I’m Not Girly Enough?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been trying to wear more skirts and a bit more makeup (honestly I love makeup, it makes me feel girly and I love how artistic it can be), but a lot of the time I just don’t feel girly. I don’t care about my hair or nails, I cuss a lot, and I’m pretty weird. Not a bad weird though, or so I’ve been told. I used to be a swimmer, so I feel like I have broader shoulders, and that makes me really self-conscious. Another thing that kind of makes me feel bad is that I’m not good at girl talk. I love joking around with all the guys I’m friends with, guys don’t hold anything back and they’re so open, so I feel like they’re easier to get along with. I don’t know how to talk with girls, and I also don’t know how to compose myself like one. Even when I’m wearing a skirt and feel really pretty, I still feel like I’m not girly enough, and it kind of makes me feel ugly and undesirable. The guys I’ve liked in the past don’t go for girls like me, they always end up with a girly girl and it kind of makes me feel really bad about myself... I love who I am, but will I find a guy who likes me for me?

[Dreku]

Sound just like my ex and she felt much the same not really seeing she was actually really feminine in more ways, she doesn't really like hanging with girls, she swears like a sailor (cuss) she had no care for things like nails but was a loves makeup enough to become a makeup artist, she's very weird but in a good way, felt her shoulders were to broad but swum everyday she could, and that's why she liked guys, she can joke around and they are just chill, ha she actually became part of my group of mates , im feeling like her you are maybe not "girlie" but still all woman, just need to find a guy that wants a girl thats cool and fun to be around rather than a stereotypical slave, try to not worry Amiga, you will find your dude and he will be like, wtf do you mean not girlie? Why do think I'm always making moves at you hahs

[WizyWoo]

You Will most likely find a guy who likes you, I personally think that you sound lovely.

[Bellydancer83]

I'm broad shouldered but that's normal with having coca cola bottle body shape (curvey) it's hard I know. I'm a bit of a tomboy, I do construction, I love UFC and hockey, I take krav maga and I Bench 😀. But I also cook, clean, wear makeup , performing Bellydance etc. I was with a guy who constantly felt like he had to one up me. If a guy is secure in his masculinity he shouldn't be afraid of your "get down in the mud with the guys side". I personally think it makes us good catches. To each their own though.

[sonoshee]

Nothing wrong about this. You will find someone that will like you for who you are. You don't have to change just because of that. If you want to change do it for yourself, not for the others

[Anonymous]

Cussing a lot? That's just bad manners no matter if you are a girl or boy. I'd fix that if I were you. I actually did so! I used to have a "potty" mouth and now I don't. I had to work on that.

The rest, everything is spot on! You don't need to change anything about yourself. From how you feel comfortable with your own being to dressing up whenever you want and going casual otherwise! I have three exes and my second last SO was a lot like how you described you are and I didn't think of her differently than I do my other exes who were more "girly" according to you. We had an amicable break up after some other things weren't working out because of the distance between the two of us. She had to move away and it didn't work out but never was her "tomboyishness", for a lack of a better term, an issue in our relationship.

To answer your question, YES... you'll find someone who'll like you for you!

[sc15022]

I personally don't have a problem with tomboys, but most guys would be a bit put off by a girl who isn't very feminine. However if you look good enough, I wouldn't complete give up hope. On the bright side, girls can be bitches and I don't know how you guys stand being friends with each other

[Abhineetshukla]

There is no such thing that a guy will not like you with these special qualities.
Some. girls are like that, Tom Boy types. They live like boys think like boys, but still they are very much girl from inside. They are preety normal.
There are some guys too who do exactly the same as you feel/do

[daanderson911]

Yes, you will. Don't you dare change for anyone.