Is it normal for a guy to feel depressed that girls can wear revealing dresses and get all the attention they want from guys when guys can't do same?

[rajveer11]

Is it normal as a boy to feel jealous and depressed about the fact that girls get more attention than you? For much of my life, I have always been a normal, heterosexual boy, attracted to girls. However, at the same time I always felt severely depressed about how girls can get attention from boys just from how they look and their visual appeal, but boys hardly have options to get attention from girls the same way. I was fed up with how girls wore revealing dresses and posted hot pics and can get more guys to follow them, and I was attracted more to girls who dressed modestly and didn't get much attention.

I was very pained about the impression I got that boys have to try hard to win over girls but girls don't have to do the same to win over boys. For a long time I just simply accepted it as gender inequality and something that I have to deal with. I also thought that this boy/girl thing was some stupid gender role/stereotype that still had to be gotten over with, and I believed that there are some guys who want more attention me while there are other guys of the more common type who like more beautiful girls. However, over time my life continued to worsen, as I was not able to find any answers anywhere whatsoever for my pain, and I felt intimidated to ask anyone about it for fear of being called out. This has given me the impression as if I’m alien, which has just increased the amount of pain I’ve always been experiencing, so that’s why I have come here to speak out because I simply can’t remain silent anymore.

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+1 y

Ok I feel like I really need to clarify what I wrote, because people can't understand. I suffered years of SOCIAL EXCLUSION, ok? I know very well what it's like being ignored. I was born like that, I grew up like that. I hope you can understand how traumatic it was. Now I saw girls. I saw how girls can get attention just from how they look, while on the other hand guys mostly can't attention from girls by how they look. But I consider myself more emotional than most guys and want more attention.

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Is that not normal? To clarify further, I'm not ever thinking of cross-dressing, or changing from a guy's to girl's dress. I was always fine with wearing guys' dresses, I was always just jealous and depressed that girls got more attention than me. This is why I was more attracted to modest girls who didn't get as much attention. Sometimes I feel as if I'm transgender, but I cast that off mostly.

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Ok, first and foremost I'd like to say that I acknowledge your struggle and the pain of feeling invisible and overlooked. It's a terrible and lonely feeling and makes you question what is wrong with you at times. ( I've been there myself) second I just want to say that the way that females attract attention the way you described is not the best way to gain friendships and romantic relationships, because it's on the surface and usually about sex. It's also a very lazy way to get people to become interested in a person because when people show off their bodies in a provocative way, they don't have to actually talk to people and introduce themselves or have any stimulating conversations with others or even fake interest in other people. A girl will just wear a short skirt and sit with her legs open and wait for the men to come to her and start hitting on her. A guy will take off his shirt at a pool or outside when he's working out and act like he doesn't give a crap who's looking but lean back and let girls come talk to him. So, you see, it's all about egos and putting in the least amount of effort to really get to know people on a deeper level. I hate to say this but how can anyone have something meaningful with another person if they act like they don't care and just put their coochie/dick on a platter and think "come and get it" ?

[rajveer11]

Well at least it's a start, especially when you're living in an environment where everyone either hates you or ignores you/treats you like trash and only cares about/places importance on those popular Instagram girls with hundreds of followers or those cool Tiktok stars

[anon1903]

Well, unless you want to get yourself into a skirt, that's fine. Not like any thing's the matter with cross dressing. No. I think you're okay.

Tell me the site and I can tell you some tips to get ahead.

[rajveer11]

OK you're COMPLETELY missing the point. Probably it's my fault for rambling all over the place and not expressing myself clearly. But NO, I'm not cross-dresser. I always wear guys' dresses and I'm perfectly fine with it. Rather, the problem comes with how girls act. Unlike most other guys, who like staring at beautiful girls, I feel jealous of them. I feel jealous and depressed that girls get more attention than me. That's why I'm more attracted to modestly-dressing girls. Is this not normal?

[anon1903]

It's odd

[jshm2]

No. He should be strung upside down and beaten with a fistful of dress hangers until he sees sense.

Being an attention seeker whore is not something any guy should even contemplate.

[jiffybutter]

I'm lost. Are you asking why you can't wear a dress and get attention like girls do? What does the description have to do with the question?

[MsTaniaUncensored]

Sir, I have no problem with you wearing as many revealing sexy dresses as you want.

[Alyssa11]

No cause you can do that too. Guys with muscles and tight tops are the equivalent lol.

[Alyssa11]

I've looked at your update and it seems like this is actually a problem rather than a concern as I had presumed earlier. I really suggest seeking professional help if you haven't already. You never deserve to feel this way x

[Iron_Man]

Nk its not normal

[Iron_Man]

No

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