Do men find women more attractive if they can cook?

Question

My dad has always told me that if I had a boyfriend or husband and I could cook for them, then it would make them fall more in love with me. However, I am not entirely sure if this theory is accurate. I don't entirely feel that a woman's cooking abilities should way an effect on how their partner sees them, but everyone is different. What do you guys think?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's not necessarily a skill that makes women more attractive, but it's a skill that makes them more fun. Even if she doesn't yet, but wants to, it shows that she cares to.

Having a partner that can cook gives me another thing that I can do with my partner, learn to make better foods with them, create new recipes together, make a youtube show or for ourselves, make each other special meals every other day, whatever comes to mind.

It also kinda shows that she cares about picking up skills. A person in general who doesn't bother to even learn to cook or do anything is a very boring person. I don't mean to make anyone here self-concious, but if the conversation comes along like this with somebody:

"So what do you do, do you play sports?"
"No"
"Do you know how to play any instruments?"
"No"
"Do you have a favorite TV show?"
"Not really, I watch different things"
"So like, you use YouTube though, right?"
"Yeah"
"What do you watch?"
"Random stuff"
"._. Well is there anything else you like?"
"I like Instagram and Snapchat and Tumblr"
"Is.. there anything else you bother with other than entertainment?"
"No"
"Laundry?"
"Can't do that either"
"Tie.. shoes?"
"I wear boots with zippers only"
"Change a lightbulb?"
"What are those? I have LEDs"
"And if they break?"
"I just tap a button on this app and pay money for someone to fix it"
"This conversation is probably starting to go extreme for the opinion reader"
"True"

Honestly, cooking is a should-have skill that noobie adults should pick up on when growing up. In my opinion it's fun trying to invent new flavors and dishes. Knowing how to cook doesn't do any harm to you, and will always be of use to you in real life, probably more than that Degree you have in uh.. ? Whale biology?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Being able to cook probably isn't the kind of thing that's going to make most guys fall in love with a girl, but it IS the kind of thing that's going to increase his overall compatibility with her, so it's better for long-term relationships.

in my opinion, being able to cook is something that EVERY adult should know how to do. I don't expect anyone to be a master chef, but you ought to be able to make at least a dozen meals more-or-less from scratch (heating frozen pre-packaged food doesn't count). And cooking is a skill that's easy to add on to - you can always look up a new recipe and try it out. A couple of years ago, I found a fantastic recipe for sweet, spicy BBQ sauce that's perfect for ribs, and everyone raves about it now.

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btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Depends on your intentions for dating. Do you want marriage and kids? Then you have to learn to cook if he doesn't already know how to. You don't want a man to fall in love with you. You want a man who desires and
WILL love you. Your cooking abilities are solely based on the benefits of having a life and starting a family with you. Otherwise, prepare to eat McDonald's and take out food every day. My close friend learned how to cook for herself since 12, and she's been married for almost 2 years. If she never learned how to cook, she probably wouldn't be married to her husband right now, because both of them wanted marriage and kids, and therefore he needed a woman who can cook. She doesn't have to be perfect, but it's better to learn something than do nothing.

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

It's attractive if the woman is attractive, that's how many of these non-physical laws of attraction work. If you're already an attractive girl with attractive qualities, and you can cook, AMAZING. If you're ugly, boring, or whatever else, knowing how to cook likely won't do much for you.

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

I think being able to cook is definitely a bonus, for either gender. Being capable of producing something edible and feeding yourself is a basic skill that all adults should have. And if you’re good at it and you can produce something delicious, all the better.

guilly18butnot · Answer

Yes.

But I love to cook myself so if we are in a relationship, we better cook together as it is a fun way of bonding together.

Also, I love women who can cook well because that means that they like to eat, unlike the trend of women who hate most types of food and recipes and stick to salads and occasional pasta. I find women who eat all sort of foods attractive (whenever their eating habits are healthy) as that shows a good education on the matter of respecting the value of food.

Also there's this belief that a woman is conquered by her stomach. It has a lot to do with the dating ritual. We men are conquered by the stomach, and such saying should apply to us as much (if not more) as to the ladies.

I will never find attractivness in this ability of cooking when she does it as the ancient stereotype of the woman who is confined at home and a slave of her husband's needs.

oddwaffle · Answer

It's like a charm spell. No, you don't just turn into a super attractive person if you cook for him. What would happen is that he will get comfortable with you around.

That's how you get in to a guy's heart. He will subconsciously remember the taste (good or bad).

He won't notice it. He will only miss you whenever he have a meal with similar dishes.

It's like Mom's cooking. I am a professional when it comes to food and I can say that Mom's cooking is roughly a 4/10 in terms of tastiness but every guy would remember them as the greatest food ever.

