Who says it's mind games? Maybe he or she is shy or bashful or something. You also can't expect to just have things told to you. Courtship is exploration homie. Ask questions be involved Don't just go places and spend money. There's no harm in "I'm curious, how do you feel about me?" Wish you the best!
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It may not be mine games it may just be they are shy or insecure in themselves then when you start to back away they notice and mention it to there friends.
Unless you are straight out with them and tell them what you want it may be as I said above if not then they just like to be chased
1. Ambiguity and plausible deniability. If she doesn't know you enough yet she can say you're ugly and terrible in front of her friends when news comes out that dude has super AIDS and eats babies. 2. Lowers their sexual marketplace value to be 'aggressive' and forthright. 3. They get off on being pursued and worshipped.
A lot of girls don't realize they are looking to be "not interested" when they are, and we try to play it cool and make it seem like we are not as nervous as we are. Not all girls are like this though. Just keep it cool and don't get defensive if she doesn't like you.
I am not 100 percent on this thought, but perhaps it could be they want you to chase after them to really see if you do want them. Also it could be they dont really know how to talk to a guy or you personally. I've heard women say it's hard to talk to a guy, but it's also hard to talk to a woman, it's hard all around lol.
You make it sound more like they are nervous or shy. Which means that she is interested to some level. If she is not interested. She would probably be more likely to ignore you or be short with you in a, for lack of a better term, slightly mean kinda way.
We just as in the dark as men when it comes to"knowing" if someone likes us, it is a survival mechanism protecting the heart, so best to be cool right 😁
Those aren't mind games, maybe they're shy or nervous. Have you ever thought of that? Also a lot of guys are trash, so I'd do it to make sure I don't look like a fool and to make sure they're genuinely interested.
I agree completely^ except if a guy approaches you directly it's kinda obvious they're interested haha. Honestly, all you have to do as a woman is smile and be cordial, if you're interested that is. If he's a real man, he'll ask you out. Hard to come off as a fool when you're just being nice, right?
@tony_baloney look like a fool as in, show interest and he's playing you. A lot of guys say that just because they're nice doesn't mean they're interested
Exactly. I'm sorry, do you light a giant neon sign that says "I like you" when you're interested or something? I'm missing the part where you seem like a fool for casually having a conversation
Girls act uninterested when they really are interested because they're fucking retarded and they think that playing hard to get is cute.
May I suggest that you shift your focus to women instead of girls?
Age doesn't make her a woman. I knew chicks in high school who were women as teenagers. I now know chicks in their fucking 40s who are still girls and haven't become women.
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it's not immature and it's not uncommon. some people do it because they are shy or embarrassed of showing interest. just because someone thinks you are hot doesn't mean they want you. they might be too awkward to make a move or maybe they didn't think it would work out for whatever reason.
Its not always a mind game. Some girls are just shy or dont act themselves when around someone they like. For example sometimes when I am talking to a crush I will either start blabing uncontrollably or my head will be comepleetly empty and I won't know what to say because I'm nervous.
Sometimes girls are too indecisive to be bothered in any realistic sense, but additionally, examine your own character and see how security you re with yourself. Sometimes a woman's kindness/ courtesy is misunderstood as flirting bc the guy is too insecure to differentiate flirting from a hospitable woman. You'll know the difference when a girl is actually into you - especially if you've ever taken a relationship serious before
They want you to chase them, pursue them, fight for their interest. Of course, there's no guarantee that just because they act not interested it means they really ARE interested either. You never know, so you can either pursue and find out, or act not interested yourself and make them pursue YOU !! Or not... just cut through the bullshit and ask a girl out if you like her.
Playing hard to get is a bad idea , its not about chasing and mind games and excitement any more If she / he plays hard to get its just manipulation that does not work any more because the chaser will see that as "not interrested" so he find quickly look for somebody else , so dont do that
The fear of rejection, shy, anxiety, no knowing if he likes her too. Not many people can read body language or signs. For me, I'd rather a guy be straight up but I understand that it's the same for him; shy, etc.
Hate to break it to you but there are a lot of people incapable of actually holding up a conversation, both guys and girls, for me that in itself is a deal-breaker.
