Do girls like guys who get straight to the point?

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Is it fine walking up to a girl on campus and getting straight to the point and ask, if they would like to have coffee or lunch sometime? Just curious, if girls like guys who get straight to the point. I’m a college student and I though I’d ask this question to get some opinions.

Bananaman177 · Accepted Answer

What women want and what women like changes every five minutes, every day, all day long, for the first 35 to 40 years of their life.

Then, like a slot machine, the spinning wheels of chance stop, and whatever they stop on is the thing she really always wanted, and if she has that thing when the wheels stop spinning, she wins the game.

You can't use strategy or try to make predictions with women. It's randomly randomized randomness. There's no logic or rules that can give you an understanding or even a suggestion of what you should do.

Obtuse · Accepted Answer

I think you're putting yourself at some disadvantage if you don't at least go for a brief conversation first since I could imagine scenarios where some girls where you might have been successful getting a date if you made a smoother transition to inviting her out (ex: following a conversation about nice places to go, then invite her, and she might entertain it given the pleasantness of the convo). If you go super direct, you might still succeed with some but I suspect you would have succeeded with those regardless.

vanessa312 · Accepted Answer

At first i was thinking straight to the point. But like realistically id be kind of creeped out if a random guy came up to me out of nowhere. Id like to just have a small convo then straight to the point bc that shows confidence and that your friendly

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I know a guy who got right to the point and he got rejected by 300 ladies while being extremely good looking

spuitkaas · Answer

It really depends how you bring it and how open she is.
Don't bring it as just 'hey can I get your number?' because I would react with a 'uhm why wtf no'. Also don't say things like 'you seem like a very interesting person', because you know nothing about her and sounds like bluffing.
Say something like 'I saw you walking and I thought you looked dashing and I really would like to get to know you better over a cup of coffee. Do you have some spare time?'
Ofcourse it's always better to talk about something in common first and start a conversation, because you have more reason to approach her. Most women (at least I don't) don't like to be judged only for our appearance so just asking someone out because of a simplistic image in your head is not attractive. It comes off as shallow. So the more reason you have to ask someone out, the better.

Almostoverit · Answer

I would at least say hi, and lead in with something that feels natural. Don't waste time trying to feel her out for hours. If she stops what she is doing to talk to you, smiles or at least gives you her attention, ask her out soon. No woman appreciates a guy that beats around the bush waiting for her to ask him to ask her out.

Porcelaine · Answer

I voted straight to the point, but I do enjoy conversation first. It depends. If it's obvious he wants to ask me out and that's what's on his mind, I'd rather he just asked and not pretend he wants to talk about something else. But if the conversation just happens and he decides during it to ask me out, it means the conversation went well and it was enjoyable so that's fun too

elspade · Answer

You need to be smart about it. Keep it subtle until you find the right moment to ask her out. Genuinely express your interest toward her through conversations, and give her time to get used to it.

Being too direct might scare a girl off before she even considers your offer

peachyknees · Answer

I like it when men get straight to the point, as long as they aren't creeps (eg. - a guy came to me once in a secluded bookstore and asked me if he can take a look under my skirt 🤣)

mistiblue · Answer

I kinda like that actually. Guys where I live are pretty passive and forever afraid of rejection so they date in a very "safe" manner. Kinda boring. I like guys who just go for what they want, even if they might be rejected.

Daisy007 · Answer

I was thinking like straight to it butttt I'd still like at least a convo starter effort (small) doesn't have to be a full on convo but then just briefly mention the hangout much better then someone just randomly inviting u out & not knowing ANYTHING about them or them (till a couple sec. Ago)

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

When I imagine a good but impossible scenario where a guy who is exactly my type walks up to me and asks me out, I'd definitely say yes though I'd be nervous more than he probably. Maybe some chit chat is the best before he asks out of nowhere.

I personally think looks matter a lot in this case.

Anoniemus · Answer

Hi. My name is ———and I hope I’m not bothering you, but it was wondering if I could take you out to dinner tomorrow?

So simple. Striking up a conversation just gives you more time to nervous and chicken out. I don’t mind it but I’ve likely made up my mind on whether or not I’ll give a man a chance by the time he asks.

creampie99 · Answer

there's nothing wrong with that as long as it fits into the flow of the conversation. if you are talking to her and things go south then dont ask for coffee. if y'all hit it off then go for it.

Kkhermosa01 · Answer

I would rather get to know a guy first and just be friends then have his intentions thrown right at me from the get go that is unless I rlly like the guy and I want him to get straight to the point Bc if that

KrisKris81 · Answer

I think "straight to the point" implies sex and/or inexperience. Innocent flirting, that slowly leads somewhere, before going for it is more romantic and exciting. Plus, you get more of a feel of that person's character and personality before hand.

Anonymous · Answer

Too much , too soon. You have to ease your way into asking her out. Maybe make it as habit of having small talk with her for a few weeks then eventually ask her out. I am personally not fond of men who “get straight to the point”, because I am under the impression that they are very egotistical and that they do this with any woman they find attractive.

hellacray · Answer

Here's what I'm thinking. If she agrees to a date we can have as many conversations as we want.

If she has a boyfriend or has no desire to give me her number. Then to me starting a conversation is just like playing games. It's a waste of time.

I personally am a very straight forward guy. To me I just think that it's good to be honest and get straight to the point. Save us both some time if there's nothing there.

