Have you or would you consider adopting a child?

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I definitely would consider it! I feel like just because we wouldn’t be blood related doesn’t mean I can’t love that child like my own and yes of course I’d love to carry my own but if there was any sort of health condition down the line or I met a guy who had some sort of health condition to prevent us from conceiving, adoption for sure would be an option and I know sadly there’s many children without homes and parents to love them and it’s so sad and awful. It’s also my dream to be a mom and I’d be super honored to give that little girl or boy unconditional love.

Rania05 · Accepted Answer

I very much do, knowing I don't want to go through pregnancy while I still love children so my choices are:
1_Marry someone who's interfile (Hard catch though)
2_Stay single and adopt (would still be lonely with no one warming my bed at night and as the child grows up and became completely independent from me)
3_ Get married to a DINK (I don't trust one in keeping their word in not wanting kids or when they would cheat on me)
4_Marry a widower or divorced man with kids (seriously considering but still wants to adopt after marriage)

DubiousIntentions · Accepted Answer

The sad thing is that many older children never get adopted because everyone wants babies,. The older kids never have a family life and turn to crime or illicit stuff in it's place.

Wraith_Cemetery · Accepted Answer

I was adopted along with my younger brother so I'd love to give another boy or girl the same opportunity I had through adoption. Ended up reuniting with all my biological siblings ( I have several sisters and an older brother) a few years ago which was nice. My adopted parents were always open to the idea of me trying to find my biological family.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I think adoption is a good idea. I think more people should adopt. I know there are lots of kids who need homes and responsible adults in their lives to help the kids become responsible adults. I, however, am not in the market for rugrats. Nor do i expect to ever be.

MRME6 · Answer

Hi Paula, yes I have thought about it my mom is actually a physio and works with children at an orphanage. She fell in love with one of the children there and that's how I met my brother. I think it's great but.
So my brother is of African decent and our family is Indian/Malaysian so our hair is straight. He always feels left out and it actually breaks my heart because he just wants to be like his older brother. Another thing is that sometimes the children at orphanages need more maintenance, so my brother talks to therapist a lot more than a normal kid. My brother has FAS but with God's grace {Allah} it isn't as bad as other cases. He attends a normal school, but if his condition was worse he'd attend a special school. Also knowing what I know now, my older sister and I are a huge help to my mom and dad I'm 21 and My sister is 25. It would help if you had older kids to help you out eventually when you do decide to adopt.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I have always thought of adoption as something beautiful that I want to do in my life. however there are a lot of things to consider, and it requires a strong will and commitment. so to answer your question, would I consider it? absolutely. BUT, only if me and my partner would feel like it is something we can commit to from many different perspectives such as a stable economy, home, jobs, other kids etc.

I believe that it is very important to consider all of those aspects and more, because the adopted child is the one that is going to have it the most difficult after all, so as the parents, we should be prepared enough, to not make it more difficult than it already would be.

Robbey · Answer

My husband and I considered adopting a baby girl 3-4 years ago. We have two sons together but my husband had hoped for a girl. If I had been a bit younger, I might have been willing to try getting pregnant and hoping for a girl, but that ship had sailed. And since I already have four adult daughters from my first marriage, I was never more than luke-warm on the idea. But we did look into it, but ultimately decided not to pursue it.

menina · Answer

Yes, I thought about adoption, especially now that I realized that I'm not in time to have my own children.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

When it comes to true family, blood means as much as moose piss... I'd adopt a whole pile of kids if I had the room in a house for them to grow up happy and healthy. No shortage of room in my heart for all them little'guys.

Haha456 · Answer

if you think most people want to adopt, don't you think most households would be filled with adopted kids already? nah... most families want their own children.

I personally wouldn't feel the same connection, love or care to someone else's child compared to my own child. I'm sorry to say this but its true.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Depends on my partner, if they're opened to adoption or really wanted it instead. I've thought about adoptions and becoming a foster parent in the future but I don't know if it's a higher priority than just having biological children. Ideally both would be good.

Apple1996 · Answer

I would love to but most likely not possible since I already have my own kids. I've heard adoption places won't give to people that already have kids/ are fertile. They tend to want to help infertile couples the most which is totally understandable.

jshm2 · Answer

No, at least not until I'm retired.

Also, don't forget these are usually "damaged" children and not some sort of "lovable puppies" as you've got in your head. These could be kids or young adults with violent and abusive pasts and if you're too soft you could make them worse.

