there's this nice girl that i know likes me and always tries to get my attention then smiles at me when she does. Sad to say im not interested in her and im a shy guy
Well someone didn't eat their cereal in the morning. you're being all sarcastic and grumpy. Kind of ironic. And yes maybe i dont understand the male mind all too well or maybe i understand it so much so that it scares all males. Lol. But if you ask why are you shy? The answer will most likely be fear of rejection. There is a whole theory in pstchology that explai ns how it relates to the mother. But hey what do i know right? Im just an educated female that lacks male perception. Lol. But i would love to hear ypur analysis as to why
Fear of rejection could be it, smartass. But not necessarily. For example, in my case it was about having been sexually molested when I was 11. So being wanted for my body was an utterly repulsive thing and the smallest whiff of it caused terror in me.
But hey, you're the psychological genius who knows all men and thinks men can't be shy ;)
Shyness is another word for intimidation. Which is a fear of a person having power over you. If you have rejection wounds, that power is a power to trigger them. But rejection wounds are not the only wounds that exist, smartass.
Only girls are shy... Facepalm. I'm still wondering whether you're an emotional retard, or a smart ass who's really really bad at expressing yourself. I'm now thinking the latter.
Thank you for saying that. Oh people read now a days. It makes me so happy. Lol. Intimidation. Ok so it takes too long for me to explain on here how it relates to the mother but i woul like to know why are you intimidated by a female
And no, it doesn't always relate to the mother. Much as it often does, realities are much, much more complex than that. But yes, it does relate to traumas. Maternal rejection traumas, often. But other ones too.
Read Pope and his poem "A little learning is a dangerous thing". It applies to you right now.
See now we are on the same page bro. Not everythungcan be explaine d wiha gag response. In n eed an essay to do that. And i dont have enough time to write one now.
Ok bro. I am happy being me cause there is no one else like me and im happy you are happy being you cause rhere is no one else like you in the world too
Just don't say only women can be shy or I'll spank you! God we are, and since we are expected to make all the first moves or we're flawed defective shamed pussies, it's a much bigger problem for us because it's not allowed.
Lol its ok you can be a pussy bitch if you want to because you are human and you need to be real. I think thats very honest and understandable and to me its more manly than any man who hides his feelings cause thats when the problems actually start because no matter how much you try to push them down. There will come a time where they will resurface when you least expect it.
@dandiecandie So all guys who had a good relationship with their mother are shy? Wouldn't they be more likely to not be shy as they have been under to satisfy their mother's wishes and maintain a good loving relationship?
We're intimidated when we have an emotional wound/trauma, meaning something happened and we didn't/couldn't feel/release the emotions but bottled them. So making us feel the same emotion as what's bottled up causes a crazy strong emotional reaction as the new emotions triggers the old to also surface. Which we try to avoid because this is crazy uncomfortable. Hence the fear, which is actually a protection against being re-traumatised, and exists until the original emotionsl wound is healed by emotionally connecting to it and releasing the bottled emotion there.
I. e. it works like every other emotional over-reaction in the history of humanity. What's so strange about this?
And what do mommy's boys have to do with it? You can have a lovely mum but get years of rejection from women you date because you are a dwarf/disabled etc. That can cause a massive rejection wound too.
Doesn't connect to mommy's boy. The rejection wound can equally come from the dad especially if he's the primary care giver.
Not strange at all. Why is this strange? I didn't say it was strange. I agree with you. Its what i refused to type cause i am at work and it takes too long. Loool. But i agree with you
Or it could not be a rejection wound at all but a being used wound. Or god knows what else. Intimidation happens when someone can hurt you in a way you've already been hurt and haven't fully processed. That's all.
Well i could be completepy wrong but at least i started something right. Lol. And that was the real purpose here. Obviously not only girls are shy. I would have to be from another dimension to actually believe that. I was just bored at work so i thought lets throw a stone and hide the hand. In other words give people something to talk about. Does it look familiar in our society today? Hmmm.
So basically a troll. Don't you guys have ways of entertaining yourselves without annoying people? Like having a life and stuff? It comes off as kinda pitiful.
And yes, you would have to be, which is why I said I want what you're smoking :) Miss somebody didn't eat their cereal.
