Is it wrong of me to feel like I’m being used for my income?

[JaxiCats]

I pay my grandma’s cable/internet bill, I’ll buy food for the house but if I go out with my mom or something I don’t bring anything home for her because usually she complains about not liking something for one reason or another but if I buy groceries there’s nothing she likes somehow so she comments on how she isn’t going to eat this or that or how me and my mom don’t seem to eat which makes us eat less. If I go out she tells me to bring her something back. I’m trying to save money so I can do something for myself which I have yet to do so when I go out it’s for myself and my mental health and it’s to the point where I dread going home after. She also asks to borrow money from me to buy cigarettes which I refuse not only because I don’t want her health to get worse but because in most cases she doesn’t pay me back or even just be nice to me.


I bring home on average 2000 a month and 150 goes to cable, 100 to gas, 200 to pets and the rest goes to food or other things like toilet paper or something. I usually end up spending 450 off the bat of my first paycheck of the month yet I still don’t have any money to spare to my savings. It frustrates me so much because I’m always yelled or complained to about spending my own money when I’m trying to really save it. I’m getting better at saving money but I’m tired of not having enough for myself to get things I need like clothes or underwear and shit like that. My grandma wants 200 a month from me just because she wants it but I told her the only way I’ll give it to her is through a bill not in cash like one day I owed my mom 50 bucks and it was for my grandma since she paid her for me well my mom told me to put it on her gas bill but my grandma got mad about it because she wanted the money.

[jennifer_bloom]

There are a few options for you on this. You could try to get a second job or a higher paying job instead of trying to save the money you earn. You could try to reduce your costs by changing the foods you buy. For example, home made pita bread dipped in mustard sauce is a cheap meal if you're low on money. Rice porridge mixed with pickled vegetables is cheap since one jar could last you 20 meals. Noodles and pasta could allow you to eat for $15.00 a week for 3 people. I knew a guy who ate for $4.00 a week using pasta he made from scratch. Chia seeds are a cheap source of omega 3 if you don't want to buy salmon. But chia seeds must be mixed with liquids for at least 9 hours before consumption or they could kill you.

[JaxiCats]

Yea but considering that if I cook everyone has to agree to eat it cooking from scratch becomes a waste. I actually have fish in the freezer along with ramen in the pantry not to mention if I’m that desperate I can ask my boyfriend for help but I’m working a full time job right now and where I work is close to the college campus I wish to go to so that is the whole reason why I’m putting up with the job right now

[Anonymous]

Stop giving your money to her. My uncle used to help pay for his friend's house. It was supposed to be his and his friend's house, but my uncle never put his name on the paper.

So when his friend got a girlfriend, he kicked my uncle out without a second thought. That's why you don't pay for people's stuff. Those same people will throw you under the bus for themselves at the end of the day.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

How much are you paying in rent? Who owns the roof over your head?

[JaxiCats]

Into grandma owns the house. The deal that was made was help pay the bills. My mom gives her 300 as peace money to get her to leave her alone but that does nothing really

[Danny_dan92]

Stop paying for her shit. Period

[eagle1951]

damn