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Is tolerating abuse/disrespect the best way to show just how much you would put up with for someone you really care about?

Aliyahha
Is tolerating abuse/disrespect the best way to show just how much you would put up with for someone you really care about?

I had been dating this guy. Who I cared about a lot. I still do, but I had to part ways. So much I did anything for him. He’s an artist who does tattoos so when he asked me to get him a tattoo kit so that he could do them on others to make some money I bought it. Called myself investing in his dream. He also didn’t have a car and I don’t drive so I let him use my Lyft and Uber account to get around.

He asked for air pods, I got them. He would want to go shopping and ask for money I would let him use my debit card or take money out. I did all that not wanting anything in return. He can be a gentleman. Opening doors, never letting me walk on the wrong side of the street, holding my hand when crossing the street but he has a temper and recently he put his hands on me because of his own insecurities and I stayed the night at his house after he did it when I should have left the same night instead I stayed.

Pondered on it. We Kissed and said goodbye the next morning because regardless like I said, I did and do still have feelings for him but I knew that I knew better than to let a guy hit me over pretty much nothing. So I got home and ended things but not harshly and it wasn’t even necessarily a break up. Me just saying that I care about him but I can’t continue to put up with him, his temper and now him putting his hands on me. That it was becoming overwhelming All he said was “Ok”’so I figured he didn’t care like I did anyway. A day goes by I get text from him asking if I needed any money. It was so random, I was confused but I told him I didn’t need any money.

Another Day goes by and I get a message of a screenshot he took of his bank account with a nice deposit and he says “This is what you could have got had you stayed down for me. All you had to do was trust me. All I needed was someone to talk to and you turned your back on me.” Now anything I did for him it wasn’t to get something in return which is what I told him when he sent the screenshot and I realized why he asked what he asked the day before. Once again I turned down the money and I wished him the best in his life and he just goes “Whatever.” I have been trying to get an expensive possession back that I left at his house but he won’t even respond to my text. I even sent a random hey text just to get him to say anything so I could get what it back, still nothing. It’s like he insinuated that me not tolerating abuse or disrespect meant I wasn’t “down”
for him despite all I did, which I still have never rubbed in his face, and now he’s upset at me and I can’t get my things returned.

Which is why I created this MyTake.

Is tolerating abuse/disrespect the best way to show just how much you would put up with for someone you really care about?
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