In the event that the mother makes more money than the father and they are separated, should he still have to pay child support?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

The mother makes $100k per year.

The father makes $40k per year and lives pay check to paycheck.

Yes, that don’t matter. He still gotta pay them child support payments bro. Periot.

Nah, give that man a break bro. He don’t gotta pay in this case.

[BeeNee]

It would be detrimental to the child(ren) and the other parent if the courts put the man in this case, into debt paying child support as they obviously wouldn't be able to keep paying if they were out of money. Courts don't just look at your salary and go, here's a fee. They factor in many things. If you are the custodial parent, regardless of your gender, i.e., the child(ren) live with you, you are already paying for their care, room, board, medical expenses, school expenses, etc, but that doesn't excuse the other parent from doing so as the children aren't just hers or his. Remember it's CHILD support. Generally speaking, child support is roughly around 20% of a man or woman's net income, and the number goes up around 5% per child to about 40% max. Generally speaking, the criteria for determining what said net income is go by following factors:

[BeeNee]

“the age and needs of the child;
the ability of the parents to contribute to the support of the child;
any financial resources available for the support of the child;
the amount of time of possession of and access to a child;
the amount of the obligee’s net resources, including the earning potential of the obligee if the actual income of the obligee is significantly less than what the obligee could earn because the obligee is intentionally unemployed or underemployed and including an increase or decrease in the income of the obligee or income that may be attributed to the property and assets of the obligee;
childcare expenses incurred by either party in order to maintain gainful employment;
whether either party has the managing conservatorship or actual physical custody of another child;
the amount of alimony or spousal maintenance actually and currently being paid or received by a party;
the expenses for a son or daughter for education beyond secondary school;
whether the obligor or obligee has an automobile, housing, or other benefits furnished by his or her employer, another person, or a business entity;
the amount of other deductions from the wage or salary income and from other compensation for personal services of the parties;
provision for health care insurance and payment of uninsured medical expenses;
special or extraordinary educational, health care, or other expenses of the parties or of the child;
the cost of travel in order to exercise possession of and access to a child;
positive or negative cash flow from any real and personal property and assets, including a business and investments;
debts or debt service assumed by either party; and
any other reason consistent with the best interest of the child, taking into consideration the circumstances of the parents.”

[kylee2437]

That widely depends. How it usually works depends on custody not amount of income. If she has been granted more custody that automatically means she has more responsibilities which grants her access for him to fess up money. I’m a triplet and I switched to living with my dad when I was 16. Technically in that situation, my mother owed my dad child support because he has more custody even though he makes more than her.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

But putting him on child support payments means he won’t be able to afford his apartment anymore. Where is he gonna live?

[kylee2437]

That’s his own problem if he doesn’t have custody of his child. He is showing signs of an unfit parent to begin with

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

She left him for another guy. Even her new man makes more money than him. They are putting him on child support

[kylee2437]

That new man did not create that child and him helping financially would be out of the kindness of his heart.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

So you really think the poor father still has to pay child support? In this case?

[kylee2437]

Absolutely. He created that child and his financial situation is no one else’s problem but his. If he can’t provide for himself but decided to bring a child into this world - he made a grown man decision

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

But even to the point where he can’t afford his own apartment anymore? He called me to ask for $5 for gas to get to work today like dang

[kylee2437]

That’s his own problem. He chose a grown man role when he wasn’t ready to be a grown man

[kylee2437]

My friend is in the same situation and guess what? I don’t feel bad. No one told her to have a kid while being financially unstable

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

He was dependent on her income. He lives in a small apartment. He is a middle school science teacher barely makes enough for himself to afford the apartment. He is now drowning after child support payments

[kylee2437]

That’s still his problem. Mooching is never okay. My mom did that crap with my dad and she’s still in financial debt to this day. She is one lucky mom , that my dad is a good man.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

So you’d still put him on child support even if that means him losing his apartment

[kylee2437]

If he lost his apartment from having to pay child support, then he isn’t managing his money properly at all. Plenty of people living okay with 40k a year

[DextroShade]

You are so full of shit, if the genders were reversed and the guy was making 100k and left his wife for another woman while somehow getting custody you would not demanding that she pay child support; if he did try to get child support from her you would be calling him a vindictive asshole.

[kylee2437]

Uhhhh my actual real life situation is based on genders being reversed and no I wouldn’t. She deserved to pay child support. Why are you so upset about others needing to hold accountability? Just because this man decided to be a loser and mooch off his successful wife doesn’t mean he’s allowed to just get a pass to being an sourceful parent

[kylee2437]

Unsourceful*

[DextroShade]

You paid child support to a man whi made more money than you? Stop the cap!

[kylee2437]

I don’t have children and I’d never have children with a man that couldn’t provide for his kid. Dumb people behavior 101

[DextroShade]

You literally just said your real life situation was based on my gender-swapped hypothetical. Do you struggle with reading comprehension or are you just a compulsive liar?

