What are some clear signs that a guy is a player?

Question

Guys who are players, and girls who know how to spot a player. PLEASE TELL ME.

I don't fall in love easily but when I do IT"S WITH A PLAYER.

This sounds so cliche I know, but are there some signs that scream *PLAYER*. Guys who are not willing to love you, but just like the process of getting you to love him so he can move on to the next victim.| I'm fed up of only being with players, guys who don't know what they want who DON'T FIGHT FOR WHAT THEY WANT. In short, I'm sick of little boys.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hold the phone a player knows what he wants. He wants the fuck you. Ever take geometry? There are axioms or postulates that are absolutes like the sum of the angles of a triangle ===180 degrees. Or two points connect a straight line. You need to know the axioms of a player. They get you to fall in love with them not so they can move onto the next girl but so they can fight you and then move onto the next girl. Players know exactly what they want and they fight for it so your last sentence is kind of wrong.
Okay players want in your pants so therefore, they rarely if ever criticize your actions. If you show up late they understand, it is rare for them to say they don't like your outfit. They will never comment on your outfit unless you ask them, "how do I look?" And then you will always look sensational, "you look sensational – I could fall in love with you."
They always hint at possibly falling in love with you because you're so fantastic. They never say they do or if they do is really where and after you say you love them. Getting back to the original axiom – they want to get in your pants. Players often vanish mysteriously without explanation. Now you are 20 years old. Pardon me if I offend you but that's not very old. How old are the guys you are dating? I sure hope you're not dating guys over 25. At age 20 somebody over 25 has infinitely more experience than you do and can wrap you around their finger without you even knowing it. What that means is that you mostly will be dating little boys so be on guard for what I would call "players in training."PIT don't spend a lot of money because they don't have a lot of money to spend. And therefore they always want to hang with you at who's in the house is empty. That is a sure sign of a player in training. I am not saying that they need to stay at home because they don't have a lot of money I am saying all of the time. I'll tell you my recommendation that I use for me when I was 20 by the way I am 25. A guy in school is rarely a player a guy going for his masters degree is rarely a player.
I don't understand why you put in GUYS and don't fight for what they want I hope your definition of player is the same as mine.
What are you looking for? You not looking to get married I? At 20 years of age you shouldn't be looking to get married obviously you shouldn't be looking to date players but I don't believe the guys who are eligible to date would be all players. In order to avoid players you need a lot more exp

zombiebabe · Accepted Answer

its not hard to find out:
he's flirty with other chicks
he might accidentally call you by another name
you might receive messages from him that were for someone else
he won't care about you
he won't want to meet you as much as you might want to meet him
he will lie a lot to you
he will promise you the moon and won't do sh*t
he is good at using his words
he will get defensive if you try and see his phone
he will keep his phone out of your sight
he might act violent towards you or say words that are gonna hurt you
he will have A LOT of female friends you've never heard about before
p. s ; am sharing these with you cause i've been in that type of situation before... you have any questions feel free to ask me

phil2 · Accepted Answer

I have dated a player before. He compared me to other girls he was seeing and I also stalked his then MySpace plus I asked around about his history with others. I also asked a lot of questions. Would you ever cheat on me? Why do you like me? Those are my main questions when I was dating.

Cosytoasty · Accepted Answer

Inc essay.

Someone who keeps his options open, he'll talk to you and make you feel JUST special enough to keep you on the hook. But you can bet he's doing the same to 2 or 3 other women as well. Watch how he interacts with other women - any woman. He'll flirt and he'll give her his 100% attention for a short time when engaging her, but as soon as another engages him he'll shift that to her. However he doesn't leave the first one hanging, he brings her into the conversation and makes both of them almost... wait their turn to talk to him.

His confidence is almost magnetic, you are drawn to it. He is so comfortable with himself that he doesn't care if you exhibit jealousy, or frustration or even anger - because he knows he's got you, that's why he doesn't need to fight for you. His speech and delivery is on point, always knows the right amount of give and take, a skilled player almost NEVER seems to put a foot wrong. He has an almost irresistible personality (@chintita lel). Overall, he just seems so damn smooth and charming, he makes you laugh and makes you feel good virtually ALL the time. Whenever something goes wrong you end up thinking it's your fault because you feel you've overreacted to something he's done. He's careful to never do something so bad that you call him out - it's a culmination of seemingly insignificant things.

Here's where it splits, a douchebag will keep playing these games because it gives him satisfaction knowing he has such control over you women. A genuine guy who "plays" a little will actually open up for the right girl. If both are skilled, it's really difficult to tell which is which - and there are many cases where even if he was a good guy, you were not the right girl for him.

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

Players are difficult to spot, cause they're good at faking, and they tend to be what you want on a guy.
I feel like you described a fuckboy instead of a player.

Trying to spot a player may make you close up to real good guys. Players tell you what you want to hear, but what if a guy really means it? Are you gonna assume he's a player and let go of a great guy?

Fuckboys are easy to spot, but players aren't, there's really no real signs, cause it all differs from girl to girl. I would say the only sign is if he never has time to spend with you, or if he talks to many other girls in a flirty way.

