Yeah, it bothers me. Mostly when it's mostly naked girls or something.
There's a time and a place for that and it isn't right in my face. You can look without hitting that button to the point where me and everyone else that follows you is seeing it.
It's not about insecurities, it's about a basic level of respect on two levels. One for yourself, and the other coming from your boy/girl friend.
Would he be cool with me liking half naked pictures of dudes? Maybe he wouldn't care. I wouldn't know because I wouldn't do it.
If it's disrespectful to verbally comment on someone you find visually appealing in front of your partner, it's the same across social media. Just because they aren't saying it out loud; to your face doesn't make it any different.
Of course people will find others attractive. That's just human nature. How you act about it is what matters.
"It's just social media!" Is honestly a lame excuse that comes from people who do this themselves.
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If my boyfriend did "like" or "follow" other girls (who were not his actual, real-life friends) then I would definitely see it as a problem. Social media isn't porn. It is not a private space for harmless fantasy. It is literally designed to communicate with other real people and to portray an image of yourself to the world. That means that choosing to "like" or "follow" other girls purely because you find them attractive is making a statement that ogling those girls is a priority in your life. That's disrespectful in my book.
I'm just going to be direct with you. I believe it's dumb that you'll be insecure about your boyfriend liking other girl's pictures. I don't know if you had bad experience in your past relationships ( if you ever had one in the past) but, you don't need to worry... just trust him. And if he's disloyal and dishonest you don't need him just move on without looking back.
This has been asked a lot. And it's root, is really insecure. Other women exist. Other women are attractive. That does not mean you are not also attractive. That does not mean he wants someone else.
The only thing it means, is you need to sit in the discomfort in order to get past it, I know of no other way. Getting over it means realizing your own worth and your own relationships value. That cannot happen if if you get anxious you think of the insecure things rather than the positives.
I'll let you in on a secret. No matter how much a guy loves you, he's gonna pay attention to other women. He probably still has a fovorite pornstar, lol. It doesn't mean he's a bad guy, or that he's going to cheat on you. It's just that way, and women NEED TO learn to deal with it.
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It's totally reasonable that you don't like that. I would never ever be with a guy that constantly likes other girls pictures unless it's family or friends pictures. that's incredibly disrespectful especially if he knows you don't like it. he wouldn't like it if you were doing something that made him feel anxious and bad even if it's something you think is no big deal he would want you to stop. you should just tell him you don't like it and if hed a grown up and loves you he will respect that and stop doing it
If we switch it to:
Does your girlfriend occasionally 'like' other guys photos on Instagram? And does it bother you?
-No, she doesn't and no it would not bother me.
Why? I am confident she loves me. If she did love someone else, her loss not mine.
I mean it's just a like.
But if it evolved more than that - does staying with her really worth it if she likes another dude? Sure it'll hurt, but we'll get past it.If it's innocent, I don't mind. I can admire the beauty of another woman and she can admire the beauty of other men. You're not thinking dirty thoughts or getting emotional about it, its just "Oh, nice shot." and thats it.
eg: I wouldn't get upset if she liked a shirt my friend was wearing or complimented him on his recent achievement of losing lots of weight in an effort to get healthy again. (true story)Are you kidding me? Although he loves you it doesn't mean he just can't like pics of pretty girls. Let him enjoy his personal space.
You should be concerned if he asks a girl for number not if he likes a pic. There is nothing wrong in it. He still loves youAll these answers from guys are always the same excuse. I think men just try to cover up for themselves. I mean what's the point of liking another girl's pic if it's not supposed to mean anything? Can't they just look without "liking"? Then they want to say something like "What about when you like other guy's pics on Instagram"? Yeah, because guys post selfies all the time on Instagram like girls do. Okay. No they don't.
How does he respond when you ask him about it?One did, he didn't really like a lot of girl's photos but this one girl. And not gonna lie, she was super pretty imo-so, I asked him to stop liking all her photos bc she NEVER liked his back. And in my opinion he was just a little fan to her, and my boyfriend was not gonna be some other girl's fan.
He stopped when I asked, which I really appreciated, so, I stopped liking my Henry Cavill fanpage pics aka blowing up his feed with "X liked this topless photo of the superman actor" He didn't ask, but I felt it was the right thing to do.Think about all the times you've liked pictures of guys. Yeah they may be attractive but it doesn't mean you're going to jump in bed with them. your boyfriend is with you because he wants to be. Just because you start to date somebody doesn't mean everyone else suddenly stops being attractive. i bet you still seem some guys with abs and think they are hot. but you still love your boyfriend. it just a picture. if he wanted to be with the girls in the pictures he would be. trust him. i know its hard. I've been there.
It used to bother me with my ex, but I found out later that he was cheating on me.
It hasn't really bothered me with my current boyfriend though, but he's never given me a reason not to trust him and we've been together for almost 5 years. So I'd say it depends on the guy you're with and whether or not he is trustworthy. If he's a good guy, I'd say you're fineMy boyfriend does, and it bothers me. He used to go onto random girls pages and like old selfies of theirs, or he'd go onto profiles of people I knew and liked their old photos.
He still likes bikini photos and provocative photos of girls he knows/doesn't know. This bothers me a lot and I'd always bring it up to him. Now I just try and not look for anything. But yes. It still bothers me.I don't think occasional likes should be worried about. If it is an ex-girlfriend he likes absolutely everything from or someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, of course still mention it.
If there is anything to be more anxious about, it would be flirty comments. Whether it's a girl he knows or not, someone local or completely removed (like a model), there's something upsetting about finding those types of words left for another woman.it doesn't bother me the slightest. he has a right as a man to be allowed to check out other girls. hell ill even point them out to him. i already know he's a big ass man n i have a decent one but if he likes em bigger so be it ill point out the chicks with the best asses. why should it bother me? there will always be a hotter chick but if he's loyal then you shouldn't have to worry about the next bitch to get a like.
If you have a boyfriend who does this, i think you need speak up
and tell him just how you feel about things. I think your boyfriends
meaning no harm but see it's upsetting you so i would communicate
with him more so he is aware that this is bothering you.This isn't something I'd do to my girl knowing it plays with her self esteem. I think it goes deeper than cheating and trust issues. It's got a lot to do with her as a person and if she's already insecure. Just because I think another girl's attractive though doesn't mean I'm cheating or breaking up with you to be with her.
Important question: Are these ladies actual people he knows? Or are they models or celebrities he would never meet in real life anyway?
Don't know don't care, and I don't understand why a guy 'liking' any photo would bother anyone no matter what your relationship to him were.
Unless of course it was something promoting bestiality or murder, or something that points towards being a psych/sociopath.I have a girlfriend, and I do like girl's pics. My intentions are innocent and are not intended for harming the relationship i'm in.
Don't let it bother you. They're just pictures. If you don't have trust things will get bad. If he hasn't given you a reason to think he'd cheat on you, don't worry about it. He's with you for a reason!(:
He's lucky that you feel jealous about it. It shows your affection nd trust me he's lucky.
Neither of us are on Instagram. He likes posts from friends on Facebook tho, some of which are obviously women. Sometimes pictures. But he doesn't like look through a bunch of "sexy" pictures of his female contacts or like those pics. Even before we were dating I don't think he had any interest in sexy selfies. Because they are lame and uninteresting lol
it would not bother me, just because he likes a pic doesn't mean he is going to do something bad or whatever
Trust is really important in a relationship and I would even be to lazy to even look what he liked or not, I simply just don't care, as long as he is with me and loves me, that's all I will ask for
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