Why would a man feel nervous around me?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t do anything to invade his space, I am just there, everyday I go to the office, I catch him touching his hair or adjusting himself as soon as he sees me when I go into the office, he’s naturally the first person who I look at when I open the door, cause he’s sitting right in front of the door and also he has blond hair and others sitting there all have black hair, so It kinda catches my eye when I go in.

I have noticed, when others enter the room. He does nothing. He doesn’t even look up, he only looks up to see who came when I am out, I feel like he kinda wants to get a sight of me and he kinda waits for me to go. When I am there, he no longer feels interested to look up.

However when we talk, he tries not to make eye contact with me,

today he was showing me a funny video and didn’t even look at my eyes,

he’s usually very confident with others and very handsome too, I have no idea, how am I making him feel nervous.

I also noticed, he often calls me by my name and when he does so, he talks to me with lower voice than when he talks with others. Kinda like a different vibration, I am pretty good at picking up psychological clues.

I deduce he might have a girlfriend, and he feels nervous around me because I am a threat? Hehehe I love being a threat.

What do you think?

He also likes when I feel shy. He makes a point to come and explain and teach me things.

The 2nd guy, is single for sure, he also shows attention but he doesn’t feel nervous around me.

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9 mo

Oh also, he checks me out quite often.

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Whoever chooses the cover pics for my posts, is having a great fun 🤣

[Fireguy17]

He might have a crush on you, but is afraid of rejection.
So he tries to distance himself from you to avoid that.
Something is better than nothing.
Try this, don't ask but tell him to clear a hour on Tuesday because you are taking him out for lunch.
If you tell him vs asking he doesn't have a chance to think about it.
Tell him and then walk away so he doesn't have time to react.
Make it a short time.
If he says he can't do it Tuesday, then tell him Thursday will be just fine.
Lick your finger, toss your hair and walk away.
He will probably wet himself.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I just enjoy flirting, that’s all. I don’t want to plan any lunches together. But thank you for the idea.

[Fireguy17]

Ahhh, then he might just know that is what you are doing, possibly office gossip and isn't interested in playing along?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nobody could know I haven’t talked with anyone and it’s mostly three of us in the office. Another one asked for my Insta and sends me funny memes there.

[Deformate]

You are great at reading psychological clues but can't read the very clearly obvious nature of his nervousness around you? I bet 90% of the people who read this are thinking the same thing. Also, why do you think being a threat to a relationship is fun? That also is a very valid reason to be nervous around you. You're a chaotic uncertainty and that would make most people nervous. Unpredictable and capable of anything.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What am I capable of?

[Deformate]

Well assuming he is in a relationship, causing untold damage to that relationship by deriving fun from being a threat to it, assuming you acted on that impulse.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not acting on the impulse. I would never like a man who’d cheat a girlfriend with me. Besides, I am not going to be an other girl. And I value loyalty, I would never want someone who’d cheat on his girlfriend with me or who’d leave his girlfriend for me. I would have zero interest in that kind of man.

Regardless of what I am capable of doing, I am not acting any impulses.

And I have some moral compass that I follow. I am also not interested in him neither romantically, nor sexually.

Why would you think I am a chaotic uncertainty?

[Deformate]

Oh it was just the comment about finding it fun to be a threat to his girlfriend. That tends to be a sociopathic trait. My apologies if I misjudged you. I was just going off of what I read. I respect your morality and honesty about yourself and again apologise for the previous implication against your character. Allow me to answer the rest as a way of recompense. If he is nervous around you, is always looking around for you and struggles with eye contact, but only around you, my belief would be that he is either attracted to you or intimidated by you. I'd have said he may have insecurities or anxieties about talking to people but as you stated that he is confident around others, it could be that he likes you but doesn't know how to, or even if he should, raise those feelings with you. If could be a fear of rejection. He seems to be trying to impress you but lacks the confidence or courage to take that leap of faith, if you get me.