SolApakalypse · Answer

Players aren't 'little boys'. Little boys don't know what they want. Players KNOW what they want. They want to get you in bed. Simple as that. One thing you CAN do, is date a guy for a few months before having sex with him. Someone who's really interested in you beyond sex shouldn't mind. And if you have sex with a 'non player' too early, there's a chance he won't be interested in you any longer (because you weren't a challenge) and then you'll end up perceiving this 'non player' as a player. Don't fall in love too easily, and be smart about your sexual choices. On a side note, if you fall in love with a guy because of sex, that's not love.

alor1an · Answer

here's a couple that i've picked up. 1) if a guy asks for your number, without asking for your name first, he's a player. 2) if a guy asks if you've "got a man," and then tells you "you can just be friends" when you say you're not interested than he's a player. 3) if a guy acts like he's too busy for you, but wants you to contact him, particularly at certain times of the day (i. e. at night), than he's a player.

there are more of course, but it depends on the circumstances.

llorando · Answer

His living room looks just like this.

Anonymous · Answer

From my experience these were the signs I've learnt to spot.
A guy who only wants to hang out at home or somewhere where you can have sex easily.
A guy who won't pay and avoids datish scenes
A guy you constantly have to chase in the early stages (once consistency and trust has been made then it's fine to do that sometimes)
A guy who will message you all day long to make him seem like he's interested but will only see you late nights and on such short notice
A guy who you simply don't progress with.. Don't meet each other's friends, don't start making a deeper connection etc

Hope that helps

TayTay21 · Answer

When his 'game' is a little too slick, he's a player. Most guys don't have game at all. When a guy is nervous and somewhat awkward in talking to me, I know he's a genuine person who's just intimidated by me. A slick delivery just tells me he's practiced that shit on lots of girls.

Anonymous · Answer

When you're attracting the same type of guy over and over you need to look within yourself to figure out why. Don't bother with trying to understand them and their traits.
Players usually come on strong in the beginning, it's called love bombing. Generally a girl with low self esteem will get sucked in by this. What's your self esteem like?
Coming on strong is generally a red flag.
You may need to change up how you react to them. Do you sleep with them early? By holding out you can easily tell what they're after and if they're genuine. A player wouldn't wait around long.

noisette91 · Answer

Well, if he's overly self confident, doesn't have a lot of time for you and always seems busy with something else, if he's a really really smooth talker, then he's probably a player. also, if you get the feeling he's "perfect" then he's probably lying.

DocHolliday904 · Answer

never took part in this practice (why? because I wouldn't want it to happen to me) so I have no "personal experience" but any guy who's lines seem rehearsed (in person is really the only way this works) and he seems to have no worries what-so-ever of rejection... proooooooooooobably a player

JRICHARDS1996 · Answer

He is a dick. Very loud. Always needs to be the center of attention. Has trouble getting along with other males. Hence more female 'friends' than male ones, same for Facebook. May or may not be obsessed with the gym. Black. Talks to you like an object and not a person.

FakeName123 · Answer

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

If a pattern in someones life repeats its not a coincidence anymore. If you keep getting attracted to players - you are clearly doing something wrong along the way which is beyond the point of "spotting" the player.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

Players try to do the best job at lying about that kind of thing. So they want to seem like the most perfect boyfriend to everyone else so they can fool them.

Maybe act like a crazy nerdy person? So far for me that's worked in repelling people like that. XD

springocelot · Answer

his speech is too smooth and he won't make time for you; you're just an afterthought

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

If a bunch of girls (not just 1-she could be jealous) say "He's a player"
If he brags about having sex with 29384 girls- he's probably a virgin or has an STD or a baby he dk about
Usually very attractive- abs, sharp jawline, great eyes and hair, bite their lips a lot, have gold Iphones, snapchats pics of them listening to shitty rap music.

RaggaMon · Answer

I think you need to up your game in terms of assessing people generally. A player isn't a decent person, they lack the fundamental elements. It's in everything a person says and does, how they treat you and how they treat other people, once you can sort people in general into an 'asshole pile' and a 'bitch pile'; the few remainders will be alright. lol

Saudigirl · Answer

It's hard to tell. Some Redflags are not Redflag sometime. Cuz one of my Ex was acting like a player but then he proposed to me from my family and the other treated me like real lover but was a player but I found out early that he was drug user and have girlfriend.

kitty71 · Answer

I guessed it hapened to me alsoand uptothis moment i dont even know how to spot a player maybe the one i liked was a player because wwe only had afirt date he seemed he liked me, we made out, weeks after we made plans to go out again and guess what? It never happened.

EllieLexis513 · Answer

He's not okay with having to wait a long time for sex. And by long time, I mean like a year. That and if he has a ton of female friends on social media.

NotTheFBI · Answer

When he has a game controller in his hands? :v
Look, life is full of players, both male and female, some want sex... some want money... some just do what they want for the sake of being selfish.

Who knows why some people do these things...

Anonymous · Answer

his finger is in one pussy and his dick is in another pussy while he's asking a 3rd girl out. clear sign.

06CuriousMind · Answer

usually theyre pretty smooth. They almost act too interested in you; they make you feel like your the only girl theyre talking to, but you're not.

LoloWaye · Answer

He flirts with your friend and says you're just jealous and crazy.

Yumix · Answer

I'll just ask you if you are in love with him and then I'll know lol 😂 But good, now I know how to gain your heart ;p

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps, your sub conscious mind gets attracted to them only without you actually realizing it?  Most guys who give out confidence vibes are ply era themselves.

chintita · Answer

see how he interacts with other people

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

If he calls you the wrong name accidentally lol

Fearless_banana · Answer

If he is attractive and his game is on fleek.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Did something happen?

singlebee · Answer

Then change yourself and find a real guy

jesusnicolas768 · Answer

He talks to other girls when he is dating one girl

Thesis_Something · Answer

it's impossible to tell

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