Why did he invite me to his place?

Question

This guy I'm talking to and like invited me to his place all of a sudden. I feel like he wanted to invite me for ages but was holding back. So he wanted to meet and I was suggesting let's go to the mall and he was like he doesn't like the mall. So he gave me his address to his place, and I told him why does he want me at his house so bad and he was like "for everything." And I then told him to admit he wanted sex so he then replied back saying "I said for everything." What does that even mean? He didn't deny the sex bit too.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Well, you are right not to trust him, especially if you don't want him pushing you to sex so soon or at all. It's clearly more risky to meet at an guy's home, and in fact any place where there is no other people, especially if it's a guy that you barely know and not sure enough about. Also it's looks like he is bullshittings you, going to the mall should not be an problem, even if he really not a fun of public places, like clubs, as it's only an mall. Also it's looks like he afraid to admit that he is only looking for sex, even though it's pretty clear, and yes he didn't promise you that he would not touch you, so him saying for "everything" is just an easier for him to say then that he looking for sex. Anyway you don't need to overthink is, it's most likely that he is looking for sex, and then maybe to watch some TV. Also it's likely that he don't fully admit it because he don't have enough balls for that and/or he assume that it would scare you off. I am personally didn't had the problem to talk more clearly about that with girls. He might had claimed that he not wanting to talk about it out of courtesy, except for fact that if he was well-mannered, he was not looking for sex for you so soon in the first place, so it's not really the case with him.

Geisterfinder · Accepted Answer

Because he doesn't just want sex. He is being polite right now and trying not to behave like a douche. He just enjoys being at home instead of out and about wasting money.
Do yourself a favor, tell a relative or a friend where you are going and have a plan to update them (so they will be expecting a call from you at certain times) don't tell this guy that plan schedule, and go to his place. If you don't check in with a reasonable amount of time when you had planned, your friend or relative will either come over or call the police for a health and welfare.
Some people seem sketch and are innocent, while others are looking good but dangerous. This is a solution for that.

thatchristiangirl · Accepted Answer

I'm really sorry if this comes across a bit condescending, but I have a motherly nature and I just really care for people... but have you even met this guy? It seems that this is perhaps an online interaction considering he gave you his address... if this is someone you haven't met before, then immediate invites to their house is an automatic red flag. No real, respectful man will jump at the chance to instantly invite you to his house. Guys like this only want ONE thing, and once they get it... they're out the door, and out of your life. I know from experience sweetheart. I might be younger than you, but I have wisdom and I know how people can be these days. Please don't go and visit him... if you go anywhere with him, at least make sure it's somewhere public and safe and not some random, private place you've never been before.

eanubis89 · Accepted Answer

First off your 21 and an adult. Your able to make your own decision. I think when you gave the place where you wanted to meet first was perfect. “FOR EVERYTHING” but asking him to admit sex and he replied back “I SAID FOR EVERYTHING.” I think he wants sex but I mean his second answer was a tad demanding. So I advice you to think if you are ready for this make the right choice. Like I said your an adult I wouldn’t go for it. That’s my opinion especially you don’t know what his place looks like you just have his address. Maybe a few pictures here and there. It’s really risky and dangerous.

Titounix · Accepted Answer

You already met him?
You spent a lot of time with him?
A first "date" at the boy's place means cheap sex and probably a one night stand, he might hide his intentions at the beginning, but where i'm from (france), going at my/his place = sex highly probable...
So it seems unsafe if you don't already know him.
Plus, he won't even spend a dollar inviting you to dinner or coffee before, no get to know each other step by step, no seduction : straight to the bed, easy / lazy way to get you.

