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There's this guy who rows for the other school. He is so hot like he literally looks like a model. The only thing is he's a freshman and I'm a junior so he is younger than me. He always is looking over me at practice so I thought he liked me but I don't know if he's just looking at me because I look at him.
Over the weekend I had my school dance I took a guy who's a freshman at his school and we wen't as friends but my friend said he doesn't know Aiden. We were at the same dinner place and I didn't see him till the end but when I saw him I smiled at him. Then when we got to the dance he came over to my date and was dancing with him. It was kinda weird. There group kept on dancing near our group throughout the night. At one point he whispered something in my dates ear. I am super serious what he said.
At the end of the dance me and my date were walking out. Aiden the guy walked in and dabed up my date and said hey. I said you row for (his school right). He said yeah and I said I thought you looked familiar. He said yeah you row for (my school) right you look super familiar. I said yeah. We shook hands. I said I'm (my name) and he said I'm Aiden.
I was kinda thinking he would friend me on insta after that or something but he didn't. Should I friend him or is that weird? Do you think he's into me or was just playing mind games with my date? I really like him but I don't know what to do. I was thinking of friending him but his accounts public so i don't think he would relise.
If I friend him should I dm him hey or just leave it? Or should I like like an old post?
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Yo that whole situation sounds super awkward and confusing, not gonna lie. A few thoughts:
- Seems weird that Aiden would be all up in your date's business if he wasn't at least trying to make you jealous or get your attention. Whispering in his ear and stuff is just strange.
- But the fact he didn't follow you on Insta after meeting is a little sus too. Like dude was buggin all night and then nothing? Weak sauce.
- I'd say friend the guy, but don't DM right away. Play it cool, like some older pics or his latest posts or whatever. See if he follows you back first.
- If he adds you back within a day or two, then there's a chance he's feeling you too. Might be worth shooting your shot with a casual DM.
- But if he doesn't follow back quick, he's prob not that interested. Or maybe just shy. Don't want to come on too strong if so.
- Keep your options open too - there's plenty other fish in the sea if this one doesn't bite. Don't put all your eggs in one rower boy basket, feel?
Keep it loose but make a little move on the Insta. You got nothing to lose. Just be chill about it and see how he responds. Good luck girl!
It is super awkward and confusing lol. Do you think he was trying to make me or my date jelouse? Exactlly like why was he hitting on me all night and didn't even try to reach out. Good plan. If he has a public account will he relise a friended him and liked his posts though. Is it creepy to like his old posts?
There are!! I feel. Love this by the way " Don't put all your eggs in one rower boy basket, feel?" hahahaha
Yo for real, the whole thing is weird AF. Who knows what that Aiden dude was really trying to do tbh. Maybe he was trying to make you jealous? But then why not follow up after, ya know? Confusing af.
As for his public account, I doubt he'd think it's creepy if you like an older pic or two. That's a pretty normal thing people do on Insta. And if he's got it public then he obviously doesn't care too much about privacy stuff anyway.
I wouldn't go crazy liking a million pics deep in his feed or anything lol. But a recent one or two is chill, shows you were peeking his profile a bit. Helps grab his attention without being all upfront about it.
And yeah, don't get yourself too stuck on just this one dude. Keep your options open - see what else is out there at other schools too, you feel me? No sense putting all your hopes on a guy who might ghost you again, not cool.
Anyway, friending him on Insta is a good start I think. See what's what without coming on too strong. Feel it out from there - let a homie know if he ends up responding! Fingers crossed it works out girl.
Yeah. I mean I don't want to wait for him to wait around for him but also I don't want to seem obsessed. Good point like it is public so fuck privacy lol. Ok so it's ok for me to talk to the other guy (Nate) and Aiden? Exactly!! lie ghosting girls is so mean and stupid.
I am def keeping you posted.
thanks so much for all your help!!
Fo' sure sis, keep talking to cute rower guys from other schools too, feel me? Ain't nothing wrong with that. Diversity is key, ya know?
I'd say keep doing your thing with Nate for now. See where that goes, see if he gets more serious about you. But also keep Aiden on the back burner just in case.
Follow him on Insta, like a few pics, drop a cute comment here and there. Nothing crazy, just friendly enough to peek his interest again without coming across desperate or mad clingy.
If he hits you up after that, cool. Chat him up a little. But don't ditch plans with Nate over Aiden yet, feel me? Play it chill either way.
But you right, ghosting girls is lame. Dudes gotta have some decency and respect, you know? If Aiden don't come through then f*ck it, his loss. Keep wining with other players, feel me?
Don't stress too much over these fools. You got mad potential and way more options, ya feel me? Trust me girl, you gon do big thangs with or without them. Now go get em! Let me know how it goes, for real. I gotchu.
Ok, so uou think it's ok to talk to multiple guys at the same time? Ok, i think I've def talk to both of them. I feel you. yeah I'll find different days.
HAHA, your right fuck it. Yeah, I just wish I could win three games
I feel you. Haha, thanks. Thanks for haveing my back. You make me feel so much more confident
You told me to keep you updated so here it goes.
Nate: The last time we talked was Tuesday. We talked in the morning but I had class so I said I have to head to class bye. He said see ya. I never messaged him back. He hearted what I said. I think that was to get my attention. We didn't talk yesterday because I was super busy. We have not talked yet today
I talked to my mom and she said I can do whatever I want. but she thinks even if we start something it probably won't last long and if we start something I will e broken when it ends. She also said i should stop going for losers and go for guys I really like.
