Right I understand. I never expect anyone to drop their day to speak with anyone unless it was an emergency. But as a courtesy, a simple respond back a day later I think is appropriate. That's my issue at the moment. Like most women said on here, I"m "trying to hard". Ok trying to hard to be JUST A FRIEND and that's it. Cool I can drop it and keep moving. Not an issue for me. But that's cool to throw away a 15 year friendship because you think i'm being awkward.
You should straight up ask her. If you don't ask, you'll never know. She'll prob say she's busy or something. But that just means you're not on the top of her priorities!! Good luck
We are all busy. If all you can do is send a text message or respond a couple of hours later then you should expect the same. If you called once every 2 weeks just to really find out if your friend is good by listening to the sound of their voice then you will get quicker responses. A phone call that lasts a minute is more meaningful than 10 text messages.
maybe she just busy and dont have the time. My wife do the same way and i know her well enough that when she busy, she wouldn't text back. i think this as a society's point of view is that if she don't text you then she would not be interested, i call that comment not true.
Well if your texting her a lot without her replying your probably driving her more away. I'd get super irritated if a guy kept texting me when I didn't reply. If you're being too forward that will also drive her away.
Possibly because your trying too hard. Put it out there. While a woman does not like feeling like a slut, if she wants you she will peruse you or at least drop the hint that she wants you to chase her.
I don't have feeling for her in that way. I just find it weird that she would all the sudden stop responding. Boyfriend or not. She's knows I don't see her that way. I've never tried to do anything with her and never will. She's like a close sister in a way. It's like trying to get a hold of a sibling and not being able to reach them. You then wonder, is something wrong. That's how I'm taking it.
Dude you're in love with her. Give her some space and she will come around.
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She must not like you very much. I think it is rude not to respond when someone does not respond. When a woman likes you, oh man dude you may wish they didn't text you so much.
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You say that you don't want anything special with her. Not true and she can feel it. You texted her too much. You also bore her and she also is in a relationship or trying to be. Leave her be and give the gift to someone else.
Hmm maybe I am coming off to strong. Never thought about it that way. I seriously don't feel for her like that and the 3 times I texted during the holidays I guess scared her off. It's okay now because I just dropped off her gift and left it at the door. My name isn't on it so she can assume her dude got it or whoever. I don't care at this point.
I never said all women don't text back. It was a general question to see what women had to say. I'm not a woman so I would never know what how a woman thinks. Also, how am I being to clingy? By getting her a gift for being a friend? I do this for all close friends of mine. It's just a way of saying thanks. Again, it's not like I just met this girl. I've known her since my childhood. I haven't seen this girl in over 6 months due to my schedule and we only texted each other 3 times during that timespan.
It happens both way, guys do the same thing. People find time for people that are important to them. If a person can't find time to text you, you are not that important to them.
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It’s usually because I sincerely am very busy, trying to get a lot done, and I don’t have the time to pause my day to have a texting convo
Right I understand. I never expect anyone to drop their day to speak with anyone unless it was an emergency. But as a courtesy, a simple respond back a day later I think is appropriate. That's my issue at the moment. Like most women said on here, I"m "trying to hard". Ok trying to hard to be JUST A FRIEND and that's it. Cool I can drop it and keep moving. Not an issue for me. But that's cool to throw away a 15 year friendship because you think i'm being awkward.
Honestly if you think not replying to a text is what throws away a fifteen year friendship then you are being way too sensitive.
You should straight up ask her. If you don't ask, you'll never know. She'll prob say she's busy or something. But that just means you're not on the top of her priorities!! Good luck
We are all busy. If all you can do is send a text message or respond a couple of hours later then you should expect the same. If you called once every 2 weeks just to really find out if your friend is good by listening to the sound of their voice then you will get quicker responses. A phone call that lasts a minute is more meaningful than 10 text messages.
maybe she just busy and dont have the time. My wife do the same way and i know her well enough that when she busy, she wouldn't text back. i think this as a society's point of view is that if she don't text you then she would not be interested, i call that comment not true.
I have a lot of friends who simply forget to text back. It's nothing personal, they are just stupid sometimes haha!
Sometimes we just don't feel like it. Get off her sack
Well tell us how you really feel. Like I said, I work 2 jobs and am always busy. How is wanting to give her a gift in person being on her sack?
"Get off her sack"
LMAO!
Well if your texting her a lot without her replying your probably driving her more away. I'd get super irritated if a guy kept texting me when I didn't reply. If you're being too forward that will also drive her away.
Possibly because your trying too hard. Put it out there. While a woman does not like feeling like a slut, if she wants you she will peruse you or at least drop the hint that she wants you to chase her.
Learn to be subtle
She's not being a very good friend (if that is all it really is to you), lose her.
Yeah and we've always been good friends. This isn't like her to just disappear.
Had a buddy flake on me several times; called him "Frosted (flakes)" then let him decide if he still wanted to hang.
I think u like her a lot more than she likes u
I don't have feeling for her in that way. I just find it weird that she would all the sudden stop responding. Boyfriend or not. She's knows I don't see her that way. I've never tried to do anything with her and never will. She's like a close sister in a way. It's like trying to get a hold of a sibling and not being able to reach them. You then wonder, is something wrong. That's how I'm taking it.
Dude you're in love with her. Give her some space and she will come around.
She must not like you very much. I think it is rude not to respond when someone does not respond. When a woman likes you, oh man dude you may wish they didn't text you so much.
You say that you don't want anything special with her. Not true and she can feel it. You texted her too much. You also bore her and she also is in a relationship or trying to be. Leave her be and give the gift to someone else.
Hmm maybe I am coming off to strong. Never thought about it that way. I seriously don't feel for her like that and the 3 times I texted during the holidays I guess scared her off. It's okay now because I just dropped off her gift and left it at the door. My name isn't on it so she can assume her dude got it or whoever. I don't care at this point.
Well you do care but yes you came off too strong. (use of word "too" is correct in this context... I am a grammar Nazi)
Maybe just ask why is SHE not answering instead of just all women... and maybe you're being too clingy :/
I never said all women don't text back. It was a general question to see what women had to say. I'm not a woman so I would never know what how a woman thinks. Also, how am I being to clingy? By getting her a gift for being a friend? I do this for all close friends of mine. It's just a way of saying thanks. Again, it's not like I just met this girl. I've known her since my childhood. I haven't seen this girl in over 6 months due to my schedule and we only texted each other 3 times during that timespan.
It happens both way, guys do the same thing. People find time for people that are important to them. If a person can't find time to text you, you are not that important to them.
You like her friendship more than she likes yours. Or what she said before was just obligatory to her and she doesn't really care.
maybe she got a new phone number and forgot to tell u
I'm at the point right now where I'd just settle for a girl that could text back consistently
How about you send me that gift instead? lol
Heck I just may.
She will get in touch just let this silence run its course
Silence run it's course. How long should i patiently wait.