What are your standards that a guy or girl must have?

[SnackG]

Not preferences either. These should be requirements only. I'm too tired to think of mine...

But I'd like to know yours... What are your standards that a guy or girl must have?

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+1 y

When you say drugs, are weed and alcohol included?

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+1 y

Guess I'll also ask what if they used to do drugs but don't anymore. Still no or is that OK because it was the past?


As for my standards:

-Good sense of humor

-Non or not very religious

-Not bitchy

-Not overly optimistic(If you're positive 24/7 and about 100% of things that's just weird an annoying)

-Shorter than me. Same height or taller just bothers me for some reason.

- Not too outdoorsy.


I think that's about it.

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+1 y

What does God fearing mean? That you want them to act all good because they think they'll go to hell?

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+1 y

I change not very religious to not religious/atheist. I suppose agnostic is OK too.

I'll also add they must be attractive. I forgot that. lol

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Random number best answer.

[Brendi87]

It starts off with some sort of connection; a bond. A bond can't be created nor maintained with a flakey person.

Around my height or taller, not too skinny, either average or bigger, I like meat not all bones on a man.

At least ok-looking to me because in my case, I found the more guys makes themselves pretty to look for validation from the outside world, the more insecurities and strain he puts on the relationship. Sure, you want to look good for yourself, but once you surpass that and even start acting out to look for attention (from being obnoxious to criticizing others in public to lying/cheating), I don't have the patience to look after what appears to behave as an infant.

Not so much intelligent (gets high grades but won't remember or talk about anything they have learned), but intellectual (wise) . I like someone who thinks outside the box; opinionated (doesn't go along with the crowd, and is comfortable admitting when they don't agree with me) and open-minded enough to talk about any topic without trying to change my mind or change the subject.

Maturity. Decent enough to accept my flaws, and doesn't put the blame on others for why things go wrong. Can look at himself, figure out what went wrong inside of him, and will take the necessary steps to correct it.

Someone who is polite (can say the words: thank you, please, I'm sorry, excuse me) because it shows a little respect. I don't like a person who's pride is so high they keep everyone at a distance because of their irrational behavior. People's who pride is high is deeply hurt, and disregards others who are good to them because they are still holding on to their past.

Not so much sense of humor 'cause I think everyone can make someone laugh. It's not an art, it's just a given whether you tell a joke you heard somewhere or say something in a funny voice. Bid deal! I appreciate seriousness. Someone who won't laugh at inappropriate times, and can obtain a serious conversation with all jokes aside. Can be silly sometimes (in private, but can act his age (in public).

Religious/spiritual. Someone who can stand by me, take my religion under consideration with no arguments and no judgements, and follows His teaching or is open to believing in Him.

[roxygirlskier]

okay, none of them are set in stone... but my preferences are, SMART, I love a man that is full of fun facts, random sciency things... maybe a guy that can/will take the time to explain something really cool about space, the human body or evolution. VERY cool. I like a guy that can talk too! That's not a requirement per se, but... pretty much... haha. I'd like to pretend I wasn't that picky, but I think I am.

Also, he must be into reading. Just a bit. Movie watching. I love a man that can ski too. If he doesn't already, he HAS to be willing to learn.

I don't like skinny men. I don't want to date a stick. I like a man with nice arms and a nice back, but he's gotta have a little bit of a tummy. It's just so much more comfortable. Not an unhealthy amount of tummy, but just a little one?

He has to also be polite, well mannered and a hard worker. These are relative to some people, but polite is BIG on my list. Well mannered, absolutely. He has to know that he's supposed to use a napkin at a restaurant. I'd like if he occasionally opened the door for me too.

Religiously? I'd prefer catholic, but agnostic is okay too. No atheists. I'm religious, but always open to otheres.

In terms of looks, taller (not hard, I'm 5'2") anndd attractive in my eyes! My friends say I have bad taste when it comes to looks, but when a guy is kind and sweet, he can be SO much more attractive. Doesn't have to be a model guy. Nerdy, fun, adventurous, personality before looks in my opinion! :)

[SnackG]

Not preferences. Standards. Standards are set in stone. lol

[roxygirlskier]

haha smart. that'd be the only one. well, open to religion/talking about it. everything else is dependent!

