Girls, what would be your motivation for constantly teasing a guy?

[Anonymous]

I have noticed that this classmate of mine teases me (playfully) a lot. Actually we do it to each other and most of the time we are arguing and calling each other names. Although her personality is being a bit of a smart ass, she doesn't really tease other classmates this much. Even if they tease her, she laughs with them and just takes the joke but when its just us we have this constant battle and go back and forth for the longest time and sometimes people will tease us about it and how we act like little kids (one time our teacher jokingly told us that we needed to learn to work together). If I ask her why is she being "mean", she just tells me I'll get over it or that she does it because I'm annoying. One day I decided to not talk to her (at least the way we usually do) and just kind of ignore her. As soon as she saw me that day, she looked right into my eyes and had this big smile on her face and said hi (when I usually get a very dry greeting, or sometimes none at all and I have to remind her). Sometimes it bugs me because she seems so at ease with other people and even though she smiles a lot when we talk, the fact that she calls me annoying bugs me a bit. Is the constant teasing a "good" sign and her way of flirting? or should I just take her words seriously and leave her alone?

[raabzbaby89]

Well, I used to do this when I was flirting with guys I liked. This was before I got a boyfriend.

For some reason, I was shy around these guys and so the only things I had courage to say were insults and sarcastic remarks. Of course I was never TOO harsh. But for some reason, I found it easier to tease him and insult him than to actually have a normal conversation.

[Asker]

SHe isn't too harsh, just very consistent lol. I don't mind it, I like teasing her too and I don't know if she can "sense" that and that's why she keeps doing it. It is kinda like you described, she seems more at ease insulting me (with a smile on her face) than having a normal conversation (looking around and seemingly nervous). WHat about guys you didn't like "like that"? did you act normal and chatty?

[raabzbaby89]

Definitely. It is way easier to talk to guys that I am not crushing on.

I really think she likes you.

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... I love it that you enjoy teasing a guy and driving him crazy!

[willow74]

More than likely, she likes you.

[Asker]

I just have never had ANYBODY called me "annoying" so openly and so often. Could she just be teasing me with that too or what should I do when she says that?

[willow74]

Shoot...I SO did not mean to report that! I meant to hit reply! :( I'm sorry!

And yeah, she's just acting kind of immature. If I like a guy, and I tease him, I'll cover up the fact that I like him by calling him annoying.