I’m still very much in love after several years with two men that I’ve had situationships with. *Ian*; who doesn’t respect me and *Brian;* who has no desire to work. However, neither of these situationships have gone anywhere as the years have passed and I still find myself on my own in my mid thirties. I’ve recently started wondering if maybe it’s time I moved on? I’ve lost heaps of weight and I’ve been approached by some hot guys interested in relationships. Should I start with one of them; and sleep with or date a few different men (one at a time)? Would that help me to move on faster? I’m Autistic, so I’m afraid I’m not very worldly for my age or sure of the best way to move forward, as nothing else like refraining from dating has changed my feelings for these men.
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Is it time for me to move on?
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Yo girl, I think it's definitely time for you to move on from Ian and Brian. Neither one seems like they're really there for you in the way you need.
Don't waste more of your good years waiting around for dudes who don't respect you or can't even get their lives together. You deserve way better sis!
It might help to put yourself out there and test the waters dating some new guys. Get your mind off Ian and Brian for a bit. Don't feel like you gotta jump into anything serious right away either.
Just go on some dates, have fun getting to know new people. See how it feels. If one leads to something casual or short-term, I say go for it. Some experience with different guys could be good for getting over your exes.
But don't stress if nothing clicks right away either. Take your time and do you. The right one will come along when you least expect it, for real!
Just keep putting yourself out there sis. Ian and Brian's loss is gonna be someone else's gain someday soon, mark my words. Chin up - you got this!
Hell yeah, go play hop skotch
It is indeed time to move on