Why do nice guys end up alone?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

OH PUHLEASE! NICE GUYS FINISH LAST BECAUSE THEYRE BIG PUSSIES. IT'S YOUR FAULT IF YOUR CRUSH ENDS UP WITH SOMEONE ELSE AFTER BEING SINGLE FOR 80 YEARS! .. listen im dealing with one right now and you dont understand how frustrating it is! because usually nice are too scared to show any interest so they supress any feelings and just act casual, AND THAT IS WHAT you're NOT SUPPOSED TO DO! the reason why girls generally (not all) go for "bad guys" or "Fboys" is because those guys, even thogh theyre assholes, they take the lead, they act confident and charming, personally i dont like bad boys but i do like a man that has the balls to tell me how he feels! instead of sitting in your corner waiting for a miracle to happen to complain when it doesn't, MAKE IT HAPPEN! or at least give us signs if you wana play it safe! i always say there's two reasons why a man gets in the friendzone : either he didn't try to get out of it, or is physically unattractive to the girl. So you still have a good chance to make it! JUST STOP BEING A BITCH.
xoxo. gossip girl

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Because they rely on basic human kindness as their only "plus" when it comes to dating. Hate to tell ya but women value multidimensional guys the same way guys value multidimensional women. If all you have to offer is the ability to be nice, that's not enough no matter how much people try to sell it to you otherwise, because it can turn into ass-kissing or even manipulation to rely solely on our willingness to be kind to people. What I mean by the latter is a lot of people will constantly do "nice" things but then expect something in return, and when they don't get it, it turns into resentment.

Also nice guys rarely make a move, so there's that.

All in all you have to be more than nice. Have a dimensional personality, thoughts, opinions, other appealing traits - just holding a door doesn't set you apart from most regular people.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

Because they're not as nice as they think they are or as they claim.

I am automatically leery of guys who claim "Oh, I'm a nice guy!" because they almost always follow it up with some rampage about a woman who broke up with them.

Y'all just weren't right for each other. Don't get hung up on it. "Nice guys" are most likely to get hung up on a break up and demonize the woman for the break up and then that deters all other women because he comes in jaded. But oh, wait, he's a nice guy... no. Jaded people are not nice. And every self proclaimed nice guy I've met is extremely jaded.

TiffyPuff · Accepted Answer

Most "nice" guys aren't nice... they simply don't ruffle anyone's feathers cuz they're too chicken shit to say or do anything. They've got no back bones, so they rarely find the mustard seed of courage needed to ask a girl out. When they do ask And when they inevitably get rejected (cuz they've never done anything to become more attractive to women), they get entitled and bratty, showing their completely underdeveloped character.

ak666 · Accepted Answer

Look around you at the boyfriends and husbands of various girls in serious relationships. Many of them are indeed fairly good and kind people. They're not perfect but they're typically quite decent as people.

Meanwhile look at all the lonely types out there who repeatedly strike out with women. A lot of them are "nice" (note that I use "nice" in quotes).

It's not necessarily that compassionate guys finish last. It's that guys who finish last are often "nice".

Those "nice" ones are usually too eager to please a girl, believing they care about her so much even though they're never even dated her, and believing if she goes for other guys that they must all be jerks, e. g. That kind of "niceness" tends to ward off girls in the same way that ass-kissers tend to ward off people in general.

It's not a very attractive quality but there's a way to be kind in a strong, not weak and subservient kind of way, that tends to attract women far more effectively.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Nice guys don't end up alone... guys who don't take any action end up alone. Any guy could end up alone if he doesn't take action on his own behalf. A relationship doesn't get delivered to your doorstep.. you got to make it happen.. and it's tough. You may have to go through a bunch of crappy ones to find a good one! Depends on what you are willing to sacrifice?

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Being nice is an expected attribute that everyone should have, not a soul-defining character trait. If being nice is the only thing you have to offer then no one will be interested.

Felinegirl · Answer

Because they aren't actually nice, or because they don't have any quality at all besides being nice.