[skittledittle]

openminded/respectful - you don't always have to agree with something, but don't be a douche who thinks he's right. this goes from not being a homophobe to respecting people's religion to pet adoption.

sense of humor - make me laugh, laugh at yourself, laugh at my jokes lol

OPEN - I know it's hard to trust but if I feel like I'm trying to break through steel with a toothpick, this love thing isn't happening

intelligent - you don't have to cure cancer, but lets talk about something other than sports, lets have a debate, lets discuss a poem or a film...never politics lol

chivalry - I hold doors too! it's just nice to feel like damsel every once in a while

relaxed - I like somebody who is down for anything. from kicking it on the couch to grabbing beers to hitting up a nice latin club

job - I don't care what you're doing, but I can't have you bumming around, waiting for something to fall in your lap

drug free - no cigarettes or weed, no hard drugs, no prescription pills - NO EXCEPTIONS! I don't smoke, sniff, inject, etc anything, so I expect the same in return

[SnackG]

Alcohol?

[skittledittle]

what? for drugs? if you drink a beer, I'm not going to kill you. don't take shots until you black out lol

[SnackG]

lol I always wonder this too. What if he used to smoke weed and has had cigarettes socially(while drinking)? I don't like to keep things from someone and I wouldn't lie if they asked.

[skittledittle]

see, if he USED to do something (with the exception of rape or murder) I'd have to let it be because that was a life before me... I really don't understand social smoking, but it wouldn't be good, especially if I'll be there...it's like kissing an astray, right? I'm never gonna want to kiss you lol

[SnackG]

The only reason I ever do it is they give me a HUGE buzz. It's not very often though that I do it.

[skittledittle]

so if a girl you were seeing asked you to stop social smoking, would you be OK with that?

[SnackG]

Yeah. I don't care. I just kinda do it for the hell of it. I barely drink as it is. I've just grown out of everything I did after high school.

[skittledittle]

see, that I can be down with...its guys who smoke weed everyday, say they aren't addicted, but won't stop smoking if you ask...or smokers (not social)...pack buying smokers... that's tough...i ALMOST dated a smoker because he was that amazing, but I think to myself "smoking cuts down your life expectancy...if we fall madly in love and I want to spend the rest of our lives together, you are severely cutting that time down...not fair" lol

[SnackG]

Yeah, but I bet me being fat would turn you away more. lol

[skittledittle]

what! no! seriously, I know what it's like to be overweight. I've lost a lot (still working on it). I'm no supermodel, trust me, so I have no room to judge. even if I did look like a model, I honestly prefer softer bodied men; they are wonderful for hugs. it's more comfortable lol besides, muscle guys tend to me shallow/too pretty boy-ish and the ultra thin guy isn't enough cushion lol I'm really not physical-based. sexy isn't physical, it's how you carry yourself, it's a spark in your eye etc..

[StupidButCunning]

My standards in a girl

Physically Attractive (Don't need perfection here, far from it)

Good sense of humor (Particularly morbid)

Somewhat abusive (In a verbal, cocky manner - too nice is just weird)

Intelligent (Not Einstein, but at minimum at least not a total airhead)

Not a Whore (Do I even need to say this?)

Shorter than me or same height

Around my age of 3 years younger or 1 year older (I'm sure this range will widen with age)

Local (Long distance relationships just don't work)

Personality I click with (Plays largest role, can boost a girl up a few points on my attraction scale)

Drug-Free (Cigarettes, Alcohol, and Weed not included unless they let it dominate their life. I'd PREFER no cigarettes and no weed since I've never smoked either and yes to alcohol because I do like to go out occasionally but only mandatory part is no major illicit drugs.)

