I want revenge on my sister's ex boyfriend, is my hatred towards him ok?

[Anonymous]

I used to advise her against living together with a boyfriend and make him give her his last name but she didn't listen and got carried away by the romance, falling in love stage and a bunch of nonsense.

She got tired of 7 years of their relationship heading nowhere, his broken promises and him still needing time and making excuses on how kids are a major commitment but he'll propose one day soon. Yeah but he sure enjoyed wasting her time. For sex and romance, he's ready like tomorrow but not for the serious things. At the end, he eventually admits that he only wanted a girlfriend but couldn't tell her because he didn't want to lose her. Basically he lied all along about wanting kids and marriage one day. I never liked that man.

She broke up obviously and then found out she was pregnant. Not wanting to be a single mother, she hesitantly aborted the baby and has been damaged and depressed since, cries constantly and at times even drinks heavily. She's pills and is have sessions with a psychiatrist. She's now 29 and lost hope at everything.

My parents and I hate that man. I wish I could get revenge on him. She was a sweet, shy girl who wanted a future and kids like most of us want. And now she's a shell of herself, ruined.

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1 mo

She's deeply traumatized at this moment. Sometimes she has nightmare of the chose she made. She felt as if he gave her no choice.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she made her choices. she's not the victim here. Sure he is a pos, but she chose the path that she chose, its none of your business, just support your sister. Revenge = stupidity

[Asker]

She hates men at this point, sees them all the same. It's interesting how my parents and I were right about that guy. We never liked him at all.
Will she eventually trust a man ever? She doesn't trust anyone but us, her female best friend and the family.

[Opinion Owner]

she's got a broken heart, Time is the only medicine for that.

Let me tell you a story, Before i met my wife i was with someone who did some very bad things to me. She was violent, controlling, manipulative, abusive. When i broke it off with her, she sliced my face up causing me to need over 100 stitches, some inside my mouth, she literally cut through my cheek. It took me a long time to trust again. I was angry, I hated women. I almost went Incel because of it. Then i met my wife, and i began to heal. Some times it takes the right person to break her out of that, But time ultimately is the thing that will at least allow her to be open to it again.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear what you went through and glad to hear you've found the right woman. I hope this happens to my sister too. I hope she finds happiness and someone that gives her hope of faith in men again.

[Opinion Owner]

Me too! No one deserves that kind of treatment

[strateguy632]

he bad but not enough for you to hate!

revenge is for god not for us.

[Asker]

I guess. I wish him misery.

[Danny_dan92]

What you gonna do?




Kill him?


Fuck him?


Kill him after you fuck him?

[Asker]

I wish there was a way to get back at him or have someone toy with him and destroy his reputation.

[laly520]

revenge is pointless


do better

[Asker]

I guess. He hurt my sister badly and I want him to pay for it.

[Sameone]

But it's u sister life not your life 🤔

[Asker]

He hurt my sister in such a way that she'll never be the same ever again. She's going through a "I hate men" stage.
Both my parents' and my intuition was right. We never liked that man. We were right the whole time. Now she's deeply affected. I can help but hate the person that took advantage of her, that used her.