First time going clubbing?

[Anonymous]

My friends want to take me clubbing this Friday. I’m 25 and I’ve never even went to a high school party as a teen. I’m really nervous, if I had a choice I definitely would not go but my friends really want me to experience it at least once. What is it like? Any advice for someone who’s never been? 😭

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8 mo

I went. It was okay at first but then it got to a point where I was given too many drinks and I’m pretty sure I started hallucinating and it got quite scary 😅 I probably wouldn’t do it again. Makes me feel gross and bleh.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have clubbed pretty hard this year. There are some music clips and advertisements of me and my then friend clubbing together. There’s one music clip named after us as well.

First of all, don’t be easy.

Be sexy, but don’t be vulgar.

For dancing, My suggestion is, Go for the center. If you dance, make sure you are at the center of the party. Also, don’t dance because you want others to see you, dance because you enjoy every bit of your body, you feel your sexiness, your energy radiating through you, it attracts people to come to you, you are just there enjoying yourself with your friend and suddenly everybody wants to dance with you.

Men want to dance with you, even girls want to dance with you. Be ready for some harassment, one girl grabbed my boob and made me grab hers. Was strange as hell, especially that I al totally straight.

If anybody invites you for a drink, be careful. Don’t take it from everyone.

Don’t get too drunk, you don’t want to be someone’s drunk ****, do you?

Just enjoy socializing, light flirting and dance as if there’s no tomorrow.

I have danced on top of the bar as well, I loved it. There are some slow mos taken of me by my friends and a club videographer. I was gifted 3 champagne bottles for me and my 2 friends by the club owner that night. The best champagne I’ve tasted.

If you don’t drink and I suggest you don’t… You can still get the shower of champagne all over your body. Being wet and sweaty on the dance floor and feeling that you are young and crazy. Pure ecstasy.


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Be sexy but don’t lose your class.

And remember, some people there go to find one night stands. Let them know you are not there for that. Just enjoy yourself for yourself.

Relax and party hard!!!

You are only young once.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for this!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I also started clubbing for the first time when I was 26. Before that I liked partying but I had never enjoyed nor been interested in clubbing.

It was the break up with my fiancé that made me want to join my friend and go with her, after she asked many times.

And I don’t regret that, dancing was the only time when I forgot crying about my past relationship.

It did it’s job, I danced my pain away. That’s all I did. Just dance.

I am now back to being my good girl self.

[justabuddy]

Music clips? As in a music video?

[spartan55]

Wow, the humble bragging has been resurrected once again...😂 😂.

[Stacey55666]

I guess it depends on what your friends' motivations are. It could be peer pressure, or maybe they think they're helping you break out of your shell.

You should go at least once so you can form your own opinion about it. It's not really my cup of tea, but you might like it. I think most people who go clubbing, like it.

Just keep in mind that there's a very high likelihood that guys will ask you to dance. Before you ever get to the clubs, you need to resolve that demon in your head. If you don't want to dance, just tell the guys that you hurt you knee in an accident, and just want to listen to the music.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s not my intention at all to dance with any guys to be honest. I would rather just stick with my friends.

[Asker]

I don’t think I’m a quiet or introverted person. Clubbing just isn’t my idea of fun, I prefer more adventurous stuff. But we’ve been doing some things that I like lately so I feel like it’s only fair that I give it a try even though I completely hate the idea of it 😫

[Stacey55666]

Give it a shot

[DextroShade]

It will be loud, there will be a lot if people sho are intoxicated, and there will a lot of guys there approaching you trying to smash. If your friends are trying to get you into an establishment that exists solely to raise your body count you should seriously reconsider your choice of friends; if you lay with dogs you get fleas.

[Asker]

Oh no they’re not there to laid, my one friend is a virgin and the other is in a serious relationship lmao. They just like to have a drink and dance. I’m just nervous because that type of environment is new to me, I’m a much quieter person.

[Asker]

I’m a virgin also so I don’t plan on doing any of that.

[DextroShade]

Then none of you have any business in the club, you can listen to music and dance anywhere. Your friends are addicted to the attention and validation from the men there, and if they get invited to a section and provided drinks by a baller all bets are off.

[Asker]

Kk 👍🏼

[DopeTurtle]

Stay with your friends, be relaxed as you can and just try to have fun. Dance with them or anyone you deem worthy to dance with. Don’t let anyone force you into anything you don’t like and just enjoy the music

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Spongebobssocks]

Dont go!

Trust me if they really your friends they won't push you to go clubbing. Its only creepy drunk men and women there. I've never went clubbing either and I never will

[Asker]

I really don’t want to go but they insist that I have to experience it at least once 🥲

[Spongebobssocks]

Nah if they really your friend then they should accept you for who you are.

[Stacey55666]

" Its only creepy drunk men and women there. I've never went clubbing either and I never will"

I don't get it.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 thats what people tell me

[Stacey55666]

It's not true at all. You should go once and be a fly on the wall. It's mostly college kids giving off steam and taking a break from reality. It's no longer my cup of tea, but you shouldn't let others paint a bad picture of something they personally don't like.

I was at a club, and a guy asked me if I wanted to see his tarantula collection. (he showed me some pics on his phone)

While I admit to being a huge spider racist, I loved that he offered to show me them. What a great story to tell.

Another guy wanted me to come and see his electrical insulator collection.