Some people tell me my standards are too high, I argue that they are specific. I honestly don't believe I ask for much since none of the categories needs to excel dramatically. If they do, well that's just a plus, but missing one of them just is a complete turn off. It's not really an issue since I always have women swarming around me to take my pick from, but I remain single most of the time. I prefer to find a girl that meets all my standards and puts up a bit of a challenge. If it's just all laid out for me from the beginning, I have no motivation to bother.

[SnackG]

You died you can't have standards. :P

[Undoubtable]

She must be athletic, my half-serious demand is that she has to beat me at some sport or discipline, not including synchronised anything or badminton. I spend two hours a day, give or take, on some kind of physical activity. Not that she'd have to, but someone not physically active wouldn't really understand my lifestyle.

No tobacco, no cannabis, no drugs. In fact, no addiction or emotional crutch whatsoever. Also, no psychological conditions, no depressions or disorders, I don't have the patience or the subtlety to deal with things like that in someone else.

No religion or superstition. No spirituality, ghosts, angels, karma, horoscopes, curses, dream premonitions or divine laws. No "there's more between heaven and earth than we understand". I have endless toleration for the practises of others, but I would not in a million years be able to have a relationship with someone who believed in such things.

Most important of all, she must be mature. I work damned hard on myself and my life, I can't be with someone who doesn't know who she is, how the world works, what she wants to do or isn't willing to do what's necessary.

Patience, a level head and a calm demeanour would also fit best. Someone impatient with flash tempers or sudden outbursts wouldn't fit me. I'm cold and calculating, someone on the other side of the spectrum would just tip me off balance.

I think that's it, the lowermost standards.

[Undoubtable]

Not enough I've outrun the reaper a dozen tomes, I even won the SnackG best answer lottery too. My luck just never runs out.

[knowmeyourself]

You're an arrogant man!

[Undoubtable]

I am? Typical. Just my luck.

[knowmeyourself]

Ugh.

[Arwens-Fire]

Ewwww...to this BA.

[Undoubtable]

A lot of arrows down. Folks should know that as an adult, I've yet to date at length a woman who doesn't fulfil each and every bit of my standards. Contrary to popular belief, being ambitious in dating doesn't mean you die alone, only that you have to offer just as much to others as you yourself demand from them.

[KarKingJack]

Hahaha, not even ghosts

[NoboTheHobo]

As much as I'd LIKE to say looks come last... they are what we see first so

1) Has to be attractive to me (doesn't matter if others agree)

2) Has to be in the process of getting an education (college or university, or at least has an ambition to be learned)

3) Has to realize I will, on occasion, hang out with my friends for hours and cannot have a problem with it.

4) Has to be capable of accepting changes to plans given appropriate notice.

5) Similar to 4, she has to be able to NOTIFY me about changes appropriately; barring emergencies.

6) Gotta be shorter than me =/

7) Cannot have a problem with me having good friends who are girls and who have known me far longer than she.

8) Has to be willing to have sex at least now and then! Yeesh! I ain't asking for a p*rnstar!

9) No drugs.

10) Should have a decent relationship with her parents

11) Does not have to be religious per se, but cannot condemn the faithful.

12) Has to be funny and capable of dealing with my sometimes misunderstood humor

Think that's fair! :D

[magiusX26]

drug free. yes weed and alcohol count. though i can accept these 2 under specific circumstances such as some wine with dinner. (easier to find those specifics for alcohol than weed)

low body count (under 7) but not a virgin. (want her to have some experience in this area so its good for us both and she has something to compare to)

unless she is 7 foot or taller, under 150 pounds

able to be fully feminine

some legitimate self income (an actual job)

actual common sense

little to no makeup

under age 28 but 18 plus

ability to critically think

ability to think from other perspectives

belief in domething greater than self

no mind games (such as "testing" your guy including the classic "does this make me look fat?")

not already a mother

actually know how to drive a vehichle

ability to accept someone just as they are

certain sexual kinks

fully functioning body and mind

faithful, loyal, and honest

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Lol no, God fearing is just having a good connection with God. Believing in a power higher than oneself.

Christianity at it's core, isn't a religion (for us who are deeply involve) it's more of a loving relationship with God.

