Some people consider age gaps the norm but I dont. Its a turnoff to me and bothers me that dudes much younger/older often hit on me. Like its sad in my opinion that people consider it normal to date someone old enough to be their parent or young enough to be their kid. To each their own but please just stop coming my way cause I ain't bout it. Yikes... y'all are literally in the same age range as my parents š and ion give af how young you look/act... fall back āļøIts even weirder when they say I look like Im still in HS and then proceed to still approach. And dont even get me started on maturity. I actually dont base that on age by the way... so you youngsters can stop using that as an excuse #FeelFreeToList#AgeAintNothinButANumber#AgeIsMoreThanAMFNumber
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Lmao some of y'all are MAD MAD. Thats why i said a majority younger/older can't accept when i give a respectful ass NO. You wanna challenge it so of course i eventually gotta snap on that ass š¤·āāļø I don't know why this creepy ass vid came to mind https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9TXjIadhq0
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Um i have not gotten rejected for my age for those who can't tell. Skin color yes, age no. Age is something of importance to me so yes i reject if you're older/younger than 2-3 years. Some call it shallow. I call it preference. The point of the post was me asking have you been rejected for your age. I asked because a lot of older/younger girls/guys seem to be surprised that not everyone is cool with a major age gap. They think age is just a number and i dont think that. So i wanted to hear others
Are you shocked when someone much older/younger than you rejects you because of your age?
I stick to a very limited age range. Like I just don't like people and am really just not attracted to people outside of it. Currently I'm comfortable with a range of 1 year younger to two, possibly three years older, but if I'm being honest I tend to stick with guys who are exactly my age. I'm at a point in life where people who are slightly different ages than me are at very different points in life. I'm actually 19, my age on this is wrong. Guys who are three years older than me are about to graduate from college. And I'm still on my first year. I hope to get engaged right around the time I graduate from college in 3 years, get married soon after that, and it just would make sense for us to be at the same point in life, both making the big transition of finishing college and going into real jobs and finding a place of our own. I don't want to feel like we're constantly playing catch-up. But also, I just naturally am more attracted to guys my age, so it works out. I turn down anyone who's too old or young, and don't pursue them if I know they're not the right age for me anyways.
Lmao sounds like me. I prefer same age but will consider up to 3 years. Youāll be lucky if you marry after college. That was my dream since i graduated college at 22. I was posed to be on baby #2 rn as well because i prefer having kids before 30 but That didn't happen. And yea i say 0-3 because iāll be turning 25 this week... age 22 is possibly graduating college and thats good that school won't be in the way. Age 28 is prob far enough to be financially stable so that they dont use time as an excuse. So yes i think those are good ages although i prefer same age
I have never attempted either but I would not be shocked at all. I mean I also wouldnāt be shocked being rejected for any reason Bc I understand everyone has their own preferences and who knows what it is that they donāt like.. I Would just accept it.
I definitely feel peculiar when men or women who are old enough to be my parents flirt with me. Iām not disgusted or anything Iām just very Disoriented bc I expect to be seen as someone close to their childās age. It just throws me off.
Recently I was talking with a father with his kid. I kind of felt like you know A MUCH older kid in relationship to the 2 year old bit still ā a kid ā in relation to a parent. Even if he wasnāt _mine_ he was someoneās Parent. I was getting on very well with the boy and the father was very polite and interesting, so we talked a while..
I was completely 💯 shocked when he ended up apologizing for being too forward but wondering if Iād like to meet up sometime, bc heās very much like to see me again. I did NOT see that coming.
Oh and myself I prefer to date someone around my age 0-3 years up or down. Not bc of any prejudice but bc I want someone close in life experience.. it may matter less when Iām older. It would be too easy to feel like Iām the child in the relationship. And I canāt go lower then three years from my age āitās illegal āŗļø.
I also think itās fine when people end up dating with large age gaps, bc it just happens to be with that way.
What I find really strange, people who reject dating their own age, then blame any rejection from people they do go after, on social stigma. Sometimes itās simply bc they are not interested.
@VIVANT I feel the same way about people who are parents. If I meet a woman who has kids -- even if she's the same age as me -- I feel like she is in a different generation. I always treat people like that like an aunt or big sister.
