Why would a hot girl approach me?

Question

This girl (who is attractive) comes up to me and speaks to me, smiles, and asks for my name. Normally, women especially attractive don't approach me ever so I wondered what her motives were. I told her "What is your motive? She said "I just thought you were interesting and wanted to talk you." I didn't believe her and told her "I have met your type (good looking) and I won't let you play me for a a fool." She told me "It's kind of f**ked up that you would generalize me because I am good looking" I ended the convo saying "I don't trust attractive women because they always look for something better in the end" and walked away. Women who have good looks never come up to me. Why did she do it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When I read that I thought "Boy, she must have lost a bet"

Because when girls have approached me they've always had a boyfriend; the first one was very beautiful but made it very apparent she had a major crush on me (always looking in my direction in classes in college etc) but she had a boyfriend she lived in. The next one also had a boyfriend - and a kid with him!

So I totally understand where you are coming from; even when I've given girls a benefit of the doubt - then guess what, I found out they have a boyfriend. And I just don't have it in me to sleep with a girl that has a boyfriend.

I actually hate it when girls approach me; not once has a girl turned out to be single !!! I kid you not! As shockingly surprising that sounds - it has friggin' never ever been the case.

And I hate it. Seems like the single girls think they are sending big enough signals for me to detect and act upon, where they don't realise their signals are small and miniscule. I think the girls that are dating just want to have their cake and eat it.

kambo_trick3y · Accepted Answer

I sense underhanded bragging, or a completely fabricated story. Still trying to sniff out which of the two this is.

vishna · Accepted Answer

You could have taken the less crazy route and just heard her out, I'm sure your superior gut senses would have helped you out pass the first 5 minutes.

Goldie757 · Accepted Answer

Because she found you attractive.

m203gl · Answer

I've heard a lot of other guys say the exact same thing, I mean a s*itload!!! That's happened to a lot of guys I used to know not the exact event of her asking but it adds up to them not asking the girl out because they figure that she's just going to cast them aside. And these are the women that ruin it for other women that are seriously wanting something. A lot of guys don't even put their heart in it anymore if they do go out with a girl they are pretty indifferent about it they figure she will find someone better. I actually haven't asked anyone out in like 4 years I wouldn't even know where to begin. Or what to even say. After I got back from the war I became pretty anti social. Then I met my ex she made me feel better than I did. Then she left me and I haven't dated anyone since. So yeah I know where your coming from It's spreading like a plague. I was thinking about trying to find a girl outside the U. S. I don't think they're as corrupted as some around here. I mean who wants to get their heart broke 20 times and traded from woman to woman like a baseball card. By the end of that you would be a freaking wreck. I've pretty much just been playing xbox for the past 4 years.

Anonymous · Answer

I've seen so many extremely hot women dating less attractive men. What does it matter what her intentions are anyway? At the very least she could have been a friend, and potentially a gateway to other women. She may have not wanted anything from you other than conversation. She may have to deal with a lot of vapid two dimensional people with little of interest to say. Who knows man. There are also very attractive women that are intelligent, and wholesome, and want a guy that doesn't just want them for their looks. It's not as easy as you think being really, really, ridiculously good-looking. You have to worry about peoples motives. Do they like you just for your looks, or because you're a good person. Next time, get to know her a bit before you make judgements.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Aaaand you're the reason women (especially attractive ones) don't approach guys. You just fed the problem you complained about.
-_-

It's difficult to find a woman that is strong enough to approach, and you go and blew it up. Well done.

Woodyyyy · Answer

Who knows, maybe you missed a chance but good chance you were right. I've been approached by only one random girl on the streets in the last few years. She got in a fight and got kicked out of her apt, wanted to use my phone. I was weary as hell, thought maybe she's trying to distract me so her boys will jump me or she might just take off with my phone or pull a gun on me or some shit.

Girls do not approach average guys for romantic reasons, that's a fact. If someone attractive approaches an average guy, she most likely wants something from him.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Well shit dude, you only have yourself to blame for not treating people like people. Hot or not, she might've had preferences and types which fit your description. No wonder you don't get with a beautiful lady if you're going to be paranoid and treat them that way.

There are universal traits of beauty which everyone/most people can agree on is attractive, but on the whole, beauty is subjective.

Anonymous · Answer

You asked a girl "What is your motive"? Ugh... And the rest of the conversation shows that you've got nasty paranoid tendencies.  So you only speak kindly to ugly girls?

Philyouup · Answer

TAKE GUN. LOAD IT, TAKE AIM A FOOT, PULL TRIGGER>

Life hands you what you wanted, you could have played, but you shot you chances right out of the shute. SMH And out course it's Womanhood to blame Could not just be a friendly conversation or anything. Dude start thinking of yourself in a better light. I am 55, and I don't have these issues..

