i have some girl friends who are not very attractive and some who are very pretty. the not so attractive girls (and this includes me) always have comments on their MySpace pics saying how pretty they are. I know when people say this to me they're lying. and when I see those comments on the pics of my unattractive friends I'm always confused why people are saying that to them. it's like every pic has 20 comments of "omg you look stunning!" but then my very pretty friends never have people commenting on their pictures or saying they're pretty. I know I'm not crazy because the girls I think are pretty have guys talking to them all over their wall, but not saying anything about their looks. and the not pretty girls don't have guys talking to them but have girls saying how pretty they are. I'm really confused.
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In the back of most guy's mind lies a subtle prejudice against very attractive women. At some point in our lives we either saw or personally experienced a beautiful girl express disinterest in us only to run off with a guy that treated her like crap. It's not an intense hatred or anything but we tend to have a more aloof attitude towards such women (even though we simultaneously want them as well) whether it's merited or not. As men, we're acutely aware of the effects female beauty has on us and we assume a very beautiful girl would have no qualms using it to get her way.
I guess we unfairly assume that, being aware of our male impulses, that being uncommonly attractive must have gone to her head. It seems redundant to compliment such a girl on her beauty. We just think "she knows." We can't imagine that such a woman would be insecure. Paying a compliment to a woman feels good. Paying a compliment to a very pretty woman makes us feel like just another loser guy kissing her ass and kind of redundant too.
That's not to say, though, that we're always lying when we give a compliment. We'll often compliment women who are in fact quite pretty (like yourself) but have a more humble and subdued aura about them and we assume that our compliment would actually be appreciated.1