Would you agree that any straight, (or bi), single direct guy friend ALWAYS thinks about sleeping with their female friend whether they act on it or not? If the opportunity arose they would take it, And if any guy says “Not all men are like that” they are especially like that?
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It’s called the Law of Attraction, even if it was just in the beginning for a split second, and they never thought of it again, they were attracted to you. How your friendship evolved after that is up to the two of you.
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Also if you see them as a sister you are more protective over them and don’t look at them that way either anymore or depending on how you met them you never did.
So my brother told me this and I told my friend. the initial attraction is always there, and a guy has thought about this (look the the pictures)?
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Thought about it? PROBABLY. Nothing is absolute, but as a guy with a relatively low libido, I've had fleeting thoughts, if not full-blown fantasies about nearly all of my female friends.
However, actually acting on it, even if the woman came to me and bluntly asked... that's a very different story, at least for me. I was raised to view sex as a completely healthy, positive extension of an intimate relationship, and to this day, I just really can't separate sex and love. Nor do I even want to. Of course, I have been explicitly called a freak (or worse), told that I'm not a real man, etc. for this belief, so I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority here.
Nah I'm gonna disagree. While it's true that I probably have thought once or twice about sleeping with most, not all of my female friends once or twice that doesn't mean I'd act on it. There are a couple that surely if they asked I would but most I wouldn't. And yes I have actually been in that position and said no even though I was physically attracted to her.
It comes down to morals and your relationship with them. Like if you look at them as a little sister or something like that you might be like “nah this feels wrong I shouldn’t” but my point is that you have at least thought about it even if just the beginning of your friendship and after getting used to them, the attraction could have died down, still there though, and sometimes you might slip up if they do something really attractive.
It has nothing to do with the relationship or initial attraction, it does have some to do with morals but not every or even most guys are going to fuck someone just because they are offered.
Been there. Didn't do that. I think most of us at some point, briefly or not, toy around with the idea of being with our friends if they are attractive to us - that much is true. However there is usually a decision made at that point on whether or not we'd be up for something.
I imagine it would be closer to a 50/50 than all men when it comes to taking the step if asked. But a close 100 for having thought about it.
It's not initial attraction it's just attraction. The only reason they hang out with you is the off chance that you will eventually say yes to sex. It's actually quite sad to watch
Again it all goes down to “I would never act on it. But I do.” And any guy who is truly friends with you won’t care if you sleep with them or not, but if they knew that you explicitly wanted it too, they would do it. They just don’t feel entitled to it. The ones who feel entitled to it don’t value you as a friend and only wanted sex and no platonic relationship.
Wouldn’t that fall under acquaintance or a friend of a friend? Like they didn’t willingly become friends with them on their own so they don’t know them enough to think that, or if they met you through someone else they aren’t attracted to you.
No. He is her friend, no doubt about it, unless you define "friend" such that this condition must be met, making your argument circular / presuppositionalist.
There’s always an initial attraction Communications 101. It can be with any relationship any friendship just before you knew anything about them you were attracted to them sexually or not you wanted to know them because they attracted you. When you don’t know anything about someone all you have is the first attraction. It’s called the Law of Attraction. Again, even if it was just in the beginning for a split second, and they never thought of it again, they were attracted to you. How your friendship evolved after that is up to the two of you. There could be some friends they are attracted to a lot more than the other. But it’s there. Ever gotten a random crush on a friend before for a second? You can have a high level of respect for them to a point where you don’t feel entitled to sleeping with them, but you have considered it to yourself before. And you can’t read other people’s minds. If it violates any rule they have in their head like Guy Code they wouldn’t dare do or think about it
You see, even if I grant that there must be an initial attraction (for which I will use my own definition for, sans one provided and which I disagree with, see below) your argument doesn't hold up. You equate an initial attraction to thinking about / imagining sleeping with the other. Please demonstrate that it is necessarily the case. Unless you do so I won't accept this part of the argument.
Now on to the premise I disagree with. I am homosexual. I have a lesbian friend. We became friends not through someone else but after meeting each other. Does that mean that she is not lesbian and I am not homosexual? After all that would be necessary for sexual attraction (see above for why I amended the term). What if that initial contact (which you posit requires sexual attraction) happens for another reason? What if I were to see someone else as a useful resource for the future and as such would try to establish a friendship for my own or mutual gain? If you think that this doesn't constitute as a friendship please say (a) what happens it over time this morphs into a friendship, assuming you don't argue circularly, and (b) how a friendship is defined for the purposes of this.
She is me lol. And Thank you! Like seriously my brother and his best friend have told me soo many times ESPECIALLY when I went off to college like it sounds fucked up but it’s true. And they won’t ever do anything about it unless they knew you wanted it too and you have to be explicitly clear that you want it too because they can’t afford to make the assumption. I was telling my friend this while my campus crush and all his friends friends were listening and heard them in the background go “YES.”
I don't know if the part you said is necessarily true. I can think of few such friends in that position, some of whom I would, but also some of whom I wouldn't.
Only speaking for myself, a proven man-slut, yes, absolutely, IF she's (still) attractive (enough). Given the opportunity and right circumstances, I'd definitely do one of them.
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