What women want and what women like changes every five minutes, every day, all day long, for the first 35 to 40 years of their life.
Then, like a slot machine, the spinning wheels of chance stop, and whatever they stop on is the thing she really always wanted, and if she has that thing when the wheels stop spinning, she wins the game.
You can't use strategy or try to make predictions with women. It's randomly randomized randomness. There's no logic or rules that can give you an understanding or even a suggestion of what you should do.
I think you're putting yourself at some disadvantage if you don't at least go for a brief conversation first since I could imagine scenarios where some girls where you might have been successful getting a date if you made a smoother transition to inviting her out (ex: following a conversation about nice places to go, then invite her, and she might entertain it given the pleasantness of the convo). If you go super direct, you might still succeed with some but I suspect you would have succeeded with those regardless.
At first i was thinking straight to the point. But like realistically id be kind of creeped out if a random guy came up to me out of nowhere. Id like to just have a small convo then straight to the point bc that shows confidence and that your friendly
I know a guy who got right to the point and he got rejected by 300 ladies while being extremely good looking
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It really depends how you bring it and how open she is.
Don't bring it as just 'hey can I get your number?' because I would react with a 'uhm why wtf no'. Also don't say things like 'you seem like a very interesting person', because you know nothing about her and sounds like bluffing.
Say something like 'I saw you walking and I thought you looked dashing and I really would like to get to know you better over a cup of coffee. Do you have some spare time?'
Ofcourse it's always better to talk about something in common first and start a conversation, because you have more reason to approach her. Most women (at least I don't) don't like to be judged only for our appearance so just asking someone out because of a simplistic image in your head is not attractive. It comes off as shallow. So the more reason you have to ask someone out, the better.
I would at least say hi, and lead in with something that feels natural. Don't waste time trying to feel her out for hours. If she stops what she is doing to talk to you, smiles or at least gives you her attention, ask her out soon. No woman appreciates a guy that beats around the bush waiting for her to ask him to ask her out.
I voted straight to the point, but I do enjoy conversation first. It depends. If it's obvious he wants to ask me out and that's what's on his mind, I'd rather he just asked and not pretend he wants to talk about something else. But if the conversation just happens and he decides during it to ask me out, it means the conversation went well and it was enjoyable so that's fun too
You need to be smart about it. Keep it subtle until you find the right moment to ask her out. Genuinely express your interest toward her through conversations, and give her time to get used to it.
Being too direct might scare a girl off before she even considers your offer
I like it when men get straight to the point, as long as they aren't creeps (eg. - a guy came to me once in a secluded bookstore and asked me if he can take a look under my skirt 🤣)
I kinda like that actually. Guys where I live are pretty passive and forever afraid of rejection so they date in a very "safe" manner. Kinda boring. I like guys who just go for what they want, even if they might be rejected.
I was thinking like straight to it butttt I'd still like at least a convo starter effort (small) doesn't have to be a full on convo but then just briefly mention the hangout much better then someone just randomly inviting u out & not knowing ANYTHING about them or them (till a couple sec. Ago)
When I imagine a good but impossible scenario where a guy who is exactly my type walks up to me and asks me out, I'd definitely say yes though I'd be nervous more than he probably. Maybe some chit chat is the best before he asks out of nowhere.
I personally think looks matter a lot in this case.
Hi. My name is ———and I hope I’m not bothering you, but it was wondering if I could take you out to dinner tomorrow?
So simple. Striking up a conversation just gives you more time to nervous and chicken out. I don’t mind it but I’ve likely made up my mind on whether or not I’ll give a man a chance by the time he asks.
there's nothing wrong with that as long as it fits into the flow of the conversation. if you are talking to her and things go south then dont ask for coffee. if y'all hit it off then go for it.
I would rather get to know a guy first and just be friends then have his intentions thrown right at me from the get go that is unless I rlly like the guy and I want him to get straight to the point Bc if that
I think "straight to the point" implies sex and/or inexperience. Innocent flirting, that slowly leads somewhere, before going for it is more romantic and exciting. Plus, you get more of a feel of that person's character and personality before hand.
Too much , too soon. You have to ease your way into asking her out. Maybe make it as habit of having small talk with her for a few weeks then eventually ask her out. I am personally not fond of men who “get straight to the point”, because I am under the impression that they are very egotistical and that they do this with any woman they find attractive.
Here's what I'm thinking. If she agrees to a date we can have as many conversations as we want.
If she has a boyfriend or has no desire to give me her number. Then to me starting a conversation is just like playing games. It's a waste of time.
I personally am a very straight forward guy. To me I just think that it's good to be honest and get straight to the point. Save us both some time if there's nothing there.
I perfer straight to the point that way we dont waste each other time.
I don’t like beating around the bush so yea just ask right out
I feel like we would need to have a little convo at first so I could get an idea of that person is like and he could get an idea of what I’m like; and if there’s chemistry, then I would take the offer. If I get any weird vibes from that person then no I wouldn’t go out with them... and some girls may be a little shy/nervous/intimated at first so not all girls will accept.
I think it depends on the person rather than the gender of the person, I've been straight to the point on many first impressions and over 70% of the time of day it ended up with good results, I've ended up either dating these women or gone on to something more! But I got mates who are guys who will wait what seems like forever to me to even build up the courage to ask a girl out even after knowing them for so long, whichever way works for you is the best!
Yeah. Even if i'm not interested or whatever I respect people who doesn't dance around something and just says what they want from the start. That way neither of us has to waste any time.
Well, it depends if I know them or I don’t. Cuz it’d be wacky if a classmate I don’t even talk to tells me he likes me. But! At least get to know em, then get straight to the point. Good luck dude! 🥳👍🏻👍🏻
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