Are you shy/outgoing and which do you usually prefer to approach/date?

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I talk A LOT and will talk about anying with anyone, but I’m still sorta shy in terms of meet/greets . Like in person, it usually takes 2 hours or so for me to warm up. But after a day or two, I’m not as shy. Now if we haven't seen eachother in a while, the shyness starts over no matter who they are. And this goes for both in-person and video chat. — I personally go for guys who are loners and shy because it oddly makes me feel more outgoing . Sometimes I like a challenge so I like to lead the conversation and bring the guy out of his shell. HOWEVER, if a guy hasn't reached his comfortzone with me within 3 days, I’ll start to distance myself and go back into my shell until one of us ghosts the other. I’m not about to work overtime for someone who’s hardly showing the same interest.  #FeelFreeToList

mikaelis · Accepted Answer

I think it depends what we define shy and outgoing is. I think it depends on everyone's comfort level when they approach a certain someone and what they believe they can receive from that interaction. For example you had said , you like to approach a lone/ reserved person because it makes you feel outgoing. I'm not sure if that brings you pleasure that you might be able to bring such a person out of their shell /;empathy or if it just helps you feel more by highlighting how you aren't as shy as them by comparison? Since I do try to help out more reserved friends at parties and try to help them to talk, I do reciprocate your way of thinking. And even on 1:1 situations I may talk more than my conversation partner but after a while if there's not much return, or much depth to their answer, life is life and not everyone is meant to be your friend or partner?

TrillXHippy · Accepted Answer

I’m outgoing so when are we going out?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Im confident and expressive but very rule based in how I operate. My friend says, I look liberal but am actually extremely conservative on the inside. I don’t mean politically conservative, I’m referring to living a very subtle and predictable pattern of muted and normal behaviours.

melanieeeB · Answer

I'm not shy in any way, I'm more reserved tho but I can be outgoing easily and I do like outgoing personalities a little more

NathanDavis · Answer

there's no ounce of shyness left in me but this doesn't mean I'm all outgoing... it's more of a balance and since it's pretty much 16 years experience of approaching and being approached by people... it doesn't really matter to me how it happens or how they are, I am used to all of it... and I like all situations possible for what they and they can be

and I don't like to trouble myself that much... when I meet someone I am my most natural and I do let things flow naturally... it could be a good moment in the moment but not go further, which is alright, that just happens sometimes... or we can really click and we just keep going and going

something "funny" is that I usually notice when shy people have some interest or are a bit intrigued by me but they would never approach me and then I start to circle around them like a vulture... lol, but not to be mean or scare them or anything, I just want to get an idea of why they really are and if I'll approach them or not... few times I've done it, it has always ended well

ShadezMcgee · Answer

More of an introverted and shy guy myself, but when I was on the market I was open to women approaching and if I got along with them well and felt comfortable it was fun. What made it a bummer is that sometimes it was a mixed bag when I tried to talk to them.

I could see they would get bored quick or I just didn't feel comfortable or any kind of spark via conversation. Extroverted women can be easier to talk to, but it feels very draining because it feels as though you need to keep them stimulated or entertained from start to finish or you quickly become an afterthought and boring.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Im introverted. I can and will be outgoing when required. Like at work, i can give presentations before hundreds of people and lead multiple organizations and departments, but when I come home, I retire to a room to play or write music or work on something in my garage. I hate talking or partying in my private life. It surprises people. I have very few friends.

Hulk30 · Answer

im listenin my style is neither shy or out goin but it's very reserved and because im an aspie a virgo and a sigma male i'd say im a loner by default of all that major problems i see with the datin game is this dictatorial and tyrannical my way or the high way approach that most folks got now most women bein selfish in that vein i can actually understand that to a certain degree because their selfish to a certain degree subconsciously is geared towards their offspring so their selfishness bein geared torwards the best selection of baby daddy i dig that understood but generally the major problem i see with the datin game is it's too much about what we want instead a how we can give the other what they need which is how it should be but i digress

Cherry234 · Answer

I voted B but I like someone who's between shy and outgoing. I am shy but I can warm up and become less shy with a person I have a connection with and who gets me. It can be annoying if a person is very outgoing because I don't like it when people talk too much and they don't even give me the chance to speak at all.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Definitely on the shy side, unlikely to approach anyone I like the look of, but that's also usually as I've already convinced myself they would just reject me anyway, so would probably go for someone more outgoing as they would be more likely to take the chance to approach me. Unfortunately I'm a guy which means I never get approached.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I’m pretty confident for an introvert. I enjoy being alone but I also am comfortable in a social setting to the point most people think I’m an extrovert. I don’t really have a preference in a partner, as long as they’re willing to have deep conversations with me

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm shy and I prefer someone who is also shy. But I DON'T like people who are paranoid and cowards. It's okay to be scared and nervous as long as you rise to the occasion and overcome it. If I'm holding my hand out to help you and support you, take my hand.