[kylee2437]

You obviously struggle with reading comprehension because I already specified how this situation relates to me via my parents. Go get a job and stop worrying about sticking up for loser men.

[DextroShade]

So a teacher making 40K a year is a loser? I will not tolerate useless thots like yourself shitting on average men while you benefit from their labors every day of your privileged life: these men provide the food you eat, the electricity you use, the roads you drive on, and the building you are taking shelter in. Why should men ever do any sort of essential working class job if they are just going to be considered losers by entitled hoes like yourself? What's the incentive?

[kylee2437]

A man that chose to have a child, meanwhile mooching off his wife and not bettering himself meanwhile bringing a child into the world is a loser. $50 says that she left him because she was tired of how sourcless he was. “Useless thots” are tired of feminine useless men.

[kylee2437]

Entitled hoes? You are the one that thinks a person should get a pass on providing for a child lmao talk about entitled

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

He is a really good and nice guy. He wasn’t mooching off of her. She just left him for a more handsome guy that makes more money than him. They have this big house and she is now putting him on child support and he is barely getting by living in an apartment. He is still making payments on furniture they bought like the couches, fridge and etc. he has a lot to pay

[kylee2437]

@captain-obvious you are saying exactly what I said in PG-13 wording. Sure he is a nice guy, but he 100% thought that this woman’s income was an excuse to stay stagnant in the career he’s in and she got tired of that. Her own success going down the drain dealing with a man that was comfortable not even being able to provide for himself when he stands alone. I’m not even trying to be offensive at all but this is why so many people are comfortable with being single and this day and age.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

He loves his career. He had an option to move up and make more money but would be miserable. He loves working with kids. He is a great teacher.
She also had him pay for everything. Literally everything. The food and all.

[kylee2437]

@captain-obvious then that’s his own problem because moving up would’ve helped his own and his child’s situation. My friend is a teacher and makes well over 60k a year. If you are his friend and want to see him do better, you should tell him to man up.

[DextroShade]

You are going to die alone and be eaten by your starving cats.

[kylee2437]

I’d rather be alone and single than be with a man draining my success and peace. The insults you are trying to throw aren’t working sweetheart

[kylee2437]

The funniest part about this story is the woman bettering her standards didn’t leave her single either LOL @DextroShade go get a job

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Why are you so mean?

[kylee2437]

I’m not mean, I just have low toleration for people thinking they should get a pass on parenting because they are low income. @dexteoshade came out of no where to throw shade because he’s pissed off im most likely attacking his current situation

[kylee2437]

Tolerance*

[EricSummer]

Here in Switzerland he would not have to contribute anything to the children from his lower income. If they were married he might even qualify for alimony from the ex wife. It depends on different factors, for example if he can objectively get a better paying job. It also depends if he took a break from his job to look after the children for several years. If the children now live with him, the ex wife has to pay, of course, mainly for the children and a bit for him.

The most likely outcome would be that he receives alimony for a limited time, for example two years, to allow him to take up a new job or be content with what he has.

[EricSummer]

Having said that, I would accept money from an ex wife only if I really took care of the kids and worked in the house, not if I just have a lower paying job. I would also still give presents or voluntary contributions to my children even with the smaller income.

[DextroShade]

He gender breakdown of the results is very telling. You hoes are greedy! 50/50 custody with no child support should be the default.

[kylee2437]

Saying custody should be automatically 50/50 for every situation sounds about greedy. The man he described doesn’t deserve much custody with the way his life is currently going. He needs to get his shit together

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

He is a middle school science teacher. He barely makes enough money to take care of himself and has a small apartment.

[DextroShade]

@kylee2437 so a working-class man making average income doesn't deserve to raise his kid? That's really fucked up and shows that you are a misandrist.

[kylee2437]

Clearly there’s more to the story than just him being a working class man. You can say my mom is a working nurse when you subtract her addiction out of the scenario

[Anonymous]

i think if both parents want to stay in the child's life then both should contribute, obviously if there's a massive income gap then the one with less money shouldn't have to pay as much

[anon1903]

Fair enough

[Astarlessnightsky]

Depends who has custody over the child (ren) and where the child (ren) live

[JustinTheGreat]

I think both parents should contribute money towards their child regardless who makes more money or not.

[anon1903]

Right?

[anon1903]

He did dna investment didn't he? He'd also want to see the kid, yes? So why not. Unless he's homeless, yes he's paying. Lmao!

[XXblack88]

If the mom has the kids most of the time, then yes. Now if the mom wants to be nice and give him a break that's great.

[mommymommymommy]

if she chooses to

Womans right to choose, just like with abortion

[Anonymous]

If he is making 40K a year, he can pay child support, no excuses.

[anon1903]

Right? 40k isn't less