I'm never shocked or offended when I get rejected because of my age, especially because I've looked in the mirror and realise I look like I'm 14. Lol Most people just want someone around their own age. If my shot doesn't land, I don't throw a tantrum, because I chose to shoot it. I keep telling guys, if you want to date way out of your age group, prepare to get rejected like 1000 times more often than usual. It's trial and error, there's no tricks, no special thing you can do to make others disregard their age preference.
It's a shitty deal most the time for everyone involved. You keep getting people you're not interested in, they keep getting rejected over and over again and the people who are actually into age gaps don't even get to be with someone who's way older/younger because they keep getting rejected and give up after a while. Lol
I am not bothered by an age gap per se, but I really don't expect any woman younger than 45 to have any romantic interest in me. My interest in a younger woman would rarely extend beyond lust and, if that's all you've got, the there is no basis for a relationship.
There are some women in the age range of 45-55 who might have some interest but I never know until they express their interest because I rarely approach a woman under the age of 55.
I agree with you. I especially find it creepy when much older people (or really anyone well into their 20's and up; say my age or older) chase after barely legal teenagers who are still basically mentally (and sometimes physically, as I see a lot of 18-ish teens that still look 15 or younger) children in a lot of ways. I just find that gross.
Anyway, since I would never express interest in someone much older or younger than me, it wouldn't happen. I would not be shocked in the slightest if someone with a huge age difference wasn't interested in me because of that. I'd find it normal, because if I decided to date again, I'd prefer to date no younger than 3 years my junior and probably no older than age 30.
I am married (my wife is 10 years younger than myself) and ladies in their 20's still approach me, although, the frequency is admittedly declining with my receding hairline). I am polite and tell them that I am married, but feel flattered by the attention. I once dated a woman 20 years my senior. The relationship lasted a year and ended because I moved abroad for a while. Long distance never works out. I therefore do not share your sentiments about age gaps however the following is the important part:
If you feel that you are not compatible with someone for any reason, any reason whatsoever including religion, race, age or anything else, then that is a valid reason for you and being upfront about it would stop that person from pursuing you and wasting their time.
Since there is such a tradition of men chasing women 20 years younger than them instead of near their own age, I simply hope I can find someone compatible who I can enjoy myself with. Last guy was five years younger and I expect that might be the trend. Ex spouse was six years younger... first lover was a year younger... So, I seem to attract men a few years younger. Fine with me. I think when you're dipping into a gigantic age difference, it's difficult to relate to each other on topical interests. Also, you're at two completely different ages that carry different baggage. A 44 year old has children still in school. He's not free to gallavant with me... Etc.
Age doesnāt really bother me as long as they are legal lol The thing is we donāt walk around with signs flashing on our heads saying what are age is , if I find a girl attractive and we have a good conversation and then she tells me she is 25 her age isnāt going to be a deciding factor for me to say oh hell no you are not attractive anymore cuz you are a lot younger then me , I would be honest with her and ask her if my age bothers her? I met girls that were 25 that were more mature then girls I met in there 30ās and 40ās , so it mainly comes down to the person , I donāt label age as a deciding factor for whether I like someone or not , chemistry is what matters
Well i do. He can be hot and the moment he tells me his age, iāll go the other way. Iāll still find him physically attractive but won't continue to further pursue him
And thatās fine we all have are own likes and dislikes and choices , I know couples that have 30 year age Gaps and they are happier then ever so again it comes down to what your preferences are, if you like guys with beards or bald heads etc thatās your preference as for me I like a girl with beautiful eyes and and nice boobs lol
@nelly83 No, she is thinking for herself. She simply don't mind me being 14 "older" than here but sure 20 years distance is to much for her. I saw these couples, him ~60, she ~30 years old and I think he wants something to fuck for. If that is okay with her, her choice being with him. Still I see my ex-wife being with a 63 years man together.
@roland77 dude do u know how many problems there are to marry a guy 20 years older? Just take a look st my answer post to this question. There is a reason why most couples are just a few years apart. No offense.
@nelly83 Good rule: Half male's age + 6 years should be an optimal minimum distance. But it is common in your age (including topic starter's) that you want only a few years distance because you have benefits with them, like going to party, being with them in same class and so.
