a I hate to say a bit of something obvious here, but you have lived with him for two years... that is presumably two years that he has not been what many consider, regularly showering daily. I'm not quite sure how you could feel this is a problem... just now, as it seems something that would come up early on in the relationship as you've been living with him.
His mindset may very well be, you knew who I was and that I don't shower... add to that (from reading some comments) your knowledge of the way he grew up, he may be pretty much set in his ways. You may have a pretty steep if not impossible mountain to climb when it comes to trying to alter his life long behavior. The only question really left is, are you willing to let it go and accept his behavior or is it a deal breaker for you in your relationship because you've already it seems asked him repeatedly to shower.
That is super gross!! I had a boyfriend like that a while back (thank god my boyfriend now is as obsessed with hygiene as I am lol). I used to get my ex to shower by suggesting we take a shower together so that way it seems like something fun when in reality you're getting them to shower. I'm glad that you don't have sex unless he showers though! You go girl.
Actually according to some dermatologist, they say you shouldn't shower everyday, it's bad for the skin. In most cases you only need to shower twice out of each three days and some people can do so just every other day. So ask him if he can at least shower twice, out of each three days.
Whats his reasoning? And he has sex and THEN takes a showeer? WTF?
u What country/culture are you in? I understand that there are cultural differences on this issue.
Old expression: Girls date guys hoping that they will change [referring to behavior], but guys don't change. Guys date girls hoping that they won't change [referring to appearance], but they do.
Girls hope guys will change some of their behaviors but it rarely happens. You can't change people. You just accept them as they are or you move on and find someone else. If you tell at him enough so that he does what you want just to get you to stop yelling, what kind of relationship is that?
Tell him to get his shit together. Seriously, though. bintionline.files.wordpress.com/.../...meme-02.jpg
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Tell him if his personal hygiene doesn't improve, you'll leave. Honestly that's disgusting, and him telling you to shut up is extremely disrespectful
I don't want to be rude but is your boyfriend, well large?
Poor personal hygiene is a deal breaker for me. I feel for you. 2 years with him is a considerable amount of effort and time & to break up over a trivial matter is sad (on his part).
Sleeping on the couch can't be healthy either (does he object to sleeping there?) and I understand he snores.
I don't think you need daily showers. Not allowed in my house since we have a huge water issue. You can just wash the smelly areas every day. I think you could shower once a week and smell fine anyway though, as long as you use deodorant. In the past, it's not like people showered every day.
With that said I am jelly of you people. To have the option to shower every day would be so cool.
Go find another boyfriend who is a bit more understanding. Hard to do, maybe it'll hurt, too, but it's better than wasting more time like this.
its gross and he is using his lack of hygiene as a way to blackmail you to have sex
he needs to grow up smh -_-''
okay that's pretty nasty. now he may like to not shower but he shouldn't scream at you he should just suck it up and do it for you. now you should expect to do something for him in return. maybe you do something that he doesn't like.
Dump him... Then he'll need to take cold showers...
Lack of cleanliness can also be a sign of depression.
Break up with him... i mean really, basic hygiene people. If you can't manage that you shouldn't be in a relationship.
If you guys have been living together 2 years, why is this JUST bothering you now? :P
Just tell him he smells like shit and you will break up with him if he doesn't do anything about it, even if you dont mean it
The human body doesn't really need to shower daily but since we're insecure about smelling and being turned off... leave him if he isn't willing to take 5 min quick shower 🚿
Thats disgusting.. call him disgusting.. insult him daily this is beyond filth if be embarressed to go out with someone like that.. he needs a wake up call so you need to be blunt with him
I think guys should shower daily whether they are going to spend the whole day by themselves in a house or all day at work or wherever. Showers are awesome anyway
Why did you move in with someone who screams at you and doesn't shower? I'd move out.
Break up with him and leave him with soap and a bucket of water
The thing that strikes me most about this question is that he "Screams" at you to shut up. That itself is a problem.
Just have sex with him everyday. He'll get used to being clean and not go back to showering once a week.
I shower 2 to 3 times a week. Daily showers are overrated.
Yeah he's got to go. Rude, disrespectful AND smelly? Hells no!!
I am baffled how you are living together for 2 years with him at this point.
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