No not a troll. No im not pitiful. Whats pitiful is the question being asked. If questions like these are being asked they are begging to be challenged. I do have better things to do, like im at work right now persay. But gag just becomes addicting lol. I was trying to prove a point. That point was the answer to the question. That point was if you are shy face your problems first and then you will be ready to face the girl you like. Its pretty deep my analogy here. And we all proved this answer together right. Now whoever asked this question got the best of both worlds entertainment and actual good advice.
Because shyness comes from fear and traumas of the past which have created a negative perception that comes up when you are faced with similar situations. This means you dont feel as if you are a new born baby that is perfect in every way. You feel as you have been damanged in some way. Thus making you lack confidence and due to this similar feeling of rejection from a previous situation that you have trained in your brains muscle memory cause it had a great impact on you the first time it happened, now it comes up when you are faced with typical situations. This is why shyness is caused and to fix this you must look into your past and deprogram that feeling that was previously created.
Perfectly right. I personally meditated for hours a day for the best part of a decade. That brings up and out all sorts of past shit. Shyness and intimidation and lots of other fears melt away after that as the old traumas come to the surface and are released. So I'm living testament that it is fixable, I have experiential knowledge of that.
I've figured out a bit more than this tbh. Not trying to brag, that's just a bit five years ago. But yeah, amazing to figure it out and I basically don't meet many people who have. People who with therapy understand the wounds are there, there's a good number. But who can release them? Always felt alone.
I'm happy to hear that. Needing validation that you're awesome by the way is still repressed feelings of the opposite. And being a know it all is repressed feelings of feeling stupid or unable to understand the world around you.
Bro i dont need a complement or validation from you. I called it before you did. And i dont think you're being nice. Infact what you say its offensive as hell. And the opposite of my point. But i dont care what you say because who are you to judge me? And im not a know it all because i feel stupid im just curious about everything that i like. That doesn't mean i know it all. That just means i happened to stumble upon a subject that like you have experienced in my life. So dont judge too quickly because i dont know you and you dont know me. Dont confuse me with yourself. Projecting onto others is a narcissistic approach to someone you see as a threat. This is what you're doing. I think you need to do a lot more meditation to mend that. And thats just friendly adviced based on your reaction towards me. I am all i need dont need you or anyones validation for that matter. I may be innocent but im no sheep so dont be too quick to judge cause you're 35 and im 26. I paid my dues buddy
Loool i already explained it up there just read on bro and my brother is not my moms favorite loool but even if he was i would be happy. No jealousy there. You are foolish to think i would be jealous og my brother. Thats my blood. Hell i feel like his mom. He is everything for me. We both had a tough childhood so i would love it if this was the case. And im glad you agree with everythung i said cause im right. Im not saying to sound cocky but its common sense.
You didn't explain nothing, you think you something? You disrespected mommy's boys. We ain't no games like toys. I'm representing all momma's boys worldwide. You got to answer for the attacks on our pride. We coming heavy, momma behind me with the chopper and her aim steady.
Hahahahahahaha. Mommys boy put on some pants first loool. Make sure you take your glass of milk before bed. And everybody is something. Me you all the mamas boys and girls and everyone. Ok. So have a great night you mommys little boy and sweet dreams.
Lol you dog. you're not bad at all. You have pictures of guns going up and down on every angle but you couldnt hurt a fly even if you tried. You have a soft heart inside you. Thats the best quality to show off. Keep your gun in your pants because it will not make you any friends.
Lol boy you wish you could kiss me. Sorry im waiting for my husband to do that whereever he is lol. Or if he exists. Who knows? So under these conditions you can't kiss me at all even if the opportunity was given.
Dandie :) Much as your reaction is warranted on what I said, let me be honest with ya. I kinda think you're pretty cool, so I intentionally threw out something less than nice to see if you'd trigger. Fully healed, or me not hitting a nerve doesn't trigger. You did, just a little. Get what I'm saying?
Which is not to say that's a problem. Hey, who's perfect? But I wasn't being me there, I'm actually really friendly. What was a test to see what stage in the process you actually are at :) Sorry to do that, but asking you of course I'll only hear what you say. Testing it I see the truth. :) Sending you a warm hug, annoying you is not my intention. Understanding where you are in your process is :) Forgive me please, I mean no harm :)
you're testing me without my permission? yes i know im supposed to respond and not react and a clear mind allows that and not reacting through anger and thats no excuse in my part. I was fully healed and i lost my way for a while so now im getting better and i know how to get there but it doesn't happen over night. Thank you for being concerned and trying to figure it out in terms of my process. But your approach was terrible. You can just ask me and be upfront about it. This is online i dont see your face and expressions at all. I can't semse your intentions. I hate games and i could tell you were playing one cause it was a slight insult after insult sometimes with a hahaha attached at the end as if i was blind and couldnt tell. Yes you are older and probably know more than me. There is no doubt because of our age gap but never ever underestimate a person based on age and looks. I am pretty special for my age i know that but i have also been through a lot.