The thing is a lot of girls are gold diggers so if she ends up with a guy twice her age she is more then likely going to marry for his money lol usually the younger girls I meet we just become friends with benefits I dated a 25 year old and I basically left it up to her on whether she wanted a relationship or she just wanted sex , I was just happy I had a beautiful young girl that wanted me , she kept me smiling and we constantly complimented each other and had great sex , My age now I am accepting of younger girls and older girls or around same age , I am not really looking for marriage , I been there and done it , not saying I would never get married again itās just something that isnāt on top of my list , so again age isnāt really a big issue to me , if I meet someone great and I am attracted toward her and she treats me amazingly I am going to treat her the same back , I donāt really look at the future I live for the moment and make the best out of each day cuz we donāt know when r time is up
@roland77 I don't believe that rule is always accurate. 36 would be way too old for me. 36 is when a man is out of his prime. Men peak at 32 then it just goes down from there. I don't date guys older than 32. You also need to realize that if I date a guy at 36. I marry him at his age of 40. I would already have lost physical attraction to him. And I would not be ok being 38 years old and married to a 50 yr old. Such a marriage will not survive either. Women live longer than men. If my husband is 10+ years older than me, this will pretty much mean I will be a widow for the last 29 years of my life. I think you just need to just try to see it in a young woman's perspective.
@roland77 This is just quoted from an answer to another question.
We are looking for a lifetime partner. There is also gonna be a high chance of divorce down the road when she's 39 and you're 50. You are on your sexual decline while she hits her sexual prime in her 40s. You might not be able to satisfy her sexually. She might still be young and full of energy in her 30s while all you want to do is stay home and read the paper. The nanny phase will also hit her much earlier in life. There are many potential consequence of marrying someone way younger than you. Its the same reason why divorce rates are much higher for these types of couples.
Don't forget about the lack of physical attraction too. By the time you hit your late 30s-40s, you will start to noticeably aging. As a young woman, I don't know if I will still remain attracted to my him by then.
A 36 yr old can date a 24 yr old woman with no problem right now. But this might not be the same if you were 50 and she's 38. Its not likely a marriage that would last.
There divorce rates are so high because people tend to pick their partners due to lust, short sightedness, impulsiveness and selfishness. People divorce when they marry for reasons other than compatibility and longevity. This is why I chose to think long term instead of short term. Your relationship might last now, but not necessarily 25 years later.
And thatās the thing I am fine with that , I can only guide someone to love me , I canāt force them , people change all the time , they get bored , they cheat and have affairs , so we can only guide someone to love us , if she chooses to stay by my side until the end then thatās great and amazing her age isnāt going to be my determine factor on whether she is going to do that or not , all that matters is she chooses me like I choose her
That depends on your priorities. You may not want a long term relationship or marriage but doesn't mean that others don't. Most of us young folks to have kids with a spouses in a marriage that lasts forever. It may be different for older folks.
No we all want to be loved and wanted , we want someone to stand by outside until the end , Iām just saying age doesnāt determine that itās the chemistry that determines that , I was married for 14 years to a girl that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with , loved her with all my heart until she decided 1 day that she wanted to screw someone else and destroy our marriage her and I were close in age after my divorce I started dating and I was meeting girls all different ages girls that were 15 years younger then me were treating me better then girls that were my age , so thatās why age isnāt really a big issue to me itās the person and the chemistry you have for each other
Itās been proven that marriages with large age gaps tend to have a much higher chance of divorce. Chemistry does have age, not always but USUALLY. I am 24 and I canāt get along with most 40 year olds in general. Put me on a speed dating scene with a 45 yr old and I guarantee our conversations will go nowhere. We have nothing in common.
Itās quite inconsiderate and selfish , short sighted of how old folks try to encourage young women to date them. The real one losing in this game is the much younger female. But you obviously do not care cus you only care about what you have to gain.
My married parents along with many other married couples also advised me that an overly huge age gap is a bad idea. Meanwhile itās always single old men to say that age doesnāt matter. sounds more like youāre begging people to date you.
@nelly83 I'm 14 years age gap from my current girlfriend and we both are very compatible to each other. And @Finchie40 is very right what he says. 30-40 can be sometimes slow-developed while younger can be sometimes faster developed. It comes down to the 2 personalities who try to form a relationship.
@nelly83 I was with a 6-7 years age gap together but other than that leaded to divorce. For what would she be against me? Wanting lesser sex? That is still very high and I know how to maintain it. Going to parties? She doesn't do that, me neither or to rarely that it will become important to me. No child-wish? I still want 1-2, so does she. Impotency because of aging? Na, I know what I have to do to keep a hard penis.