Twalli · Answer

Given the choice I will stay inside all day. I don't because my dog has other plans and we're close to a park (0.4 miles each direction on a sidewalk, half that if I cut through peoples yards and hop a drainage creek). So I do get out each day. Nevertheless, while I'm inside I rarely leave my room.

daisy56 · Answer

I used to be extremely shy but have definitely came out of my shell over the years which has made me more outgoing. As for dating I prefer the confident type! But at the same time, if they’re shy it’s fine too, nothing wrong with that

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

I’m extremely shy and I don’t really have a preference but the thing is if the guy is shy too then we’d never meet bc neither of us would approach if you see the problem … so ultimately the guy would have to be outgoing in order to approach me no?

Siren777 · Answer

I am not shy at all. Rarely intimidated, I don't mind starting a conversation nor people engaging in conversations with me but I like quiet time too lol.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I’m shy at first, but with people I’m comfortable around, I don’t shut up. I prefer to date someone the same way. Introverted but outgoing towards people that they’re friends with or family.

pixie215 · Answer

i learned these days sometimes shy with guys isn't actually shy, its an act trying to be exactly how and what you want and also so you dont spot how they really are

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm not shy or outgoing, but I act in a way that could be percieved as shy offline, and perceived as outgoing online. I'm just random and silly with friends, and I don't really start conversations very often with people I don't know.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I'm C and D, as eventually he will warm up after he gets used to me, so no preference between the two.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm "shy" at first because i'm not gonna just open up to anyone without good reason, especially not IRL. But if the other person shows interest, then i'll start to open up, then i become more outgoing with that girl.
The girl can be shy or outgoing, but if the girl is so shy that she can barely talk with me, then i don't think we could get along well.

Nagahime · Answer

I'm pretty shy and awkward, but still like to interact. I would have no problem dating either one. Outgoing people can help me open up more and I can help other shy people open up a little.

exitseven · Answer

I was painfully shy around girls. I would always be too afraid to make a move even when I knew a girl was into me. It was nice when somebody would give me a little push in the right direction.

Evan64 · Answer

I am the shyest person I know, and I prefer non-extroverts. Sometimes I'm fine with taking the initiative but I'm *really* turned on (in a romantic sense) when a woman takes charge. Unfortunately, it's almost never happened like that.

MadBoy · Answer

More on the shy but I can't shut up when I start talking and I'm sure that the other person is fine with me talking. I'd prefer a more outgoing individual. I do wanna go out on occasion, just not sure how to really do it or what to do.

Yumix · Answer

I can be very shy irl but doing my best to not show it too much. I like someone a bit more outgoing, it also helps me to get out of my comfort zone and do fun stuff but the difference shouldn't be too extreme, it wouldn't work out in the long run

TrueConfection · Answer

I accidentally voted B. I meant C, but my screen scrolled just as my finger was landing.🙄

Justneedtokno · Answer

I I am both actually it all depends on my mood. I could be socially awkward and outgoing but also very quiet and shy sometimes I end up being more quiet because I overshare

Agape93 · Answer

A is the closest. A bit more balanced but I'm an ambivert and I don't much care what my partner is.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I'm more shy/introverted and, in general, tend to prefer people that way. I don't like being dragged into situations where I have to socialize.

Pink2000 · Answer

I don’t talk a lot I’m more of a listener. i prefer someone who can lead the conversation. That way I don’t feel like I’m rambling.

Jerre · Answer

I voted C, I am outgoing, but also love to be around both shy and outgoing people. I like to see if I can get them out of their shyness, especially around me.

XXblack88 · Answer

Shy unless I'm under the influence of alcohol. Alcohol makes it easier to socialize with others.

mimi051998 · Answer

I’m more on the shy side and prefer someone who's more outgoing.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'll talk to anyone about anything to be honest so long as I'm comfortable being around them.

Loveisgirthy · Answer

I think I'm more outgoing, just am nowhere near used to going out. But I'm fairly shy. Wouldn't be for long though

Valso · Answer

I'm mostly the "B" type but it also depends on the other person and how much I'm attracted to them. The more I like them, the shier I am.

Alexis_1996 · Answer

I’m more outgoing I prefer shy type. I’ve go asked them out. And paid for the date myself.

krin_m · Answer

I prefer outgoing women. Although it is not really deal breaker if she is shy!

mpodeszek · Answer

I am a little shy at first but i need them to open up.

PhoenixesT · Answer

I wanna drink Turkish rakı with a girl while i see you eyes

MCheetah · Answer

I'm neither shy nor outgoing, but I prefer shy.

Lucy68 · Answer

I prefer guys that are a bit shy honestly

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I’m the exact same way as you haha.

legalboxers · Answer

I dont thave the balls anymore to ask someone out

JohnQue74 · Answer

Shy guy looking for mild outgoing gal

Not_Average · Answer

I’m outgoing

Layafell · Answer

I'm an A x_x

Anonymous · Answer

I am very shy

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