Why does my friends with benefits wants to meet my family?

[Anonymous]

He said that he's not in the position to be in a relationship right now (cliche answer) He wants to come over my house knowing that he'll have to meet my family. I'm so against it but he keeps pushing for it. I've gone to his house a couple times I don't know why he can't just let it stay at his house. 🙄 But nope he wants to "come over my house sometimes & spend the night sometimes" When I mention him meeting my family he's all for it. WHY tho? 😒 That's an awkward position to put ME in. Don't he think I want to introduce my family to a potential boyfriend and not a FWB? 🤔🙄

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+1 y

For those of you who said it's because he's starting to fall for me/wants to take me serious... you were all very wrong. We had a fight and he started screaming at me at one point and told me he doesn't want anything close to a commitment and that I am not a priority in his life. Pretty harsh but hey it is what it is. I'm so over him. smdh

[enlightenmexo]

It is an awkward position for him to put you in all because he wants a change of scenery. You have to be the one to hold out and say no... You're the one that'll look bad in the end. Either that, or sneak him in and make sure no one sees him. He's not doing it because he likes you, he just is tired of having sex at his house. I've had this before, so he careful! Don't read too much into it.

[SarahsSummer]

I wouldn't do it unless and until he is ready for a relationship. You should tell that to him. I personally think it's out of line to put you in that position to not even be able to tell your family he's your boyfriend. Almost like he's trying to see how much power he has over you.

[Cmasterson]

Just explain to him it would be very awkward as you're not a boyfriend, you don't want your family making bad assumptions about the way you choose to live your life. Sounds weird to me like he wants the commitment from you but doesn't want to make it.

[Anonymous]

It is weird for him to want to be so into your life that he wants to meet your family. I don't think you should. It's a very awkward situation. What are you going to tell your family? You can't tell them you're dating because you're not.

[Asker]

Yeah exactly & it's really misleading to my family. My family doesn't do friends with benefits. Only dating or not dating. No in between. And that's how it should be when you introduce someone to your family. This is my buddy or this is my boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

I very much agree with you! It has to be serious or a friend, like you said, to meet your family

[favor-A]

lol, no family does friends with benefits

[Asker]

@favor-A LOL that's true. They don't usually tell their parents that they have a friends with benefits but I can't tell ANYONE in my family though even my siblings. They'll judge me like hell.

[Red-Pill-Truth]

Because if you're on good terms with the family, you've got a one-up on the competition.

He knows perfectly well that you can't drag some guy home and go "Oh, that guy? He just someone I'm fucking for fun."

He wants you - you can bet your ass.
In his head, you're pretty much already BF/GF, so you may wanna sort that shit out.

[Robsinsf53]

you're going to have to drop him. He obviously thinks you need his benefits more than he needs yours. Call hid bluff and watch him fold.

[Pizzalover101]

You closed it off so can't reply direct to you

[Robsinsf53]

How did I close what off? Believe me, half the time I don't know what I'm doing o the computer. Please advise.

[JayCasper777]

he wants your family to know that his hitting it lmao

[Asker]

Shut up lmaoooo well thanks for the laugh at least lol

[JayCasper777]

loool

[MadeInAmerica]

Yeah I think that is weird. I would remind him that he isn't in a position to be in a proper relationship and that meeting parents is a relationship thing and that be the end of it. Put your foot down.

[MinkWinsor]

he wants to be your only friend with benefits, eventually buy you a ring to show his ownership of said benefits and then sign a benefits paper in front of witnesses wearing fancy clothes so that he'll have your beneficial friendship forever

[Asker]

I hate you lol

[Anonymous]

he's probably just trying to find a place e that new and interesting and shiny to him instead of his place that he considers dull... just stand your ground and be like no if you want this so bad get us a hotel

[natebragz]

He wants to have a serious relationship with you. He thought you were a bang-n-go girl (no offense), but after a while he thought about it and he wants to get serious.

[Nephilim000]

sounds like he is trying to stake his claim in case he wants you later

[Asker]

What do u mean?

