Do girls only like you when you are financially stable?

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like having a job, house, etc

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

If you have incredible good looks, celebrity, booze/drugs, or just incredible charisma, then those things don't matter as much - but for everyone else, of course those things matter. How are you going to live without a job and a residence and money for necessities like food, clothes, and transportation?

You get a pass if you are still in school, but after that, you are an adult in an adult world and are expected to take on adult responsibilities - otherwise you will be seen as a child, regardless of your age.

Note: this expectation only applies to men - men do not care about a woman's income or housing situation. We care about other things, but those aren't among them. Likewise, women get no extra points for having a house, car, great job, or degrees. Those things are irrelevant to men.

The bottom line is that life is a game and it has certain rules, and if you hope to have success, you have to play the game and follow the rules. The rules don't cover everything, so there is some room to be different in certain areas, but many of the rules are clearly defined, and whether you like it or not, you can't succeed without following those rules.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's a common misconception that all girls only like someone when they are financially stable. In reality, people's preferences and attraction are influenced by a variety of factors, and they can vary significantly from person to person.

While financial stability can be a desirable trait for some individuals, it's not the only aspect that determines attraction or the success of a relationship. Many people prioritize qualities like kindness, communication skills, shared interests, emotional support, and overall compatibility when looking for a partner.

Each person has their own unique preferences and values, and what one person finds attractive or important may not be the same for another. It's essential to remember that relationships are built on a foundation of mutual respect, trust, and understanding.

Some women may value financial stability more than others, but it's important not to generalize or make assumptions about an entire gender based on a few individuals' preferences. The key to successful relationships is being authentic, open, and respectful while finding someone who appreciates and values you for who you are as a person.

DestinyElizabeth04 · Accepted Answer

A lot of women do prefer it but I feel it's wildly taken out of context. Most women I know don't generally care if you "have your shit together" so much as you being able to prove that that is an end goal for yourself. We have no problem standing beside men who don't have it all. We start running in to problems when the person has no goals or plans of moving forward. Like the men who have zero self reliance and rely solely on someone else to take care of them (most women refer to these men as "mommies boys" because these men are looking for a mom, not a partner). Women love men who knows what they want and are making moves to obtain that goal. Self reliance is a massive turn on. If we can stand by you and hold your hand while trusting that you are going to make shit happen for us, it's extremely attractive. So while we do like having men who have already achieved stability, we have no problem jumping in to a relationship with a guy who has proven that he is on the right track to obtaining those goals.

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

Kind of? Like I don't think anyone prefers a relationship in which the other person is constantly coming to you for financial support. That's not fun. So I think most people prefer to be with someone who's at least as "on top of things" as they are. (Ex. I'm a student so I really don't expect a dude to be like 100% financially independent given I'm probably meeting other students.) But like, if you aren't putting in the work to make a life for yourself it does make a person wonder what you  are  doing? (And yes, I acknowledge that some people have complex situations. It's mostly just a "are you making realistic efforts to support yourself? If yes, then we're probably good.)

Anonymous · Answer

In the U. S., yes. I can attest to that from having lived on the streets, and having traveled the continent with high 5 figures. Like you? No my friend, not like... if you're not financially well off, or trying to put off the aura that you are (fake bling, rental car with booming speakers, dope dealing, etc), you won't even get BASIC human courtesy in public. Half the time they'll cross the street after making brief eye contact-even from 20 yards away. I've spent time in 46 states. It's not everywhere, but it'll happen far more often than not. The ironic part is... the ones that'll do that to you, aren't well off themselves. Not even close. I didn't get women that did that to me in San Francisco. I definitely did in Huntington, W. Va and Texas though. Well off people aren't wannabees... they don't have anything to prove. They're not the ones on social media typing "Cashapp me!" With their asses up to the camera face. Ones in Tennessee and Ohio who work at Piggly Mart and get food stamps and date low level drug dealing baby daddies are the ones who'll treat you like that. I've lived on both sides of the spectrum. That's been my experience coast to coast to coast 99 percent of the time.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Honestly- yeah. At least as you get older and your priorities change.

I see you're in your mid to late 20s, so you're probably working and trying to get your life in order, anon. By this point, yes, most women are looking for guys that are stable, working, and at least have an apartment or their own place (though with the cost of living, if you're still living with your parents, no one will judge you!)