YoungManTryin · Answer

If a girl doesn't know how to cook, then how would we be able to cook dinner together? That's one of the joys of being married. Although, it's definitely not a make or break factor, as anyone can learn to cook. Also, Gordon Ramsay was once surprised that a guy was still married after not having cooked for his wife ever. I've heard that a guy who can cook is attractive as well, and I'm thinking that's because everyone likes food. Learn how to cook to feed yourself, and when you get bored of what you can cook, learn to cook something else or marry a chef.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Yeah, domestic skills are important, just like your going to look for a man who is ambitious and can provide for you and a family, he is going to look for a woman who can be nurturing and help maintain the home. Its perfectly reasonable for a man to want that.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that big of a deal if she can't since I can cook, but it's always a plus. I'd say it's a bit attractive but it's not an important factor in determining if she's a keeper. One thing that would be nice is being able to cook with each other. Even if she doesn't know how to cook, it would be fun showing her the ropes, but only if she's actually interested in it. If she shows that she is completely uninterested in ever learning how to cook then I would find that unattractive. Mainly because of her being disinterested in cooking rather than her lack of ability in it.

Ayer93 · Answer

All that matters to me is literally just personality. However, if there's 2 girls and I'm equally attracted to their personalities and they both have the same physical attraction level, who would be more enticing? The one that can cook or the one who can't? It's always a good thing to have more skills.

PrincessPie · Answer

I think if they already find them attractive then it adds to the attractiveness but I don’t beileve cooking alone is going to make a guy find a woman attractive 😊

TadCurious · Answer

I could still fall head over heels in love with a girl if she didn't know how to cook. But here's the deal: I'm not much of a cook myself, so we could make learning how to cook something we could do together. Our love would overcome the cooking deficit.

MusicMayhem · Answer

A woman that can cook isn't more attractive but a woman who can't cook certainly loses some value; in the same way as I'd see a guy friend if I found he couldn't cook. Gender doesn't matter, I'd be thinking how are you an adult and can't cook at least 4 or 5 basic meals at least.

Stokes · Answer

If I were to check a list with preferences, it wouldn't be amongst the most important ones at all.

However cooking, staying healthy, eating not so healthy, enjoying meals, learning new things and the time spent with it together. Potentially lots of fun in a relationship, so I would at least challenge her lack of interest in that area

ShortCircuit · Answer

I mean, it would be a pleasant surprise. However, it certainly isn't a requirement, nor would it magically make me fall in love with a girl that I wasn't otherwise attracted to.

InTimoreDei · Answer

Specifically baking is really attractive to me. I don't care if she can cook stir fry or my other favourite meals because I already know how to do that very well. But if she can make cheesecake then I would love that. It's something that is an addition rather than attractive on its own.

sovetskii13 · Answer

I definitely see it as a very attractive feature. That's one of the most important things to master to be a good wife and mother. It's helpful, nice, feminine, cute, romantic, and so much more.

Advicer_01 · Answer

I would love if she sat at the dining table after coming from work and I cooked a delicious meal for her. As it is not only women's job to take care of the family. Men too have to help out!

Greaver · Answer

I don’t think cooking is a trait that people should care about I mean yeah it’s good you can cook but your dad is wrong you shouldn’t cook for him instead you cook with him I can cook therefore if I had a girl that couldn’t cook I’ll teach her how to cook

Myquietsoul · Answer

Most definitely. If a girl decides to cook something for me, it definitely makes her a lot more attractive and special to me. It shows that they care. Now, with that being said, I have to already be attracted to you and it has to be something you chose to do

ScarletAngelic · Answer

Not for me. My girlfriend being able to cook has no effect on how attractive she is. If she doesn't know how, we can learn together. I care more about her personality.

lumos · Answer

I think it's silly to find someone more attractive because they can cook. Cooking is such a basic life skill, it's like saying "yeah I find it super attractive when my partner is capable of breathing".

1derfulguy · Answer

I guess tastes vary, but I don't think you can use it to "bag" guys who would otherwise be uninterested.

But if the two of you already love each other, it is probably something that will make him value you a lot more. I mean: who doesn't like a good meal?

Streamhopper · Answer

It doesn't really matter to me; the reason why is because I love to cook; I also love to cook together with my partner.

Logorithim · Answer

I cook well myself, so I feel no need for her to be any good at it, although I'm happy to cook with her. It's just not a factor.

MyAtlantis · Answer

I think it matters more to people who can't cook. Some girls are also impressed if a guy can cook well. But it is not the most important.

vishna · Answer

I've had people say it's attractive that I can cook, but it's not make or break. It's simply an attractive trait to have.

I second this, cooking isn't a make or break skill, but it's a very attractive skill to have (bc skill is sexy)

GingerGuy · Answer

Not important. It's certainly not something for attraction. Like either she can or she can't. If she can, it's just an added bonus, but so not important.