@RaceAgainstMachine I disagree, when I say incapable, I mean the conversation either doesn't go as far as to find out if people have something in common or they are able to say like 2 words about the thing they supposedly are interested in, don't ask questions and answer in short answers and you have to be the one constantly holding it up, they don't even try. I just mark them as shallow and move on because even if it does go somewhere, they are not likely to become interesting conversationists all of a sudden.
We are living in a time where curiosity is at an all time low, and it is frowned upon to take an interest in a lot of subjects, therefore IQ levels are dropping. This would explain why people aren’t capable of carrying on conversations. You try to bring up a topic and people look at you like there’s something wrong with you, like why are you bringing up this topic, how dare you! That’s literally peoples attitude today.
If I'm interested, I'm also very nervous and terrified of embarrassing myself, so I often end up acting very awkward and stand-offish. This isn't necessarily the case for all girls, but for me, it's completely unintentional
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Most time if I act disinterested it is because I am! If I am interesting I will smile, eye contact, etc. But I will not push it even if I am interested, I will still try to let the guy follow the lead and not give more than what he is giving me in terms of interaction.
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But some girls are shy and some just don’t know how to hold a conversation.
I start feeling shy and can't keep eye contact with their faces. I will keep talking to them and try to keep eye contact cause I know it's rude (and probably send the wrong signal that I'm not interested) but... I guess it depends on the girl if they're playing hard to get or not.
Because I am afraid of rejection and showing too much interest when I am not sure about yours puts me in a vulnerable position. You can just be friendly. Just because you strike a conversation with woman, it doesn't mean she will assume you like her.
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Who says it's mind games? Maybe he or she is shy or bashful or something. You also can't expect to just have things told to you. Courtship is exploration homie. Ask questions be involved Don't just go places and spend money. There's no harm in "I'm curious, how do you feel about me?" Wish you the best!
It may not be mine games it may just be they are shy or insecure in themselves then when you start to back away they notice and mention it to there friends.
Unless you are straight out with them and tell them what you want it may be as I said above if not then they just like to be chased
1. Ambiguity and plausible deniability. If she doesn't know you enough yet she can say you're ugly and terrible in front of her friends when news comes out that dude has super AIDS and eats babies.
2. Lowers their sexual marketplace value to be 'aggressive' and forthright.
3. They get off on being pursued and worshipped.
A lot of girls don't realize they are looking to be "not interested" when they are, and we try to play it cool and make it seem like we are not as nervous as we are. Not all girls are like this though. Just keep it cool and don't get defensive if she doesn't like you.
I am not 100 percent on this thought, but perhaps it could be they want you to chase after them to really see if you do want them. Also it could be they dont really know how to talk to a guy or you personally. I've heard women say it's hard to talk to a guy, but it's also hard to talk to a woman, it's hard all around lol.
You make it sound more like they are nervous or shy. Which means that she is interested to some level. If she is not interested. She would probably be more likely to ignore you or be short with you in a, for lack of a better term, slightly mean kinda way.
We just as in the dark as men when it comes to"knowing" if someone likes us, it is a survival mechanism protecting the heart, so best to be cool right 😁
Those aren't mind games, maybe they're shy or nervous. Have you ever thought of that? Also a lot of guys are trash, so I'd do it to make sure I don't look like a fool and to make sure they're genuinely interested.
I agree completely^ except if a guy approaches you directly it's kinda obvious they're interested haha. Honestly, all you have to do as a woman is smile and be cordial, if you're interested that is. If he's a real man, he'll ask you out. Hard to come off as a fool when you're just being nice, right?
@tony_baloney look like a fool as in, show interest and he's playing you. A lot of guys say that just because they're nice doesn't mean they're interested
Exactly. I'm sorry, do you light a giant neon sign that says "I like you" when you're interested or something? I'm missing the part where you seem like a fool for casually having a conversation
I agree, why not just have a simple conversation, what makes you think your going to look like a fool?
Girls act uninterested when they really are interested because they're fucking retarded and they think that playing hard to get is cute.
May I suggest that you shift your focus to women instead of girls?