[Nephilim000]

like he is trying to firmly entrench himself in your life so no one can fill that space

[Asker]

Ahh okay okay.

[LisaSparrow]

It doesn't matter why he wants it, just don't let it happen. It's up to you to keep your shit straight, not him.

[LisaSparrow]

I see that the preacher man Browneye57 is back to his rants! lol

[bobbertsmithert]

The guy is a complete fucking loon! lol

[pooper89]

I wouldn't allow him to meet them. Put your foot down

[Gigi01234]

He is scared and trying to see if he meets the family he will want to take the next step. Maybe it will help.

[cadans]

What does his plan? He wanna "hi guys i am just your daughter's fcker" really?

[Poppykate]

Lol! 😂😂😂 i would so want to be at that lunch!

[WriterAndPainter]

@Poppykate ditto!

[Poppykate]

@WriterAndPainter cool I will BYO

[WriterAndPainter]

@Poppykate there!

[Poppykate]

@WriterAndPainter Or though why anyone would think it was ok to turn up to a party/ gathering without a bottle or six pack is beyond me. ( or maybe that's just Aussie)

[WriterAndPainter]

@Poppykate girl no, lol we party hard to, but I have two hands so I'm bringing two six packs.. lol

[Poppykate]

@WriterAndPainter just something I have noticed with the early twenty somethings.

[WriterAndPainter]

@Poppykate amateurs... lol I see them and I'm like thinking "y'all wait until you're 30+ and see a real good time" but hell we were all that age at one time

[cadans]

@WriterAndPainter @Poppykate girls u are cool 😊😉

[WriterAndPainter]

So Are you

[Asker]

@cadans Lmao 😂 Exactly! Unless he wants to be serious with me why the hell do he need to meet them for? 🙄 🤷‍♀️

[cadans]

Actually i curious What does he think really

[Anonymous]

no I don't think he wants to be ur boyfriend maybe he just needs to get out of his house and doesn't want to get caught so by meeting ur parents he's down with that

[CoolSky01]

"He said that he's not in the position to be in a relationship right now (cliche answer)"
it amazes me everytime how easy girls are , but then again that never happens to me.

[Asker]

I didn't say I believe his answer hence the reason I said it's the cliche thing to say.

[CoolSky01]

lol and thast what i meant you knew he was lying and just in for sex and nothing more and you're cool with it, sadly i dont have girls like that around most girls either want something serious or want some kind of investement to have sex, nothing comes easy for me.

[Asker]

Ohhh I see what you're saying. What exactly do u consider an investment? Just curious lol

[CoolSky01]

Well to me an investment can be two things :
1- a bf/gf relationship where you are a couple so sex is kinda the norm in such relationships (even though some girls wait for longer periods of time)
2- taking her our, buying her food , drinks, engaging her in texts or conversations often as to not let her feel that she's being used and basically treating her like well in exchange of sex.

Me personally i've never been there no girl has ever offered that to me or even hinted at it despite me trying to get sexual with some girls, i have no shortage of girls wanting to date me, but sex with no strings attached? no never, even though my two friends seem to be doing just fine even though iam the one often complimented and stared at and called good looking and they're a good 5-6 inches shorter than em at 5'6

[CoolSky01]

actually since were at it, how did this whole thing start with you? is there a secret or something?
maybe we can both help each otehr out.

[Asker]

It started because he was really, really persistent. Some guys would've ghost me after some time for not putting out but he still contacted me regularly, like WAY past the "Ok time to ghost her" deadline. Plus I was under a lot of stress around the first time we hooked up so he was such a relief. AND him being really good looking helps a lot.

[CoolSky01]

how long are we talking like 2,3,4 months?
I don't know it sounds like he might actually like you

[Asker]

Why don't you go for girls who want a FWB? You said you're good looking. That helps a lot. I never set out to get one. It just kinda happen and he will not leave me alone (I've tried ending it like 5 times). Maybe try the party scene. SOME girls go to parties for hookups.