90% of the guys are nice if you get to know them (and they're interested in you too. If they're not, it's more like 50%). Not being nice is a downside, but just being nice isn't going to get you much.

Muglintar · Answer

Because a lot of women consider themselfes "above" the instinct driven, stupid, egoistic men (thanks feminism for this view on men). Then they want to "tame" the bad boy. But Nice guys are already tamed, therefore no challenge anymore.
Women go for "nice guys" once they have either "tamed" a bad boy, who then got boring to them or and especially, once they overestimated their power over men and the "bad boy" turned out to be a real asshole.

likitb4istickit · Answer

Competition. There's more males than females. And that's not even considering wants/needs like common interests, likes/dislikes, dealbreakers, etc. For me I'm picky so only about 1-2% of the female population I'm even interested in (even when I'm horny (more often than not I'd rather jack off than settle, got tired of settling long ago). And most of those 1-2% aren't interested since I'm too short and old. Solution: find other hobbies besides women. Video games and making chain mail pass the time nicely.

ANA1989 · Answer

... if your under 18 years old, then you still have a loooooong time before you might end up alone. If this is an observation youve made about other older nice guys, then I would ask, Are they really nice? Are they grown up? Are they mature? Do they respect themselves? Nice guys dont finish last, they just dont come in first, but they usually end up with the best partners and sweetest relationship!

CHRIS11796 · Answer

There's nice and then there's genuine. Nice guys tend do nice things in return for something special which isn't nice at all. And nice guys barely make a move and then they call the guy who did make a move a jerk or douchebag. Genuine guys don't kiss up to the girl and don't try and act like somebody they're not in hopes of getting in a girls pants. The nice guys often complain when things don't go their way and they develop a negative attitude towards women rather than fixing and improving in certain areas. And yes girls do like nice guys, just not ones trying to act nice. Hope i helped 😊

GraveTruth · Answer

The reason why is because women do not value things like loyalty, empathy, faithfulness, honesty, emotionally sportiveness, moral integrity, sensitivity, and willingness to compromise.
Nice guys usually are all of this and or strive to be all of this.

Women go for stuff like skin tone, height, social status, and noticability.
Nice guys do not try for these sort of things.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

Because y'all think we owe you something for being decent human beings. Sorry, you're not entitled to shit.

Blonde401 · Answer

If you're only being nice to get sex and relationships then news flash: you're not actually a nice guy.

ShaunaM95 · Answer

They don't. The ones that constantly complain because "no girl wants them" do, but the majority do.

Mistnigqa808 · Answer

"Why do nice guys end up alone?" because usually, they lack the balls to make moves on women #ItsJustThatSimple because Plenty of girls find me to be cool as fuck to talk to and or hang out with (big plus/I'm a generous guy).

Now when ya mix that with the fact that most girls find me to be funny yeah, i don't even worry about being alone nor do i ever think I'm not going to get ___'s number when i ask for it haha.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

Because they tend to be the ones who are generous to females in the beginning. They will give the female anything they want and they usually dont really have backdone. I kind of feel sad for guys who are nerds and who noone really talks to.

Anonymous · Answer

Actual nice guys (good decent guys) don't, they get swooped up and generally fast but they are few and far between. The "self proclaimed nice guys" usually do though but that's usually for a good reason.

levantine99 · Answer

because they mess with the wrong girls.
also because they are too depented and too needy.
also because they need more balls and pursuit things they want in life.
no social skills knowledge.
no confidence

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

My man is a nice guy and he has me so you're wrong. 😑🙂

itsallover · Answer

Because they're only nice until they get what they want. You're not 'nice' if you're only act that way to get in a girl's pants.

kimichi · Answer

That's not true. I have dated both nice guy kind of type and bad guys. My "bad boy" exes were fun to be with, new things to discover and have fun with but their rotten personality made me feel disgusted. My current boyfriend in the other hand is very nice, I consider him as a gentleman. He respect me even though I'm quite opposite than him, and for me that is a turn on. I think nice guys who ends alone are those who have no confidence in themself or maybe lack color in their personality.