I know that sounds odd to non-believers but there's more to Christianity than praying and reading the bible.

The idea of being religious for me, shows that a guy is capable of thinking beyond the realm of what is physically real and being faithful to something that is so mysterious. It gives his character more depth in my opinion.

So no, God fearing doesn't mean your going to hell if you don't act good lol

[SnackG]

lol I see. Why is "fearing" used then?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Well, it's like being respectful of a higher power; example, you fear your parents because they are a higher power, but not fear in a sense of terror. You respect their authority and the fact that they have power over you. It should be more of God humbling lol than God fearing

[SnackG]

Oh. That respect didn't last. lol I think I'm just gonna have to go with not religious at all now.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Oh that's not good :(

Well, I respect you for believing in what you want - even if it isn't anything at all lol. That's the beauty of it all, the God given gift of free will...

[SnackG]

Yep. :)

[TonyMetal25]

"oOsweettonessOo", What you wrote up, is amazing and wonderful...your a girl who most of good men wants to have you...my wife is like you but one more thing, you would become one hell of an excellent housewife, that's if you like it! anyways a girl like you, no matter what she choose, I'm sure that she will be so much devoted for her husband and the word divorce is out of her dictionary and won't be mentioned until it become extreme...i wish you the best!

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

@TonyMetal

Omg, thanks. I hope I run into a guy who appreciates me as much as you do :)

[udolipixie]

Looks:

5'10''

Hot face/body

Sexual:

Virgin who wanted to be on

Compatible fetishes

8'' d*ck

Spiritual:

No religion forcing or conversion needed

Values:

Similar values

Honest

Loyal

Responsible

Reliable

Mental:

Intelligent

Culturally aware

Politically active for children, animal, and environmental rights

Material:

Have his own cellphone & car

No debt

Have a legal job he enjoys

Skills: (everyone should have these)

cook

clean/organize

car/house repair/maintenance

self defense

conversation skills

social skills

healthy self esteem & confidence

[SnackG]

Wow. Good luck is all I have to say. lol

[dalila]

If you find this guy and doesn't work please Send it me lol

[SnackG]

Wait, he has to be hot or is that just your way of saying attractive?

[udolipixie]

I have found several guys like this except they weren't virgins and were 6'' or 7'' inches.

Hence why I only dated them and dropped them when bored instead of boyfriend them.

[udolipixie]

Has to be hot.

Guys have a very vague depiction of male attractiveness.

[FrancoBattiato]

Hi, I match your description, unfortunately you're looking for a virgin, while saying how you use other guys and drop them when you're bored. As pure as that makes you sound (hhaaaaaaaahahaha) I think I, and most other choice-virgins, will pass. <3

[udolipixie]

@FrancoBattiato

I don't use them

I do drop when bored just like most who are no longer interested in their partner.

When did I say I was pure?

Virgin /= pure

How can you fit my description when you don't know my values, fetishes, or how I define honesty, loyalty, responsibility, or reliability?

Keep passing I don't mind ^-^

But you can't claim other choice-virgins who fit my requirements will.

You can only account for yourself.

[StringofFate]

Don't fit all your reqs but here's another pass for ya from the virgins-by-choice, hun. Can't stand people who want what they're not offering.

[udolipixie]

"Can't stand people who want what they're not offering."

lol you don't know me.

I'm a virgin and I offer all that I require except the d*ck and height.

[udolipixie]

Once again why would I care about guys who don't fit my requirements passing me by?

lol at the attempt to feel good about yourself when you weren't wanted.

[PeterCobra]

Take a good look ladies. When you see the old lonely grey haired woman with all the cats and wonder how she ended up that way...she had this list, and this attitude.

[udolipixie]

List? Why not I'm putting in everything but the d*ck size & height.

Cats? I want toy pigs, ducks, and a cow.

What's with the cat lady insult not every girl's dream is to "fall in love" mine is to meet a guy who matches what I give and find him tolerable.

Attitude? Those guys were just trying to insult like you but it made no sense since they wouldn't have been wanted anyway.

