Says I'm like a Brother then starts flirting?

[Anonymous]

This girl rejected me, said I'm the same as her other guy friends and said I was like a brother. A little time later I started to tease her for whatever reason, she responded by teasing me back. In fact she seems to start it most of the time. We have intense staring matches that seem to last 10 seconds+ and when she breaks eye contact she looks away with a huge smile. Some people have even started to ask me if were dating and it seems ask her too. When I say were not dating they all tell me she is obviously interested. I was always told that brother means you have NO CHANCE, so what is going on?

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I kind of sadly agree with you all about the attention thing. However I don't get why she would continue to flirt with me, but shut down and stop a bunch of other guys who flirt with her. If she just wanted the attention wouldn't more guys= more attention?

[Anonymous]

maybe you're just a person she likes to flirt with because it's easy for her to flirt with you.she might know that it's messing with your head and it might not. you are still permenately parked in the friend zone either way so if I were you I wouldn't read too much into her little advances.if you really want to know how she feels about you though (in case you were only temporarily parked in the friend zone) get another love interest and her true colors and true intentions will come busting through.

[madmisskelly]

She shouldn't be doing small things to make you think she likes you- such as staring.

However, she has rejected you, and said you were like a brother- both things that clearly put you in the friend zone.

You're going to need to talk to her, and tell her that there needs to be a clear boundary between being friends and anything more- that flirting needs to stop, and that she needs to treat you like she would treat a brother.

[glaceon]

That's not fair of her. But maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing. She might honestly feel like you're a big brother, so she enjoys your attention and likes joking around with you.

[Asker]

im almost 100% certain people asked her if were dating, you think she would realize she is flirting. I seen one guy start to flirt with her she instantly stopped doing anything that could be flirty and kept calling him a friend every chance she got.

[glaceon]

Hmm. Maybe she is stringing you along? Or maybe she likes the way things are between you two but doesn't want things to go any further. I think you should talk to her about it, because it's not fair of her to treat you like that. If you decide to talk to her, try to be nice about it though.

[aidsleen]

talk to her, tell her she can't reject you, then flirt with you, it is unfair.

i have been in the situation before, but I was to worries to do anything, turned out she liked me. ( iwas never openly rejected, just blown off, though)

if you word it right, you will end up with the best possible solution here.

she dates you, or she quits flirting.

[Asker]

yeah she directly called me a brother though. I guess the best thing seems to be to talk to her though. If this situation was reversed I'm pretty sure she wouldn't take it

[heyitsdan]

This happened to me and there were a few questions on this topic, but she's just using you. She knows you like her, so she's just playing with your feelings and keeping you around so she gets attention and gets you to do things for her. My best advice would be, stop flirting and ignore her flirting. Continue as friends or just stop talking to her.

[InquisitiveMale]

Then differentiate yourself from your competition. Stand up to her. Tell her to stop with the mind games. You don't play games. Women love when you stand up to them. It's counter intuitive but it's true none the less.

[Asker]

I do believe I have differentiated myself on some level, her guy friends will do anything she asks of them, I tend not too.

Really just call her out on it? I maybe ignorant but don't see how this would work

[MrNameless]

I think she either doesn't know what she wants, or she's ***ing with you (she's a natural flirt probably, and likes the attention).

Stay the hell away from her.

[Asker]

haha wish I could but I became friends with most of her friends, so to ditch her I would need to ditch another 15+ people

[heyitsdan]

No she knows she has you and she likes playing with you... why deal with more guys when you got what you want.

[Asker]

the more I think about it the more it seems to fit but I keep coming up with other reasons against it. I guess I don't want it to be that way because we 'get along' so well so to speak

[heyitsdan]

Best thing you do is either, stop taling to her or get yourself a girl.

[Asker]

Yeah going to attempt getting another girl, I have to many classes / friends to cut contact with her. still debating confronting her because I really want to hear her take on this or maybe I don't

[Anonymous]

Dude I have been through this situation , initially they kinda develop a heat or emotions with us that make us feel like she is interested too and when we start feeling the same then they suddenly slap us by saying that "You are just like my brother or you are my best friend ". So one wise suggestion don't become her emotional sponge or her dustbin of her feelings , she is just using you, leave her , move as far as possible and find another interesting things that keeps you busy.

[beerY33]

She probably just likes the attention.

[Asker]

I thought this but, over our winter break from school I never contacted her and visa versa. you think if she wanted attention she would make some contact?

[beerY33]

maybe, maybe not. I stand by my original answer.

[Anonymous]

It kind of pisses me off when girls do that.

[NonchalantBro]

So she has incest fantasies, big deal.

[InquisitiveMale]

lol'd

[Asker]

funny still would apreciate an actual answer