[ShesRad80]

sounds like he likes you but maybe shy or worried not sure how you feel

[sheikalana]

Perhaps he's anxious or maybe he has a crush on you.

[Anonymous]

My ex dumped me for another man. We were childhood sweethearts. She has a younger sister. She used to come around with us on dates, to the cinema etc. A few times she witnessed us having sex when I sneaked into their room.

Anyway a few years later I met the younger sister and she had grown up and filled out as a woman and I was kind of shocked by it as I hardly recognised her. She was still the same sweet girl but because I was so sexually attracted to her that I was nervous and while talking to her I got an erection and she spotted it. We started dating and are very much in love. My ex is pissed though. She's like a softer more gentler version of my ex except with bigger tits and nags less.

[Grond21]

She sounds way better

[VforVindication]

Lucky you.

[justabuddy]

Likeing a girl you work with is not easy. It complicates things. He may also not know how to act around a girl he likes. Men are human beings too.

[justabuddy]

My apologies, not a clear response on my part. He's attracted to you as more than friends and does not yet know how to deal with those feelings.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you, for always being very helpful to me. 🤍😇

[PizzaDaddyo]

Aww… He’s in Love, Love, Lovey Dove Dove!


You must believe this is true. I act the same way around my crush and watch what I say around her too much. I suck!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s not love. I have only known him for like 4 days.

[Billlewis]

Any time a guy is nervous when he sees you, you should take that as a compliment, because that means you're driving him crazy.

[Anonymous]

He probably finds you attractive, fine women are very scary. For example I went to a china buffet which was nasty and I found a hair in my food and the Jon English speaking Asians didn’t refund me. Anyway there was a Spanish women with 3 kids 2 boys and a girl and her ass was so phat in them jeans and she was pretty. Intimidating. I don’t get intimidated all the time

[Andres77]

You are a threat. I’ll bet he has to readjust himself quite often around you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am going to go with one of my killer looks tomorrow. I am not going to steal anyone’s man, but girls gotta have some fun right? I will entertain myself by flirting very subtly. I just enjoy being in the center of attention and being desired, that’s all.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have zero interest in taken men. Other than teasing.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

However, I wonder one thing, when I was in a relationship I always made love with my boyfriend, before he went to work, because you never know, I wanted him to be exhausted by the time he’d get to work, so he would not have energy to check out other girls.

He also cane home for lunch breaks to make love.

I also went to work with him once and had sex in his office at night, just to make sure, he always remembered me and wanted when he was at work.

I wonder why would such a handsome (possibly taken) man feel attracted to other girls?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

*wanted me

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think that’s partially why - he waited for me so long, for two years and didn’t cheat. When he broke up with me, I asked him to come and see me just once, he said he couldn’t cause that would make him change his mind.

[Andres77]

He had to be out of his mind to let you go.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t mean my ex. While we were together and quite long after that he was loyal to me. Not every woman can keep a man in long distance as loyal as he was for such a long time. I lost a fight to distance and time. I remember my brother often told me after I finished a call with my ex “What did you do to him to make him fall for you so hard? You’ve got my respect. I wouldn’t wait a woman for two months, not to mention two years. You must be proud.”

That’s what my ex told me too “You should be proud of yourself that I you’ve got a man waiting for you this long, that’s because you are one of a kind.”

He told me that too. He just at some point fell out of love. And I don’t blame him, we are animals and we have got needs after all.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I mean that blond guy, why would he be into me if he is taken?

[Andres77]

After learning more and more about you…how could a guy NOT want to be in to you? No pun intended.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ll act like I didn’t get that pun 😊

He couldn’t know what I am like because I feel like only a man who’ll love my heart first, has a right to have me at my “bad”. So, I don’t usually advertise my sex appeal.

[Andres77]

There’s a lot more to you than sex appeal

[zero444440000]

his either into you or has hade trauma with a female/females before.

[WhitneySnow]

This guy really likes you!

[ProbablyClueless]

He probably finds you attractive!

[JBROWN9999]

I'm going to assume he's into you

[Anonymous]

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