[CoolSky01]

the thing is i've tried with some girls but it never works with me for some reason i dont try too hard and i dont jsut sit there and wait but for some unknown reason girls simply dont feel like having sex but dating... they can do that

[Asker]

Almost a year! I don't doubt that he was getting sex elsewhere in the mean time but even so, this guy is tall, cute & played college football so it's safe to assume that he's use to getting lots of girls. Guys like him would've got tired of waiting and disappear a long time ago. Plus he wants to meet my family but doesn't want a relationship. He's confusing.

[Asker]

Maybe it's because you're not persistent enough.

[CoolSky01]

I don't know for example i've know these 2 girls for over 7-8 months and another two i dated for few months but nothing came out of it, its like girls like dating me, like me as a boyfriend and compliment me often , iam 6'2 , black soft hair and light olive skin and they keep telling me how iam really good looking lol but that hasn't got me laid so I don't know know.

a year you say huh? you know i think he might actually like you for more than a hook up cause not many guys are that consistent with someone they just wanna bang.

[Asker]

Maybe it's your personality then. Usually guys who get lots of hookups have one or more of these qualities (1) confident/charming (2) persistent (3) good looking (which u got already)

[CoolSky01]

i've got number 3 and i think one, i mean iam confident enough... charming yeah i can be that but usually iam not an asshole so close enough i guess

[Mega_illuminati]

He is hoping that your family would see him as your boyfriend. And you will not be able to take another guy to meet family, essentially making you exclusive with him. If it is so, then dick move.

[bc1989]

This makes sense

[Mega_illuminati]

I would suggest, break off with him. If you like him or not, this situation is gonna hurt you at the end.

The whole idea of friends with benefits is that you dont have to worry about emotional and mental games. If you are not getting that, why take risk?

[bc1989]

I'm not OP

[Mega_illuminati]

oh okay. Sorry.

To op then :-)

[Lucas_Cuc]

i dont really understand the whole friends with benefits thing. i used to have one night stand and have a lovely girlfriend now. i feel like repeating mating rituals like sex and being together in general means some kind of relationship.

[Lucas_Cuc]

one night stands*

[Anonymous]

Tell him that it's very awkward for you to introduce your friends with benefits to your family.

[EnigmaticMe]

Maybe see if there's a hereditary deficiency like a crazy gene. lol

[Anonymous]

Abort!! Abort!! Get another friends with benefits lol

[Anonymous]

curious how your family is
introducing himself to maybe later be you boyfriend
just for fun

[cattertone]

maybe he is starting to feel something for you and its a subtle way of saying that he wants to be more than a friends with benefits

[WriterAndPainter]

Maybe he's interested in the thought of a relationship and wants to see how your family is.

[WriterAndPainter]

Then I'd suggest he become your ex friends with benefits

[Asker]

He is. Can't even block him cause when I did that before he reached out to me from a different contact, apologize and the cycle continued. But now I'm completely turned off by the things he said in that argument.

[WriterAndPainter]

Good. He sounds like a douche. Just ignore him and treat him with the same regard as he's done you.

[Rocksteady671]

Sounds like he may be trying to work his way out of the "friend zone"..

[Browneye57]

What a joke. Your booty-call wants to plug in? pfft
And quit doing this, it's disgusting for a young lady. Later you'll deeply regret it. If you keep it up no one will want you.

[KDria]

Lmao

[erica1999]

wow. I think society has progressed way beyond condemnation due to sexual habits or activity. a woman isn't worthless just because she indulges in her own desires, mkay? Men need to freaking chill out and stop viewing women like territory to mark. it's repulsive.

[LisaSparrow]

@Browneye57

I don't think you're giving her advice on what's best for her, I think you're just passing judgment on her. And why did you say it's, disgusting for a "young" lady? ' Is it better for certain ages, but not others? And the part about guys not wanting her, is a complete joke. They want her now and they always will.

[Browneye57]

@LisaSparrow - no, they won't, for when she ages her beauty will go.

And yes, it's distusting, people still need to have some shame. Find a nice young smart guy with a ton of dough and make a family with him instead. You'll be a lot happier.

