The thing is if we speak biologically, looks(good genes) is a good indicator of health, so as humans we are attracted to people who can produce healthy offsprings, so looks will attract girls to you but you have to have the personality to keep them.
I prefer personality, but there has to a physical attraction on some level. And yes you will find people who are shallow and only go for people are good looking and whatnot, but that's just the way it is. I don't like guys who are as skinny as a rail, but I don't want a guy who is overly obese either. That might sound shallow, but like I said, there has to be some sort of physical attraction, but a good personality is a must.
The really muscular guys creep me out I think their gonna crush me when they hug me. I just want a guy to hold me and never let go, but also know when to keep his distance. Although, I don't a little scrouny kid either. He would have to nice and sweet to everyone, but stand up for me, without making me feel embarrassed. I would like a skinny guy, but if I really love him, weight is just a number. Although, age is another story.
Sure girls talk about Hot guys everyday lol but to my opinion it doesn't matter! I'm actually attracted to guys just for who they are, if they happen to be attractive as well that would be cool lol but It doesn't matter in the long run.They tend to be more real. Girls who choose guys based on what they look like are just not worth it themselves honestly lol.
Personality is the most important thing to ME. It can change for other people. I like a muscular guy (i'm not gonna lie) but I still like a guy that is sweet, romantic and is easy to get along with. If a guy's got a great bod and a great personality, I'm all over it. xD
Lets be honest, looks are important first up but after that they're really not important. If a girl feels affection towards a guy and if they like a guy enough they will find something that they find physically attractive in the person, people see what they want to see. In my oppinion I couldn't care less if you have pimples on your forehead big muscles (personally I actually find that a turn off) as long as you genuinely care.
i think personality is most important looks do matter but not asmuch as personality in my opinion. a guy that I like can have a belly and I wodent care aslong as hw treats me right and with respects that is what matters to me.
Why do people keep asking that? Human beings with both qualities exist. You are implying that you only have one, you are implying insecurities but by looking at your icon, you are looking damn good...pardon my French.
Thank you. I wasn't trying give one priority over the other, its just that I had realised that girls seem to put more value on a man's character, than a his physical attributes or even personality, whereas in my experience guys focus more on what we can see. But since I first asked the question I have realised that its a pretty immature and close-minded way of looking at things.
Women want exactly what we want initially (looks) and personality second. It just takes men a while to reach that emotional state of comittment, whereas in women, it's pretty much already there... for some reason :/
That's the only difference between us as far as intimacy is concerned.
Girls want a guy they feel safe with, who respects them, and someone who can make them laugh. Looks are on their list of things to consider, but it is not at the top like it is for us guys.
Girls? It's not just girls, its guys too. You can't speak for all girls in general especially since you're a guy. I don't pretend anything, I'm straight up with people!
Good for you. it's better to be honest and shallow than to be fake and shallow.
all girls want their men to be taller than them. some even want their men to shave their legs. most women want a man who earns "big money". if you're tall, handsome, strong and wealthy, then you're able to get any girl you want. men aren't that shallow. they just want a nice and average looking girl that takes care of herself and doesn't act bitchy all the time.
I don't know everything about girls. I just know that they love my body more than they do love my personality. one thing I definitely like about girls: you need to treat them right if you want to get treated like sh*t. you need to treat them like sh*t if you want them to love you.
I don't know if 'men aren't that shallow. they just want a nice and average looking girl that takes care of herself and doesn't act bitchy all the time', I can't agree with that...most men are shallow, the more good-looking he is the more so, take that from a guy
Hmm..you're not very smart when it comes to girls. You think girls want you for your body lol so therefore you're being self centered in that aspect. Chances are unless she just wants to be loved no matter what, a girl won't put up with a bad personality for long. We don't like being treated badly, some may get off by treating guys badly but not all. You're also getting shallow when you say most are easy to manipulate, just remember the word KARMA. Def don't speak for me and what I think!
I agree with everything that dazedandconfused2 said PLUS girls may just you to hook up with because of your body but I doubt they really want a real relationship with you...same goes with many guys and attractive-but-bitchy [or dumb, boring, etc.] girls.