Being financially secure and stable is a sign of responsibility and maturity- if you can provide for yourself, ideally should be able to provide for a potential partner as well. That's typically why most women prefer guys that are stable... contrary to how most guys think, "Oh, she's just after my money!"

Nowadays most couples that live together, or "dual households" function best with a have dual income to make ends meat; she's not after your money guys: she wants a guy she can build and be secure with.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Nope, I had heaps of girls all over me in college when I was living on my friend's couch, had a $600 truck I bought at an impound yard that had a hood tied on with baling wire. I smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol, wore torn shirts and pants.

But I was fun and loving, always made time for people that mattered to me. For some girls it's not about money at all, and actually for a lot of them, even ones who care about money. It's about how you make them feel.

Do girls only like you when you are financially stable?

If you're a filthy poor pig, be a sweet filthy poor pig.

Anonymous · Answer

No, they like you even if you’re broke but you are sexually appealing and sexually desirable. 👍 . If you only get rich and stay looking like an Ogre, she’ll only tolerate you for a while. Then she’ll cheat. (  Women care about looks more than Men do.  )

MissTay · Answer

For relationships? Majority of the times yes but not always. For sex, ask most women what the best sex of their life was and it's usually a guy that had no stable home or some weird off the wall job if any, no car. It's like they have to compensate for all that somehow and blow your mind into orbit

Simslover92 · Answer

Not necessarily but it does play a big factor in a lot of girls' decision in being with a guy for the most part but there are girls who would go for a guy who isn't financially stable yet. Like my boyfriend doesn't have a house yet and I'm with him. He lives with roommates which is smart because he's trying to save up.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

There are different classes of women, they're not all the same.
Lower class typically means lower expectations. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but a 22 year old girl with no money and no place of her own probably won't expect much from her boyfriend either.
But a woman who has worked hard to get her life in order will most likely expect him to carry his own weight

Billlewis · Answer

I think that's probably true to some extent, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. The law of supply and demand favors women, and the law of natural selection favors women, as well. She can ask for whatever she wants and if she gets everything she's asking for, she deserves it, in my opinion.

stepyo99 · Answer

Yes. A woman's base state of existence is that of a leech. Obviously, many women rise above that and can be useful in many ways and actually bring value into a relationship, but the majority of women simply use their bodies to extract resources from men and don't really contribute anything ever.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

A man that owns things makes him responsible. Responsible enough to hold down a job. Mature enough to hold down a job, and stays employed and not bouncing from one job to the next. Jobs mean health insurance. Health insurance means staying healthy. One of the best things a man can own is a home.

Someone that is financially stable knows what he wants in life, went after it, and secured it.

Being financially stable means being emotionally stable, emotionally secure.

Kabluie · Answer

I've always noticed a shift when it's mentioned what my career is, being a homeowner, or some places I been. I don't do it in a way to flash it's just my regular everyday life. It is true it does add some like as it shows you are responsible and mature. A relationship that is financially stable also practically eliminates several problems, and pitfalls.

JayBfencepost · Answer

Young girls like guys who are like their dad, regardless of their income. Mature women realize what they want and will be more inclined to make a relationship with someone's stable who can provide for them emotionally as well. However, a more mature woman bit of fun on the way to finding that guy.

Jersey2 · Answer

That is the conventional wisdom of the day but it just doesn't match reality.

Lots of guys in prison get women and even get married although they have life sentences. Explain that one. And what about the street level drug dealer or the gang member who can’t get a job along with the heroin addict… these guys do surprisingly well at times.

So no, they like more than guys that are financially stable. There is someone for everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

A husband must have financial security. A great man have a shelter, a fast means of transportation whether public or private, and a wife. Many people believe having the first two before marriage is important, but some women agree on marriage before having them.

jwmiller95 · Answer

If a woman has the choice between two strangers, she would pick the more stable one. (I mean who wouldn't?)

Some might leave a man if she thought he couldn't provide for her. Every woman is different just pray you find one that would ride or die for you

mandyfire98 · Answer

It's very important because it shows you can take care of yourself and are mature and responsible. You don't have to be rich but you need to be able to financially take care of yourself and be responsible.

purplepoppy · Answer

Yes because it means you've got your shit together and are responsible. The amount you earn isn't as important as your ability to show you can live within your means.

