Is it bad when a girl says “awwww noooo that is the worst”?

[Jjboy500]

I been talking to this girl for a long time on Snapchat and we been talking for a long time. She would always start the convo and continue it but sometimes she can be confusing. When we got home for Thanksgiving break, she has been dry and leaves me on delivered for a long time and would respond back in the morning. I would usually respond to her in the afternoon but I would understand how busy she is at home with her family. I decided to test her and told her that I left something at my apartment that is supposed to be important for tomorrow and she replies back with “awwww nooo that is the worst”. Would you guys think this is a bad sign and that I should just send her a snap or text back and continue the convo?

[PrettyPriya]

No, that isn't bad at all. She is just acknowledging that it sucks you left something behind. The more worrying thing is why you feel the need to test her. That, to me, is a bit immature and lacks trust and respect.

You need to be able to trust someone, whether it be a friend, girlfriend, wife, whatever. The second trust is lost, the relationship will fall apart. I think you need to give her the benefit of the doubt that she is busy.

If she is home (presumably from school) on holiday break, she likely hasn't seen family in a while. It is important she use what time she has to enjoy her family and friends at home. There will be plenty of time (again assuming you two are in school) to spend chatting and whatnot.

The one thing you don't mention is your relationship with this girl or your intentions. Are you trying to merge this into a relationship? Is that your goal? Or, is it just friendship you are after? It is going to be really important to understand how she views it too.

[Jjboy500]

I do realize that I am being overdramatic and crazy rn , tbh I do really like this girl and I do want a relationship with her but I feel like being friends for a long time would be the best option and see where it goes. I don't know how she feels which is the problem, she always talks about wanting to come to my school to hang out, always continues the convo and even puts emojis too. We talked for 5-6 weeks one time and I usually get sad when I don’t talk to her when I never hung out with her. It’s crazy and I always ask myself what the heck am I doing. But I do like this girl and I’m not really trying to rush anything. I just don’t know how she feels and she’s a really cool person to talk too. We do get along and don’t really flirt but have normal/fun conversations.

[PrettyPriya]

I would chalk this up to her being busy at home for a holiday and not think too much into it. If things resume as normal (meaning conversations) after holiday break, I wouldn't worry about it. Just give it until then and see what happens is my best advice.

[Jjboy500]

I appreciate it!! I just have one more question, out of the information I told you, how would you describe the way she acts around me? The only compliment she has ever give me was how I’m a funny story teller

[DeeDeeDeVour]

She felt bad for you at that moment when she remarked “Awwww! Nooo! That is the worst!” She probably experienced that situation you described to her already. I don't think she was insincere. So, avoid playing games with tests like that.

[BewilderingHuman]

Unasked for advice warning: just openly communicate your concern. Because guessing in a relationship is a recipe for disaster and 0 chance at longevity. If you can’t openly and directly communicate your feelings and feel heard/understood by the other person, it’s not a relationship worth pursuing. So ask her, “hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been kind of distant. I’m actually super interested in getting to know you and seeing where things go, but I feel confused by your responses sometimes. Where are you at with things? Is there a mutual interest here or should I move on?”

Just fucking say it. Having the balls to do so is attractive in and of itself. And don’t end it with an awkward “ha” or “lmao” or “XD” or any other stupid pacifying bullshit. Just ask it confidently, and wait for the response. If you don’t get a response, then you have your answer. Move on.

[Guy13]

Yep, that the equivalent of 🙀…. Done ✅.

[Avicenna]

No, she’s just expressing concern.

[Anonymous]

Not when you get used to hearing it. 🤣