@roland77 Why don't you quit being immature? Men go on a sexual decline as they get older. So when your wife is in her 40s ( her sexual prime) and you are 55, you're not gonna satisfy her. She will simply cheat on you. And plus, what kinda dumb lady would want to have children with a 46 yr old man. Sperm quality decreases with age too. That baby is gonna come out fucked up. Women live longer than men too. If I married a guy 10+ years older, I will probably spend the last 30 years of my life as a widow.
@nelly83 And besides: My ex is now with a 60+ man together, she would be "immature" a lot, leaving a 42 years for a +60 years old. It is not that thing, it was an other reason why she left me and that is not sex-satisfaction. And good women understand their older males and won't leave him for a younger one. These women are really only after a good fuck and nothing else.
@roland77 What makes you think you're gonna be 42 forever? You're obviously just an immature old man. There is a REASON why overwhelming majority of younger women don't go for guys your age. We are not attracted to you at all. The only young women attracted to you are those with an old man fetish.
@nelly83 She is is not desperate and I know my age increases, like hers at the same time. But this is hopeless, Nelly. Sorry. You seem to talk alongside me and argue with things against me, like being immature and so. But I'm clearly not. 24 years young woman tries to tell me that my 28 years old girl has a a fetish in "old" men.
@roland77 I think your girlfriend is abnormal and has an old man fetish. After she dumps you due to incompatibility, you will have a much harder time finding another one, as the overwhelming majority of us are not attracted to grandpas.
@roland77 The rest of us young women are married with attractive young husbands who can satisfy us sexually. And we won't have to worry about spending the last 30 years of our lives being widows. My children will be healthier too and they will get to see their father for longer. I'm the winner here, not your girlfriend.
@roland77 You can date whoever you want or whoever falls into your trap. But you do not try to force it upon others that age doesn't matter. You know it does.
@roland77 Even if you don't like it, you don't argue with it, as you very well understand reality. You were just forcing a delusion from your imagination upon me.
LOL @nelly83 you crack me up , you have so much to learn when it comes down to relationships , and whatever your parents told you to do when getting into a relationship I guarantee you arenāt going to find someone that meets their expectations most people end up with complete opposite of what their parents want so good luck to you and your preferences of finding love, just cuz you donāt like older men doesnāt mean other girls your age donāt. Again age means nothing period for each their own
I think you need to accept the fact that overwhelming majority of young women are not attracted to guys your age. If age didn't matter, you wouldn't be chasing young women.
I am not chasing young women , I am just saying that age doesnāt really matter , itās the person and chemistry that matters , To be honest with you most girls I meet in their early 40ās are attracted to older men in their 60ās which cracks me up considering you would think they would want a younger guy but again everyone has their own preference , the thing is Nelly when you get to your 40ās you will see that you can go both ways with older and younger , you start to realize that it doesnāt really matter I dated girls that were my age, younger and older , you canāt really define who you are going to fall in love with based off their age is all I am saying , you can make your preferences to yourself saying the only guys you are going to date are guys your age , and thatās fine thatās your preferences , just like I have preferences , The thing is you canāt control the actions of someone other then yourself , you canāt force someone to love you , all you can do is guide them , to say a relationship isnāt going to last cuz of an age gap is your opinion. But itās not truth , most the younger girls I have met that like older guys are girls that were tired of being treated like shit from guys their age , so thatās based off of their experiences, your preferences will be based off your experiences as well
Chasing? Not at all But do I like younger women? Yes but I like same age and older as well cuz again age doesnāt really effect who I like , like I said as long as I am attracted and have chemistry is all that matters
If you complain that you're not attracted to women around your age, don't expect us, young women, to be attracted to you. You have no idea how unattractive you look. Nobody goes for much older men except for women with "old man fetishes". And your romantic relationships with much younger women is not bound to last either. She'll just leave you in a couple of years as you get older.
Here is the thing , life is a journey for all of us , the only way to love is to love yourself first , we can only guide someone to love us we canāt force them. If they choose to walk away , let them go and keep walking your path in life , love can only be guided , if someone chooses to walk by you and love and accept you thatās all that matters , if they choose to walk away you canāt force them to stay , so I choose not to limit who chooses to walk by me an accept me , we can only give love the way we want to be loved but you canāt force someone to give the same love back in return you can only guide them
@Finchie40 Give it up convincing her. She won't listen and come up something else just to make you silent again. She tried it on me, too, as you have seen. She will come up with something "30 years old fuck better" and some later trouble when you turn 50 and your girlfriend is <40 still. It doesn't really matter, better is even a higher (not to high) gap. Because then the male has more life-experience but I guess she doesn't care about that.
