandchild. I told them (good luck with that) and (you know how babies are made, right?) And when i got married at the age of 28, they kept asking and i always answered (you can order from wish, it might take a long time or maybe send you the wrong kid, but you will get a kid). Me and the wife agreed not to have kids, so we are good here.

Sour-rose · Answer

"So are you gonna control your children when you have them?"
"You not gonna continue the family name?"

it has only came up these times and never again. Never did tell them I don't want to do sex so they think i'm a quiet, curious little girl. Well... hate to tell ya this mom and dad but y'all pushing the age of grey. Do you see any men in the house hiding under the bed yet? No? Welp.

melanieeeB · Answer

Not yet, my mom is mostly asking when I'm going to get married and I always tell her to not expect that and leave me alone with this topic and then she goes about that I will find love and me just mhm ok, can we change topic now and she keeps going on about marriage

ShadezMcgee · Answer

No, they haven't. More than anything they kept joking about setting me up in an arranged marriage because I was a late bloomer and they figured I would be struggling more than I had up to that point.

Plus, they seem more content with being grandparents of dogs more than anything.

bayoubob · Answer

Of course. They know they aren't going to live forever. Give them space. At the same time if they won the fucking lottery, or were so successful themselves, they sure as fuck won't give you a dime. The way it's supposed to be. Take your time. However, if you were successful or won the lottery, you would allow them to retire early.

anon1903 · Answer

When I was younger, like 16 and less, my mom used to think one day I'll get her a grandkid with foreign features (since I've modern Western woman mindset, mom was hoping I marry someone from another country). Lately she's been less of a dreamer and I've made her understood a good, happy job is worth ten times more than continuation of family.

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, my parents and friends asked me this question many times. But I have no answer. How can I give babies / grand children alone? There is no girl in my life. How can I make babies without wife? Parents told me to find a beautiful girl ASAP, marry and start making babies. 😆😅🤣😂 The clock is ticking. Girls will never understand this. If I didn't find a sweet girl or if a girl didn't accept me then I have to adopt a baby and become single dad.

Harbringer26 · Answer

My mother complained about it to her collegues just earlier today lol not that I'm against getting married with a family of my own but we live in a smaller rural city/township and I have both studies, work and my political engagement to manage.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Yeah, a few times, but it was more in a jokingly manner. I usually said I didn't want any which wasn't necessary true. I just wanted to get marry first and that wasn't in the plan until my late 20s.

menina · Answer

My parents never asked me, but my oldest sister asked me the other day. She's more interesting on other's peoples lives than on her own. I don't think I'm in time to have children. If I do, I'll have to adopt.

ShineBeauTAEfully · Answer

Only every time I interact with them.  My mom has even gone as far as asking two of my friends if they would be willing to impregnate me. 😳😅

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