Geeze this shit is still going on? Just stop already @dandiecandie
Blowing up my notifications and shit making me think it's something important but, no it's just you being an annoying, smart ass, know it all running your mouth for days about shit that doesn't matter. Plus you're at work... its frowned upon to be on your phone at most places of employment
Lol im my own boss. I can be on 3 phones at once if i wanted to. Hehehe. But im sorry i will stop my speeches. I dont want to bother you with notifications. Sorryyy
I don't underestimate you at all. Quite the contrary :) I'm rather very impressed. Yes, I've been testing all conversation, guilty as charged. The judgment of it as terrible however is all you :) And no, of course I can't ask! Any dumbass can fake it if warned ;) I was just tesing what buttons you react to and I had an intuition what they were so gave you exactly that, literally whatever I thought it was that would trigger you. That's done, I'll be me from now on :) You're not fully healed, nor were you ever. (I'm not either.) You're going through something now that's triggering something old. You've made incredible progress but keep a beginner's mind, it's crucial. Never lose that. I don't need to tell somebody at your stage the capacity of the mind to self deceive. And if you want to send me a PM and continue this between us, do that. Everybody else thinks we're nutters anyway so might as well.
Okay, let me clear this up once and for all @dandiecandie , my dad's a mummy's boy well was, (she's no longer alive, may she rest in peace) ... and he is not introverted, he's extroverted, not shy at all lol so what you said there, doesn't make any sense, not starting anything just wanted to say that. And guys did you really have to dislike her opinion lmao.
Nina i love that name girl its cute. And i agree with you. It was a joke cause i was so appauled that someone would ask such a question. So i thought it deserved a retarded answer. The question itswlf is not valid because if you really like a girl for real it doesn't matter who you are or what you are. You will find your own personal way to approach her and let her know how you feel. The truth is there is no one method but there is a specific method for every different person because we are all different and unique.
Ok nina think of it this way. If he chosing between you and his comfortable shy zone. That means he is not willing to sacrifise even taking a step to just say hi for you. Is that really a guy you want to call the one. I sure as hell wouldn't because for me to call someone the one he needs to bleed the same way i bleed because love is not measured by the akwardness or a glance or stare. It is measured through actions and actions speak louder than words. This is why this excuse is not even considerably good.
Lol thanks for the advice but I've come to the conclusion that I don't need a man, dont want one, im perfectly fine being single, made that decision since last year after my heart got broken
Girl for now if you're really 18 you dont need a man. You need to make yourself the number 1 priority and take care of your gorgeous self. And im not looking for a man either. Im so busy with work i dont have time for man. In other words im not ready but your heart will open up when the right guy comes along. Dont let one asshole prevent you from true love and happiness. But dont give it out like Halloween candy either. Only to the one who you will marry and he has to be worth it. He has to be the guy who bleeds with you. Not some random stare or glance your way better than that.
Graceful charm stop being so rude. And no one cares about you know what. If its not food we aren't interested lol. Right nina? Red beans and rice never miss us lol. Cause we live to eat not eat to live.
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Start making moves, if he ain't catching he ain't wanting,
You can never tell with introverts. It's almost impossible. You just have to risk it.
They seem awkward or they might be weird. Around you and only you.
Would looking down at his phone when you walk by count as them feeling awkward around you?
Yes if they look away fast
there's this nice girl that i know likes me and always tries to get my attention then smiles at me when she does. Sad to say im not interested in her and im a shy guy
how do you act back to her even though you don't have feelings for her
@creampiesugar Cold
Kind of agree with lucifer0005. I do those things lol
so hard. if you can know try to help me. girls have to give us signs
Sometimes theyll make an effort to talk to you. You may not notice but they'll try
You can just see if your both interested in the same things and see if the guy wants to join as friends and see what happens
Well it depends on the boy tbh if he's just being nice then he wants to stay friend but if he's looking at u or flirting a lot then want to be more
It's difficult because most girls are attracted to the loudest guy in the room. We pretty much get ignored.