Iām surprised youāre still so immature at your age. Throwing a tantrum and arguing just cus you donāt like something. Iām old enough to know what is true and what is not true. I donāt need to listen to your bogus lies about ā life ā. What you need to learn about your life is you will be rotating your young girlfriends every few years of your life. By the time youāre 50, you will run out and die alone, unmarried , no kids. You think you know so much about life?
Again what does age have to do with anything you said? Just cuz you marry someone your age doesnāt mean they are going to stay with you forever , I see same age relationships / marriages end all the time cuz 1 of them cheats or they get bored with each other. So again age doesnāt matter period
I didn't rely to anything you've said because nothing you've ever said was valid. Maybe if you married when you were younger, you wouldn't need to spew delusional things that do not make sense.
Until you have the maturity to accept that just because you don't like something, it doesn't mean its not true. 42 is not the new 32. You need to accept that.
If you are unwilling to accept the most obvious realities of life, then any more of your further ramble is non sense at best. why would I listen to someone in denial with reality? what makes you think what you're saying any further has any validity?
@DizzyDesii I am sorry this topic went for as long as it did and blowing up your inbox , again everyone has their preference and trying to argue their opinion doesnāt go anywhere , all that matters is you choose what you believe and live your life , if you choose to date someone that is lose to your age then that is your preference , it doesnāt matter what anyone else thinks , so again sorry for this to blow up like it did
I think you just have to stop arguing with me on everything I've said and just accept that 42 is not the new 32. If you tried agreeing to anything I've said, we wouldn't have gotten into this whole chain of arguments.
Not at all shocked. That's been my life since I was like 15. Puberty hit me pretty hard. Deeper voice, full beard and was working out. So it made sense older girls took notice. Chicken or the egg I don't know. But I've always been attracted to women older than me and still consider it a compliment if an older woman hits on me, even if I'm not interested.
Find it odd it bothers you that much. If you're not interested that's whatever. You're just not into it. But the repulsion level is strange. I'm straight and I'm not even having that reaction when a gay guy hits on me xD. So to see you reacting like that just because a guy is way older is odd to me.
Answer remains the same. Applies to younger guys as well. It's an off repulsion. If they're underage like 15-16, then I get that because you could get in trouble legally and it's kinda predatory xD. But if they're at least 19. That's an odd reaction.
I'm not sure I got rejected. I don't approach first (if I'm not sure they're single.) My range now is 0 years old younger, and not older than 5 years than me. From my experience, ones who have a big gab are just looking for fun. Most of them don't want a serious relationship. There's a study of damages in prefrontal cortex in elders. Dementia causes loss of self control. That's why they act like a pervert when they should be mature and calm. And for whoever younger than me, I just ignore them. Never think they really want to marry me. I have been a leader since 15, in schools, university and at work. Imagine I'm ordered around the house, doing chores, cooking and cleaning by a younger man, it'd be so uncomfortable. We could just play along if someone wants attention that much, but it doesn't worth it.
That all comes down to personal preference. Age is just a number, it's all about maturity. (keeping in mind legality) Am I shocked if the age gap is big and they say no? Not even remotely. It's far less common than you're making out about the huge age gaps dating. Sure there's flirting and wanting to date, but the percentage of that happening is low. I do respect your opinion on the matter. If I tried and you turned me down on age, I'd leave it be and move on. (besides, I prefer someone closer to my own age. I just don't close my eyes to options outside of that because I never know who's going to be my best match.)
I was "pretty" from 18-20. My sexuality was never ambiguous, but my "look" was; a little like him, but with longer hair.
To be direct, it was a girl magnet, along with my ride at the time.
I worked as a waiter in the summer at an ocean front resort town. The occasional bottom pinches and pats came from women nearly twice my age. And no, I didn't get offended and call the police. Mostly I just just laughed them off, but not every one... Then it happened. I started getting pinched by patrons with testicles. That's when I cut my hair and changed my "look". The price was that I wasn't as appealing to the younger ones, either. And nope, the years since have not been kind to me.
