Are you shy/outgoing and which do you usually prefer to approach/date?

[DizzyDesii]

I talk A LOT and will talk about anying with anyone, but I’m still sorta shy in terms of meet/greets. Like in person, it usually takes 2 hours or so for me to warm up. But after a day or two, I’m not as shy. Now if we haven't seen eachother in a while, the shyness starts over no matter who they are. And this goes for both in-person and video chat.
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I personally go for guys who are loners and shy because it oddly makes me feel more outgoing. Sometimes I like a challenge so I like to lead the conversation and bring the guy out of his shell. HOWEVER, if a guy hasn't reached his comfortzone with me within 3 days, I’ll start to distance myself and go back into my shell until one of us ghosts the other. I’m not about to work overtime for someone who’s hardly showing the same interest.
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I’m more on the shy side and prefer someone who's more outgoing

I’m more on the shy side and prefer someone whos also shy

I’m more outgoing and prefer someone who is also outgoing

I’m more outgoing and prefer someone who is more shy

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+1 y

Damn the polls shows that a lot of us are shy haha

[mikaelis]

I think it depends what we define shy and outgoing is. I think it depends on everyone's comfort level when they approach a certain someone and what they believe they can receive from that interaction. For example you had said , you like to approach a lone/ reserved person because it makes you feel outgoing. I'm not sure if that brings you pleasure that you might be able to bring such a person out of their shell /;empathy or if it just helps you feel more by highlighting how you aren't as shy as them by comparison? Since I do try to help out more reserved friends at parties and try to help them to talk, I do reciprocate your way of thinking. And even on 1:1 situations I may talk more than my conversation partner but after a while if there's not much return, or much depth to their answer, life is life and not everyone is meant to be your friend or partner?

[DizzyDesii]

Wow you read me right and you’re presching haha 👏

[mikaelis]

What's preshing? Is that a hip new word I don't know? Lol

[DizzyDesii]

*preaching

[mikaelis]

Ah. I see. Is preaching a good thing? I do think I just gave my simple opinion and hope you find your way best :)

[DizzyDesii]

Yes its a very good thing haha

[mikaelis]

Glad to know. Will keep an eye for your other questions if so

[TrillXHippy]

I’m outgoing so when are we going out?

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i never knew you were outgoing haha. And I don't know you tell me Mr Outgoing 😂

[TrillXHippy]

I’m not but it’s different with you. If you’re ready then I’m ready

[DizzyDesii]

Im not ready yet but im getting there 🙃

[TrillXHippy]

That’s cool

[DizzyDesii]

Omg im so slow. I just realized you did a play on words of outgoing/going out 💀

[TrillXHippy]

I wouldn’t say all that. Lol

[jennifer_bloom]

Im confident and expressive but very rule based in how I operate. My friend says, I look liberal but am actually extremely conservative on the inside. I don’t mean politically conservative, I’m referring to living a very subtle and predictable pattern of muted and normal behaviours.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm the opposite. Haha

[melanieeeB]

I'm not shy in any way, I'm more reserved tho but I can be outgoing easily and I do like outgoing personalities a little more

[DizzyDesii]

Ahh reserved is that other word i was lookin for

[melanieeeB]

Well you're welcome I guess haha

[NathanDavis]

there's no ounce of shyness left in me but this doesn't mean I'm all outgoing... it's more of a balance and since it's pretty much 16 years experience of approaching and being approached by people... it doesn't really matter to me how it happens or how they are, I am used to all of it... and I like all situations possible for what they and they can be

and I don't like to trouble myself that much... when I meet someone I am my most natural and I do let things flow naturally... it could be a good moment in the moment but not go further, which is alright, that just happens sometimes... or we can really click and we just keep going and going

something "funny" is that I usually notice when shy people have some interest or are a bit intrigued by me but they would never approach me and then I start to circle around them like a vulture... lol, but not to be mean or scare them or anything, I just want to get an idea of why they really are and if I'll approach them or not... few times I've done it, it has always ended well

[DizzyDesii]

Oh gawsh never circle me 🤣 i’d get more nervous but in a laughing a lot type way and then my reflexes are quick

[NathanDavis]

lmao... would you rather I go straight to you?