Why tell someone you're passing on them when you're not what they want?

[Mesonfielde]

If you're a virgin (as you said), why are you looking for 8"?

[Jesterface195]

You better be a 10 on the scale to get a guy like what you described. And your so negative I don't see how anyone with social skills would be interested in your personality

[AmberLynn19]

seems like me and you both are having problems girl. oh well we know what we want in a man, if they don't like it, why ask the question?

I too want toy pigs! :)

[udolipixie]

@Mesonfielde

So a virgin doesn't have a say in getting the most pleasure with the d*ck size & skills combo? lol

[udolipixie]

@Jesterface195

You do realize everything on my list except looks, d*ck size, and height is something is something easily attained?

lol if you had read I found multiple guys like this except they weren't virgins and were 6'' or 7'' inches.

With your logic I hope you tell all the ugly/average guys to stop looking for attractive gfs,

I'm not negative my views just reveal unfortunate truths that most people suck.

Plenty of guys with more than social skills have been interested.

lol

[udolipixie]

@AmberLynn19

Thanks.

I find it funny how guys want a pretty girl no matter how they look and will "settle" for less only if the pretty girl is a b*tch.

Seems like guys on here only want girls to have standards/preferences they fit and give them chances.

[StringofFate]

I find I just don't understand things. :/ It wasn't just your answer but most of these lists seem silly to me and the action of making one frustrates me, I can't for the life of me think of an ideal mate aside from her being able to understand who I am and what made me this way. There's a few traits like honesty and fearlessness that I'd really want but the rest I'd prefer to leave up to Fate.

And yes my first post was a sad attempt to make myself feel better. Lol.

[udolipixie]

What seems silly?

Physical. I like tall guys they're body looks better to me. I want to be attracted to face/body.

Sexual. I want a virgin because I am one however most virgins aren't one by choice & quite bitter because of it they see it as a burden. I'd like to be sexually compatible. I want the most pleasure so size + skills = great.

Spiritual. He can have another faith as long as I don't have a different faith forced on me or have to convert to another.

[udolipixie]

Values & mental is understandable.

Material. He needs his own transportation & a way to communicate. Not being in debt is a sign of financial responsibility. Having a legal job he enjoys ensures he's not arrested and isn't hating/complaining about his job 24/7.

Skills everyone should have.

Physical was attraction.

Sexual was sexual compatibility/attraction.

Spiritual was long term.

Values & mental was the basis of me liking him and seeing him as a partner.

Material & skills all should have.

[udolipixie]

You don't understand because people think different and not everyone can understand every different way of thinking.

[Guytalks]

I must be attracted to her

She must be smart and eager to do something with her life

She must be kind and compassionate

She must be have a good sense of humor and be pleasant to be around

She must love sex

She must like herself and not have extreme and frequent mood swings

She must have good manners and not be vulgar

She must like to try new things (food, sex, travel etc...) but also simply enjoy relaxing sometimes

She must be mature and appreciative, not a childish princess

She must know that happiness comes from within, not from others or from possessions though these help sometimes!

[dragonxlli]

Dude, you just described me almost to a pin. Except the first part. That's all you, lol

[62893]

i've got 8 of those qualities...

[Guytalks]

@dragon: Congratulations, you scored an A+ !

@ 62893: Now I'm so curious about which one you left out ! lol

[62893]

i'm a virgin waiting til marriage so I don't really love or dislike sex as I haven't experienced it & it wouldn't really be an aspect of my relationship

[Guytalks]

@62893: Got you, I'm sure you'll enjoy that aspect of life with your future husband!

[62893]

thanks

[Samanosuke47]

Requirements? Well she must be able to drive, and have her own car, cell phone.

I must be attracted to her. No matter how great we get along in conversation and what not, I've gotta be able to get hard thinking about her. Believe it or not, I've known girls that have great personalities, but I couldn't imagine "wanting" them. lol

I don't want to have a hardcore religious girlfriend trying to convert me every time I make out with her. Just don't. I'm atheist, have been for quite a few years now, I don't want to shove my atheist crap down your throat, don't do shove yours down mine.

