Sex on 4th date??

[Stacygrecko]

Guys, let's say you've been on four dates with this girl you've been talking to for a month. Now, on the fourth date, you decide to bring her over your house to watch a movie. Then, you start kissing her on the lips and she pulls away saying "That's it." And your shocked, so you say "Are you serious? Why?" and she responds "Because kissing leads to other things.." and you say "What, you can't control yourself?"

So this all happens on the fourth date. Who do you think is wrong?

(Girls can answer this too...)

[Anonymous]

This is old question but it caught my eye. I dated a girl for three months. We kissed and fondled alot...but we never had sex. I only fingered her once.

We were about to have sex on the second to last date (before she left me). She told me she was looking to it, but was having her period. At the time I believed but she dumped me 2 weeks later?

Realize it's ALMOST always the guy's job to move forward. This actually sucks sometimes because we take the risk of rejection which is what you did to this other guy. You don't have to sex with him, but honest about your attraction. Don't date him if you are not attracted to him. The fact you couldn't kiss him on the 4th date makes think you are really not interested in him.

I would be a little hurt by your reaction to if we have been on 4 dates. However if you explained why you acted that way...it would have made me feel better. And I ALWAYS respect girls boundaries. However I need them to COMMUNICATE these boundaries. SO MANY GIRLS FAIL AT THIS PART. He can't read your mind.

Remember it's NORMAL and EXPECTED for guys to do this.

[Justin0303]

I think it's kind of weird for a girl to not want to kiss since it's already the fourth date. Sure it might lead to something else, but if you don't want it to, it won't happen. You can also tell your boyfriends that you're not ready for sex yet, and he would understand if he really cares about you.

[ArizonaHighways]

I wouldn't say he is wrong for trying to move forward. But he is in the wrong because he got snotty and intentionally belittled you with his "what, you can't control yourself?" comment. I would have told him to go f**k himself.

[Stacygrecko]

I know. That's kind of disrespectful. He tried to make me feel stupid for saying "Kissing leads to other things" and he really wanted to make out. Minus the comment and based on the actions, do you think the girl is wrong for not wanting to make out with him yet?

[ArizonaHighways]

No, of course you're not wrong...never get more intimate with a guy than you feel comfortable.

[Stacygrecko]

I agree. He just made me feel like I was soo wrong for not wanting to make out with him. Then he became more distant from me because I didnt. It hurted but I can't be somebody I'm not just to satisfy him, even though I really wanted him to like me....

[Anonymous]

kissing doesn't have to lead to sex

you can go to 1st or 2nd base (which is appropriate at this time) and stop there.

[Blake26]

The guy is in the wrong, he's pushing the girls boundaries and isn't respecting them. And only after a month? Shows what he's after