You will know in time.. but for the moment you have to enjoy your confidence
You think they aren't asking exactly the same question?
Just ask him out if he is interested he will say yes
If they chat u then yes since writing is possible for shy guys
They will try to open up themselves and try to be confident on whatever they say
They don't, they cry in silence !
I am an introvert. Jk. I am an ambivert and just make the move.
They just pull out their penis and let it do the talk...😉
Lol... they even shy to do that lol
@rita_rittta oh...
They are that shy?🤔
Lol i don't know... im just kidding
@rita_rittta ever dated a shy guy?
No 😃😃😃 all my friends are an attractive and sexy guys
@rita_rittta you mean shy guys aren't attractive and sexy?🤔
Lol lol... noooooo i didn't mean thaaaat
They dont cause they are shy. Like a mommys boy.
Just because people are shy doesn't mean their a mommas boy...
they're*
Yes itdoes. Think about it only girls are shy
Okay... well I think your logic is incorrect because I am a shy guy myself
What a silly idea. Only girls are shy! Hahahaha. Whatever this girl is smoking, I want some.
Lol guys come on now think about. All you have to do is ask why
Why what? Why you don't understand men? Hahaha
Well someone didn't eat their cereal in the morning. you're being all sarcastic and grumpy. Kind of ironic. And yes maybe i dont understand the male mind all too well or maybe i understand it so much so that it scares all males. Lol. But if you ask why are you shy? The answer will most likely be fear of rejection. There is a whole theory in pstchology that explai ns how it relates to the mother. But hey what do i know right? Im just an educated female that lacks male perception. Lol. But i would love to hear ypur analysis as to why
Fear of rejection could be it, smartass. But not necessarily. For example, in my case it was about having been sexually molested when I was 11. So being wanted for my body was an utterly repulsive thing and the smallest whiff of it caused terror in me.
But hey, you're the psychological genius who knows all men and thinks men can't be shy ;)
Shyness is another word for intimidation. Which is a fear of a person having power over you. If you have rejection wounds, that power is a power to trigger them. But rejection wounds are not the only wounds that exist, smartass.
Only girls are shy... Facepalm. I'm still wondering whether you're an emotional retard, or a smart ass who's really really bad at expressing yourself. I'm now thinking the latter.
Thank you for saying that. Oh people read now a days. It makes me so happy. Lol. Intimidation. Ok so it takes too long for me to explain on here how it relates to the mother but i woul like to know why are you intimidated by a female
*your* Men and women can both be shy. I don't know how stupid you have to be to think that "only women can be shy." Your logic is really flawed.
That ain't nice bro. But im super smart and funny. I dont care what ypu say. Im awesome and youd be lucky to be my awesome friend
Nor does it make a guy a "mommas boy"
Thats not what i said. I never said only women are shy
Yes it does
Doubt I'd be lucky to be that. Lol
Ps you might out-emotional-intelligence a guy your age. But you're in a whole other fucking league here ;)
And no, it doesn't always relate to the mother. Much as it often does, realities are much, much more complex than that. But yes, it does relate to traumas. Maternal rejection traumas, often. But other ones too.
Read Pope and his poem "A little learning is a dangerous thing". It applies to you right now.
Hahahaha. What league is this lol?
See now we are on the same page bro. Not everythungcan be explaine d wiha gag response. In n eed an essay to do that. And i dont have enough time to write one now.
Oh you are so intelligent. It tests my thoughts. Thabk you for that. Damn bro. You are awesome. Have an awesome day hust for being awesome.
Are your always such a smartass, you pain in the ass? You remind me of myself ten years ago :)
Loooool boy ypu wish you were me 10 years ago.
The league of "you're a newbie to what I've been doing since 1982 and I have a decade on you at", by the way. Lol.
And you wish you were me now! Pity women peak so early. Here it's all getting wiser and hotter at the same time ;)
Ok bro. I am happy being me cause there is no one else like me and im happy you are happy being you cause rhere is no one else like you in the world too
I know darling. You're funny and kinda cool even though you are an utterly terrible smartass. I like you :) High five, and hope all's great :)
Of course you like me. Im awesome just like you. Whats not to like? High five right back.
