Would you help someone get over abuse?

[Anonymous]

I think the notion is that abuse victims are seen as weak, deserving of abuse because they are weak, repulsive or are shunned because they have been abused.

In reality, many times the issue is that the victim is not the caricature of a victim. They are not weak. The perpetrator is a lowly person who went to sub-human levels to take advantage of a situation in which the victim was and hurt them.

Victims in these situation need uplifting and reinforcement from others to properly heal. Would you help someone heal from their wounds?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think it’s important not to victimize yourself.

Life’s not always fair,

You’ll come across betrayal,

If you don’t stand up for yourself people will not shy away to hurt, abuse or take advantage of you.

You’ve got no one but yourself and you don’t need to think of yourself as a victim.

You do not need to think

“Why did this happen to me?”

You just accept that it happened,

pick up your broken pieces, mend them back together and try to take control of your life back in your hands.

Trying to remind yourself that what other people choose to do to you - doesn’t define you, but how you respond to it and how you get up after your fall - It does.

You’ll be disappointed, hurt, betrayed, robbed of anything you are able to give - many times in life.

Take life as it is and don’t get bitter at it, instead learn how to admire the little good things happening, how to not take good people for granted, how to love and respect yourself, because nobody else will - If you don’t.

You’ve only got yourself and it’s your job to lick your own wounds and keep going.

[MemeSupreme]

that's all easier said than done but it's true

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@MemeSupreme I say it all from my experience.

[Cutegirl06]

My boyfriend friend was abused by his older sister and mother. They treated him like he was a dog literally. They made him eat out of a dog bowl on his hands and knees and his sister would push his face down into the food. She beat him up everyday and she's 10 years older than he is. He suffers from ptsd and has nightmares. I am always here for him. If anyone were to call him weak I would tell them he has more courage than they do because he's facing these things in therapy it takes a lot of courage I think to talk about these things and try to get over them. He never did anything to deserve the way they treated him except that he was born a boy which they held against him from the day he was born.

[Asker]

Yes it takes bravery and courage to face it. Bravo! Good on you! Thank you for helping him recover.

[Cutegirl06]

No need to thank me, I could not imagine not helping him through this.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah i have before with friends and I've dealt with abuse growing up so i get it. i'll be a shoulder for them to lean on but they still gotta help themselves

[Anonymous]

Id do the best I could, but id also encourage them to seek professional help.

[HappyWoman34]

Yes I’d try.