I honestly can say I had a very healthy relationship with my parents growing up. I have however had family and friends who have not. So I will go off of their experiences and just say sorry it had to happen to you. However, if you salvaged anything to help you be stronger and avoid being like that parent and were able to have a healthy relationship with the other it just shows you how great of a person you really are!
I mean usually it's the girls who are in the wrong anyway. A lot of father's understand the world better and know men who are wrong for them (which goes by the same assumption as this app) so really the father being strict is helping her but nooo. These daddy issue girls need to stop - because its not cute and unless it's actually serious (like physical abuse) then nobody cares
I assume that because of the gender/emotional difference it's harder for a woman who has father issues. But who knows? The differences in development could be anywhere from normal development with magnetism to one gender to cravings of danger. It may have more to do with the parent they do have than the parent they don't have.
@scottalanmiller Maybe they work too much? I heard from many America that they work very high hours and their father too, etc... Maybe their father is too absent. Possible, though nowadays the trends is to date someone the closer your age possible and even younger.
They actually do. But we don't have the long commutes and stuff. South Korea, in fact, has a maximum legal limit that is so low, it's below single shift limits in the US, by a lot. In the US, a minimum professional (white collar) week is considered 50 hours. In SK, the MAX is 52 hours. In Mexico, the standard is something like 56. Japan is famous for long hours "in" the office, but not long hours working.
@scottalanmiller That's so crazy *-* How can they work so much? No wonder girls have so much daddy issue then. I know that in Japan / Korea they have a lot of daddy issue because they work too much too so I guess it's the same for America. In France we only work 35 H in general (by laws) and can't work more than 52 hours (expect special job like truck driver, industry, etc..). Working so much sound horrible especially if you have child.
But they would lose their jobs. YOu can't just work less, there is always someone willing to work more ready to take your job away. Other than leaving the country or starting your own company (both things I've done to solve this problem and trust me, they don't really) you don't have many options.
@scottalanmiller This really suck, they should make a law for working less like they do in France. In France it's totally another mentally here, people (other than boss) hate the others who work a lot of hours and always complain about it, one time a guy worked around 50 hours per week and everyone complained about it, he had no friends then he had to get fired because people discovered how much he earned and it caused to much trouble to the company.
In France most people hate working a lot of hours and everybody is like that, the one who want to work more get "bullied" for it so if we can get away with working not that much (35 hours for everyone in general).
I've lived in Europe, not France but both Spain and Italy so know the region, and it really is completely different. Americans don't see "required time away from work" as a positive, they'd just get second jobs. In the US, so many people work for themselves and would be exempt from any labour laws like that that it would be ineffectual anyway.
@scottalanmiller Really? Wow O-O In France we would just be super happy and get away in small vacancy or just lay around in house doing nothing or do family diner or party with friends. I think we're quite similar with Spain and Italy we have the same culture after all.
In France it's nearly impossible to get a second job, with the unemployment rate if you already have 1 job they would refuse you any other job, too many company forbid you to work for another company / get a second job. My mother company forbid her to work for anyone other than them.
It's the mentality who's the problem then, to what I heard they have a similar mentality in the Uk, always want to work more, more money, etc... I'm lucky to have been born in France *-* I don't understand why they would want to work so much all the time.
In the US you don't have to disclose another job. So unless you are salaried full time (meaning ALL your hours belong to the company, 24x7) they can't do anything about it. Hourly work means they have no rights to anything outside of working hours. In the US 35 hours is considered part time work and often doesn't qualify for benefits like healthcare.
@scottalanmiller , 24x7 O-O In my country only military, police and doctor have that, for all the other they generally have very strict laws about it. That truly sound horrible, they can call you anytime of the days / night. I can't believe this exist to this days even during the 19th in France it wasn't like that.
This country is horrible, 35 hours part time? 35 hour is so long and tiring >< They really should change the laws in the US, that's crazy, everyone should be so sick and tired when they retire.
Yes, US allows continuous on call for any profession. It's hell. WOrking in IT it is the NORM for low paid workers to have to work 60+ hours a week AND be on call AND never get guaranteed vacations (even if their contracts grant them.)
@scottalanmiller That's so crazy, that's nearly slavery seriously. How can a modern country be like that? Don't people get sick or depressed working like that?
OMG, the country is SO sick and depressed from it. It's terrible. But people don't recognize it because being so insular, it's easy to tell Americans that everyone else is poor and has terrible lives because they don't work enough and people actually believe it.