[DizzyDesii]

Yes lol

[NathanDavis]

I've done that a couple of times... you sure you won't forget what's your name? lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lol no i just laugh when im nervous

[NathanDavis]

do you have one of those cute/weird laughters? lol

[DizzyDesii]

I have a light giggle when im shy or nervous like
https://voca.ro/15EkoSoiaopP
but you do not wanna be around me when im comfortable and bust out laughing. My sis said its sounds like a valleygirl on crack lol
https://vocaroo.com/19mrg6ATMGFq

[NathanDavis]

oh damn... I sure like both

[DizzyDesii]

No the second gets worse especially if im really into something. Out of all the Rush Hours, i could only ever remember RH1 and RH3. So i rewatched part 2 yesterday and now i can't forget it. I laughed so hard

[DizzyDesii]

I laugh like Roseanne at the end of her theme song 😭🤣

[ShadezMcgee]

More of an introverted and shy guy myself, but when I was on the market I was open to women approaching and if I got along with them well and felt comfortable it was fun. What made it a bummer is that sometimes it was a mixed bag when I tried to talk to them.

I could see they would get bored quick or I just didn't feel comfortable or any kind of spark via conversation. Extroverted women can be easier to talk to, but it feels very draining because it feels as though you need to keep them stimulated or entertained from start to finish or you quickly become an afterthought and boring.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldve never guessed you were shy. And yea i dont get bored but if there's no spark/vibe with someone then i’ll likely make it a one time conversation. Its weird cause im mot extroverted in general but i am somewhat outgojng in terms of conversation. Im naturally a bubbly chatterbox and i like for the guy to get lively and bring that same energy. If the convo starts to feel awkward, i’ll make up an excuse to leave. And i dont always need to be “on” but the first or second convo should be so that you can see the entertaining side of someone. When im tired or sad then i lose thhat hyperness and calm down

[ShadezMcgee]

Shyness has always been present with me since I was a kid and part of that has to do with social anxiety. Not a flaw I am proud of, but one that I have.

I only classify myself as extroverted when in company of people I like or am comfortable with, otherwise I am quiet and observant of others around me. Knowing what I know about you, we wouldn't click in the long run if we were to meet. Physically I know I check yourboxes, but personality and hobbies would not work, same for social situations.

I am perfectly content with being silent. The idea of having to constantly talk is draining and really burns me out. Then that means I have to "on" for someone else all the time.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea like i said i dont expect a person to be on all the time. But yea based on certain topics on here, i knew long ago we would on click on occasion lol

[mobiusforniner]

Im introverted. I can and will be outgoing when required. Like at work, i can give presentations before hundreds of people and lead multiple organizations and departments, but when I come home, I retire to a room to play or write music or work on something in my garage. I hate talking or partying in my private life. It surprises people. I have very few friends.

[DizzyDesii]

I get not wanting to party but not wanting to talk?

[mobiusforniner]

Yes, I talk all day so when i get home from work, after making dinner for the fam, I usually like an hour or two to just be left alone.

[Hulk30]

im listenin my style is neither shy or out goin but it's very reserved and because im an aspie a virgo and a sigma male i'd say im a loner by default of all that major problems i see with the datin game is this dictatorial and tyrannical my way or the high way approach that most folks got now most women bein selfish in that vein i can actually understand that to a certain degree because their selfish to a certain degree subconsciously is geared towards their offspring so their selfishness bein geared torwards the best selection of baby daddy i dig that understood but generally the major problem i see with the datin game is it's too much about what we want instead a how we can give the other what they need which is how it should be but i digress

[DizzyDesii]

I mean what do we really “need” fromm eachother? I think thats why we focus on wants. Nobody NEEDS anybody

[Cherry234]

I voted B but I like someone who's between shy and outgoing. I am shy but I can warm up and become less shy with a person I have a connection with and who gets me. It can be annoying if a person is very outgoing because I don't like it when people talk too much and they don't even give me the chance to speak at all.

