Do you think people get turned off or scared when people start showing interest?

[cookieman12]

There’s times when I’ve found out that a girl likes me and it’ll be someone I like myself and so I’ll try to text them more. However it seems like they aren’t as interested or they start to text less, which seems surprising if it’s someone who supposedly likes you. Has that ever happened to any of you guys? Do you think they get turned off if they get a vibe you like them? Does it not make a difference if it’s someone that likes you?

[Anonymous]

“It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear”. - Corey Wayne

So many women will argue that they don’t like above. But there is something in their cat like nature that loves challenge and mystery. Once they know they “have” a guy it’s over (unless her feelings are equal to him or more).

Anyway guys are not above reproach on this one either. There is something about the scarcity complex. But given women are naturally choosy and a pain in the ass to begin with when it comes to dating (shit testing) then most women don’t have to worry about coming off as too desperate. But sometimes they can act embarrassingly nuts if they really like the guy.

Long story short is that chances are you are too available which makes women think they “have” you. That’s not fair but most do them subconsciously shit test men with this.

Don’t go any more out of your way then you would for a platonic buddy of yours in the early stages. I know that’s easier said than done. But I found the women who liked me the best are the ones I only felt so so about in the beginning. I was nice to them and enjoyed being around them. But if they didn’t like me it wasn’t a big deal to me.

[CallmeTheKnight]

They usually get turned off when they’re not really interested in that person.
As far as scared, no. I don’t believe it possible to be frightened by someone expressing or showing the desire to be with you. It’s just someone doesn’t want commitment and they just call it scared of commitment.

[Pinay_ako]

People who turn away fast when you start showing you like them or have some romantic interest are those who do not feel the same way as you. They didn’t think any of their flirtation were serious just playful banter, nothing to think of until you took it by heart. It’s not you. It’s them. They are just not interested to begin with. Not all people who flirt with you or being nice with you want to be with you. So don’t take it personal. Just don’t invest too much into someone who doesn’t show the same vibe.

[jennifer_bloom]

If a guy that is unstable or unequal to me in interest suggests a date, I will clam up and refuse to meet cause being secure and stable is more important than having a nice week with an attractive guy.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why can't people in your generation TALK to each other instead of texting? Are you all that afraid of each other?

[YesterdaysChild]

That would be too personal to them. Texting is impersonal so it fits their bill better.

[coachTanthony]

they get nervous because deep down they ain't looking for anything serious.

[TruthBeTold77]

Honestly for me personally this can mean 1 of 3 things.

1). I was just being polite in replying and after sometime I answer less or take longer to reply.

2). I thought I may like him but after getting to know them a bit better I realized I don't actually like them in that manner.

3). I actually really do like him but get extra nervous and don't always know what to say.

4). I'm just sometimes busy so may forget to message back, take longer to reply or send a short quick message back.

[TruthBeTold77]

Sorry meant 1 of 4 things not 3 🙄🤦

[provokeesmokee]

If you're getting negative or fearful reactions to your "flirting" or "interest", ask your most popular (with women) guy and girl friends to observe your approach and give you feedback.

You are likely flirting or expressing interest in a really fucking creepy way without knowing.

[Rei13]

I used to be guilty of doing that. I had a hard time with relationships when I was younger and as soon as a guy would start liking me I would pull away without meaning to. There was usually nothing actually wrong with the guy and most of them found fulfilling relationships later. I was scared of anything that might work due to my upbringing and it took a lot of healing on my part to be able to be with the man I am with today

[Flatmanlewis]

At some point the texting is for breaking the ice and advancing you to a date. If you are texting as a form of communication too much - and doing too little - they are going to move on.

[EmyyWolf]

Yes of course.

I personally get scared. But as time passes. The anticipation of what could be. Is what arouses me. 😶💭💭💭

[Nikki1989]

Anyone that texts can't be serious about getting to know you anyway.

[YesterdaysChild]

That is the lazy man's way to make contact. They haven't mastered dialing a phone yet.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Hiding behind a screen of some device. Face to face to get and keep the juices flowing.

Reading body language to judge if that person is safe to be around or reading body language to tell if you are being bullshitted. Reading body language in anticipation of getting the signal to “pass go and collect $200”

[JesseP1nk]

Yeah they get turned off. Why? Because you wanna be their texting buddy. And more you text more needy you look. Get shit done!! That means if you like them - ask her out and have fun with them.

[Anonymous]

Those are for people who’d rather play mind games, “like the chase”, and manipulate. People who want something real dont get turned off from that.

[McKellar]

All the damn time, but when it comes to someone who is their type, clearly that's going to be the complete opposite.

[LiamJHayden]

Only if the object of the interest does not reciprocate interested.

[Tuana4680]

If you show too much attention, she will turn away from you.

[whistlingwh0res]

it's like a game who gets more attention until he she hit the rock bottom

[Anonymous]

Sure, especially if they are shy or lack experience with girls and dating.

[slatyb]

Some do. It's called avoidant attachment.

[Kingofkings1992]

Some do, absolutely.

[Anonymous]

They don't like your personality

[austinbooth]

No I don't