I'm pretty shy around girls that I like but I honestly dont like my mom
And I'm only shy around those girls^ but other girls I have no problem having conversations with
Just don't say only women can be shy or I'll spank you! God we are, and since we are expected to make all the first moves or we're flawed defective shamed pussies, it's a much bigger problem for us because it's not allowed.
Lol its ok you can be a pussy bitch if you want to because you are human and you need to be real. I think thats very honest and understandable and to me its more manly than any man who hides his feelings cause thats when the problems actually start because no matter how much you try to push them down. There will come a time where they will resurface when you least expect it.
@dandiecandie
So all guys who had a good relationship with their mother are shy? Wouldn't they be more likely to not be shy as they have been under to satisfy their mother's wishes and maintain a good loving relationship?
No thats not what i mean.
We're intimidated when we have an emotional wound/trauma, meaning something happened and we didn't/couldn't feel/release the emotions but bottled them. So making us feel the same emotion as what's bottled up causes a crazy strong emotional reaction as the new emotions triggers the old to also surface. Which we try to avoid because this is crazy uncomfortable. Hence the fear, which is actually a protection against being re-traumatised, and exists until the original emotionsl wound is healed by emotionally connecting to it and releasing the bottled emotion there.
I. e. it works like every other emotional over-reaction in the history of humanity. What's so strange about this?
And what do mommy's boys have to do with it? You can have a lovely mum but get years of rejection from women you date because you are a dwarf/disabled etc. That can cause a massive rejection wound too.
Doesn't connect to mommy's boy. The rejection wound can equally come from the dad especially if he's the primary care giver.
Not strange at all. Why is this strange? I didn't say it was strange. I agree with you. Its what i refused to type cause i am at work and it takes too long. Loool. But i agree with you
Or it could not be a rejection wound at all but a being used wound. Or god knows what else. Intimidation happens when someone can hurt you in a way you've already been hurt and haven't fully processed. That's all.
Then why did you say: "Think about it only girls are shy" ?
I'm bored on a night bus in Cambodia and can't sleep so happy to write essays to waste time lol
Bruh this is a little excessive I dont agree with her (the one who started this) but damn just leave it alone let her think that
Well i could be completepy wrong but at least i started something right. Lol. And that was the real purpose here. Obviously not only girls are shy. I would have to be from another dimension to actually believe that. I was just bored at work so i thought lets throw a stone and hide the hand. In other words give people something to talk about. Does it look familiar in our society today? Hmmm.
So basically a troll. Don't you guys have ways of entertaining yourselves without annoying people? Like having a life and stuff? It comes off as kinda pitiful.
And yes, you would have to be, which is why I said I want what you're smoking :) Miss somebody didn't eat their cereal.
No not a troll. No im not pitiful. Whats pitiful is the question being asked. If questions like these are being asked they are begging to be challenged. I do have better things to do, like im at work right now persay. But gag just becomes addicting lol. I was trying to prove a point. That point was the answer to the question. That point was if you are shy face your problems first and then you will be ready to face the girl you like. Its pretty deep my analogy here. And we all proved this answer together right. Now whoever asked this question got the best of both worlds entertainment and actual good advice.
a lot of guys are shy? my best friend is an introvert and he’s extremely shy. wdym only girls can be shy?
@AnyoneWhoCares
There is no real way to get over shyness other than to accept that you care about how someone you like thinks about you.
Hahahaha
Not true at all @ anyone who cares
@dandiecandie
Why not?
Because shyness comes from fear and traumas of the past which have created a negative perception that comes up when you are faced with similar situations. This means you dont feel as if you are a new born baby that is perfect in every way. You feel as you have been damanged in some way. Thus making you lack confidence and due to this similar feeling of rejection from a previous situation that you have trained in your brains muscle memory cause it had a great impact on you the first time it happened, now it comes up when you are faced with typical situations. This is why shyness is caused and to fix this you must look into your past and deprogram that feeling that was previously created.
This means shyness is fixable
Perfectly right. I personally meditated for hours a day for the best part of a decade. That brings up and out all sorts of past shit. Shyness and intimidation and lots of other fears melt away after that as the old traumas come to the surface and are released. So I'm living testament that it is fixable, I have experiential knowledge of that.
See i knew we were alike. And pretty awesome
Im pretty awesome aren't i?
Im hilarious. No im not fishing for a complement bro. Im just amazed that we figured this out. And that im not the only one
I've figured out a bit more than this tbh. Not trying to brag, that's just a bit five years ago. But yeah, amazing to figure it out and I basically don't meet many people who have. People who with therapy understand the wounds are there, there's a good number. But who can release them? Always felt alone.