Girls use guys and guys use girls, we're both as bad as each other. I'm beginning to think that personality is more valuable...but looks still count for ALOT
Of course you won't admit it. that's ok. I don't blame you for that. I wouldn't admit it either.
it's strange. I was a nice guy before, but since I behave like an asshole girls are much more interested in me than before. I don't even give them attention, they keep crawling to me. I wasn't always like that. I just figured that life is much more easy this way. it's unbelievable.
Valentin called me a feminist and an asshole in a message because I said he was being ignorant of the fact that men are just as shallow as women pretty much LOL.
If dating someone that I'm attracted to is considered shallow, then yes... I suppose I am. But I'm attracted to a lot of different guys. I've dated short, tall, overweight, skinny, hick, prep, jock,red-haired, balding, pale, tanned, you name it... And they all had different personalities, temperment's and backgrounds. Now how am I considered shallow?
Of course if you're younger you are likely to have silly ideals for a partner. Glad I'm over that, it's immature, and unrealistic.
I go for a guy wit a nice personality. A strong guy who is fit is a bonus though but if I could find a nice guy who could treat me right I would take him over the strong fit guy any day.
I'm prettty sure the only time that appearances matter are when you're first meeting someone. After that, it's all about personality and how well the two of you mesh.
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The thing is if we speak biologically, looks(good genes) is a good indicator of health, so as humans we are attracted to people who can produce healthy offsprings, so looks will attract girls to you but you have to have the personality to keep them.
personality. id go out with the ugliest guy if he had a great personality
Thats a huge commitment...
Ok. Maybe not the ugliest...
About to say...lol
I prefer personality, but there has to a physical attraction on some level. And yes you will find people who are shallow and only go for people are good looking and whatnot, but that's just the way it is. I don't like guys who are as skinny as a rail, but I don't want a guy who is overly obese either. That might sound shallow, but like I said, there has to be some sort of physical attraction, but a good personality is a must.
The really muscular guys creep me out I think their gonna crush me when they hug me. I just want a guy to hold me and never let go, but also know when to keep his distance. Although, I don't a little scrouny kid either. He would have to nice and sweet to everyone, but stand up for me, without making me feel embarrassed. I would like a skinny guy, but if I really love him, weight is just a number. Although, age is another story.
Oh and he would have to be hot
Sure girls talk about Hot guys everyday lol but to my opinion it doesn't matter! I'm actually attracted to guys just for who they are, if they happen to be attractive as well that would be cool lol but It doesn't matter in the long run.They tend to be more real. Girls who choose guys based on what they look like are just not worth it themselves honestly lol.
Personality is the most important thing to ME. It can change for other people. I like a muscular guy (i'm not gonna lie) but I still like a guy that is sweet, romantic and is easy to get along with. If a guy's got a great bod and a great personality, I'm all over it. xD
usually girls go for the hot guys that are assholes
...and usually it's just the girls who are attractive looking and have bad personalities themselves.
I dunno, most girls don't seem to mind - even really pretty girls seem to focus more on personality
I've dated average looking, good looking and hot men. Personality is the key. Looks always fade.
Lets be honest, looks are important first up but after that they're really not important. If a girl feels affection towards a guy and if they like a guy enough they will find something that they find physically attractive in the person, people see what they want to see. In my oppinion I couldn't care less if you have pimples on your forehead big muscles (personally I actually find that a turn off) as long as you genuinely care.
I like that 'if you like someone enough you will find something physically attractive in the person', I think that's true...
Well, for me, looks get my attention, but you can't keep it unless you have a good personality. Not romanically anyways.
i think personality is most important looks do matter but not asmuch as personality in my opinion. a guy that I like can have a belly and I wodent care aslong as hw treats me right and with respects that is what matters to me.
Why do people keep asking that? Human beings with both qualities exist. You are implying that you only have one, you are implying insecurities but by looking at your icon, you are looking damn good...pardon my French.
Thank you. I wasn't trying give one priority over the other, its just that I had realised that girls seem to put more value on a man's character, than a his physical attributes or even personality, whereas in my experience guys focus more on what we can see. But since I first asked the question I have realised that its a pretty immature and close-minded way of looking at things.
