Help needed very confused about Guy friends feelings to me? Please honest answers?

[Lynn1989]

Hi am good friends with a guy at my work who is 10 years younger and just moved in with his girlfriend. we always been great close mates.

We had stupid row as he showed he liked me but on night out said he didn't and flirted with someone else but my friend said why would he say that but obvious does like me as he knows am with someone and he knows long term he could not have me but it hurt what he did.
Then recently again he changing back and
Going back to his old self like trying to get my attention lots, buys me drinks at work and social events all around me, buys me birthday gifts and Christmas, no one else, compliments me lot on clothes and my weight loss, says am such a kind hearted good girl.

Will reply via text to see if am ok when down, likes to give me ideas for songs in charts and recipe ideas, if I have laugh with another guy friend who sits opposite to me at work he looks down as he next bank and butts in and starts talking to him to kinda interupt, he loves to tease me and make me laugh, says nice top or always asks how my evening was but never asks no one else. Recently he been asking me bout what to do about him n his girlfriend arguing all time but loves her but says it gets him down, as am so relaxed and chilled out wish she like that.

It's like he don't want our conversations to end when I give him lift in car its weird but when I say how much I care and give him cuddle he goes shy and blushes but don't say nothing back.

But if I don't say he my favourite or give him attention be in his team on quizes etc he goes mardy, am very confused as we have said before in a round about way it can't happen not directly though, another thing on a night out he just stares at me most of night and dances near me but won't ever do anything it's really weird. I want people's honest opinion and yes I have bf who i love lots but confused?

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I want to ask him but daren't he knows am having problems with my bf and something my bf did really upset me, he asked me again today and said I would finish with them but up to you your life, but he goes I don't like what he done to my Lynn and looked really upset, what does that mean as a friend? As today he did compliment another girl on her looks but he said being nice am his number 1

[Heathrowguy]

In my opinion he likes you. How much only he knows. However he knows his boundaries/limitations. He sees nice likeable attributes that are not present in his own current relationship. He may have you as a fallback. He doesn't want you to get hooked up with someone else. He cares & is attentive to you. He wants you in his life. Hooefully hell open up 1 day & tell yiu hiw he really feels.

[Lynn1989]

He sometimes says your too old for me and laughs and randomly says am friendzoned but laughs when I say nothing but he hates it when we argue I feel like he scared of liking me but seems happy for me but don't want to me to meet his gf but y not admit likes me

[Heathrowguy]

In life you meet people all the time. We're all different. There are looks/personality/traits that are more appealing in people. Personally speaking I had 2 friend zoned girls that I liked. As there were bits in each of them I was attracted to. I didn't want them attached to another guy as I wasn't sure of my final choice. Just tell him straight up if he likes you more than a friend or he has deeper feelings. Don't tired the issue but request he thinks about it & he doesn't need to answer the question straight away. you'll need to be ready to answer how you feel as it would be fair & forthcoming.

[Lynn1989]

Does that mean you think he does like me but confused or scared why he says nothing and acts normal? He so shy when alone and kind and I feel so drawn to him and I know he kinda feels same as he says we so alike and laughs but fact is we both with people and because we kind of people who can't hurt our partners we like this, he confides in me lots about things which I feel is a sign of trust?

[Heathrowguy]

From what you're saying he feels very confortable with you. He does like you. However how much I can't speak for him. There's something definitely there. Only you need to slowly open up his true feelings. Just don't force the question but say it a way like if he can see himself with another person other than his present girlfriend. Slow approach. Hooefully he'll speak from his heart. Guys sonetimes keep things embedded inside & won't let out their true feelings. Just need to be patient & understanding. Good luck.