I wouldn't be shocked since people have preferences and often people will go after others in their age range. Even though I think people make exceptions if said young or older person is just simply a hot piece of ass, as long as it's not extreme like you said. I understand you feeling weird if guys your dad's age hit on you or women get hit on by boys that could be their sons age. Since we're on this topic and I asked an age related question too, check my question if you can, ma'dam. Does a person have a general physical appeal if people 10+ years younger and older check them out or flirt with them?
Men will be Men they will not think about the Odds we just go anyways what's harm in trying but it's for fling not a serious relationship. If the people really connect then plan out something. Their are hardly any same age couples one or the other will be younger. But nice collection of pics. 😂 I am usually Brother Zoned so I stopped trying long back even I used think it's weird with young or elder people even if 2 years while graduation I developed a thing of Seniors though but never approached them.
Well age Gap exists and even those who claim they don't mind actually do mind when push comes to shove. Me I try my best not to use years to count people's age as maturity can be found in a younger person and be lacking in someone who's old. But a certain gap is pretty impossible to cross
Google āwomen peak at 18 and men peak at 50ā New York Times among other article, about that article, and articles about women being pissed about that article. Point being, and im going to say this and get some hate, the older women get, the less freakin fun they are, less Fertile they are, and less sex they want until they hit about menopause. now google āmen dont hit on me anymoreā. Several articles referring to older women miss getting hit on. Its a self fulling prophecy. Get bitter, men go where women are less bitter, stop wanting sex, they go where their is sex. Guess what, we die sooner than women, aināt nobody got time for that. now google āyounger women dating older guys, young guys immatureā. Men read the news too. If the liberal media is reporting that, why wouldnāt is men take that as dating advice? for some reason gag not allowing me to post links. Noodle around on google and you will find all that info.
Who the hell finds an old man attractive? white hair, wrinkles, pot belly. That study is just a bunch of bogus lies to make old grandpas feel better about themselves.
Nothing is up. Im saying dont speak in general. If women dont want men saying: woman ______. Then we want the same. Youāre a woman, so must be weak. Im not sure thats true so wouldnāt say it. Get my point?
No, I believe that there's an limite to age gap although it depends on the age. If you're 18, then someone with >22 is out of your gap. If you're 28 the gap increases up to 35. If you're 38 the gap goes up to 48.
But that's just how I personaly feel. And I suppose there are always exceptions
No thats a good way to put it. I feel those under 18 should date under 18. Those 18 shouldn't date over 21 year olds. Those 21 shouldn't date over 30 year olds but people do whatever. So i just worry about me and i prefer 0-3 years gap
I usually don't mind age gaps but sometimes especially older guys that approach are fucking creepy. There was this one dude at a bar once who I explicitly told that he's to old for my liking and he went 'i don't care, I still want to talk to you rather than you going back to your friends'.
So yeah, the worst thing for me isn't the age gap per se but the lack of respect old dudes often have.
22 is is 20 years distance to me and I do respect that. Please don't generalize only because you met a few of us. :-) BTW: My girlfriend has a gap of 14 years and I'm fine and she, too, with it.
I don't generalize at all. It's just my expierence that getting approached by 20+years older guys is in most cases extremely creepy. I think it might be simply the type of men who think they can pick up someone who could be their daughter at a bar or in a club who are super disrespectful.
Iām not shocked. I sometimes dislike it because they tend to be 40+, and right now Iām just dating up to 30 MAX.
Age isnāt that much of a deal to me, but I couldnāt date someone if the age difference was a lot more than 10 years. I think it has to do with how I envision my future, an older guy just fits better into that vision.
Doesn't happen to me cause I date within my age range.
A guy in his late 30's tried to date me last October. He saw me in the café, followed me for like 2 mins and kept yelling "Hey miss". He then said he found me cute and asked for my number. Told him that I was only 18 and he was like "Yeah I guessed that. That's not a problem right?"🙃🙃🙃
It does bother me too. In others even, but I've never said anything or brought it up. I huess if they are happy. I don't know its weird. But a lot of things about human..."relationships" is weird. I wouldn't date anyone +/- 7 (MAYBE 8) years of my age. I'm 32.
I tend to only be into guys at least 10 years older than me. I don't know why, I think I'm just attracted to maturity. I've never been rejected because I've been dating the same person all my adult life so I've never hit on anybody really. I wouldn't be surprised though, not everybody will feel comfortable or want to deal with the backlash. It would look bad if a 50 year old was dating a 20 year old. No parent wants to see their child with someone so much older
It used to bother me, and I have been rejected by some older women before because they didn't like the idea of a younger guy, but as I've had more experience with women over the years I still know there are enough cougars out there who would date someone my age.