And yes, I judge - it's called discernment. And I can tell when something desirable or not - I know better. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. So fukkin what.

[erica1999]

news flash dude, not everyone is a clone of you. and a lot of people are probably going to be way more open minded

[Browneye57]

@erica1999 Especially when you're just a teeny-bopper. You have not experience to even make a judgement call. It's just all puppy dogs and rainbows right now.

The problem with boys is their pre-frontal cortex doesn't fully form 'till they're about 25. They're not qualified to make a life-changing decision 'till then. For now, you just don'e even know what you don't know. But you'll find out soon enough, so just go make something of yourself.

[erica1999]

😂😂😂typical. playing the age card cause you can't find anything to support your argument? well, in that case I'm not sure how things went down "back in your day"(from what I can tell it was horrible) but I can guarantee that new generations are far more accepting. sorry you had to miss out, but women are a lot more empowered "these days" and typically don't hold ourselves back just because "the men don't like it"

[Browneye57]

@erica1999- age and wisdom trumps youth and treachery any day.

[erica1999]

hhhhmmmmm I'd hate to be that person, but if Hitler was still alive, he would still be a murderous lunatic no mater how old he was. just because you're old does not mean you're wise

[LisaSparrow]

I hope and pray that you don't pray on young boys or girls. Because that's how you come across to me.

[Browneye57]

@LisaSparrow Oh yeah, scary evil ped.
What a fukkin joke.

Just go back into hiding. You're just being silly now.

[erica1999]

WOAH. aggressive much? maybe you missed out on the main purpose of this app? this is where opinions are heard and debates ensue.

[erica1999]

unfortunately not everyone is going to agree with your "wisdom"

[LisaSparrow]

I'm sorry for your sad pathetic marriage. You made your bed, so now you can lie in it.

[Browneye57]

@LisaSparrow Uhm, why would you say that? My marriage? But this isn't about me.
But no, almost thirty years now - long than you've been on the planet.

Don't be so reactionary. Don't think you know it all, cuz you don't. None of ya's. LOL

When you're short on anything with substance then you start with the name calling and shaming. FAIL.

If you ride the cock-carousel into your thirties you'll find it gets increasingly difficult to find on good guy. In fact, it can become impossible. For some, they're left living a life with their cats cuz no guy wants them. Oh well, you do whatever the fuck you want. You'll see soon enough.

B-bye now. :)

[Browneye57]

*... longer than you...

[LisaSparrow]

@erica1999

He's the reason that I'm very against young girls going door to door and selling cookies, and such.

[Browneye57]

@LisaSparrow are you always so dense?

[LisaSparrow]

Don't bring a knife to a gun fight, you fucking tard. lol

[Browneye57]

@LisaSparrow Don't be cunty on someone else's thread. Now run along and nag someone else.

[erica1999]

well this escalated while I was away. anyways my main argument is that judging someone for any amount of sexual relation is immature (not matter your age) and it is wrong to push your personal standard onto others unless they are somehow negatively affecting you. (in this particular case, they are not)

[erica1999]

*no matter

[Browneye57]

@erica1999 And you my dear are not of sufficient age or experience to even make a call. Judge we will, it's called discernment, something of which you seem to be lacking. Now run along. :)

[erica1999]

lol I would love to here how you came to the conclusion that you were so high and mighty as to think you had the ability to decide who has good judgement. spare me your preachings and come up with a logical argument that speaks for itself. then we'll talk.

[Browneye57]

@erica1999 - I have good judgement from years of experience and living. It's called age and wisdom. You have neither. So you can call it high and mighty or whatever the hell you want, or you can listen to some advise from age and wisdom. No skin off my teeth either way.

As far as being some fuk-boy's booty call, if you think that's a good way to experience your man-woman romantic relationships then go for it. Just know that it's not going to be as delightful as you might think. And if you do this long enough then you miss out the opportunity for a real loving relationship. Once you get past 30 years and your youth and beauty is fading, you'll have to compete with the young women your age now. It gets increasingly difficult. Worse, all the good guys have been snatched up and married off by then, so all you have are the rejects from today, the nerds, basement dwellers, serial casual daters, and divorcees with kids in tow. FAIL.

