Asking a girl out problem... Is she freaked out by me asking her out?

[Zackery]

Hey it would really help if I only get from a girl's point of view. No offence guys but I mean this is related to girls so yeah, you get what I mean.

So there's this girl who after observing for quite long likes me, she does all this stuff like preening her hair while she is facing me and ya you know how it goes.

So when I fb message her b4 this she replied like few min after. But now when I suggest her a day to go out(she already somehow agreed on going out by asking when to go out, I think) she takes like very long to reply like an hour or something.

So how can I assure her that I just want to take her out just to have fun, nothing serious. Or should I just tell a lie and say that i`ll be busy the whole holiday and cancel the going out plan. I asked her out by the way if you want to know.

Because what I'm thinking now is that she might be thinking through asking her out I'm expecting something to happen or be in a relationship with her which I actually don't want to. I do like her but in my way of seeing things, being friends but each knowing they like each other is a much better option.

Do you think its a mistake for me to finally express to her that I feel the same way all this while or should I have just kept my mouth shut till she loses interest, but i`ll still like her though.

[Anonymously7]

Sorry if I'm a little confused on your post lol..

So you are saying you like her as more than friends but you wouldn't want to date or be

in a relationship with her?

Well, from what I understand, I would just go out with her for fun. If you don't want to

date or anything then don't give her any signs like that. Don't hold her hand or kiss her.

Girls are pretty good at picking up when guys are interested in them so I'm assuming

she would get the hint no matter how you feel.

I wouldn't cancel plans if you already made them. If you're friends that can be kinda

rude. Just have fun. =]

[Zackery]

Oh the problem is, I barely talk to her, we just see each other a lot in class.

Not that I don't want but I don't want her to think that after the going out day, I am expecting something out of it, you get what I mean? Easier way of putting it, if a guy asks you out on a date, what a girl probably thinks is the guy could want a relationship to happen. And so I don't want her to think that way. Get it?

[lbb7799]

Oh so what your saying is you don't want her to think of this as being a serious thing and that all you want is to go out and have some fun with her?

[Zackery]

Yeap , I just want to try and be fun for her and not thinking of anything serious. But I think I might just cancel the plan. Been reading some articles and reasons she doesn't reply back could be she isn't interested but then again another says she's playing hard to get. So I am literally Confused over and over again which is which.

[Anonymously7]

she could be acting strange because she is getting mixed signals from you. if you're liking her as MORE than a friend but don't want to even date that can be really confusing haha. I would probably just flat out tell her where you're coming from or things will probably get really confusing for the both of you and it could ruin the friendship you do have.

[throwit]

If you're not planning on really asking her to go out with you, maybe just get you and friend and her and a friend to hang out as just a group of friends and see if she's more comfortable talking with a friend there. :)

Im kinda shy and when a guy starts making actual date to hang out I get so nervous! I usually take long to reply or I cancel a lot :(

Id probably know way more people if they didn't come on so strong before they knew me lol

[Zackery]

May I ask, how long do you exactly take to reply. What would the most you would take. hours weeks days?

[throwit]

It could be a few hours, sometimes ill say I have to work or I was in the shower or my phone died or I have plans already.

Sometimes I just don't answer.

[TimePhantom]

If you like her then don't just give up before you've even gone out. Who knows why she is taking so long to reply, it could just be a coincidence. Try being more direct, as in, let's go out Friday to here. Put it on her to actually decline the date, or accept it. Maybe she's just nervous because she likes you. But if she can't even make it to one date, she might not be worth the trouble.

[Zackery]

Oh that's weird, I thought it would be better to suggest when then tell when. Because I've seen like tons of the posts here and most of them think that suggesting is better(girl's point of view). Dude I am literally confused

[TimePhantom]

It depends on the girl. If you know she works a lot or something, it might be better to find a day she is off work. But it's never a bad idea to have a day in mind beforehand. It shows you have a plan, and you want to see her soon. If she says that day doesn't work for her, then you can talk about a different day. Take charge of the situation.