Tomisworthless · Answer

No I’d say it’s expected I was broke before and unattractive to women and now I’m stable and make decent money and still am unattractive to women. Regardless of what you own and how you present yourself looks open the door and personality keeps interest and those two i lack in.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Only a girl that does not need money will be okay with dating a guy with no money. Just like generous people are not generous if their bellies are empty, girls care about money if they can't survive with just one income in the relationship.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No. Girls like you when you show the readiness to commit, attention and care. If you fail at any of them, they will be scared of you and will try not to invest fully from the beginning, so they won’t get their heart broken.

rigmarole · Answer

Pretty much... 80% of them are gold diggers. If you give them a whiff of money/wealth at any time and their entire tone changes. It's gross to watch really. The majority of them have absolutely no character.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, that is just an excuse some men use for their lack of success with women. They have to blame it on something.

RoseySarah · Answer

No some women are dumb as rocks and adore losers who leave them with 4 kids and debt

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, those things typically never come up, and I've attracted great looking women in both my most stable and most unstable points in life, and still do, enough to be very picky and wait for the right one.

electromagnetic · Answer

The younger generation don’t care much but what I’ve notice for people 27+ dating, there are things they look for yo determine if this is right for them. Stability being one.

Anonymous · Answer

Remember "hot mugshot guy" he lost his stuff and went to jail and girls were all over him on social media. There was also Alex from Target, who was a kid, with no house, working a minimum wage, dead end job. Girls were all over him on social media too.

Neither were financially well off nor famous when the girls started simping for them.

virtualwasp · Answer

no we like a guy who is on the same page as us, even if he's getting himself sorted the drive and goals need to correlate.

Sonorous · Answer

Not only. But largly. Women have more conditions that a man must meet. And men seem okay with that so it mostly works out.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Well it doesn't really get the juices flowing if you're 30 years old and living in your mom's basement.

Anemone978 · Answer

It makes you more dateable I suppose but I got with my guy young when he was a pizza delivery guy, living with his parents lol

provokeesmokee · Answer

No, but it certainly helps. Hard to build a relationship with someone if they're never financially able to support themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all girls mind, I'm sure it depends on the person but it sure does help doenst it? everyone would wanna be financially stable and I would also want my boyfriend to eventually be stable and never stress

BlackJeep · Answer

I'm not a girl but I think its reasonable for them to not be interested in someone who doesn't have a job, or no place to live, or no mode of transportation. Those standards aren't too high

Sour-rose · Answer

I would. It only means to me you got your shit in order so I don't gotta worry

Fireguy17 · Answer

not always. My ex-wife when we were dating was fine with me bouncing around from 1 job to another.

kellytheman · Answer

It helps girls do what’s a guy that can be a provider and has is ducks in a row. That probably why younger women like older guys by the financial situation.

anonguy2000 · Answer

I think for attracting one initially it plays a roll for sure.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.. women dont like to provide for their men.. its not natrual for us

boobliker · Answer

not all ways. In my younger days, I had one that look after me for about a year and I do miss her.

MissBoogus · Answer

As people get older I would think so. But when I was 18 I met my boyfriend who was homeless, none of that mattered to me at all!

Massageman · Answer

Being stable is a plus, regardless of one's sex or station in life.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some do, but even unemployed homeless guys can find girlfriends.

Dkc123 · Answer

A female doesn't like what she needs she just needs it.  She likes what she wants..

Anonymous · Answer

No, but it plays a MAJOR part in how attractive you are to a woman. Study after study has been conducted that has proven this.

Heolurt · Answer

Yes, they'll tell you the opposite but the moment you fall on hard times they mentally end the relationship.

Kacka · Answer

girls no. girls like to have good drink. good fuck and no ugly cunts in them lives. womens needs a man stable man

In_Trance · Answer

Not always the case

Fuentes · Answer

It'd apart of being a man and most women look for actual MEN.

muscles_glasses · Answer

if those things make you happy than go for it... doing something because you think its what they want is the biggest mistake

dolemite58 · Answer

yes, men have to have their shit together while girls can essentially be broke losers and get laid by merely existing.

shades777 · Answer

they like you when your fit, handsome as well but money solves a lot of issues too

OddBeMe · Answer

That is the default human. Your state of homelessness isn’t…

msc545 · Answer

Not just stable - also RICH and "generous".

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, financially stability is the only attractive thing

RavVid · Answer

Yes, they don't pick up homeless guys.

Avicenna · Answer

most of the time, yeah

kerrieK001 · Answer

For most yeah. It shows responsibility.

zebronics · Answer

Almost all the time Yes

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

No, not always.

Exterminatore · Answer

Yeah.

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