How often do/are you willing to compliment your current/future crush/significant other?

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It’s just not my style. I won't go into details about all the reasons why me and this last douche didn't work out, but one of the reasons was how much he fished for compliments. We talked for a month but It was so annoying. Like first impression was amazing and we liked eachothers looks/personality. But later on he kept blowing up my phone with all his insta pics (because i dont have insta). Like he needed me to compliment every selfie he posted. I don't know if it was cause he was a cancer zodiac lol but He needed constant validation about his hotness. Yea Im not gonna be a parrot repeating what i already told you once before and what you obviously already know looks good. This mf went so far as to start talking to other people to receive more compliments. So far as to use that app filter that turns him into a girl just so he could troll guys and get compliments. Like wtf. He claims he's not gay/bi but thats some crazy caitlyn jenner shit right there. That was enough to make me dip and dodge his ass. by the way, I see nothing wrong with randomly complimenting someone once or twice a week, but if you make me do it more than that, then im not being genuine. I also dont like to be complimented constantly, especially with big words like “beautiful”/“gorgeous”. I may believe it the first time but afterwards, it feels like bullshit. Call it insecurities if you want but i know when somethings no longer genuine
#FeelFreeToList #FishinForCompliments

TonyV · Accepted Answer

I really dont know about this. Compliments should probably turn into saying like "I miss you" or "i wish you were here" already after you've meey once imho.
As for the big words you think are fake I don't know how to feel about that either, I dont think girls like hot, cute or sexy. Beutiful and gorgeous are also pretty over used. They guys are trying to be original and interesting with big vocabulary but they just dont have that big a vocab.
by the way my go to for trying to say a girl is over all beutiful is to call her stunning. Otherwise I try to complement a key feature lokes pretty eyes, hair, freckles you know cause its more personalized and never makes. it sound like I'm only interested in breasts, waist or butt size.

Nawlins34 · Accepted Answer

As a Cancer male, I have to chime in here.

Until they develop self-confidence, male cancers will do this. You just ran into a insecure one. But everything he's doesn't necessarily have anything to do with Cancers.

I do agree with you as I won't give a compliment if I know the person is fishing for it. They mean the most when they are genuine.

You made the right move, let someone else butter him up.

Answering your question, I compliment her when it's warranted. I appreciate that she doesn't always need them and she appreciates that I know her well enough to notice this.

Good luck and be safe.

MrsJaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

sorry to hear about that it feels weird that a guy ask for so much compliments
my husband do compliments me now and then or he does something for me as a compliment and i sound kinda of repeating my self all the time when i compliment him but i mean it and he takes it well but we dont ask each other or anyone else for compliments it feels wrong
hope everything is fine with you dear

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I do it if it benefits the person and the relationship but if it does not benefit I withhold - I used to praise my friend for her maturity and intelligence but she started mocking me for being immature and unintelligent so I stopped praising her and cut off contact with her

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have no problem with giving a girl compliments and even extra compliments if I sense that she is insecure about herself in some way. However, I really dislike people who fish for compliments and I resist their efforts to get their ego stroked.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Must be a male cancer thing lolol I mean I'm a cancer but I don't do that, I kinda get uncomfortable from too many compliments, but this dude seemed to alteady have too much ego, I didn't wanna make it bigger. And when I did compliment, he got too cocky about it (and with the wrong head 😂) But the right person, I have no problem giving them a well deserved compliment

Apple1996 · Answer

I compliment my hubby almost everyday! It doesn't bother me at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I compliment a significant other whenever a situation comes up that I feel warrants giving a compliment. Usually this happens when my significant other does something significant (no pun intended), thoughtful, or required a great deal of effort on their part; or when they look especially good to me.

Everyone is different, and has different needs—including different needs for “words of affirmation.” But that ex of yours sounds very insecure and unhealthy—needing a constant supply of compliments to feel good about himself, and going even further by “fishing” for compliments.

Jjpayne · Answer

From the dating I've had in the past I would speak highly and help and support any of those girls. To be fair we all left on good terms but I think even with a really bad girl it would be possible to take at least one or two positive things from them.

RJJ33666 · Answer

I have no problems complimenting my crush or significant other. But I don't want to keep on complimenting her just for the sake of. That would just make me a dishonest guy. Plus I really don't like people who keep on craving for compliments, at a certain point they get really irritating. I will compliment her if I see it's necessary and truthful, but other than that I won't compliment on anything.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

i'd hold her hand and tell her how beautiful she is and proceed to kiss her in places and then ravage her, not my fault if her hair gets messed up i tend to grab hair and put my nose in and rub against her like I've gone crazy in love xD i dont know a single girl that would hate this yet.. [stares at the asker]

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I have trouble holding back compliments--- especially when he looks really cute or smells amazing. I give compliments to him with physical touch.
When it's a compliment about his intellect or accomplishments, they come when something naturally happens. I don't necessarily plan them or anything.
It's nice to know the guy's love language. Some guys don't want or need as many compliments as others do. Feedback is good.

Shiver · Answer

I suck at compliments, both giving and receiving. Whenever I compliment someone there's actually a good reason for it. May not be the most sincere sounding compliments tho. But then again, very few things that I say sound sincere to begin with. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Phoenix98 · Answer

i Have no issues with giving compliments in regards to a partner or someone I’m working with getting into a relationship/dating with.

If if I think she looks this or that then yeah I’ll give em and I’ll do it regularly or when I feel a situation warrants it. But I ain’t gonna do it just to do it.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Always! Anytime! Everyday! No mention before needed, I've heard Im always a sweetheart to the ladies.
Everyone should know this: "It's a gentleman's duty to appreciate beauty!"
Since It's our duty, why not always compliment the ladies?😘😉🌞😎❤😍🤪

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I typically only compliment if I genuinely feel the words I am expressing. It feels awfully disingenuous to arbitrarily compliment someone for their own reassurance and validation. Probably why I tend to avoid the insecure.

Ellie-V · Answer

All of my past partners were showered with compliments and it should never be a thing just limited to looks and it shouldn’t have to be demanded on social media.

perfectchaos · Answer

I'll compliment as much as I want or feel like. If you get a compliment from you are doing something right. You don't get a compliment because you want one.

mimi051998 · Answer

I only compliment when I see the need to. I don't like it when people fish for compliments and I don't like it when people over compliment me because then I believe that they're lying after a while.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I'll compliment my guy or anyone actually whenever I see or hear something I like, but I won't be "made" to compliment someone

Agape93 · Answer

When it’s needed or warranted. I don’t just say it to say it, nor do I want them getting a big head

KloexJayne · Answer

I overly compliment people i admire / crush on i just can’t help myself lol

theRen · Answer

I can live without compliments and probably give more than I hear lmao

MrTuxedo · Answer

Anytime, anywhere. I have no problem with complimenting.

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