@scottalanmiller It don't surprise me they're so sick of it. I always heard American say that, it's like they want everyone to die from overwork and not be happy. That's such a dangerous mentality (and it only serves the government / CEO).
My parents are actually wonderful people individually. But the problem is they don't get along despite that. They are not divorced and I am very lucky to have supportive parents.
Usually when 2 people don't get along it is best to just call it quits on marriage. People divorce for less. It's good that they are supportive because not all are.
Yeah, it takes a while to figure out the issies and so often if its not straight up verbal or physical violence its just neglect and it caused some awful things in me and it indirectly made me feel that my exes should treat me in awful ways they did
I never met my father, and I'm estranged from my mother. Having mommy or daddy issues isn't a problem to me unless it's a problem to you.
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Both parents are important. Both of my parents were screwed up so as a kid i would spend the majority of my day playing with toys in my room and pretend nothing else was real lol
Well I don't agree it doesn't matter because it can cause mental issues with the recipient. It just takes a bit of counseling and to get out of that toxic situation. Sad to say, sometimes you just have to block someone from your life if they are toxic to your mental well being.
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I honestly can say I had a very healthy relationship with my parents growing up. I have however had family and friends who have not. So I will go off of their experiences and just say sorry it had to happen to you. However, if you salvaged anything to help you be stronger and avoid being like that parent and were able to have a healthy relationship with the other it just shows you how great of a person you really are!
I mean usually it's the girls who are in the wrong anyway. A lot of father's understand the world better and know men who are wrong for them (which goes by the same assumption as this app) so really the father being strict is helping her but nooo. These daddy issue girls need to stop - because its not cute and unless it's actually serious (like physical abuse) then nobody cares
I think of my own mother, who had mommy issues, and of my beloved wife, who has mommy issues, and of my exes, who had mommy issues.
I see a pattern.
Funny thing, all of them bent over backwards to not become their mothers.
I assume that because of the gender/emotional difference it's harder for a woman who has father issues. But who knows? The differences in development could be anywhere from normal development with magnetism to one gender to cravings of danger. It may have more to do with the parent they do have than the parent they don't have.
Both are parents and have equally made uou are you are. You're to have respect for both
Pffft nah.
You're kids will be the same pffft nah lol
Your*
Jokes on you, I'm not having kids.
Okay calm down ginga lol
I'm calm bruh.
Good 😊
I never heard of a girl having daddy issue in my country but I often hear about a guy being "momma boys"
Its considered incredibly common here.
@scottalanmiller Really? Are father that bad in America?
Not sure if fathers are worse, girls need more from them, or its just a cover to explain girls enjoying older men.
@scottalanmiller Maybe they work too much? I heard from many America that they work very high hours and their father too, etc... Maybe their father is too absent.
Possible, though nowadays the trends is to date someone the closer your age possible and even younger.
Americans do work long hours. Could be a factor, of course. Only Mexicans statistically work longer hours than Americans globally.
@scottalanmiller I doubt American work more than Korean or Japanese.
They actually do. But we don't have the long commutes and stuff. South Korea, in fact, has a maximum legal limit that is so low, it's below single shift limits in the US, by a lot. In the US, a minimum professional (white collar) week is considered 50 hours. In SK, the MAX is 52 hours. In Mexico, the standard is something like 56. Japan is famous for long hours "in" the office, but not long hours working.
@scottalanmiller That's so crazy *-*
How can they work so much? No wonder girls have so much daddy issue then. I know that in Japan / Korea they have a lot of daddy issue because they work too much too so I guess it's the same for America.
In France we only work 35 H in general (by laws) and can't work more than 52 hours (expect special job like truck driver, industry, etc..).
Working so much sound horrible especially if you have child.
Yes. Its terrible and a cause of many social issues in America.
@scottalanmiller Then they should work less.
But they would lose their jobs. YOu can't just work less, there is always someone willing to work more ready to take your job away. Other than leaving the country or starting your own company (both things I've done to solve this problem and trust me, they don't really) you don't have many options.
@scottalanmiller This really suck, they should make a law for working less like they do in France.
In France it's totally another mentally here, people (other than boss) hate the others who work a lot of hours and always complain about it, one time a guy worked around 50 hours per week and everyone complained about it, he had no friends then he had to get fired because people discovered how much he earned and it caused to much trouble to the company.
In France most people hate working a lot of hours and everybody is like that, the one who want to work more get "bullied" for it so if we can get away with working not that much (35 hours for everyone in general).