Many young girls approachs me and it's scary. I don't know if it's a trap or if they are for real. Last year a 21 yo girl was flirting with me and she was RAW even though i showed her my wed ring and she kept going. I told her that she is 13 years younger than me and she responded with: yea, i love older men. She had a rule, The guy must be at least 10 years older 🤢. Now i just ignore all girls who hits on me.
I've only had it happen to me once. I didn't get rejected per se, but a 21-something year old referred to me as an "old man she wouldn't date" a while ago.
It's my first! I'm the kind of person who still gets ID checked when buying alcohol (most recently last week), so I welcomed being considered an "old man" in some capacity for the first time.
No. Surprised. But not shocked. As a young shop boy I had several older women take an interest in me, and in no way objected. I will say that the size of an acceptable gap grows with age. A 30 year old chasing a 20 year old seems a bit dubious. A 60 year old dating a 50 year old, less so. However, when I get approached by a much younger woman, I mainly assume she is a gold digger.
Hardly changes for me. Since i started dating at at 15, I've always only wanted to date someone 0-2 years older. It took me to turn like 22 to even go up 1 year extra
I don't know. No I wouldn't be I guess? I don't go after women who are much older or younger than me. A bit younger sure, but no kids please ewww. I've rejected girls/women for being too young/old. More often too old, since I don't hang out in places with little girls hahaha
@roland77 Well, my perfect age range is difficult to say. I'm 36, and I'd say my perfect age range is maybe 26-30, but perfect is often not realistic, and it's important to be open to expanding as the case may be. I would probably date someone as old or even a few years older than me. I would also probably date someone in her early 20s. I might even date a 19 or 18 (hey, they're adults) but probably not because we're at such a different point in life and maturity level. And definitely not if they looked young because ewwww
Another factor that affects my age range is that at my age, most of the good ones are taken. The ones who aren't, were, and now have kids. So, I need to be open to dating younger women. (I usually date women my own age within a small number of years).
@roland77 I have no interest in dating someone with kids again for the following reasons (that I previously posted on a different question)
I definitely want kids one day, but I won't date a woman who already has kids. I tried that once, and it was magical and awesome, and we all fell in love and had a happy family. Over that almost-year relationship the boy was from 0 to 1, and the girl from 2 to 3. Man, I loved those kids and they loved me. I was an excellent father and I know they're better for having had me in their lives. I found out that I will be an excellent father.
Hah. When I first went to meet them I was so nervous.. "if her kids don't like me I'm so done!" and I made an extra effort to be lovable and oh man did they ever love me, and I them.
So what's the problem? - They're not my kids. - They're gone as quick as a breakup. - I'll never see them again. - No matter how much of the better father I was, I still have no claim to them. - Life revolved around raising the kids and that got in the way of developing a relationship (though we had a good relationship, but it would have been better if we could focus on us instead of them). - I'll never be the most important person in her world. The kids will always come first, as would be expected of a good mother (which she was). - I inherit the ex, and god knows how he treats my kids.. not my kids.. and the drama he was.
@roland77 In the teenage years, it was half your age plus 7. In adulthood, we're all consenting adults. In theory. I wouldn't want to date a woman who looks or acts really young, regardless of age
I was 23 when I had a man in his 40s with white hair and wrinkles hand over his number to me. Its even worse than when an ugly young guy approaches you. I'm like Why would you even think that I would be attracted to or see a future with someone like you?
Media likes to overblow it about how women like older guys so they assume that young women like old uncles too.
Whether they are older, younger, too ugly, or otherwise don't appeal to you, how you react should be about the same. If he is not a pest, you should let the guy down as easy as you can with whatever reason or white lie you can think of that makes sense.
My experience is it never happens to me more than twice, and then they give up. Maybe I'm more tolerant or maybe some men are more persistent and, if so, perhaps being rude is what it takes.
It might be helpful if you wear a sign or name tag that tells people how you feel, then these older or younger people will stop flirting with you. Bit until then, you can't expect them to know your feelings since they can't read your mind and they don't know you.
Well yes, and no, maybe more no than yes, maybe not. I respect that some in search of partner have certain criteria for who they want and that is fine. Also, i don't think that people really understand until they put a few years down that it is not the number but the person themselves who are sting young acting carefree and enjoying every bit of life they can and look much younger and healthy for doing so
Yes, as expect for most of us, don't you think that if age was not apparent at sight, for instance it doesn't look like dating dad, this would be a consideration?