I figured out more too. Its self love to medicine to all fears.
I'm happy to hear that. Needing validation that you're awesome by the way is still repressed feelings of the opposite. And being a know it all is repressed feelings of feeling stupid or unable to understand the world around you.
It's so simple. Why doesn't the world know this?
Bro i dont need a complement or validation from you. I called it before you did. And i dont think you're being nice. Infact what you say its offensive as hell. And the opposite of my point. But i dont care what you say because who are you to judge me? And im not a know it all because i feel stupid im just curious about everything that i like. That doesn't mean i know it all. That just means i happened to stumble upon a subject that like you have experienced in my life. So dont judge too quickly because i dont know you and you dont know me. Dont confuse me with yourself. Projecting onto others is a narcissistic approach to someone you see as a threat. This is what you're doing. I think you need to do a lot more meditation to mend that. And thats just friendly adviced based on your reaction towards me. I am all i need dont need you or anyones validation for that matter. I may be innocent but im no sheep so dont be too quick to judge cause you're 35 and im 26. I paid my dues buddy
And yes it is simple its the system people can't see it. Awareness doesn't happen for all
I agree with everything you wrote on your shyness essay.
But you still haven't explained why you are relate Mommy boy's as a reason of them being shy?
You are just jealous your brother was momma's favorite and you have prejudice towards other momma's boys. Let go of the hate girl!
Loool i already explained it up there just read on bro and my brother is not my moms favorite loool but even if he was i would be happy. No jealousy there. You are foolish to think i would be jealous og my brother. Thats my blood. Hell i feel like his mom. He is everything for me. We both had a tough childhood so i would love it if this was the case. And im glad you agree with everythung i said cause im right. Im not saying to sound cocky but its common sense.
You didn't explain nothing, you think you something?
You disrespected mommy's boys. We ain't no games like toys.
I'm representing all momma's boys worldwide. You got to answer for the attacks on our pride. We coming heavy, momma behind me with the chopper and her aim steady.
Hahahahahahaha. Mommys boy put on some pants first loool. Make sure you take your glass of milk before bed. And everybody is something. Me you all the mamas boys and girls and everyone. Ok. So have a great night you mommys little boy and sweet dreams.
I am wearing pants tonight cuz I being a mommys boy.
Ok good boy. Sleep well.
Woof Woof
Lol you dog. you're not bad at all. You have pictures of guns going up and down on every angle but you couldnt hurt a fly even if you tried. You have a soft heart inside you. Thats the best quality to show off. Keep your gun in your pants because it will not make you any friends.
Damn is this still going on? Damn just kiss already
Guns are dangerous things! I wouldn't want to hurt a fly unless u say so!
Lol why if i say so? Who am i to tell you what to do lol? I ain't your mama looool.
I know you aren't mama, cuz I'd kiss you differently than how I'd kiss my mother.
Lol boy you wish you could kiss me. Sorry im waiting for my husband to do that whereever he is lol. Or if he exists. Who knows? So under these conditions you can't kiss me at all even if the opportunity was given.
I am your husband. =)
Nope you're not
Dandie :) Much as your reaction is warranted on what I said, let me be honest with ya. I kinda think you're pretty cool, so I intentionally threw out something less than nice to see if you'd trigger. Fully healed, or me not hitting a nerve doesn't trigger. You did, just a little. Get what I'm saying?
Which is not to say that's a problem. Hey, who's perfect? But I wasn't being me there, I'm actually really friendly. What was a test to see what stage in the process you actually are at :) Sorry to do that, but asking you of course I'll only hear what you say. Testing it I see the truth. :) Sending you a warm hug, annoying you is not my intention. Understanding where you are in your process is :) Forgive me please, I mean no harm :)
you're testing me without my permission? yes i know im supposed to respond and not react and a clear mind allows that and not reacting through anger and thats no excuse in my part. I was fully healed and i lost my way for a while so now im getting better and i know how to get there but it doesn't happen over night. Thank you for being concerned and trying to figure it out in terms of my process. But your approach was terrible. You can just ask me and be upfront about it. This is online i dont see your face and expressions at all. I can't semse your intentions. I hate games and i could tell you were playing one cause it was a slight insult after insult sometimes with a hahaha attached at the end as if i was blind and couldnt tell. Yes you are older and probably know more than me. There is no doubt because of our age gap but never ever underestimate a person based on age and looks. I am pretty special for my age i know that but i have also been through a lot.
