@MrMysteryMan my dad is possessive over me he cares about me treats me as his daughter don't want noone to hurt me won't be happy if I look up at soneonelse I guess he doesn't love me then but it will pass with time
Possession isn't love. It's beyond a fear of loosing it. Love is different really. I'm sure he does love you, but he's controlling as well. Love to me means that you want them to grow and to have freedoms, since everyone wants freedom to live. It's almost like he doesn't think you can take care of yourself or you're not capable of it. That doesn't sound like someone who thinks to highly of someone else. Also, how are you going to find someone that you love if he doesn't want you to go near anyone? I don't want anyone I love to get hurt or to hurt me either, but if they loved me, they would know not to hurt me or would know that someone that truly feels loved feels still in control of themselves. I love my children, but I don't think it's fair if I told them, you can't be friends with that person because I forbid it. If they were hurting them, sure then I know I should step in and say something, but if they are good to them, and I get paranoid about them being hurt, that's my
insecurity not theirs. They should be able to make their own decisions or how are they going to function when I'm not around or when they are alone and faced with their own decisions? Love helps people grow, not cage them in.
@MrMysteryMan being possessive is that u want them for itself doesn't mean u control them and tell them what to do or not do and its caging them being possessive its not about not trusting it loved ones its more about caring too much u want them for itself buy uvtrust they r smart enough to do what's right
I don't think you know what the word possessive means then. A possession is a thing in someone's eyes. I will show a girl I love her and treat her like she means the world to me, but someone is never someone's to own. Then again, some relationships are like this. Owning means to me, you have no say because someone owns you and is calling the shots all the time because you are theirs to do whatever with. Maybe you care enough to trust in someone like this and maybe you feel more protected like this and maybe you feel justified that you chose this life, but to me, it seems like you're just part of the collection. Maybe it's just my mentality. I hate feeling like I have no say in how I live my life. I hate feeling that I am controlled by someone else. It makes me feel like they don't trust me enough to have a brain of my own. I've lived my life up until now just fine, who are you to tell me how to live it? You can share my joys and pain and suggest what you feel is best, but let
me decide if this is right for me. If it is sensible and loving, sure I'll go with it because I know it comes from the heart and not because you don't trust my decisions or fear of loosing me. If you're scared to loose me, than you don't trust how I feel for you. That's how it comes across to me.
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Yes but , only to an extent
Yes but , only to an extent
Only if they're insecure and damaged
I wouldn't say possessive, I would say protective.
Good ones r
You don't know what love is then.
@MrMysteryMan I do know
You know infatuation not love.
@MrMysteryMan my dad is possessive over me he cares about me treats me as his daughter don't want noone to hurt me won't be happy if I look up at soneonelse I guess he doesn't love me then but it will pass with time
Possession isn't love. It's beyond a fear of loosing it. Love is different really. I'm sure he does love you, but he's controlling as well. Love to me means that you want them to grow and to have freedoms, since everyone wants freedom to live. It's almost like he doesn't think you can take care of yourself or you're not capable of it. That doesn't sound like someone who thinks to highly of someone else. Also, how are you going to find someone that you love if he doesn't want you to go near anyone? I don't want anyone I love to get hurt or to hurt me either, but if they loved me, they would know not to hurt me or would know that someone that truly feels loved feels still in control of themselves. I love my children, but I don't think it's fair if I told them, you can't be friends with that person because I forbid it. If they were hurting them, sure then I know I should step in and say something, but if they are good to them, and I get paranoid about them being hurt, that's my
insecurity not theirs. They should be able to make their own decisions or how are they going to function when I'm not around or when they are alone and faced with their own decisions? Love helps people grow, not cage them in.
@MrMysteryMan being possessive is that u want them for itself doesn't mean u control them and tell them what to do or not do and its caging them being possessive its not about not trusting it loved ones its more about caring too much u want them for itself buy uvtrust they r smart enough to do what's right
I don't think you know what the word possessive means then. A possession is a thing in someone's eyes. I will show a girl I love her and treat her like she means the world to me, but someone is never someone's to own. Then again, some relationships are like this. Owning means to me, you have no say because someone owns you and is calling the shots all the time because you are theirs to do whatever with. Maybe you care enough to trust in someone like this and maybe you feel more protected like this and maybe you feel justified that you chose this life, but to me, it seems like you're just part of the collection.
Maybe it's just my mentality. I hate feeling like I have no say in how I live my life. I hate feeling that I am controlled by someone else. It makes me feel like they don't trust me enough to have a brain of my own. I've lived my life up until now just fine, who are you to tell me how to live it? You can share my joys and pain and suggest what you feel is best, but let
me decide if this is right for me. If it is sensible and loving, sure I'll go with it because I know it comes from the heart and not because you don't trust my decisions or fear of loosing me. If you're scared to loose me, than you don't trust how I feel for you. That's how it comes across to me.
Just when theyre in love
lmao voted A
Yeah to an extent.
Yeah generally
No they are not