[DizzyDesii]

I ask questions but only to make sure theyre listening and to have a reason to talk more 🤣

[Phoenix-gb]

Definitely on the shy side, unlikely to approach anyone I like the look of, but that's also usually as I've already convinced myself they would just reject me anyway, so would probably go for someone more outgoing as they would be more likely to take the chance to approach me. Unfortunately I'm a guy which means I never get approached.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe you’re talking to girls instead of women. Because a lot more women approach now a days

[Phoenix-gb]

Maybe, maybe it's just me. Getting ready to give up to be honest, tired of trying and working to improve my situation to just get slapped back down time after time.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I’m pretty confident for an introvert. I enjoy being alone but I also am comfortable in a social setting to the point most people think I’m an extrovert. I don’t really have a preference in a partner, as long as they’re willing to have deep conversations with me

[DizzyDesii]

Sounds ideeeal

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm shy and I prefer someone who is also shy. But I DON'T like people who are paranoid and cowards. It's okay to be scared and nervous as long as you rise to the occasion and overcome it. If I'm holding my hand out to help you and support you, take my hand.

[DizzyDesii]

Tea thats my prob is that i het annoyed when they dont even try to come out their shell

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Ikr?

[Twalli]

Given the choice I will stay inside all day. I don't because my dog has other plans and we're close to a park (0.4 miles each direction on a sidewalk, half that if I cut through peoples yards and hop a drainage creek). So I do get out each day. Nevertheless, while I'm inside I rarely leave my room.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but being indoorsy doesn't mean you're shy lol

[Twalli]

I don't really talk to anyone either

[daisy56]

I used to be extremely shy but have definitely came out of my shell over the years which has made me more outgoing. As for dating I prefer the confident type! But at the same time, if they’re shy it’s fine too, nothing wrong with that

[DizzyDesii]

Alrhough im shy, i still have confidence so i think some can

[Christsdisciple15]

I’m extremely shy and I don’t really have a preference but the thing is if the guy is shy too then we’d never meet bc neither of us would approach if you see the problem … so ultimately the guy would have to be outgoing in order to approach me no?

[DizzyDesii]

Nope. When you're hoth shy, one of you come out of your shell at least temporarily OR you just awkwardly meet by coincidence

[Christsdisciple15]

oh well in that case I don’t mind either then

[Siren777]

I am not shy at all. Rarely intimidated, I don't mind starting a conversation nor people engaging in conversations with me but I like quiet time too lol.

[DizzyDesii]

Indef get intimidated but i still speak my piece

[petitedollbabee]

I’m shy at first, but with people I’m comfortable around, I don’t shut up. I prefer to date someone the same way. Introverted but outgoing towards people that they’re friends with or family.

[DizzyDesii]

Fully agree

[pixie215]

i learned these days sometimes shy with guys isn't actually shy, its an act trying to be exactly how and what you want and also so you dont spot how they really are

[DizzyDesii]

Damn thats scary

[pixie215]

true

[Aerissa_Jade]

I'm C and D, as eventually he will warm up after he gets used to me, so no preference between the two.

[DizzyDesii]

I understand

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm not shy or outgoing, but I act in a way that could be percieved as shy offline, and perceived as outgoing online. I'm just random and silly with friends, and I don't really start conversations very often with people I don't know.

[DizzyDesii]

You seem shy yet direct/blunt

[TheSpaceGnome]

direct/blunt yes, shy not so much, picky in who I talk to yeah.

[Anonymous]

I'm "shy" at first because i'm not gonna just open up to anyone without good reason, especially not IRL. But if the other person shows interest, then i'll start to open up, then i become more outgoing with that girl.
The girl can be shy or outgoing, but if the girl is so shy that she can barely talk with me, then i don't think we could get along well.

[DizzyDesii]

Yep thats why i said they need to lose that shyness by the end of the week lol

[Nagahime]

I'm pretty shy and awkward, but still like to interact. I would have no problem dating either one. Outgoing people can help me open up more and I can help other shy people open up a little.

[DizzyDesii]

Very true