Age doesn't make her a woman. I knew chicks in high school who were women as teenagers. I now know chicks in their fucking 40s who are still girls and haven't become women.
it's not immature and it's not uncommon. some people do it because they are shy or embarrassed of showing interest. just because someone thinks you are hot doesn't mean they want you. they might be too awkward to make a move or maybe they didn't think it would work out for whatever reason.
Its not always a mind game. Some girls are just shy or dont act themselves when around someone they like. For example sometimes when I am talking to a crush I will either start blabing uncontrollably or my head will be comepleetly empty and I won't know what to say because I'm nervous.
Sometimes girls are too indecisive to be bothered in any realistic sense, but additionally, examine your own character and see how security you re with yourself. Sometimes a woman's kindness/ courtesy is misunderstood as flirting bc the guy is too insecure to differentiate flirting from a hospitable woman. You'll know the difference when a girl is actually into you - especially if you've ever taken a relationship serious before
They want you to chase them, pursue them, fight for their interest. Of course, there's no guarantee that just because they act not interested it means they really ARE interested either. You never know, so you can either pursue and find out, or act not interested yourself and make them pursue YOU !! Or not... just cut through the bullshit and ask a girl out if you like her.
Playing hard to get is a bad idea , its not about chasing and mind games and excitement any more
If she / he plays hard to get its just manipulation that does not work any more because the chaser will see that as "not interrested" so he find quickly look for somebody else , so dont do that
The fear of rejection, shy, anxiety, no knowing if he likes her too. Not many people can read body language or signs. For me, I'd rather a guy be straight up but I understand that it's the same for him; shy, etc.
Hate to break it to you but there are a lot of people incapable of actually holding up a conversation, both guys and girls, for me that in itself is a deal-breaker.
That’s because people don’t have much in common anymore like they used to
@RaceAgainstMachine I disagree, when I say incapable, I mean the conversation either doesn't go as far as to find out if people have something in common or they are able to say like 2 words about the thing they supposedly are interested in, don't ask questions and answer in short answers and you have to be the one constantly holding it up, they don't even try. I just mark them as shallow and move on because even if it does go somewhere, they are not likely to become interesting conversationists all of a sudden.
We are living in a time where curiosity is at an all time low, and it is frowned upon to take an interest in a lot of subjects, therefore IQ levels are dropping. This would explain why people aren’t capable of carrying on conversations. You try to bring up a topic and people look at you like there’s something wrong with you, like why are you bringing up this topic, how dare you! That’s literally peoples attitude today.
@RaceAgainstMachine Yup, just as I said, a turn-off, I am into intelligence 🤷♀️
Hate to break it to you but 99% of people are turned off by intelligence
shyness does that to, i speak for myself sometimes i even think and awnser it in my head but in person i just can't
If I'm interested, I'm also very nervous and terrified of embarrassing myself, so I often end up acting very awkward and stand-offish. This isn't necessarily the case for all girls, but for me, it's completely unintentional
Most time if I act disinterested it is because I am! If I am interesting I will smile, eye contact, etc. But I will not push it even if I am interested, I will still try to let the guy follow the lead and not give more than what he is giving me in terms of interaction.
But some girls are shy and some just don’t know how to hold a conversation.
Do you think that maybe those confident girls could be giving the unconfident girls a bad name?
I start feeling shy and can't keep eye contact with their faces. I will keep talking to them and try to keep eye contact cause I know it's rude (and probably send the wrong signal that I'm not interested) but... I guess it depends on the girl if they're playing hard to get or not.
Because I am afraid of rejection and showing too much interest when I am not sure about yours puts me in a vulnerable position. You can just be friendly. Just because you strike a conversation with woman, it doesn't mean she will assume you like her.
If a guy approaches a girl, there’s a 99% chance he’s interested in her
@RaceAgainstMachine I wouldn't go that high with your %. You forget there are gays and guys simply helping girls out.
We’re just talking about straight men here.
Even then, I wouldn't put the % so high and infallible.
How high would you put the percent?
About 80%. Leaves reasonable possibilities regarding all sorts of situations.