Thatblokeoverthere · Answer

Both should cook, as Streamhopper said, cooking together is so much more attractive and sexy than solo

lordhossein · Answer

its not about cooking, the fact that you care for him makes you attractive ( this is a way that women can show they love their guy, because they are doing something hard to make them happy)

Cuintan · Answer

Don't care. Like my own cooking, but as gran used to say, 'cooking lasts, kissing don't!'

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

A woman who can cook is not more attractive but it's definitely a special trait to have. I cook as well so I hope when I get married my wife and I can be a team and help each other when it comes to the cooking and cleaning.

ShaHills · Answer

Nope I could careless. Besides I've been single long enough (meaning I haven't been in a serious relationship in over 10 years) I've learned to cook many different dishes from around the world. Though I'm best with fish or a grill.

barflyer · Answer

Since I enjoy cooking, it would be cool to find a hobby we could do together. But honestly, if you're looking to pick up a habit that would make you more a attractive to guys, try things that they enjoy instead. A lot of guys find girls that are into sports really attractive. Better yet, find someone who shares mutual interests already.

MLGbreezy · Answer

I never really gave it that much thought but yea i love food and if she cooks food and i die that's not gonna be a real stable relationship lol

Astoriana · Answer

Everyone needs to be able to cook. I’m not your mama. You need to be able to look after yourself.

Dargil · Answer

Feminist women seem to pride themselves in eschewing domestic skills, reducing them two two attributes 1. Pussy 2. Paycheck Guess which way I voted.

hornymike6969 · Answer

its not going to be a deal breaker but she not going to hurt you either. i hate cooking. cause i dont know how

LittlePrince85 · Answer

If you don't want to cook you could marry a chef or a man who likes to cook. Most chefs are men ironically.

TripleAce · Answer

yes very I actually find it unattractive if she doesn't even try lol... It's just not a cozy home when she can't and won't cook... meh

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think so. It’s not helped me in my dating life, anyway.

pickyourcliche · Answer

It's definitely good to be able to cook. I can't cook much but I enjoy cooking, it'd be awesome to cook with someone as a couple :)

martyfellow · Answer

Yes, it means they enjoy the simple pleasures of life. They aren't all corporate and calculating

liuzimin · Answer

100% yessss. I would want to wife her, at least for that moment

kunalmehta005 · Answer

Frankly speaking it doesn't matter for whether the girl I like can cook or now... It's what she's inside that matters the most... Instead the guys should sometimes cook to make their girl happy...

HeyThere94 · Answer

Does not matter to me. I find girls who can play sports more attractive

Lednnar · Answer

You'd probably find a man more attractive if he can cook. Independence is more attractive.

WiggleWasser · Answer

I go by the old Rodney Dangerfield line: "Look for a girl who can cook. Sex will wear off, but you'll always be hungry."

And, honestly, there's just something about a woman in the kitchen that activates familial feelings in a man.

red_knight · Answer

I think I'm an amazing cook... My sisters a professional chef. Most men in my family are great cooks, I've competed with few chefs and more people are the food I cooked. I know I'm good but I wanna hehe humble about it lol

Bliss-taylor · Answer

I can understand why its attractive for a man to have a woman that knows how to cook.

J4Zzi3 · Answer

a woman who can cook is always a + it's not about the taste. but the effort she made in making something. I'll always finish it if it's edible.

FakeName123 · Answer

Attractive as in physically and sexually appealing? No. Attractive as in "this is a woman I would consider a longterm partner", then yes.

VegetaSSB · Answer

i definitely find them more attractive if they can cook.

ladsin · Answer

Not a girl or guy thing for me. If you can cook, awesome, because I can't cook for sh*t

Harry8814 · Answer

I bring her breakfast in bed, she cooks delicious dinner for us. Perfect.

lala_ray · Answer

It doesn't depends on food being tasty or not... it's more like if she cooks for you she cares for you... I am a cook too and would love to do vice-versa

PaganGod · Answer

I don't see it as an attractive trait but its good to have nonetheless

QuadM · Answer

Even if i dont consider cooking first time , she gotta learn to cook cause i love food. Every hungry man does.

Anonymous · Answer

except if they are raw vegans where coocking skills are useless except if you are making sophisticated sauces and spreads for some reason... .

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's nice thing and attractive when a girl can cook.

GermanGod · Answer

It makes her more attractive, but the most attractive thing about a woman is if she's nurturing.

LegateLanius · Answer

Every adult should be able to cook. It can only help.

RationalMale · Answer

Cooking, meh. Don't really care. Someone you are attracted to taking the time and effort to prepare a meal for you? An endearing gesture.

AngusBastion · Answer

I do not mind if does not like or cannot cook. For me cooking itself is like meditation but from time to time I like to cook something with someone.

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