Has my guy friend been talking about me? if so why?

[amanda_jaileen]

I noticed that my homegirl who is also friends with my guy friend knows a lot about me I used to share a lot of stuff on my instagram page about my narcissistic ex there was this one time I posted on my story of being at the hospital he seen my story and told my friend because she asked me if I was ok and I only have her on Snapchat, so the only way she knew I was at the hospital was because my homie told her then when I got out the hospital he seen my story and texted me and ask me what had happen? I replied back and explain things to him, then a few months later I start it posting about my narcissistic ex how I developed trust issues I also feel on edge now when it comes to meeting new people and I remember telling my female friend few things but not how I felt about meeting new people, yesterday I went to a concert and another guy friend of hers came with us but she had to tell me that this guy friend of hers is just like our homie that’s chill as if she knew that I have trust issues as if she knew that I felt on edge when it came to meeting new people.

[DoggyDude]

Your exhibiting classic paranoid behaviour here.

Lets look at this pratically... why does it matter? because at the end of the day, you can't control the world, you can only decide what you do and hope and ask the world to respect you.

Let's look a the possilble answers:

• Yes, your guy friend has been talking about you
• No, your guy friend hasn't said anything, but people found out another way
• Maybe, generally no, but perhaps something he didn't say clued in others

If the answer is Yes:

Why is that a problem? I can imagine a few possible reasons, but ulitmately the following remain true for any problem:

• Anything you do or didn't do might become known
• Most people don't care (and the ones who do care, will talk to you, rather than assume any bad thing)
• Even if you shared some private secret, which only could be know via you sharing it; Unless you've only shared it to one person alone and noone else could possibly discover it, you could never be certain who has revealed it. Even if you can be pretty sure, you can't rule out that possibly someone guessed it.
• Bad people enjoy setting other people to be paranoid, what they do is, they throw stuff at the wall and watch what makes the other person uncomfortable or act; Then they assume its either right or a tool to get under their skin, and there is a sad part of humanity who enjoy this. They can easily find out stuff, just by this process.

Hopefully you will see that, whether a friend has been talking about you or not is really not relevent; What you are better to do, is work on what your sensitve about, realise why it would bother you for it to be leaked and correct that. Rather than try to police all your friends for secure and insecure ones, trusted and untrusted (or at least, realise trust is about long term attitude towards considering what you would want, rather than any kind of perfect secret keeper).

When you understand that, you'll realise that generally you should just be open, unless someone is found to be using stuff against you. That can be found simply by looking at the way they work toward you, not with what they do or don't say (directly).

Though to answer the original question, we can't know if he has or hasn't been talking about you, nor can we know if that talk has been postive or negative, nor if it is deserved critcism or undeserved bulling or attack.

As to why, assuming he was, perhaps he needed to speak about some behaviour that bugged him; Perhaps he was just gushing about someone he thought was amazing and leaked something sensitive; Perhaps someone asked him something outright knowing it might be true and how he looked gave something away even though he said nothing.

Ultimately it doesn't matter, work on not needing secrets, instead (and for emotional sharing, which you don't want shared but isn't secret, realise that if someone finds it out its fine, not that the person you shared it with let you down).

[JayBones]

Because he's a bitch and your an easy cunt. Neck yourself

[laly520]

ig u may be paranoid