[SnackG]

I knew there was a looks standard I didn't think of for some reason. I was thinking to hard.

[justlilly]

He needs to be intelligent.

He needs to be attractive (at least in my eyes).

He needs to have very definite talents and interests.

He needs to smoke weed and drink (and like that I do these things as well).

I would prefer someone who comes from a religious background/family, but doesn't practice any religion. This is my background, too and my family is very religious. Also, a lot of people who come from this type of background have taken with them some of the morals and other good things about religion. I would prefer someone Christian or Catholic (any branch). Also, I don't want him to not believe in God at all, so I guess agnostic?

[Myth024]

Intelligent. I'm not talking mensa, but not a complete moron. At the very least, someone I can have a conversation with and not feel like I'm talking over her head.

An open mind or at least the ability to be able to see things from more than one point of view.

Independent. Someone who doesn't need me to do everything, but is OK if I want to anyway.

Sense of humor.

Love animals. (well, mostly dogs)

Kind, good heart, and I hope she falls hopelessly in love with me lol.

Those are just generally what I'm looking for. I'm probably too picky for my own good because there is a much bigger list lol.

[tohrment]

Ermm.. Humour and intelligence are vital. He has to have an open-mind and not be too judgmental of others. Religion doesn't matter, as long as he doesn't try and force his beliefs upon anyone else. Somewhat realistic and not TOO sensitive (because I'm too practical to have to deal with being careful with everything I say, same for my friends & family). I must be attracted to them, and I'd like that they take care of themselves (physical activity & hygiene).

Other than that, I can deal and it depends on what other quirks he has. Each guy is so different from another and I think applying a strict "type" limits who I'll be exposed to. I like diversity, it keeps things interesting.

[Brendi87]

I agree with your "TOO sensitive". Guys needs to lighten up. I've said things that offended people too easy, and it bothered me until I thought about it. I might've sounded like man hater. I do want to be considerate of people's feelings; however, I'm not walking on eggshells because I'm worried about what the guy will say or do. If he can't handle an adult discussion/confrontation, there's no point.

[tohrment]

Yeah, but I don't apply it exclusively to guys. I generally surround myself by people who won't get offended by everything I say, etc. I think that's why I'm so quiet amongst strangers. I avoid making people uncomfortable.

[PeterCobra]

i'm the same way. I like people to be down to earth with me where we can joke on each other and playfully clown each other about personal topics and it not be thought at all after that moment. ultra-sensetive people are not my bag baby. I can't have every joke I make causing an episode of Oprah.

[tohrment]

Exactly.

[Brando]

If she's stupid or ditsy, goodbye. If she has a bad attitude, goodbye. If she's shallow, goodbye. If she plays those petty mind games/is immature, goodbye.

I also have certain preferences for physical beauty. I'd like for her to take care of herself and make an effort to look good, because I would do the same for her.

Other than stuff like that, I don't try to limit myself to looking for one type of girl and possibly miss out on getting to know someone I could click with. I'm more towards the reserved side but maybe I really get along with an outgoing girl. I would never know that if I was only after one type of girl.

[Red_Raconteur]

Must haves: --Not a douche/jerk/bad boy/whatever

--Has to be able to laugh at things, have a good sense of humor, and make me laugh

--Has to be able to hold an intelligent conversation. He doesn't have to be a genius, just not dumb.

--Has to shower and brush his teeth regularly (I actually know guys where this is a problem)

--Has to be a little crazy/quirky, or at least not be bothered by my quirkiness

--Has to be able to open up to me and be willing to talk about his feelings/problems/issues and not keep it bottled up

Those are my only requirements. If he meets any of my preferences then that's a bonus.

[wildcat1989]

A guy that I'm interested in must be 1.) in college or a college graduate 2.) have a job if they are not in college 3.) believe in God. I'm not saying they have to be religious at all, but at least spiritual 4.) good looking-lets face it, you cannot date someone you are not physically attracted to and that doesn't make you shallow. 5.) must like pets 6.) has you find me attractive.