(he showed me pics)

Damn, those were some really nice insulators, but I told him that I was tired and needed to work the next day.

So I think the author of the question should give it a try. She might even get lucky and find a guy with a nice stamp collection!

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 glad you had a good time but I'mma pass:)

[Stacey55666]

Good for you. But is it possible for you to not comment on something you've never tried?

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 yes, i never raped a child and thats not good. Am not comparing it at all but just saying you dont need to do something to know if its for you or not. Its okay to go out and have fun but if she doesn't want too her friends should accept it

[Stacey55666]

"Its only creepy drunk men and women there. "

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 exacly here it is

[Spongebobssocks]

i doubt the people I've met who goes to those places would lie to me but either way im not loosing anything cause im introverted so i rather watch a movie at home plus i dont drink alcohol

[Stacey55666]

I too would rather stay home and watch a movie. I agree with that on a personal level.
But the author is probably shy or introverted, and there is absolutely no requirement to drink at clubs or bars. Actually, she can order a club soda with a lime, and everyone will assume she's drinking booze. But even having said that, no one will care if she's drinking booze or not. Clubs aren't about that. Clubs are all about boys and girls getting together to mingle.

The title of this question is: "First time going clubbing."

This tells me that she's just nervous, and I get that. But telling her not to go because you don't want to go, seems like bad advice to me.

Both you and I have stated that this isn't our cup of tea. But you and I have nothing to do with her question. She's looking for advice.

I think she should go, observe, and form her own opinion. It's not like coming across a horde of the walking dead. I would venture to guess that 50% of the guys at the club are just as nervous and shy as her.
If she didn't want to meet a guy or guys, she wouldn't have asked this question.
I will just say that she will never win the lottery if she doesn't buy a lottery ticket.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 being introverted and shy are two different things they aren't even related but many people think they are the same. I think she should do what she wants which is not go because she should respect her own wishes and have friends who respect her desitions.

[Stacey55666]

I agree that she shouldn't go if she doesn't want to go. I don't want to go bungee jumping, but having said that, I would never ask anyone on this site about whether or not I should go. That's because I don't care about getting advice from anyone from this site.

But I sense that you're reading her question all wrong. I think she's curious about going, and just looking for advice. But we will never know what she's thinking, because in general, anon people never participate in the discussions they themselves create.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 she answered me saying she doesn't want to go so thats why I said that:) and she also wrote it herself in her text below the question title

[Stacey55666]

So what was the point of the question?

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 ask her not me lol

[Stacey55666]

She will never answer, and that's why the anon option is making this site so boring.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Stacey55666 loll I get what you mean but I think the anon can be fun. People should be allowed to ask without needing people to know who they are. But it would be nice to @asker so they could respond😂

[Asker]

My point is that I don’t want to go but my friend isn’t letting me back down and is adamant that I at least try it before I say that I don’t like it and I don’t want to come across as the boring friend in our group either. Even though there’s a million things I’d rather be doing, I’m willing to go just to keep my friends happy. We’re doing other things before the club such as shopping and eating at a restaurant as part of my birthday celebrations, the club idea was just thrown on me today

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay well I think they should respect you but its your life. Your choice. You do as you please:) @asker

Goodluck!

[Asker]

I love them and they’re good friends but sometimes they don’t understand that I’m not a party person like that 😅 I was just looking for some advice so I could at least have some idea of what I’m setting myself up for 🥲

[Stacey55666]

@spongebobssocks

I like that you aren't afraid to talk, because that's what this site is all about. Good job.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yeah they dont seam to be good friends since they dont respect you. But I guess we have different standars for friends. Its okay tho doesn't change my life lol. You do what you want:) if you think they are good friends then thats all that matters. Hope you have fun!

[Asker]

@Stacey55666 and I have been replying to peoples responses here, I’m just a busy person and don’t have time to constantly be responding every time someone makes a comment or conversation 😅

[CrimsonAngel09]

Never been due to causing me sensory overloads with too many people, and too many noises going on at once.

[Asker]

I feel like this is exactly what’s going to happen with me.

[A_Bell]

It's not really fun unless you're into party drugs and alcohol.

[Asker]

I’m not into either 🥲

[Asker]

And neither are they, one is in a serious relationship so I don’t get why they want me to go so bad aha

[A_Bell]

There are so many better ways to fill your time. I regret every moment I spent in clubs when I was younger.

[Asker]

I agree entirely. I’m only doing it to keep my friends happy, this will be the first and only time for me.

[boggboss]

Just watch your drink and don't get shit faced drunk or separate from friends at the end of the night

[Asker]

I’ll probably be clinging onto my friends all night lmao, thank you!

[boggboss]

Oh when u go toilet always go with a friend also

[Asker]

Will do :)

[sheikalana]

Relax and just go with the flow. Dress something nice and comfortable. Enjoy the music and dance.

[BigDog1989]

Watch your drink. In fact, if you can take it in the bathroom with you, when you go, do it. You just never know. Or have someone watch it for you

[Anonymous]

Won't be a virgin by the end of the night... willingly remembering or not. I'm sure your friends aren't.😆

[Asker]

I definitely won’t be hooking up with anyone. Couldn’t think of a worse scenario

[TacosRAwesome]

Wear comfortable shoes and keep an eye on your drink and don't drink too much.

[Anonymous]

Have fun, but be careful.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

[Jmmmfi4]

Be careful... guys can spike your drink