GraveDoll · Answer

I perfer straight to the point that way we dont waste each other time.

angryllama · Answer

I don’t like beating around the bush so yea just ask right out

OhThatsMorgan · Answer

I feel like we would need to have a little convo at first so I could get an idea of that person is like and he could get an idea of what I’m like; and if there’s chemistry, then I would take the offer. If I get any weird vibes from that person then no I wouldn’t go out with them... and some girls may be a little shy/nervous/intimated at first so not all girls will accept.

sweet87 · Answer

I think it depends on the person rather than the gender of the person, I've been straight to the point on many first impressions and over 70% of the time of day it ended up with good results, I've ended up either dating these women or gone on to something more! But I got mates who are guys who will wait what seems like forever to me to even build up the courage to ask a girl out even after knowing them for so long, whichever way works for you is the best!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. Even if i'm not interested or whatever I respect people who doesn't dance around something and just says what they want from the start. That way neither of us has to waste any time.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, it depends if I know them or I don’t. Cuz it’d be wacky if a classmate I don’t even talk to tells me he likes me. But! At least get to know em, then get straight to the point. Good luck dude! 🥳👍🏻👍🏻

Truthatanycost · Answer

Pro tip. Take what the majority of pinks say... and do the complete opposite. And by the way, none of those girls have a reason to want to spend any time with you, unless they are already attracted, or you've built it in some way.

notatrap · Answer

Usually showing some personality first helps. Tripping, tell a joke, follow conversation, scream your head off, punch the wall, punch the floor, play air guitar! Do ANYTHING out of the norm and make it a joke. That is theater and people eat it up.

Avicenna · Answer

Of course not. Talk to them and get to know them first.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I personally like a guy who is straight up with me.

Tentia · Answer

We would need more information about her, but from what you've said, I would find a way to get in her circles, then, once she knows you exist, I would go for it!

lifelearner011 · Answer

I'd be flattered, yet being an introvert I'f prefer is he first tried to be "familiar" to me. By that I mean that previously either at a class or a club or somewhere we have made ye contact or he said hello, etc.

Primrose21 · Answer

Depends on the girl. But for me, I would say no. Lol. Coz first I don't go out with people I don't know. Second, even if I know u, asking it directly would be too overwhelming.

Anonymous · Answer

Straight to the point only worked the times I use to flash my dick on cam. Not always but it worked.

Offline is obviously far different. Even if you are only looking for a fling there is a series of steps you need to take. It will depend on your social skills.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Yes, they do... as long as the guy in question is attractive. If not, they feel weirded out and like he's a creep.

Bear in mind-- exact same behavior from the guy, yet two different reactions from the female.

Prof_Don · Answer

Make a quick convo first, then mention going out sometime, then get her contact info. When you have free time in your schedule , contact her and make plans to go out. 👌🏾

lightbulb27 · Answer

Sometimes they do. Its a lot more about what you say and how it is said, even before you speak a word.

Lman3000 · Answer

Tried both ways and they all end the same way. REJECTION, and nothing more I could offer a blood sacrifice to Satan or pray to whatever god exists out there and I couldn't get a woman to take interest in me not even to save my life

Geenarh · Answer

In short. The earlier the relationship is defined, the better, no rush though.

Anonymous · Answer

I lose interest in guys who don't get straight to the point so please, tell me what you are thinking and do it fast.

kangy · Answer

Getting straight to the point is good, helps to stop others from overthinking which may result in misunderstandings.  Just do it !

foxrider77 · Answer

If by straight you mean “strap on” and point, you mean by bum then yes I like it.

Sensmind · Answer

I would guess that girls would prefer you try to get to know them a bit before asking them out.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it depends on the girl.

The average one with self-respect/standards would prefer to get to know you - so that means something of a conversation - before getting straight to the point. The average one with low self-respect/standards would be more for straight to the point. It's that simple & why one girl has standards & the other'll screw anyone good looking.

blondfrog · Answer

Be more specific in your questions. Girls would only prefer guys to get to the point if she knows him. Cold approaches rarely work if you two don't know each other.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

To hell with what they think, if they even know what they think. You don't have time to beat around the bush with every girl on campus. Be precise and save time.

Massageman · Answer

I would hope that it would work in both directions, that both guys and gals would like  anyone  who gets right to the point!

blackxbarbiex01 · Answer

Only if it’s not about sex bc if it is I would definitely reject him

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

I always get straight to the point no matter what they think.

Missy_ · Answer

Sometimes, when you start a conversation first it feels like you're not serious or you just want to flirt. But when you ask out for a date and then starting getting to know each other it feels more real.

gagsucs · Answer

probably not, ask a girl for sex ever and the answer will always be no

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

BISHES love... Playing games... Never get to the point... In a timely fashion, you will be... FRIENDZONED

andrermm · Answer

Not your first words to her though. That's random af XD. Tell them you find them cute or attractive or whatever first

nicastrokristen · Answer

In my opinion, tbh, i think it goes both ways tho. They should start a conversation first but sometimes it is better to get straight to the point but I think it just depends on the person

curiousfemale77 · Answer

Because i think females like the start of conversation first yoy know kinda get a feel of the guy.

relani · Answer

It's kinda weird if someone just compliment me and then ask me out cause you know, i dont know him or his personality so clearly. I would reject. So nope.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Have a quick conversation and if she seems cool or potentially interested ask her out.

Jwags · Answer

I can't speak to how girls feel about it but I applaud your confidence to try. Remember, 100 % of thr shots not taken dont go in!

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

A little conversation first. Just make sure the conversation lets her know, beyond any doubt, that your intention is to get her in the sack.

CT_CD · Answer

If you're attractive just walk up to them and be like "waddup girl, wanna f*ck?"

spartan55 · Answer

It's what they expect from us dude.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

Yes, i like to know what someone is getting at.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, I hate playing games. I would only consider a man who get straight to the point.

Blublub · Answer

I would rather him start a conversation

Amel2333 · Answer

Yes. n

Maya2312 · Answer

YESSS

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