I just read the other comments. Seems that I'm not the only one to say it.

deraz24 · Accepted Answer

Pretty much sex in my opinion he needs to come better than that tho, if that's what you want too then cool but if you need time and want him to clarify things tell him that. The same thing happened to me once it was this guy I liked and he was taking too long but he was interested, then one day out the blue he's wanting me to come over really bad. I didn't like the sudden change and the vibe of it. I just question why now and not before.

waynej200 · Answer

Means he's open and most likely wants it to be for sex but doesn't want to push you into it. If your up for it, tell him your down however since its his home field (metaphorically) that you should be able to make the first move when your ready and that he can't make the first move.
What this does is now you have control, and you can do what you want sexually when you want it. If he's a gentleman he will agree and not push it onto you, if he wants you just for sex and after to kick you out, he won't agree to it. Also bring pepper spray or a stun gun to protect yourself, also let someone know your going there. Like a friend, or family member, give them his address too and date and time your going. Also keep your phone on and your gps on, fully charged before going, and download a voice recording app, record just before you go in with him. Good to protect yourself, dont ever tell him about it, but if you loose control of whats happening, and he takes it too far. You have evidence. Also you can go back and listen to it to hear how y'all sound when your nervous talking haha. Take my advice and you'll do fine. Dont beat around the bush cuz it leaves things too open and may send mixed messages.

LuckyEnough · Answer

You said he has been interested for awhile, but too shy to ask, right? Then outta nowhere invites, but very vague? He's just shy, and likely terrified. Agreeing to meet him, made him think holy crap, don't screw it up. So he is probably very unsure what to say, hence "everything". Doubt he only wants sex, just doesn't know any other way to concrete a relationship. Likely you two share many friends, right? Sex is his way to move out of that. He's super nervous, that's all. Everything, means anything you would like, as long as it cements that relationship change. If say (if you trust him), agree to his place, have dinner, movie night, whatever, ... but be up front with him on your intentions. It'll work out.

NearlyNapping · Answer

" What does that even mean? "

It means he's being evasive. It's obvious he wants sex. But whether saying he wants everything means he's just being evasive and not admitting to the sex part, or if he really does want something else is hard to say.

When I read your question, the "feel" of it raises a yellow caution flag. Not a red flag, but enough to make me think caution is called for. If you decide to go, let someone else know, and be prepared if it goes wrong.

Maybe everything will be fine. But be prepared. You like the guy. Don't let it blind you. Stay alert.

zorba93 · Answer

You should keep laid back, keep your guards on and don't be afraid to say no, is your choice you should play safe for you're self, I would suggest you if you like him, to have a date in a discrete place specially if you don't know him, like a coffe shop or going to some king of restaurant where you can be seen in by other people for safety purpose. After you meet him in a discrete place you should have an idea what he really pretends with you, take this chance to analyse his body language and also do a shit to see his character.

Walt10157 · Answer

More than likely he wants you to come to his place because he wants to have sex with you there's no doubt about that. Otherwise he would meet you in a public place if he really respected you and wanted to meet you and talk with you to get to know you. He is obviously aware of the fact that you like him and guys know when a woman likes them and they get them alone in a place where they feel free to try anything that most of the time the girl will give in and he will get sex. Be careful don't let yourself get used. Also you don't want it getting around that you were an easy target.

Harsh_5299 · Answer

Who is this guy? Same student in college? Old friend? Or just some stranger? assuming you like or you are into this guy, i would like you to follow logic here

Don't go if he's some stranger

If he's an old friend and you trust him, you can go and keep the situation under control according to your liking

If he's just a student in same college or an acquaintance then just inform a friend / relative as backup beforehand and have some pepper spray with you

PS : you pretty much HAVE to expect any advances to have sex... he is a guy after all and you look good so don't be annoyed if he does... just deal with it in a cool manner if you're not ready for it... that will make him feel better both about you and himself
Have fun😘

TRexxx · Answer

Very cryptic, it's sounds like one of two things a he's socially awkward and or not as comfortable around people. B ugh he could be a creep, crazy, or weirdo, I don't wanna put ideas in your head but regardless this goes to any and all women, if a guy asks you to his place and you don't know him tell family or friends where your going. Good luck, be safe

EpicIrishman · Answer

He wants to sleep with you, but he wants more too. He's just so focused on sleeping with you, it happens. If you're not ready then you are not obligated to. Tell him that you're not saying no, you're saying not right now. Come up with something else to do, but if he pushes you to go back to his place find someone else to hang out with

Gakky · Answer

He wants sex or lots of making out. He's just lying to you, he'll initiate sex once you're in his place.