I've lived in Europe, not France but both Spain and Italy so know the region, and it really is completely different. Americans don't see "required time away from work" as a positive, they'd just get second jobs. In the US, so many people work for themselves and would be exempt from any labour laws like that that it would be ineffectual anyway.
@scottalanmiller Really? Wow O-O
In France we would just be super happy and get away in small vacancy or just lay around in house doing nothing or do family diner or party with friends.
I think we're quite similar with Spain and Italy we have the same culture after all.
In France it's nearly impossible to get a second job, with the unemployment rate if you already have 1 job they would refuse you any other job, too many company forbid you to work for another company / get a second job.
My mother company forbid her to work for anyone other than them.
It's the mentality who's the problem then, to what I heard they have a similar mentality in the Uk, always want to work more, more money, etc...
I'm lucky to have been born in France *-*
I don't understand why they would want to work so much all the time.
In the US you don't have to disclose another job. So unless you are salaried full time (meaning ALL your hours belong to the company, 24x7) they can't do anything about it. Hourly work means they have no rights to anything outside of working hours. In the US 35 hours is considered part time work and often doesn't qualify for benefits like healthcare.
@scottalanmiller , 24x7 O-O
In my country only military, police and doctor have that, for all the other they generally have very strict laws about it.
That truly sound horrible, they can call you anytime of the days / night. I can't believe this exist to this days even during the 19th in France it wasn't like that.
This country is horrible, 35 hours part time? 35 hour is so long and tiring ><
They really should change the laws in the US, that's crazy, everyone should be so sick and tired when they retire.
Yes, US allows continuous on call for any profession. It's hell. WOrking in IT it is the NORM for low paid workers to have to work 60+ hours a week AND be on call AND never get guaranteed vacations (even if their contracts grant them.)
@scottalanmiller That's so crazy, that's nearly slavery seriously. How can a modern country be like that? Don't people get sick or depressed working like that?
OMG, the country is SO sick and depressed from it. It's terrible. But people don't recognize it because being so insular, it's easy to tell Americans that everyone else is poor and has terrible lives because they don't work enough and people actually believe it.
@scottalanmiller It don't surprise me they're so sick of it.
I always heard American say that, it's like they want everyone to die from overwork and not be happy. That's such a dangerous mentality (and it only serves the government / CEO).
i have neither but i do have sister issues i wish i had a sister and one who was sexy enough to cause sexual tention between each other
My parents are actually wonderful people individually. But the problem is they don't get along despite that. They are not divorced and I am very lucky to have supportive parents.
Usually when 2 people don't get along it is best to just call it quits on marriage. People divorce for less. It's good that they are supportive because not all are.
@IndieGirlJess it's just personal conflict but they still recognize that it's not either of their faults.
Yeah, it takes a while to figure out the issies and so often if its not straight up verbal or physical violence its just neglect and it caused some awful things in me and it indirectly made me feel that my exes should treat me in awful ways they did
I never met my father, and I'm estranged from my mother. Having mommy or daddy issues isn't a problem to me unless it's a problem to you.
Both parents are important. Both of my parents were screwed up so as a kid i would spend the majority of my day playing with toys in my room and pretend nothing else was real lol
I've never heard a woman claim to have mommy issues. It might warp your perception of how a mom is supposed to be I guess
I dont judge a girl who have this issues many families have different different issues so i dont think it matters a lot these days
Well I don't agree it doesn't matter because it can cause mental issues with the recipient. It just takes a bit of counseling and to get out of that toxic situation. Sad to say, sometimes you just have to block someone from your life if they are toxic to your mental well being.
I agree with u
It's harder to grow up and do your own thing when one of your parents is a mess. It's a big distraction that can make life harder down the line.
My mother and I have barely spoken in years.
She only calls me if she wants money lol.
We fought over money too.
Like every girl at school has mommy issuse it seams
I want to help people with mommy issues because it is the right thing to do. And i have met many people with mommy issues.
I don’t know I feel like some guys like to date older women so they can be looked after like their mums?
oh boohoo I've got mommy/daddy issues and im red-headed.. gimme sympathy.. cry me fuckin river..
I don't need sympathy, I told that cunt where to go.
well.. truthfully.. my sister had/has mommy issues as well.. and id say those r 10 times worse than daddy issue. moms can be extremely cruel
Yeah, my mom was a raging cunt.
makes sense
Yeah lol.
You have mommy issues? How does that work?
Was raised by a shit mum who I subsequently dislike and have issues with.
Jesus, sounds like you wanna kick her ass... lol jk no in all seriousness I’m very sorry to hear that
I almost have.
No way 😳