Have you or would you consider adopting a child?

[Paulalove98]

I definitely would consider it! I feel like just because we wouldn’t be blood related doesn’t mean I can’t love that child like my own and yes of course I’d love to carry my own but if there was any sort of health condition down the line or I met a guy who had some sort of health condition to prevent us from conceiving, adoption for sure would be an option and I know sadly there’s many children without homes and parents to love them and it’s so sad and awful. It’s also my dream to be a mom and I’d be super honored to give that little girl or boy unconditional love.

[Rania05]

I very much do, knowing I don't want to go through pregnancy while I still love children so my choices are:
1_Marry someone who's interfile (Hard catch though)
2_Stay single and adopt (would still be lonely with no one warming my bed at night and as the child grows up and became completely independent from me)
3_ Get married to a DINK (I don't trust one in keeping their word in not wanting kids or when they would cheat on me)
4_Marry a widower or divorced man with kids (seriously considering but still wants to adopt after marriage)

[JaxiCats]

Or go with 1 and just tell them that you want to adopt and if they have an issue with it then don’t bother with them.

[Rania05]

I'm still adopting no matter which option
Thanks for MHO

[DubiousIntentions]

The sad thing is that many older children never get adopted because everyone wants babies,. The older kids never have a family life and turn to crime or illicit stuff in it's place.

[Paulalove98]

To be honest i would adopt an older child too and wouldn't mind if their over 10 like 10-13, 14,15 16 etc because that is so true a lot of those children get left out and miss out on that family bond it is definitely sad i agree. Babies are adorable for sure but older kids too deserve love💓

[Paulalove98]

I wasn't really set on adopting a baby, or so much on the age more of if i feel the connection with the child whether she or he is 4, 7, 11, 15 and so on:)

[DubiousIntentions]

You are a blessing.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Unfortunately that is the case. My brother and I were 6 and 8 when we were adopted. Even that is considered "old" for being adopted.

[Paulalove98]

@Wraith_Cemetery that's really messed up and unfair:( Like i said it's not just the babies that need a home it's kids of all ages that are worthy of that home and parent (s) that will love them.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

I was adopted along with my younger brother so I'd love to give another boy or girl the same opportunity I had through adoption. Ended up reuniting with all my biological siblings ( I have several sisters and an older brother) a few years ago which was nice. My adopted parents were always open to the idea of me trying to find my biological family.

[Chazmatazz269]

I think adoption is a good idea. I think more people should adopt. I know there are lots of kids who need homes and responsible adults in their lives to help the kids become responsible adults. I, however, am not in the market for rugrats. Nor do i expect to ever be.

[Paulalove98]

Yes it's also sad because sometimes they'll grow older in those facilities and miss out on all those family or parent experiences they wish they couldve had. If i adopt i dont believe Ill adopt a baby i mean i dont know but im saying id be open minded to a little girl or boy thats even 4, 7, 10, 13, etc because i know the little kids and older kids get left out and thats sad.

[MRME6]

Hi Paula, yes I have thought about it my mom is actually a physio and works with children at an orphanage. She fell in love with one of the children there and that's how I met my brother. I think it's great but.
So my brother is of African decent and our family is Indian/Malaysian so our hair is straight. He always feels left out and it actually breaks my heart because he just wants to be like his older brother. Another thing is that sometimes the children at orphanages need more maintenance, so my brother talks to therapist a lot more than a normal kid. My brother has FAS but with God's grace {Allah} it isn't as bad as other cases. He attends a normal school, but if his condition was worse he'd attend a special school. Also knowing what I know now, my older sister and I are a huge help to my mom and dad I'm 21 and My sister is 25. It would help if you had older kids to help you out eventually when you do decide to adopt.

[Blackcupcake]

I have always thought of adoption as something beautiful that I want to do in my life. however there are a lot of things to consider, and it requires a strong will and commitment. so to answer your question, would I consider it? absolutely. BUT, only if me and my partner would feel like it is something we can commit to from many different perspectives such as a stable economy, home, jobs, other kids etc.


I believe that it is very important to consider all of those aspects and more, because the adopted child is the one that is going to have it the most difficult after all, so as the parents, we should be prepared enough, to not make it more difficult than it already would be.