He lies to you for a reason : I dated girls who wanted to have sex with me but was very afraid to be treated like a slut. So I had to lie to them saying that it's just for a innocent drink or whatever. This way the girl feels better about herself...

MlleCake · Answer

It doesn't matter why. We meet strangers in safe public places. He can figure out something beside the mall and his place. Coffee? Frozen Yogurt? A park? Bowling? Karaoke? Walking around the local thrift store?

Millions of things to do.

If all he wants is to chill at home, he's boring.

stripey1999 · Answer

Could be trying to be romantic, or maybe doesn't like public places so much. Just really depends on the person but i dont think many guys would deny sex if they had a chance maybe he's thinking on that part that if your hinting he won't say a definite no. Most likely he wants to spend time with you in a good way, he most likely won't do anything bad and probably planning something nice

Cozybcuz · Answer

Well it's quite rare for guys to decline sex especially younger ones. Due to the fact that we are generally less selective with our partners and more capable to emotionless sex. But that doesn't have to be his sole motive. Either way if you like him and want to go that way with him go for it.

Note that you should only visit him if you have met him I'm a public settings a couple of times. As this will greatly decrease the chances off running in to unpleasant experiences

Bensanity · Answer

Could be socially awkward, as much as i want to think he's shy and would rather get to know you face to face without the stress/distraction of the loud and busy public enviroment... there also is a chances he's wanting to get laid. You could turn up with a friend, or wait for an oppertunity where you know there'll be other people at his place

Doctor_Strix · Answer

Red Flag! It sounds like to me you two have just been talking. And haven’t actually been on a date. For to all of a sudden just invite you to his place, and obviously want “to do everything”? No ma’am! He’s obviously been talking (and possibly ‘doing everything’) with other women too. If you want a hook up, you got it. But DO NOT expect anything of value to come from him. You deserve better Julie.

emilie95 · Answer

Have you met him before? If it is moving from virtual to reality meet him in a public place first and let friend know what you are doing. If it was me that would be a massive red flag, if he wouldn't meet me publicly, wouldn't tell me straight and wanted me to go straight to his. Be safe and smart.

OwlOne · Answer

That is just desperation from his side.
I recommend discussing with them of what exactly you think of their behaviour and ask if they can think of any way to rectify to their mistake.
If under any circumstance this goes overboard, cut ties with them and request aid from friends family or even officials if necessary.

KeyShinobi · Answer

Most of the people here knows what he wants.. And I think you do too.. Avoid the human eye.. Pull you over to a place you never been. He wants a girl to experience a wifey moment... If he's not man enough to meet on your terms. he's not worth investing in.. Unless you want to take your chances with a one night stand..

peedy · Answer

Maybe he's planning on making you a romantic dinner to impress you and after you meet his puppy he's hoping for sex "everything" is a broad term, but it does sound like he likes you a lot and maybe he's just shy and feels more comfortable at his place
Or he's a serial killer and wants to through you in a well in his basement
I don't know, what I do know is all good this worth having come by taking risks, up you... good luck

cherryphi82 · Answer

Could be that he thinks it would kill the buzz if he named his reasons out right. The most important thing here is: What are *you* comfortable with? I know you said you liked him. But be honest with yourself and what you're ready for. If aren't ready to hook up, a public place is way safer and I see it as a red flag that he turned that down. Could you suggest something else? Like playing mini-golf? Go-karting? Anyways, I find it strange that he won't say it out right. Be cautious and good luck.

Cuintan · Answer

I think he has made it pretty clear that would like to have sex with you, unless 'for everything' somehow does not include sex. I don't see how that is possible.
I am curious about what else is included in 'everything'.
There's something about this that just feels wrong.
Be careful.

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