When someone tells you they need space, how long do you wait before you start dating someone else?

[Anonymous]

Has not answered phone or returned messages all day . We have been together for almost 2 years. This person has been treating me worse and worse each day and basically acts like they could care less. Even after all the mean stuff done to me, I still feel like I would be doing something wrong if I went out on a date with another. How long are we expected to wait, if at all, in a situation where someone you love and thought loved you says they need more space and then avoids you?

[Rei02]

I'm very sorry, but there are some thing you can't do like changing his mind and make him return to you.

I know what you feel, I have passed by this.

You have to accept the fact that he doesn't like you as the way you like him and continue with your life.

Don't force yourself with dating another guy. I know that you want now to date another so that you can forget him and that you can feel the same for him with another one.

Don't look for him, because it will be worse if you harass him (even if you don't know you do it and/or it is not your intention).

Think about yourself, think about activities you want to do and think about your family and friends who can support you even in the hardest times. Continue living your own life. Don't wait for the love because it will come even in the most unexpectedly ways. Just continue with your life.

[Asker]

Today he has called saying he wants to work it out. this keeps happening. he says when I call him I frustrate him. so he doesn't answer and then turns his phone off all night. in morning I get a text message . I go to call him. no answer then phone off again. then he denys he turned phone off and I have caught him on EVERY SEX/DATING SITE YOU CAN THINK OF saying he is looking for no strings attached sex! he wants me to come over and try to work it out and says I'm giving up on us! its my fault

[Rei02]

Stop calling him and investigating about him, he has to call you and tell you what he really wants from you because he first says one thing and then he is contradicting himself.

Also, think about what you want, do you want a superficial or a deep relationship? If he calls you again, tell him that you have to think about coming over his house, that you are no giving up on him, you are only giving his space as he told you.

[stephy92391]

honestly just forget about him he isn't worth your time if he's treating you bad then get the hell away from him you deserve better move on and find a guy that will actually appreciate you I know its hard but its really the best thing to do if he wants you back he will return meanwhile just have fun and meet new people

[Reeses-pieces777]

if it was a meaningful relationship, I'd wait at least a month but that's roughly about it. there really isn't a set time. I took a 2 year break from dating but that was because I met a jerk.

[WakaJawaka]

If someone hasn't returned messages for only a single day, I don't think that's automatically a huge problem.

But asking for space is usually a bad sign for a relationship.

If what you describe is the beginning of the end, who says you must wait for someone? Why not take control of your life and break it off yourself? Even if you don't want to break it off, you have other options that sitting on your hands and waiting for him.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Today he has called saying he wants to work it out. this keeps happening. he says when I call him I frustrate him. so he doesn't answer and then turns his phone off all night. in morning I get a text message . I go to call him. no answer then phone off again. then he denys he turned phone off and I have caught him on EVERY SEX/DATING SITE YOU CAN THINK OF saying he is looking for no strings attached sex! he wants me to come over and try to work it out and says I'm giving up on us! its my fault

[WakaJawaka]

Wow, he's really jerking you around.

why do you tolerate such mistreatment?

[DrJones]

The "need space" part isn't the problem, this is:

>This person has been treating me worse and worse each day and basically acts like they could care less.

So, when should you feel free to start dating someone else? Right now.

[Artificial Intelligence]

How long should you give someone their space?

When it comes to giving someone their space, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. The amount of space you give someone depends on the situation and the relationship between you and the other person.

• If you're in a new relationship, it's important to give your partner some space to figure out what they want and how they feel about you. This doesn't mean you have to give them complete freedom to do whatever they want, but it does mean giving them room to breathe and explore their feelings.
• If you're in a long-term relationship, there may be times when your partner needs some space to deal with personal issues or problems at work. Again, this doesn't mean you have to give them complete freedom, but it does mean giving them room to work through their problems.
• If you're not sure how much space to give someone, a good rule of thumb is to give them as much space as they need, but no more. If you give them too much space, they may start to wonder if you're losing interest in them. If you don't give them enough space, they may feel suffocated and start to pull away from you.

The bottom line is that you should always communicate with your partner to figure out how much space they need. Only you knows the dynamics of your relationship and what will work best for both of you.

How do you give someone space without losing them?

There are a few ways to give someone space without losing them.

The most important thing is to communicate with the person you want to give space to. Let them know that you need some time and why. It's also important to be clear about what kind of space you need. Do you need physical space or emotional space?

After you communicate your needs, respect the space that they need as well. If they need physical space, don't try to invade their personal space. If they need emotional space, don't try to force them to talk about their feelings. Just be patient and understanding. Lastly, don't try to control the situation.

If you give someone space and they leave, let them go. Trying to control the situation will only make things worse.

[Anonymous]

if he has treated you bad...n continues to treat you bad. I would give yourself a 2 weeks to get yourself together, and then move on. 2 weeks for yourself...not 2 weeks to wait for him to come back to you or tlk to u. You need to work on yourself before getting into a relationship, plus you don't wanna rebound by dating tooo quickly either

good luck =)

[WakaJawaka]

Good answer. Too many people sit on their hands, waiting on bad people. And in this case, after 2 years, she might want to avoid dating for more than 2 weeks.

[nbc5023]

I would give him a week to make sure he will not be coming back and then go ahead.

[Asker]

Wow. really? we normally talk everyday. a week is a very long time .

[Asker]

Today he has called saying he wants to work it out. this keeps happening. he says when I call him I frustrate him. so he doesn't answer and then turns his phone off all night. in morning I get a text message . I go to call him. no answer then phone off again. then he denys he turned phone off and I have caught him on EVERY SEX/DATING SITE YOU CAN THINK OF saying he is looking for no strings attached sex! he wants me to come over and try to work it out and says I'm giving up on us! its my fault . i

[nbc5023]

Alright he is hopeless end it now.

[uteted]

a minute is too much...