JohnM82 · Answer

Because "nice guys" are insecure guys and aren't truthful. They do what they can to please others so they are liked and want to be considered as nice or good. They don't do it because they want to without anything in return. It's just attention seeking because they can't be honest with themselves.

MarkRet · Answer

Those 'alone' guys usually don't have enough confidence to connect with a woman. If you have confidence in YOURSELF, it gives a woman confidence in YOU.

IceCubedude · Answer

i would say no balls, a lot of men are guilty of this but at some point they go for it, seriosuly nice guys who never want to offend avoid these situations and they never go for the prize so they end up alone cause of lack of trying , of course if you're rich you will always find someone but if you're not you need balls, you need to talk to girls and get them no other way.

Kuraj · Answer

Because if you are too nice to a woman, care about her and do whatever she says she is going to think that she is too good for you and that she deserves better.
You have to treat your woman a little like trash and let her know that she isn't a priority in your life.
That will make her think that you are greater than her and that SHE is lucky to have you.

Sounds stupid, but that's the female mind for ya.

mike5150 · Answer

Because there is a point between being nice and being plain. You need to do something to separate yourself from the other guys. Often nice guys get looked over because a number of them are not assertive when it comes to making a move. That is why women friend zone them.

Tarvold · Answer

Because nice guys are spineless gullible morons.

What? So you want to get a girl, and girls say that they want nice guys. Did it not cross your mind to verify what these girls say by looking at the actions they take before you mould your whole life and personality around this lie?

Imafreespirit · Answer

uh.. they don't.  Guys that like to feel sorry for themselves, probably and its pretty self explanatory, don't ya think? nobody likes that

Aizou · Answer

Because these self proclaimed nice guys, often lack initiative. The biggest difference between a nice guy and a "bad" guy, is not how they treat women, but that the bad guys is putting themselves out there.

ninja9898 · Answer

Most self proclaimed "nice guys" are the guys that are too scared to make a move. Their are plenty of real nice guys that have real relationships etc but the guys that always complain about being girls not wanting nice guys are the creepy , awkward, weird unconfident guys and all they offer is being nice

Prof_Don · Answer

Because they are too passive waiting for "the perfect moment" to make "the perfect calculated chess-move play" in conversation to get a woman!

For the left-brained 'nice guys' out there; you have to understand that socialization is imperfect. There is no way to have a formulated, precise way to handle socializing with every woman in every situation.

Get out of the "formula" system, and become more carefree and free-flowing.

bree109 · Answer

either because the nice guy constantly dates the women with long hair, big booty & boobs, skinny body & etc or because most women fall for the assholes.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

We have our worth undervalued by women, we are treated like shit by those same women, and the majority of our life proves that it is easier to be happier alone. Women don't know how to make relationships mutually beneficial. We get tired of attempting to gain women's attention when they ignore us. We rely on ourselves for our personal happiness instead of relying on someone else to make us happy. When we realize that, the majority of women don't seem as attractive as people anymore.

frozencoconut · Answer

they probably don't try to turn her on or acts like a friend so she doesn't notice? Or acts too desperate/doesn't treat her like an equal as in puts her on a pedestal. Or then he might just not be her type.

ProjectBaby1K · Answer

Because you're not a "nice guy". You label yourself that, but in reality you are weak beta SIMP. 😔

Look at it like this: If you refuse to use your balls and act like an effeminate boy then NO ONE is going to respect you. That includes girls. They'll want you to be their gay best friend, not their boyfriend.

slatyb · Answer

Nice guys don't end up alone. Truly nice guys have a bunch of friends of both sexes and women want to be with them. Whiny, socially awkward guys who think they are nice but are really just passive-aggressive end up alone.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't. Nice is such a cop out. If by nice do you mean also too timid to talk to an attractive woman? Or does it mean self-entitled and thinks he "deserves" her? Or does it mean never makes the first move because he's scared to be disrespectful? If nice is your greatest asset, then you're too scared to get out of your comfort zone and take some goddamn risks and find out who you really are.