There are other little things that may or may not influence my decision to date or sleep with someone, but these are the big requirements. The reason why I have a checklist of what a guy must have is because if they were missing something from up above then we would not have enough in common to be a successful couple. I know myself very well and I know what I like, do not like, and what will work.

[Arcanus]

Its amusing how everyone starts to write a list of 300 qualities that they think their partner MUST have. Yet deep down you all know you're either going to settle with someone who doesn't even meet half of your requirements, or die alone.

And that's without even considering that in most people, the difference between what they say they want and what they really want is abysmal.

[Arwens-Fire]

THIS!

[StringofFate]

I only have one requirement: They need to be able to understand what I want out of life. Not many people do, too busy going on their merry self-indulgent way, and it's not something I can explain easily.. a few people I've known have understood just by spending time with me and speaking with me and I'd like to have this in my future partner.

The last one killed herself. :/ My kind have a lot of issues so it's hard to find one another. That's why if I can find someone who meets my requirement nothing else would matter.

Some lesser requirements are less than 300 lbs, lol, no giant facial disfigurations, a voice that doesn't annoy me.. not too sarcastic, I'm a very serious and honest person, and being spiteful for the sake of humor, good-intentioned or not, often gets in the way of communication and can be hurtful.

[Gregs]

Judging people on their religion... it's not very PC of you

I don't care what religion the girl is but she needs to be

-caring, loving, nurturing, feminine, the kind of girl that will make you soup or buy you medicine when you are sick

-Have an interest in cooking if not being incredible at it

- Be decently physically attractive, put some effort into looking after her body health and fitness wise

- Have emotional maturity

-Be down for adventure and fun

[SnackG]

lol Is that first part a joke?

[Apodyopsis]

Apparently people ask for walking checklists nowadays ?

For me, it'd have to be:

-Someone who is not a liar (that'slitteraly a dealbreaker for me).

-Someone with a sense of humor.

-Someone who can hold an interesting conversation.

I'm not fond of disrespectful guys either.

That's basically about it. ^^

[SnackG]

"Apparently people ask for walking checklists nowadays ?" What?

[Apodyopsis]

I meant that some answers are too detailed, going so far as mentioning ridiculous things like eye color and sh*t like that for their ~dream guy~

[SnackG]

Oh ok.

[Mesonfielde]

Well, I can understand that someone has an eye color preference, but there are always exceptions.

We just have to wait for someone to prove them wrong. :P Find someone for whom they'll actually not care that their eye color is different than the one on their "checklist". :D

[Azdoc77]

Caucasian

Tall

Really good body with six pack

Athletic

Light brown or blond hair

High sex drive

Decent job

Has patience

Does not lose temper at small things

Not a cheater

Strong personality

Dominating

Does not smoke or do drugs( ever,big turn off)

No criminal record

Kind hearted

[Azdoc77]

Should not be Muslim.

[TonyMetal25]

How about you add: "would like me to be a housewife" LOL:D

[Azdoc77]

I won't become a housewife, I'm a workaholic

[KarKingJack]

link

[AmberLynn19]

Looks:

brown or blond hair

has to be tall like 5'8 or taller

blue eyes

nice white smile

muscles

Sexual:

virgin or someone with like one other partner

has similar fantasies

wants to do it all the time

wild and adventurous in bed and ain't scared to try new things

Spiritual:

No religion forcing or conversion needed

Values:

Similar values

Honest

Loyal

Responsible

Reliable

Trust worthy

Romantic

Mental:

Intelligent

Has a college degree or higher

culture aware

Material:

Have his own cellphone & car

No debt

Has a legal job

His own place to live.

Skills: (everyone should have these)

cook

clean/organize

car/house repair/maintenance

self defense

conversation skills

social skills

healthy self esteem & confidence

[Undoubtable]

Crud me, that's a huge list. Very ambitious. Kudos.

[moaterboat]

Good luck with that, 98% of guys are eliminated by the looks category alone.

[AmberLynn19]

well I must have had luck then.