Havthrills · Answer

I totally would if she's up for it too. Can I adopt a 20 year old with his/her own place and job?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If I could not have my own than yes, I would love to raise a child and bring them to adulthood.

Mamaganja · Answer

Yes I would. My boyfriend asked me the same question. He was in foster care and then adopted twice. I have always wanted a large family. Currently have 1 daughter. Would like 2 more of my own and 2-3 adopted all from the same birth parents.

exitseven · Answer

I got my last kid through college last year snd I really do not want to start the process all over again.

TroyDT · Answer

I would. I was orphaned at 4 and then raised by my grandparents. And I'm congenitally sterile, so if I ever want children that is really the only option for me.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yes, I could. It’s something I’ve been thinking about

CubaPirate · Answer

Yeah we considered adopting a girl but our youngest boy wasn't having any of it

YourNightOwl · Answer

I think it would be rally nice but my wife doesn’t want the work or responsibility. For me it’s with the love, security, family, and happiness the child can have.

BlurryHaze · Answer

Possibly! It's something I have thought about a few times, as long as I'm stable and give the child as much love and care as I possibly can, it would be a good thing to do.

SlothySlob · Answer

No. I lack the empathy or altruism to do that, though in a sense you could argue I do because I know I can't provide for the kid like some people could.

Massageman · Answer

It's a little late to add another head or two to the family, but if circumstances prevented having natural birth, yes, we would have considered it. A friend of our and his wife adopted 6 kids over the years! Great family, sweet kids.

BJP21 · Answer

Definitely a consideration if my SO and I found we couldn't have kids of our own, but wanted them. Sure.

JDAC092299 · Answer

I’d rather adopt than have my own but I’d rather have none at all if I can help it however if I fall in love and she wants a child adoption is as willing as I’ll get tbh

Dinklex3 · Answer

Definitely.  I'm "kinda" adopted, but kinda blood related 😅 I think it'd be a nice experience.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I would consider it only in very specific ''cases''. For example, if I know the kid personally; and then to get it into sheltered waters if required.

Twalli · Answer

If we decide it is what we want we will adopt. We won't procreate, so adoption would be the only way we'd raise a child.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

I would not I do not want children in general. The only reason I will have one is that I'm an only child, male

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

I would if I the circumstances permitted. I didn't give birth to my dog but love it

BCRanger10 · Answer

Yes. My wife and I have discussed it before.

DEondeBeaumont · Answer

I would never take care of another kid. I am not a cuck.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I've never thought about adopting a child myself but my best friend told me that he wants to adopt a child someday

RangerBlue22 · Answer

Do you plan to do this as a single mother?

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have thought about that many times.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yeah I would consider it. Pregnancy doesn't excite me and in all honesty I don't like young babies that much.

AsaKyo · Answer

Kids are annoying to me, but I wouldn't be against adoption if I was ready to settle down and have a family

Punk-y · Answer

Yesss. My boyfriend and I don't want kids at the moment, but we both agree that if we ever change our mind, we will definitely be adopting!

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It's not that simple. I was adopted and I can tell you many in the rest of your family will never accept your adopted child as a "real" family member. This is shitty but true.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

i wamted 12 kids. i have three. there is no way my wife has another. adoption or fostering is a definate possability

Anonymous · Answer

No, I would want my own genetic legacy. There is Co-parenting where I do not need to be in a romantic relationship with anyone.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If she doesn't want to get pregnant and wants to adopt then i am fine with that.

leighbee · Answer

Go for it, too many kids in care

Anonymous · Answer

Why not show a picture of two gay parents when considering adoption?

SiberFox · Answer

I want my own kids before I consider adoption

Anonymous · Answer

I wanted long time ago but I have no husband

animesenpai · Answer

I would consider it

Agape93 · Answer

Hell no, I don't want kids

XXblack88 · Answer

If I had the money I would.

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

That's so cool of you! And sure

cth96190 · Answer

Only if the child was an orphaned relative.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Yes, bc I don’t want kids

Vendela · Answer

I would definitely consider adopting

La_isla_bonita23 · Answer

I would love to adopt one.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

No I don’t think I would

Zolly99999 · Answer

I would absolutely consider it for sure.

coachTanthony · Answer

F no.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah definitely

misfittoy · Answer

yes.

panamared1 · Answer

If I were a lot younger sure

Jitternation · Answer

Hell no

Anonymous · Answer

I would not and have not adopt a child.

Debbie14217 · Answer

yes i would

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