[Robbey]

My husband and I considered adopting a baby girl 3-4 years ago. We have two sons together but my husband had hoped for a girl. If I had been a bit younger, I might have been willing to try getting pregnant and hoping for a girl, but that ship had sailed. And since I already have four adult daughters from my first marriage, I was never more than luke-warm on the idea. But we did look into it, but ultimately decided not to pursue it.

[menina]

Yes, I thought about adoption, especially now that I realized that I'm not in time to have my own children.

[Paulalove98]

I've seen people have children at your age still. My mom had me at 38 but i also dont wanna be like i guess over 31 or 32 but for me id love to adopt one and if it's meant to be definitely carry my own also someday💜good luck.

[menina]

Yes, and I've seen it too. The problem is that I won't be able to have children until the age of 35. I've heard many times that having kids past 35 is riskier.
I understand your reasons for wanting to adopt and they seem right to me. Hope you're able to do what works better for you. Thank you, good luck. 💙

[CasuallySamsonite]

When it comes to true family, blood means as much as moose piss... I'd adopt a whole pile of kids if I had the room in a house for them to grow up happy and healthy. No shortage of room in my heart for all them little'guys.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Exactly. My adopted family loves me just as much or more than any biological parents could. And the bond is just as strong too despite not being related. I know of biological parents who treat their children like trash. Blood means nothing for them. If I had the resources I'd adopt a whole squad too.

[Haha456]

if you think most people want to adopt, don't you think most households would be filled with adopted kids already? nah... most families want their own children.

I personally wouldn't feel the same connection, love or care to someone else's child compared to my own child. I'm sorry to say this but its true.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Depends on my partner, if they're opened to adoption or really wanted it instead. I've thought about adoptions and becoming a foster parent in the future but I don't know if it's a higher priority than just having biological children. Ideally both would be good.

[Apple1996]

I would love to but most likely not possible since I already have my own kids. I've heard adoption places won't give to people that already have kids/ are fertile. They tend to want to help infertile couples the most which is totally understandable.

[jshm2]

No, at least not until I'm retired.

Also, don't forget these are usually "damaged" children and not some sort of "lovable puppies" as you've got in your head. These could be kids or young adults with violent and abusive pasts and if you're too soft you could make them worse.

[Havthrills]

I totally would if she's up for it too. Can I adopt a 20 year old with his/her own place and job?

[Paulalove98]

Lol omg

[jennifer_bloom]

If I could not have my own than yes, I would love to raise a child and bring them to adulthood.

[Mamaganja]

Yes I would. My boyfriend asked me the same question. He was in foster care and then adopted twice. I have always wanted a large family. Currently have 1 daughter. Would like 2 more of my own and 2-3 adopted all from the same birth parents.

[exitseven]

I got my last kid through college last year snd I really do not want to start the process all over again.

[TroyDT]

I would. I was orphaned at 4 and then raised by my grandparents. And I'm congenitally sterile, so if I ever want children that is really the only option for me.

[JustinTheGreat]

Yes, I could. It’s something I’ve been thinking about

[CubaPirate]

Yeah we considered adopting a girl but our youngest boy wasn't having any of it

[Paulalove98]

Sometimes boys wanna do their own thing and not wanna look out for a younger sibling. Not all but some. My sister had all boys so yeah they kind of just looked out for one another at times but liked doing their own thing. I guess I’m not particular id be okay with a girl or boy, it’ll be more of what child I’ll feel connected to in my heart when I meet him or her.

[YourNightOwl]

I think it would be rally nice but my wife doesn’t want the work or responsibility. For me it’s with the love, security, family, and happiness the child can have.

[BlurryHaze]

Possibly! It's something I have thought about a few times, as long as I'm stable and give the child as much love and care as I possibly can, it would be a good thing to do.

[SlothySlob]

No. I lack the empathy or altruism to do that, though in a sense you could argue I do because I know I can't provide for the kid like some people could.

[Massageman]

It's a little late to add another head or two to the family, but if circumstances prevented having natural birth, yes, we would have considered it. A friend of our and his wife adopted 6 kids over the years! Great family, sweet kids.