I feel older u know, all my batch is getting married but Im still standing for a good future to me and being coach for relationships goal to someone 😂... Super funny I think, but I like the way I'm now, and I'm not shocked if someone rejects due to ages. It's normal, I don't feel offended, just accept it, each person have their own perception.
Some younger girls reject me for being much older but many dont. Usually immature ones do but thats ok because im not really into immature young girls... thats just too much to handle. I prefer the most mature for their age younger ones. Ie. If a girls like ewww you have a career vs wow you could support a family if we got serious.
Lol that has nothing to do with age. That has to do with the vast majority of girls say no but mean yes. Ie if we keep asking eventually they say yes and become our girlfriends. For example my first girlfriend i had to ask her like 50 times to be my girlfriend! And then we were in a relationship for 9 years. So good thing i didn't accept her no as a no. So girls like that are teaching men not to accept no as an answer.
No those men are prob the same ones whoāll rape you because they assumed No meant yes. Some people should learn to accept no. If we say no, move on and if we want you later on, feel free to reject us back
Ok sounds great in theory. People do what works, not what sounds nice. Not accepting no works. So maybe if you get girls to say what they mean and mean what they say it will change more than trying to convince men to do things they know are opposite to successful dating strategy. Just an idea.
im not shocked but im also not looking so when im nice or respectful i always get the i have a boy friend line lol. not sure what that has to do with me just being a nice guy but some women are just overly paranoid. lol.
No it is normal for human to look for people that have a similar age it is just biology but than i myself want to grew old with my Partner and dont want to leave her alone or have an other lose like this
I've never really asked any one MUCH older. My attempted dating range usually encompassed my age plus 7 years until at present, I have changed it from plus or minus 10 years. Although, let's be real. I've given up several years ago and haven't bothered to do anything at all in that world.
Well men like to hunt. That urge does not go away. I was seriously thinking about leaving the technology consulting business to go into matchmaking. One of the things that discouraged me, was the expectation that American men have for meeting women. I kept meeting guys who thought they could be 50 years old and date a 19 year old. It was so discouraging! And the thing is, these guys were getting scammed by online scammers. One would have thought I could make a good buck by introducing them to women who were actually interested in them.
Nope!
I literally had one guy lecture me that there has to be a service out there where he could shop via catalog for a wife.
shocked? no but i may be upset if i dont think it makes any difference and the other person is only acting upon percieved social norms rather than her own actual feelings about me
āļø🤔 No I wouldn't be shocked... I can Understand their opinion... but I think they don't look past the details... they are not considering the importance of any spiritual or emotional connection that could join two humans.. regardless of any details..
The only time I really like an older guy was when I was 15 and he was 48. He said I was attractive and I was too you g 😂. Which I was. It didnāt bother me.
Damn only time iāll be into someone with an age gap like that is if its brad pitt or something š even then, iād be flattered and ask for his autograph but i wouldn't get intimate with him
I won't lie, i been there. I was in love with ONE 31 year old when i was 22. But he didn't want commitment, kids, etc. Yet he only wanted us to be with eachother and dream about havingn kids. Lmao he was a walking contradiction
Yes happened to me when I was underage I use date guys around 18-19. And at age 17 got rejected dated an 23 year old And they donāt want to date an young girl again.
Coincidently your age on this is 104 then Only God level people can hit on youšš PS:The above sentence should be taken in fun way not in offensive way..
The other thing is, no one seems to know how to have fun any more, and takes themselves too seriously. age gaps are a way to inject a bit of fun and playfulness in relationships
Different people can give you a different perspective on life, which one could argue is a big function of relationships. It's a shame that people have such small minded views.
But sure, I'll just date everyone within a 3 year limit of my age. Small minded bollocks.
I am not shocked but rather surprised. There are some stunningly beautiful women in their 30s who have rejected me because I am too young. I would think they would like to get with a younger man like me, especially in bed
They don't want a fuck-buddy then. They have more than just their pussy/anus/mouth to slam your penis in. Don't think that all women must want younger males. It is otherwise the regularity that younger women are with older men because the male is more ripe (not in penis but in experiences and emotions).
No, it is obvious for me because of to large (1/2 of my age, e. g.) age gap or when the woman is older than me, I understand it and don't want them, too.
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