Kemil_Zhoki · Answer

Reminds me of the story about the guy whose car gets flat on a lonely road. The driver opens the trunk and realizes that he has a spare but no jack. He walks a bit up the road and sees a house with the lights on. As he gets closer he wonders, "Do they even have a jack?" then "What if they have one and won't let me use it?" He makes so many assumptions that when the man living there opens the door, our stranded driver screams, "Keep your fucking jack!" and walks away.

Amber1799 · Answer

Not all attractive girls are judgmental, she was probably being nice. Perhaps she had been hurt by an attractive popular guy and she just thought "Hey, there's a nice genuine guy who I could talk to"

matheus_mb · Answer

You're acting paranoid and you probably lot a good chance of developing something with an attractive woman. At first, believe her, then you see if she's telling the truth or not.

DocilexElle · Answer

Are you weird looking? I had guy in middle school tell me they stared at me because they thought I was weird. Lol. I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm no model. It's the same reason I don't date guys who are really attractive, like Ken Doll hot!!

davidpossey · Answer

i dont fucking know but you have such low self esteem that you think the only reason a hot girl would talk to you is if she had an evil motive

dominiquois · Answer

Wow, way to blow it. She was clearly attracted to you. You're paranoid, seek professional help

lordeisqueen · Answer

Maybe because she actually thought u were attractive and really wanted to get to know you better.

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

Dude, talk about fucking it up!! haha omg!! U DUN GOOFED like times a million!!  holy shit just... holy shit dude what the fuck!!!1

PinceNez · Answer

This is weird - just blew off a hot girl for no reason? You know yourself it's hard to make the first move so just give her credit and believe in yourself, this is a sign the tide has turned!

Anonymous · Answer

Well she already knows she is attractive since she admitted that right away so maybe she was having a kind moment and thought for a change she would approach an average guy and see if you were nicer than the guys that normally approach her and don’t like? I probably would gone along with it to see if I could figure out what she wanted

Billie_ · Answer

Why were you such an asshole? She was clearly attracted to you. You just blew your shot with a decent woman, way to go.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe she was looking for a nice guy and you seemed approachable. How is a girl supposed to win these days? lol

inneedofaname · Answer

Don't listen to those naïve people here, she most likely didn't care about you and either wanted to play you for a fool or just lost a bet and had to approach you.

Anonymous · Answer

When a really Pretty woman comes up to you you should've been more happy she probably liked you if she didn't she probably wouldn't want to talk to you

tyber1 · Answer

Wow are you dumb? You seem pretty dumb. I can't see any other reason you would react that way, so you must be dumb.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe she thought you were attractive... or just wanted to talk to you... Don't read into things so much and don't give too much of yourself away either just go with the flow some girls are told they're good looking but don't take notice or believe it so maybe she just wanted a chat... Don't scare her off :)

gym4ever · Answer

you are retarded, i got approached million times and this what you said make no sense. I bett you dont have balls to tell her that and second if this didn't happend often you wouldn't reject her.

Anonymous · Answer

This whole conversation seems made up. I suggest you try to be more convincing next time.

constantine15 · Answer

Smart man, she probably had some of her friends secretly watching and recording. You dodged a bullet.

Hot girls do not approach average or below average guys for romantic reasons. They use their hotness to get something out of them.

Quelled · Answer

I've had ugly girls treat me like dump, too. Just hear her out next time. Not all girls are the same (I hope).

hotstuffSRD · Answer

Oh god! You acted like a dick tbh She approached you cause you seems interesting so you should hold the convo  Some "good looking" girls maybe bad but not all 💁

Cookie8888 · Answer

Oh piss of, you jerk. Now you know why people don't approach you; you're hostile and mean.

bvvvt · Answer

If she was hot, you wouldn't talk to her? hmm interesting lol

serpentis · Answer

You made yourself sound like an ass.

DizzyAster · Answer

I don't know why she did, but I know why they don't.  You're a idiot.

wethepeople87 · Answer

Cause you just Won the lottery. Jk maybe she likes you.

TheInfamus · Answer

you did the right thing in my opinion

Anonymous · Answer

Are you good at looking at clouds and seeing works of art.

AngryNoctis · Answer

You got some deep seeded issues sir

AmongTheApples · Answer

Damn dude 🙄.

Nachowedgie · Answer

Wallowing in your pity party won't get you laid

Anonymous · Answer

Good job. You rejected that slut.

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

you're a jackass...

Anonymous · Answer

I would have done the same thing

stormbreaker06 · Answer

they don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Low self esteem

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