I think I really like him and I want to go out with him to get to know him better. i don't know what to do though. Any advice? what do you think I should do? Should I post on my story about the asking out think or just leave it and give him a taste of his own medicine?
Aiden: I friended Aiden Tuesday night. I also liked two. of his posts I thought he looked the best in one from last year and one of him on vacation where he is shirtless. I did that around midnight. At 1am he asked to follow me back. i didn't see that till the morning but as soon as I saw it I let him follow me. He then liked my most recent post from the dance.
I thought he would message me or something but he didn't. I'm kinda weird out by that. I feel like it's his move. Do you think I should message him? I don't wanna come off as desprate and I kinda want him to chance me.
last night I saw he's friends with a lot of girls. He is also friends with this girl who bullied me in the past and i hate so I really don't want to be involved with someone who knows her.
Do you think I should DM him or should I let him chase me. i was thinking maybe when I see him at rowing just be flirty and see if anything happens there but rowing starts in march so that's far away. By that time he coul've forgot about me or be wit someone.
I also am kinda worried he didn't message me because he realised I'm older than him. My mom said he might like me but he might've realized people would think that is weird or his parents won't be ok with it
Yeah I don't see an issue with chatting with both guys separately, as long as you're not officially dating either one yet. Feel them both out, see who you click with more. Talking to more than one can help you compare and decide who you vibe with better.
Hit up Aiden one day after practice, ask how his training is going or what he thought of the last meet. Then give Nate some attention too, ask about his week a few days later. Space it so they don't feel brushed off.
And totally, fuck it - gotta live it up while you can! High school is short, have fun with friends too though, not just boys. Someone cool will see how awesome you are, try not stress too much.
No problem supporting you, gotta empower each other, ya know? Dating stuff is rough sometimes but you seem really cool. Believe in yourself and it'll all work out, I'm sure of it! Let me know if any other boy drama pops off, always here to listen no judgement!
Alright, thanks for keeping me posted on the situation! From the sounds of it, Nate may be into you a little bit if he's hearting your messages. But your mom makes a good point too - dating in high school rarely lasts super long.
I'd say go for it and ask Nate out if you really feel a connection with him, but don't get too hung up if it doesn't work out long term. Focus on just enjoying getting to know him better right now. As for how to do it, a story might be a bit much - maybe just message him casual like "hey, wanna grab coffee after practice Friday?" Keep it lowkey.
If he says yes, have fun! If not, don't take it too hard, you're still young. And don't play games waiting for him to "get a taste of his own medicine" - that ain't you. Just stay chill and do you, the right person will come around who wants tovibe with your energy too. Keep me posted how it goes! You got this.
It sounds like Aiden might be interested based on following you back quickly on IG, but guys that age can definitely be hesitant about making the first move sometimes, especially if you're older.
I wouldn't read too much into him not messaging yet - social media isn't always the best way to really connect. If you see him at rowing in March, definitely go say hi and be friendly! Make casual eye contact and smile so he knows you wanna chat.
If you're vibing in person, maybe mention you saw him on IG and thought it was cool he followed you. Or ask how his training's going, find an excuse to keep talking for a bit. Gauge his energy - if it seems positive, ask for his number saying you should keep in touch.
Then ball's in his court to message you. If not, don't sweat it. You'll both be busy with school and sports, so might be better getting to know each other lowkey without expectations for now. Just stay positive and see what happens at rowing!
Ok, yeah I would never talk to someone while I'm dating someone. That is a good idea to compare and contrast.
hahaha, true. Very true. I will have fun wit both my friends and guys. Thanks!! I'm glad you won't judge
Good point. yeah I don't know thought I just feel like we never talk much and he never really asks me questions but that might be because I try not to act super interested because i don't wanna get attached and the have Nate ghost me again.
Good idea. I just am scared if i ask him out straight up he might reject me. Good point. I will. thanks!!
Ok, yeah I'll def say hey. Yeah, I'm always hesitant so I could see if they are the same way. Oh that's a good idea to mention insta if I see him.
Ok, yeah that was my plan to see if it goes good and if it does ask for his number. Do you think if we talk a fw times at practice and it goes good I could offer him a ride home or is that creepy?
Ok, i thought it was in his court but I wasn't 100% sure. Good point. I always do like dating in the summer better so you don't have other things to worry about so I guess I'll just see how it plays out
No problem luv, just want you to find someone who treats you right! Yeah I know it can be nerve wracking putting yourself out there, but if you really dig this Nate dude then what's the worst that could happen if you ask him out? He says no and you move on, but at least you'll know for sure. And don't psyche yourself out, you seem like a cool chick, I'm sure he'd be into it!
As for asking him for a ride after a few practices, that should be okay I think. Just play it casual like "oh were you headed my way after this? I can give you a lift if you want." That way it's not like an over the top gesture, just looking to continue the chill convo. And if he seems receptive to talking with you so far, he probably won't think it's creepy. Just go with your gut feeling, you've got good instincts!
But yeah try not to get too worried about what could go wrong either way. It's just high school, try focusing on having fun and doing your thing regardless of what any guy does. You do you, boo! Hope it all works out with Nate though, let me know how asking him goes over the weekend! You deserve someone who makes you happy.