Geeze this shit is still going on? Just stop already @dandiecandie
Blowing up my notifications and shit making me think it's something important but, no it's just you being an annoying, smart ass, know it all running your mouth for days about shit that doesn't matter.
Plus you're at work... its frowned upon to be on your phone at most places of employment
Lol im my own boss. I can be on 3 phones at once if i wanted to. Hehehe. But im sorry i will stop my speeches. I dont want to bother you with notifications. Sorryyy
I don't underestimate you at all. Quite the contrary :) I'm rather very impressed. Yes, I've been testing all conversation, guilty as charged. The judgment of it as terrible however is all you :) And no, of course I can't ask! Any dumbass can fake it if warned ;) I was just tesing what buttons you react to and I had an intuition what they were so gave you exactly that, literally whatever I thought it was that would trigger you. That's done, I'll be me from now on :) You're not fully healed, nor were you ever. (I'm not either.) You're going through something now that's triggering something old. You've made incredible progress but keep a beginner's mind, it's crucial. Never lose that. I don't need to tell somebody at your stage the capacity of the mind to self deceive. And if you want to send me a PM and continue this between us, do that. Everybody else thinks we're nutters anyway so might as well.
Don't be so easily offended by what my wife says, you are all mommys boys!
Lol you are married lol? Since when.
We got married last night when we got drunk and ended up in Las Vegas.
Hahahaha you wish. I dont drink. Thats impossible.
You can't leave me babe! I'm pregnant.
Ahahahahaha
So now im the male.
You have 3 phones? Stop selling drugs!
Okay, let me clear this up once and for all @dandiecandie , my dad's a mummy's boy well was, (she's no longer alive, may she rest in peace) ... and he is not introverted, he's extroverted, not shy at all lol so what you said there, doesn't make any sense, not starting anything just wanted to say that. And guys did you really have to dislike her opinion lmao.
Nina i love that name girl its cute. And i agree with you. It was a joke cause i was so appauled that someone would ask such a question. So i thought it deserved a retarded answer. The question itswlf is not valid because if you really like a girl for real it doesn't matter who you are or what you are. You will find your own personal way to approach her and let her know how you feel. The truth is there is no one method but there is a specific method for every different person because we are all different and unique.
True but some guys who are actually shy won't come to you, I've experienced that a few times, all they do is stare and look away when you caught them.
and thank you :), its just my nickname, my real's name been taken here lol, I like your username, it sounds creative, girly but creative. It's cool.
Ok nina think of it this way. If he chosing between you and his comfortable shy zone. That means he is not willing to sacrifise even taking a step to just say hi for you. Is that really a guy you want to call the one. I sure as hell wouldn't because for me to call someone the one he needs to bleed the same way i bleed because love is not measured by the akwardness or a glance or stare. It is measured through actions and actions speak louder than words. This is why this excuse is not even considerably good.
Nina lets push these men to step out of their comfort zone. Lets show them the meaning of a real man.
Lol thanks for the advice but I've come to the conclusion that I don't need a man, dont want one, im perfectly fine being single, made that decision since last year after my heart got broken
I'm never out of my comfort zone, want a dick pic?
Girl for now if you're really 18 you dont need a man. You need to make yourself the number 1 priority and take care of your gorgeous self. And im not looking for a man either. Im so busy with work i dont have time for man. In other words im not ready but your heart will open up when the right guy comes along. Dont let one asshole prevent you from true love and happiness. But dont give it out like Halloween candy either. Only to the one who you will marry and he has to be worth it. He has to be the guy who bleeds with you. Not some random stare or glance your way better than that.
Until then its time to work on yourself.
Graceful charm stop being so rude. And no one cares about you know what. If its not food we aren't interested lol. Right nina? Red beans and rice never miss us lol. Cause we live to eat not eat to live.
My apologies. Also rice with refried beans are really good together. Add some cheese and it makes it a really good snack.
Mother of God , so many messages since then :o wow
Lol dont start again lol. Im a genious hehehehe
Are you fucking kidding me? This shit is still going on -_- Get a life people
Let's keep it rolling :P
Get a life people... fuckkk
I mean, people could be doing a bunch of stuff and still be able to take a minute to post something :p
By being awkward as fuck