Navibern · Answer

They don't end up alone. They just are more patient and wait for the right girl without making mistakes

natured · Answer

Because most of the nice guys are convinced that this is how they end up, because they see Jocks getting all the chicks, and they feel like they are pushed away, but it's not like that :)

blue_is_my_fave · Answer

im liking a nice guy now, ill make sure he will never end up alone

Shanaya_10969 · Answer

That's just a generalization. Not all nice guys end up alone. You just need to find the right girl for you.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they never go for it. bad guys always take risks. Us girls are literally waiting for Prince Charming

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

Most normal being are nice. Being nice isn't a unique trait or anything. So you're not lonely because you're nice, you're lonely because you're boring or too weird.

TripleAce · Answer

On the contrary bud... Girls don't actually want a nice guy as in a nice guy that has no back bone... by NICE GUY they mean a gentleman that can skirt the edges a little but overall genuine kind to people and her

Anonymous · Answer

Because generally they seem to think women owe them things (specially intimacy/sex) for being 'nice' which is not the case. While they keep failing to understand that, they'll stay ending up alone.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Because they like to complain about how no girl likes them and they blame it on their niceness instead of acknowledging their flaws and fixing them.

ussrfuntime · Answer

"Nice guys" is bs. If you lack confidence and don't take risks you won't get girls. I'm the nicest guy ever and I ask out girls that I have a spark with... and I'm doing well

Alesha92 · Answer

Because they dont express theyre feelings... like tell the girl how they feel.

jasonstav · Answer

It's because they act too needy and clingy, I'm a nice guy and I suffered from it. You just need the right amount of confidence and be nice when needed

Anonymous · Answer

Nice guys only end up alone until women reach 30's and now are looking for providers and wanting a man who they can easily control. Hence come in the nice guy who many women will now come looking at as a partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they never make a move? Or too decent to break up other people's relationship even when the girl like them back 😊

Anonymous · Answer

Us buddy.
I am now going to donate my heart at the age of 30. Just to give up on living.
For me it's just useless to live. I'll donate all my organs.
So I got nearly 4 years to free my parents from there responsibilities financially. And I think they won't understand having no purpose.
Loving your will only take you so far that you'll find yourself getting selfish and thinking of something like me is the most selfish you can get.

bunanababa · Answer

maybe because they're too nice so women take advantage of them? but I haven't really met any nice guys like seriously

Lux28 · Answer

Just like women. "Nice" guys need to stop being available for women all the time. Don't always be at their beck and call.

Texian · Answer

That depends. I am a nice guy to people but I do it in a charismatic way, I am not alone per se, I don't usually have a steady girlfriend but I have sex with many girls.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

They don't. Are you really going to say every married men is trash? That's so misandrist.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

Most of the "nice guys" I know are either afraid of women, or treat them like little delicate flowers. Just don't do that and you'll be fine.

fueledbythc · Answer

Maybe they aren't all that nice and are trying too hard to be something they are not. The real nice guys are nice to everyone and are natural about it.

Avalon2 · Answer

It's my belief that dating is survival of the fittest, and the weak shall perish.

DNB1994 · Answer

There's no such thing as a "nice guy". If you want a girlfriend, being nice is the only way you'll KEEP a girlfriend. This term is so not legitimate. and so is friendzoned. Lmao.

DinosaurLover · Answer

I'm a nice guy. I'm alone. It's because we aren't perverted idiots. Girls now I've noticed go for the PERVERTEDNESS in guys. Which isn't cool.

Is nice guys are much better people but are always over looked. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔

WriterAndPainter · Answer

Because the "bad guy" is alluring at first then they get taken advantage of. It happens to us too. Hang in there.

Princeofanons · Answer

It's not that nice guys end up alone, it's the self proclaimed ones that do and also the pushover ones.

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