In my opinion, based on years of observation...
Women want exactly what we want initially (looks) and personality second. It just takes men a while to reach that emotional state of comittment, whereas in women, it's pretty much already there... for some reason :/
That's the only difference between us as far as intimacy is concerned.
I know it's a question for girls, but I strongly believe girls would prefer personality more than looks.
For me its personality...and while looks attract you to a person they DON'T keep you...lol
And even if he wasn't "my type" or "cute" his personality may end up peeking my interests and make him sexy as hell in my eyes...
nice personality & some good looks..
muscle's or skinny don't really matter at all to most people I hope that's how it goes with me..
as long as you're attractive an have a good personality you're body "muscles or none"
shouldnt matter ;]
Girls want a guy they feel safe with, who respects them, and someone who can make them laugh. Looks are on their list of things to consider, but it is not at the top like it is for us guys.
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girls are very shallow even though they pretend to be not. there is nothing you can do about it.
Girls? It's not just girls, its guys too. You can't speak for all girls in general especially since you're a guy. I don't pretend anything, I'm straight up with people!
Good for you. it's better to be honest and shallow than to be fake and shallow.
all girls want their men to be taller than them. some even want their men to shave their legs. most women want a man who earns "big money". if you're tall, handsome, strong and wealthy, then you're able to get any girl you want. men aren't that shallow. they just want a nice and average looking girl that takes care of herself and doesn't act bitchy all the time.
I don't know everything about girls. I just know that they love my body more than they do love my personality. one thing I definitely like about girls: you need to treat them right if you want to get treated like sh*t. you need to treat them like sh*t if you want them to love you.
most girls are easy to manipulate.
I don't know if 'men aren't that shallow. they just want a nice and average looking girl that takes care of herself and doesn't act bitchy all the time', I can't agree with that...most men are shallow, the more good-looking he is the more so, take that from a guy
Hmm..you're not very smart when it comes to girls. You think girls want you for your body lol so therefore you're being self centered in that aspect. Chances are unless she just wants to be loved no matter what, a girl won't put up with a bad personality for long. We don't like being treated badly, some may get off by treating guys badly but not all. You're also getting shallow when you say most are easy to manipulate, just remember the word KARMA. Def don't speak for me and what I think!
I agree with everything that dazedandconfused2 said PLUS girls may just you to hook up with because of your body but I doubt they really want a real relationship with you...same goes with many guys and attractive-but-bitchy [or dumb, boring, etc.] girls.
Girls use guys and guys use girls, we're both as bad as each other. I'm beginning to think that personality is more valuable...but looks still count for ALOT
Of course you won't admit it. that's ok. I don't blame you for that. I wouldn't admit it either.
it's strange. I was a nice guy before, but since I behave like an asshole girls are much more interested in me than before. I don't even give them attention, they keep crawling to me. I wasn't always like that. I just figured that life is much more easy this way. it's unbelievable.
Valentin called me a feminist and an asshole in a message because I said he was being ignorant of the fact that men are just as shallow as women pretty much LOL.
Oh my god! you are not only a feminist, you're also a eunuch. you just emasculated yourself cause you snitched on me for sending you a pm.
If dating someone that I'm attracted to is considered shallow, then yes... I suppose I am. But I'm attracted to a lot of different guys. I've dated short, tall, overweight, skinny, hick, prep, jock,red-haired, balding, pale, tanned, you name it... And they all had different personalities, temperment's and backgrounds. Now how am I considered shallow?
Of course if you're younger you are likely to have silly ideals for a partner. Glad I'm over that, it's immature, and unrealistic.
Seeing as how guys are more visually stimulated than females, I'm going to say that males care more about thier partner's looks.
You got that right.
I go for a guy wit a nice personality. A strong guy who is fit is a bonus though but if I could find a nice guy who could treat me right I would take him over the strong fit guy any day.
How about if the nice guy was very skinny and weedy? just looking at worst case scenario...would you still take him over the hot dude
If that kinda guy treated me better then the strong fit guy then yea I would take him anyday
I'm prettty sure the only time that appearances matter are when you're first meeting someone. After that, it's all about personality and how well the two of you mesh.