From what I can see here this guy his friend was like a brother to him and the friends that were all there at the funeral went out drinking and smoking it's a guy thing at this point he may be grieving with the boys by drinking crying and telling stories but you got the most important job of all the guys may drink and smoke and sad/happy that there all together. But when that man comes homes he is going to be either on the bed or on the couch crying about the old days with his now lost friend and he is not going to have any one there to hold him and tell him that it will be okay
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Hmmm so I get your point and I can understand why you may be upset because it seems like he’s lacking communication? But at the same time you don’t know his cousin therefore a funeral where you don’t know anyone there isn’t about you. A funeral shouldn’t be a place for that to be the meeting ground in which you meet those people. I think the bigger issue here is you feel hidden , so maybe you are feeling this way in other situations besides this one? Maybe you need to address to him that it bothers you that you haven’t met really anyone close to him. I think that would be a more productive discussion than trying to assume why he may not have invited you to this gathering when he technically has the right to decline you from coming.
Funerals with after services typically last a whole day. My friends funeral was meeting up at 10:30, convoy to the funeral for an 11:30 service, then to a different location for the after service where everyone drank til about 5pm.
While I understand you wanted to be a support person for him its not always appropriate, have you been together long? Maybe he isn't comfortable with you seeing him in such a vulnerable state. Maybe he didn't think it was appropriate for you to be there since you didn't know anyone else.
Funerals in general are hard and confusing, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just be there for him in this moment as he continues to grieve his loss, you don't have to be at the funeral to be supportive
It's a funeral for his friend, not a typical social gathering. It's not unusual for funerals to last most of the day, especially if there's a wake after it. I'd let it go.
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