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[Browneye57]

By forty, if you STILL haven't done the work to find a mate you have now seriously hit the wall, everything is sagging, your youthful beauty is gone, and you're not past your true ability to bear children. These single women become the spinsters and cat ladies cuz no guy is interested. And why should they be? Any guy worth his salt can now pull women from 20 to 50, so you're at the bottom of the SMV chart.

I sweat to god, if you ride the cock-carousel through your twenties and don't seriously date you will find it near impossible to find a guy to settle down with. Some girls are fine with this, so be it. Let this be a word of warning. And down the road you can bet you'll think back and go 'damn, now I get it.' Forewarned is forearmed.

So there's your logical argument. My guess is you'll just blow it off and continue on your delusional path.

[Browneye57]

*... swear to god...
**... now past child bearing age...

[Asker]

@Browneye57 No need for all that. You have no control over my future. I will never be a cat lady or a old, desperate lady trying to compete with younger chicks for a husband. I am young, living life, making mistakes and learning from them. For u to say my behavior is disgusting was uncalled for. I notice u said nothing about him though. There was nothing wrong with what we did. We're both legal, single and started up a friendship that turned into more & things didn't work out. Doesn't make me a horrible human being or means my future is ruined. I have other guys willing to go on dates with me and take it slow and interested in a possible relationship so yes you came off as very judgmental & hypocritical because u said nothing about him the whole time. This isn't an attack, just the truth. Have a blessed day.

[Asker]

also, the commenters on this post made a lot of sense. Somewhere along the line it just became a big ole argument. lol

[Browneye57]

Just calls 'em as I sees 'em. Some just can't deal with the truth - ya got your feelings all wrapped up in it.
And yes, my crystal ball is absolutely amazing. You'll see soon enough. :)

[Asker]

Yeah well I rebuke that. It will never manifest. My life is in God's hands 👌💯
Enjoy the rest of your day🙃

[eagle1951]

sounds like he wants more then friends with benefits

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

People who are involved with friends with benefits are confusing folks. I don't understand them.

[Anonymous]

i dont answer friends with benefits questions. if you're asking about an friends with benefits, it's likely not an friends with benefits

[Cola7248]

sounds like he is catching feeling.

[Asker]

It does sound that way based on what was written but I've also brought up us being serious a few times in the past and he wasn't for it at all so I don't think he's catching feelings.

[Cola7248]

i believe he is just afraid to admit it. sometimes guys do that.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is interested in your sister if you have one.

[Akesuke]

friends with benefit mehh

[zombiebabe]

maybe he sees you as a potential girlfriend

[Osprey]

How old is he? Same question for you?

[Asker]

We're both 24.

[Osprey]

Maybe he wants to settle.

[Asker]

I'd be a liar if I say I wouldn't want him to be serious with me. He sounds damn good on paper: very good looking, educated, ambitious, has connections, etc. I have brought it up to him that I'm open to us being more serious and all he do is make excuses and promises or blame me for us not being more serious yet.

[Osprey]

It is up to you.

[Osprey]

people aren't​ the same when they are upset.

[Osprey]

You mean that y
he was the only one saying insult. In this case that wasn't a fight, but an assault. 😂😂😂

[Asker]

I didn't just sit there and allow him to yell at me. I told him to lower his tone and he actually did. But he still said what he said and I'm done with him.

[Osprey]

Aww I'm so sorry about it

[Asker]

It's cool thanks

[blondfrog]

He loves you get over it.

[Pizzalover101]

Cuz they want to show they have sum 1

[LabeledTAB]

he has a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

He's looking for siblings to nail.

[Imran520]

I think, it is good habit to meet with family.
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[Pablo3000]

He felt in love...

[Nahid1234]

Erm,

[TheSpartan]

He likes you.

[Midget_Hug]

Sure