[Lynn1989]

Hi today for instance he really complimenting my work trousers in front of people and loves treating me to drink at work, I jokingly said something then went on my lunch, he came and found me about half hour later and asked if I was upset with him I said was joke, he said worried he had upset me, but it's like he hates upsetting me, akways saying sorry for not replying to work emails straight away, but this change in him happened the last few weeks, he seems not truly happy with his gf as he don't see his own family now only hers and her friends, but people are noticing ie my close girl mates saying you and him very close, why you over him n vice versa

[Heathrowguy]

Hey he's changing definitely. If you care about someone so deeply like he demonstrates he has feelings for you. I think he knows your the person he would rather be. It's quite obvious. If I loved my girlfriend & had deep feelings. I definitely wouldn't show that much care to another girl as my g/friend will always be on my mind, heart etc. I suggest you have a 1 to 1 conversation in private & tell him you truly like him a lot. Then add if he has any feelings for you but you need to mention that you respect his relationship he has with his girlfriend. He I feel is conveying to you how much you mean to him in a non-verbal way. He may want you to open him up & so he can speak up on his present situation/feelings/future. He's definitely not that happy with his present relationship as otherwise he wouldn't have shown such interest & caring attitude to you. Hope thus helps. Without me knowing the guy I can only suggest that this is a new development & he needs guidance. Be brave & chat.

[Lynn1989]

I defiantly feel something but he stares a lot at the younger girls but not Pervy way but I know he says he only date girls around his age but he acts different to me, like constantly saying stuff and today he said are you laughing at something I said n I said yeah he loved the fact it was about him but am scared he will say only like u as friend, as he says other girls office pretty but don't chat or do any of these things to them, I feel am going mad please do you generally think likes me

[Heathrowguy]

Yea I think there is something there definitely. How much only the guy knows. Maybe he's assessing the current situation & looking into his innermost desires of what he actually wants. You definitely make him comfortable & he likes you. Time will tell if he will eventually open up his true inner feelings if they are directed towards you. Or maybe you'll have to unlock those for him. One of you will need to start having deeper conversations on feelings/relationship to rid any uncertainty.

[Lynn1989]

You put if they aimed at me feelings? What do you mean? I am unsure what to say though, as we work togeather and both with people as I could have it wrong but the things he does and say, the constant Sorrys, my brother is going to repair his gfs car and he can't do yet so I suggesred my Bfs uncle, but he insists my brother, is that strange or me thinking that? I still feel though he may say just friends like kinda before, but you would not act like this surely not!!! It's little things like I'll say " want drink canteen" he will say " awwww yes n I'll get u one as I love seeing u smile" n then I'll go n turn round and he grooming himself

[Heathrowguy]

Yea the smile comment reaffirms strongly he likes you more than friends. Only people whom have more care/feelings say that sort of thing.

[Heathrowguy]

Thanks for MHO 😉

[William_Kendrick]

girlfriend you're on the hook.

in other words, you're a backup plan. stop replying, ignore him, block his texts, move along.

your his side girl, and unless this makes you happy i would get out of there as soon as possible.

[Lynn1989]

He treats me with lots of respect and very good friend will only text more if I do him as his gf not keen very jealous or if he needs something but at work always round me, if m backup why not tried on? I did say I woukd feel bad if hurt my bf and he did go why would you I said way I am and he said me too I can't, but seems nervous round me when we alone but when others there all confident etc

[William_Kendrick]

it could simply be he's waiting for you to get out of your relationship, but honey, dont play with him. he's interested in you in some way as more than a friend. no matter how kind of a person you are you do not bother doing the things he does unless you want more than just a friendly relationship.

ask him out right if he likes you in that way, then ask him if you didn't have a boyfriend would he treat you differently. thats my take on it. i hope this helped in some small way :)

either way, you're gonna have to decide. dont leave him on a hangar. he deserves better, dont you think? :)

[Lynn1989]

But today he seemed bit off with me if honest, so I left him to it but felt upset but then he asked later am I ok I said stuff bout my bf talk when u have time, he goes oh ok and then helped him with work stuff and he was being like if u not happy with ur bf your next one should be older not younger and saying how he taking his gf out for meal like really putting me off him then we got outside and he Changed back to himself and saying am his babe etc, and laughing saying ur the best and love u to bits but someone else was at work when saying other stuff, why act all strange initially to me when I said hey how's u?, we been really good then like that