Do you guys think he did this to control me or am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

I have a four month old son with my boyfriend. It’s my first child and I’m 26 years old. Since I’ve had him he has told me a few times, during small arguments or disagreements and differences, that he got me pregnant or purpose and I’ve always ignored it until I noticed every time I want to leave and go anywhere with my son without him like take him to go see family and friends that haven’t seen him yet, like I said he is only four months, it’s always “You’re trying to take my son away from me.” To guilt me into not leaving and most times it works because then I think maybe that is what I’m doing even when I know deep down that wasn’t and was never my intentions. Like I know what I’m doing is not to take our son away from him but he gaslights me into believing that.

[Kaptin]

Of you really wanna leave him, you should. You're not doing either one of yourselves a favor by staying when you want out. Let him be a father but you should definitely be with someone you want to be with.

[Asker]

No it’s not that at all. I want to be with him and I want a family. I’m with him all the time, we live together and I want him in his sons life. I would never use our son as something to dangle over his head even if things changed in the future. It just genuinely feels like whenever I try to take our son places with just me and him it suddenly becomes a issue and he says I’m trying to take our son away when I’m really just taking him to see faces (family and friends) that have yet to see him. I want him to get familiar with faces beyond just ours. We do things as a family all the time. What’s so wrong with switching that up sometimes? It just feels like he thinks me having his son now, he can control my every move and he wants my every move to just be me him and our son. He doesn’t want me to have a life outside of that and that worries me. I do want to be with him though. He just can be a bit overwhelming when he gets like that.

[HateyouxD]

Keep walking out that door. He will be fucking okay. You need a life too

[LazerBean]

Obviously.