Girls, when a guy asks you to hang out and/or for your phone number, what do you usually think he means? (Page 4)

Kinstrome · 2015-02-12T00:11:47Z

--I want to emphasize that no one is being vilified here, and I don't want a gender war. I just want honest answers to have a better understanding-- About a week ago I spoke to a girl I had seen at a cafe a couple of times. I had chatted with her a little bit casually, and she seemed to be receptive to talking to me. So when I saw her there a week ago while I was having a small meal alone at a table, I went to her and said, "If it's not too forward of me, could I ask if you'd like to hang out sometime?" She said yes, that it was not too forward, and offered me her phone number (and full name). We weren't able to meet until yesterday, where we had a nice conversation outside another cafe and seemed to be getting along well. Then, towards the end, she mentioned something about a boyfriend. So I waited a few minutes and asked her about what she had said, and she said she had a boyfriend, and that she assumed I just wanted to hang out as friends. I brushed it off like it was no big deal, I smiled and didn't look visibly upset, but I was pretty disappointed. It didn't occur to me that she wouldn't think I was asking her out for a relationship. To the question itself: Girls, if a guy by himself came up and asked you if you wanted to hang out and/or if you wouldn't mind giving him your phone number, would you think he was looking for a friend, or asking you out? Be honest about it, please. I want to know what to say. Guys, feel free to talk about your own knowledge or experiences.

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LittleSally Follow
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Date or a friend - either way. Depends on the choice of words, on his posture, on the actual places he chose to meet up... On a lot of things.

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Oddhonesty Follow
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I'd assume he had motives that aren't pure if he wants to hang out and the number may mean an interest or some more not to pure thoughts.

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Funnygirl24 Follow
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I voted for "D"(Other answer.)

It most likely means he wants SEX! That's all most guys want! SEX SEX SEX!

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- Viking31
  
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  Not all guys but as far as nature is concerned men should have a really high sex drive. But true men can control that desire.
  
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- Perf4her
  
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  Everyone wants sex... You can't deny that but it doesn't mean that's all anyone wants
  
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- albundyfan
  
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  Eventually yes, but we also may want a relationship too. But I suppose thats impossible right?
  
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fearful Follow
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Just think that he wants to contact me, and I'll find out later if he does

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KBob93 Follow
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Just simply shows he may or may not contact me later. Who knows, not a big deal.

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lilyl234 Follow
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she's possibly you know...@_@ stupid. Sorry to break it to you.

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Anonymous
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It was just some kind of testing. She didn't understand him after the first chat and decided to give him another chance. There she found him as uninteresting person and came up with this lie about the boyfriend. That is all, there is no secret meaning at all.

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Chantie7113 Follow
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I would def assume it was for a date or to get to know me more than friends!

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Skittles_lover Follow
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I typically think he wants to get to know me better.

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tattooedhandfet Follow
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I asked a similar question. Mine was what does hanging out with a guy mean?

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- Creeper1o1
  
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  yours is a completely different question from this one lol
  
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- tattooedhandfet
  
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  I find it similar
  
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kittylover101 Follow
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Either friendly, or slight flirting. I doubt she likes you though (prove me wrong please!)

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- Kinstrome
  
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  Prove you wrong? What do you mean?
  
  I already know she isn't attracted to me. I think that's obvious by the end of the story.
  
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Anonymous
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If its just us and not other people... I'm assuming a date... if he invites me to hang out with him and some friends... I'm wondering if he's trying to decide on me or what...

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Heymimihere98 Follow
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It depends on a dude i would think of it as either he likes me as a friend or he wants to date me

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Entrieton Follow
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You should have just asked her out on a date, girls will just assume you are just only interested in friends if you ask them to hang out and theirs no flirting going on.

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bubble_tea Follow
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I'd assume he's looking for a friend who shares the same hobby as he does.

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Anonymous
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They would probably think it was a date. But I would much rather girls start assuming I just want to be friends. I can always decide to hit on them later after I get to know them, if I want to go in that direction.

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sarahtui Follow
Xper 3 Age: 26

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Knowing me i'd think he just wants to hang out and if he asks for my number id think he'd need it for when he wants to hang out again haha

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NicciMint Follow
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definitely A, a date.., I would hope so anyway otherwise I might be disapointed too!

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tmntpkmnavtr Follow
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tbh I'd think he was flirting... I don't know about tht girl tho

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Coolguy1928 Follow
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I know women a lot, so I'm sure they'd think that your asking them for a date. (^_^)

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