Because I have found my mister perfect. I am engaged and he is exactly what I was looking for and more :)

[DocClassic]

haha if that's the condensed list of REQUIREMENTS, id hate to see the preferences haha

[DocClassic]

i think the nazi regime has similar looks requirements as well haha

[udolipixie]

almost the same as mine

Great taste

[AmberLynn19]

haha yeah :)

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Lol hey, at least the girl knows what she wants in a man. Great list girlie and congrats on the engagement :D

[PeterCobra]

i can't help but wonder how much of this list came after meeting this particular guy and you just made a list up about him. I have a hard time thinking you carried this around in your purse and required every prospect to meet it. I'm not callin you a liar, it just seems a little hard to swallow, that's all.

[udolipixie]

@PeterCobra

lol yeah she just wrote about him after she met him & he has blond or brown hair not blond and brown.

swallow the red pill.

[AmberLynn19]

Call me what you wish idc. I know what I want in a man, and believe it or not I didn't write the list about him. Yeah he is all this and more. But I have always wanted this in a man before I met him so.

@oOsweetonessOo Thanks :)

@udolipixie thanks as well :)

[TonyMetal25]

I think you will be alone for a loooooooonnnnnnnngggggggg time, I think that any person who got all this would never need to get married, since he can do all male and females roles...he's a self sufficient men or women...good luck by the way!

[AmberLynn19]

Well Tony, I am NOT going to be alone for a long time, because I am engaged and set to be married next summer, so why don't you just be quiet about things you don't know. That is mean to say someone will be a lone for a long time when you don't know them or anything.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Why's it such a problem (guys who are complaining,) that she compiled her list together like this? It's what she wants in a man and likes - her preference not yours. Believe it or not, there are several men who fit into her list because most the things on here are naturally obtained, or easily gained/learned. So what's the problem with her list?

[tex151]

You want a guy who wants to have sex all the time, and is either a virgin or only had sex with one partner, and who is wild and adventurous in bed?

Your not going to find a guy who wants to have sex all time who has only had one other partner, think about it if he likes to have sex there's going to be more than just one partner, however he could lie and say he's only been with one other girl.

[AmberLynn19]

Well tex151 I have found someone who has only had one partner he has only ever had sex with and he is wild and crazy in bed. so be quiet

@oOsweetonessOo I know all the guys are complaining. no one asked them to read my answer if they don't like it to bad.

[SnackG]

These are STANDARDS. Not preferences.

[AmberLynn19]

yes these are my standards.

[peace-love-couture]

-Good sense of humor

-Funny

-Intelligent. I believe smart and intelligent are two different things and being smart is a rare occurrence(Stephen Hawking, Albert Einstein etc)

-Respectful of women, including his mother

-Not a religious nut

-Trustworthy

-Honest

-Loyal

-Faithful

-Not a druggy or drunk

-Have goals in life

-I must be physically attracted to him

[SnackG]

I have almost all of those. :D haha

[caseydylan]

Must have a job. Any job, I don't care about money I care about ambition and responsibility.

Must have a car.

No hard drugs (weed on occasion wouldn't bother me.)

Open-minded to different cultures/lifestyles.

Open-minded about religion, or lack of religion. (I'm an atheist)

Intelligence to a degree, I don't need an Einstein, but I need someone who I can have intelligent conversations with about things that are important to me.

[skittledittle]

you're gorgeous too! what's with all the beautiful girls on this site? share your beauty secrets! lol

[caseydylan]

You're sweet, thanks! I have no secrets, I'm ALL natural!

haha that's a lie

[skittledittle]

LOL well you look good and not like you try too hard. nice complexion. it's hard to find a natural... I don't really wear make up and stuff, but I'm looking for natural looking, light weight coverage... not to sidetrack, but what line do you use? Sephora? MAC? Covergirl?

[caseydylan]

Thanks! :) I use MAC, NARS, and Chanel. Chanel for foundation + lipgloss, MAC for eyeshadow, and NARS for bronzers + blushes. Chanel Pro Lumiere Foundation is amazing.